#I'm afraid I haven't seen the bare minimum of the worst

[honeyhonest]

Sometimes I feel I'm the only one with a wonderful father that broke my expectations for the chance of any better man.

Like not to boast about it or anything but people here be afraid of getting with men like their fathers while I'm here afraid of getting with a man who isn't like my father.

My bare minimum is almost impossible for more than half of the generation to fit.

Despite growing up in a healthy and loving environment i still ended up scared of marriage because of what I saw on the internet.

I can't rightly say whether or not this is true for the majority of people because I haven't actually looked at any self-reported statistics from adult children of good/bad parents, but this definitely isn't as uncommon of a take as you might think

the internet is, has, and always will be populated by teenagers, and one of the fundamental rules of teenagerism is that you must hate one or both of your parents (it's emotions elevated by hormones; it's a need for autonomy; it's embarrassment; it's a want to be seen as mature; etc) so many teenagers go through an "I HATE my parents they're the worst!" phase and that gets echoed online. I was pretty cruel about/to my mother when I was a teen, and while some of that was warranted, I know now that a lot of that was just... being a teenager

as I get older and enter more adult spaces, I see people with much healthier relationships to their parents than I did when I mostly hung out in teen spaces

(let me say, though, that this post isn't meant to condescend to people with shitty experiences! many people have very valid reasons to hate their parents, and you do NOT need to heal your relationship with them if you don't want to)

I think romance has a similar echo chamber. when I was a very internetbrained teenage girl I became extremely paranoid and resistant to being in a relationship (not that anyone wanted me anyway LMAO) because what I read online. then I got older and realized the world is not an instagram comment section and there are so many people who WILL treat me with love and care and respect. so. it's a matter of perspective I guess