#I'm afraid it'll get deleted or something so just to be safe I'll post it here

[sir-failure-mcmistake]

Remember this, me.

As we dream, we will find our purpose. And through this purpose, we will hopefully reach contentment. And as we reach contentment, we gained happiness.

Dream is akin to a star. It will forever out of reach, but its light will always be with us. Highlighting the right path to move onward. To go to our utopia.

The illusory star of Ideal and Hope, Eidolon.

However, when the world is bleak and you seem to have lost your way in this fog filled maze. Remember, your star is there. It doesn't disappear. Your utopia is still reachable. It's just covered by the thick fog, you just have to find its glimmer again. No matter how hard it is, you'd have to try.

But, when your star is made of vague and disjointed dream. Those that are closer to fantasy than reality. Your star's light will have a harder time to break through the fog. Your path to reach it will be confusing, as it branch out and loop in again and again.

"I just want to be happy," "I want to be at peace," "Why can't the world be what I wish it would be?" Disjointed, confusing. Illusory, vague. Alike those of the distant star. So minute and small, it's impossible to see it with the naked eye. And when your night sky are only composed of such star, what differentiate it from a dark starless sky?

I know it, because I too am an aimless wanderer. Meandering their way within this lightless labyrinth we called "life". Without a star nor a compass to guide me, I have lost my path.

But if I change my way. Put in the effort to understand what I want, and how to do it. Maybe, hopefully, like fireflies gathering together, no longer disjointed and vague, my star will shed its light again onto me. And like the sun, it will finally rid the fog and the darkness from my world.

Small, reachable goal. The process that I must goes through. A goal point. With my compass, I will reach it.

Big, lofty ideal. A star. The light that make sure I will never lose my path and forget what I want.

With my compass, I will never lose my sense of the ground beneath my feet. To never lose my rationale and be confused.

A compass to walk the Earth.

With my star, I will never forget the meaning of my life. To dream and to live.

A star in heaven to guide my path.

[yooniesim]

(Reply to an anon about the current situation below!! Nothing triggering I think except suicide bait mention, but just in case)

Anon, I will not block you since you seem to be trying to be kind and also sound like you may be young, but I'm sorry- I will definitely "call someone names" when they behave like he has towards me & others. There is a time to baby people and take the "high road" and there is a time you should be able to make your frustrations known. And I want you to realize that it is very frustrating when you reply to someone that has been awful or bigoted to you, and someone comes around to act like you shouldn't be upset, that you should be calm instead, should just be quiet. It's extremely invalidating, it sweeps bad behavior under the rug, and it makes other people hesitant to speak about their experiences. That is not me. It's not my responsibility to curb MY reactions because someone else "won't change" if I'm being too "hostile" towards them. Why is that burden always placed on the person that was hurt? Why am I obligated to be kind and give grace to someone that has told me to kill myself, liked posts calling me an antiblack slur, called me plenty of "names" himself, brought my late father into unrelated matters, and harassed myself and my friends? I won't. I refuse.

This also certainly won't ruin anyone's life- let's be honest. No one is going to give a shit about this, because it isn't paywaller focused "drama" or anything entertaining or fun to circlejerk over. It isn't something everyone can safely laugh at and make memes and shitposts about, so it'll be ignored. Just look at your dash- do you see much of a peep about this compared to, say, harrie's paywalled christmas tree? Do you see every account on simblr throwing in their two cents and reblogging everything about it the way they do making fun of paywallers' cc, or reblog discourse, or any other random meaningless drama of the week? No. He'll keep having a presence and being a complete asshole and posting his awful cc to make money off of, don't you worry. Worst comes to worst, he'll just delete and remake. He did it all the other times people spoke about his behavior, and he'll do it again now, until the next group of people he harasses comes out with a record of their experiences. But I'm not going to forget about it. Sorry, but I won't. There's too many red flags there, and there's too many good people on simblr that don't deserve to walk into that blindly.

Also, I want people to stop painting 21 year old adults as minors. Y'all do realize that 21 year olds have jobs, bills to pay, spouses, children, voting rights, etc? He is not a child. Do not make excuses for him. Saying that he'll always be immature to me because of his age is flat out wrong- I know many people in their early 20s that are responsible, mature, and respectful. They also know how to have clear boundaries with others (including children), and would balk at the idea of behaving like he does. They would be insulted and embarrassed by the idea that this behavior is normal for a 21 year old, and if you are that age, you should be too. He may be younger than me, but he's old enough to affect the people around him. And if he's immature now, he certainly won't get any MORE mature by having those around him handwave his irresponsible and harmful behavior. His weird friends may play that role for him, but i will not. He loves to talk about personal responsibility, so i will too- it's not MY responsibility to help him change for the better. I can't control that. But I can use my own voice about matters that are important to me on my own blog, and I'll continue to do so. And by the way I've gotten to talk to other people affected by this, and told they were also uncomfortable but too afraid to speak up about it, I'm very glad that I have.

I understand your perspective, nonny. I used to have a similar one myself- I couldn't understand why people were getting mad and calling the people I liked "names", why they were trying to "ruin their life" and just being so mean. And even after I became an adult, I wanted to give people chances, and I believed that simply being kind would change the minds of awful people. Sadly, I've learned the hard way that it usually doesn't. At least not with people that show a pattern of bad behavior over a long period of time, like with this person. It just makes it easier for you to be hurt over and over again until you finally give up. There have been times during this that I was struck with a strong feeling of pity for Xian and wanted to try appealing to him emotionally, but every callous reply or nasty comment I saw from him in response to even neutral words told me that it would be a waste of my time and emotional energy. I even tried just ignoring him completely, but that only led to him continuing to attack me, and then attack others in the community unrelated to me. Being angry won't change him either, but it WILL warn others and give a voice to those who feel like they can't have one. That's what I care about, more than any perceived retribution- I know well by now that no matter how awful a person is here, they will be lifted up and allowed to continue being awful. "Cancel culture" does not truly exist. Especially not in the sims community. He will be fine, but the people around him may not. And that's who I want to continue to be there for. I hope this makes sense to you, nonny.

[sir-failure-mcmistake]

Remember this, me.

As we dream, we will find our purpose. And through this purpose, we will hopefully reach contentment. And as we reach contentment, we gained happiness.

Dream is akin to a star. It will forever out of reach, but its light will always be with us. Highlighting the right path to move onward. To go to our utopia.

The illusory star of Ideal and Hope, Eidolon.

However, when the world is bleak and you seem to have lost your way in this fog filled maze. Remember, your star is there. It doesn't disappear. Your utopia is still reachable. It's just covered by the thick fog, you just have to find its glimmer again. No matter how hard it is, you'd have to try.

But, when your star is made of vague and disjointed dream. Those that are closer to fantasy than reality. Your star's light will have a harder time to break through the fog. Your path to reach it will be confusing, as it branch out and loop in again and again.

"I just want to be happy," "I want to be at peace," "Why can't the world be what I wish it would be?" Disjointed, confusing. Illusory, vague. Alike those of the distant star. So minute and small, it's impossible to see it with the naked eye. And when your night sky are only composed of such star, what differentiate it from a dark starless sky?

I know it, because I too am an aimless wanderer. Meandering their way within this lightless labyrinth we called "life". Without a star nor a compass to guide me, I have lost my path.

But if I change my way. Put in the effort to understand what I want, and how to do it. Maybe, hopefully, like fireflies gathering together, no longer disjointed and vague, my star will shed its light again onto me. And like the sun, it will finally rid the fog and the darkness from my world.

Small, reachable goal. The process that I must goes through. A goal point. With my compass, I will reach it.

Big, lofty ideal. A star. The light that make sure I will never lose my path and forget what I want.

With my compass, I will never lose my sense of the ground beneath my feet. To never lose my rationale and be confused.

A compass to walk the Earth.

With my star, I will never forget the meaning of my life. To dream and to live.

A star in heaven to guide my path.