#I won't add the solangelo tag even tho it's only anti by the means of being a breakdwon

[percabeth4life]

Solangelo? For the ship ask game

Relationship Ask

Starting out strong I see. Well, most of my followers no that I don’t particularly like Solangelo, but I will break this down from the most neutral standpoint I can.

The main factors I look at when I judge relationships I like as a genuine “I ship this as a relationship” and not just “the drama/symbolism/etc. is so fun” are:

1. Physical age (least important)

2. Mental maturity (very important)

3. Emotional maturity (very important)

4. Power imbalance (moderately important)

In some cases Power Imbalances can be the most important factor, but those cases aren’t very common. By real life standards I can only really think of one that is considered a no: doctor/patient relationships.

Now then, to dive in (for this ask I will compare both the actual age of Nico, and the one where Rick changed the age mid series).

Physical Age

Actual Age (13)

Nico is 13 and Will is 15. At a young age physical age is more important. At 13 you have just become a teenager, physically you’re changing a lot, your hormones are all over the place, you’re gonna have some growth spurts. 15 most of that has begun to calm down, you’ve learned how to deal with these changes.

Here there is an imbalance favoring Will.

Changed age (14)

Nico is 14 and Will is 15. Obviously at just 1 year of an age gap it isn’t that bad at all. At 14 you’ve started to figure out this teenager thing, you’re understanding the changes physically more, you’re not great yet but you’ve got things down.

Here there is only a small imbalance favoring Will.

Mental Maturity

Physical age no longer matters.

Nico has been forced to grow mentally an immense amount at this point. He knows how to lead armies, is able to handle big problems, is fiercely independent, and knows how to make tough decisions. He is smart, cunning, and knows how to do whatever it takes to get things done. On the other hand, he is also uninformed on the modern day and in that nature is behind on things.

Will is effectively the head doctor of the camp. He’s helped give birth to a baby. He’s walked into war zones. He’s been the emergency doctor that saved even Annabeth. He fought against the Titan’s.

It’s only slightly in Will’s favor as Nico’s other factors mostly make up for the imbalance in modern knowledge.

They are basically equal in mental maturity.

Emotional Maturity

Nico... oh boy is there a lot to unpack there. This boy has been through trauma. This kid has not been able to process his trauma and emotions for at least 3 years. He is still traumatized from shit that happened a few years ago. He’s barely recovered from Bianca’s death and even that is debatable seeing how he tried to bring her back to life again the moment there was the slightest opening. He’s also been ostracized for being a child of Hades and that’s not easy to deal with either. He is child emotionally and needs serious therapy to process everything that has happened.

Will has some trauma, as anyone that went through the Titan War does, but overall he’s pretty healthy emotionally. Keep in mind I’m judging from what we’ve seen canonically and headcanons on how he may be hurt aren’t being considered here. Others may wish to add them to the equation. He has no mentioned mom info, but seems to have grown up pretty healthily. He’s able to handle stress well and is clearly in a loving family with his siblings. He’s not been ostracized and clearly can’t imagine others feeling that way (points to how he talked to Nico in Book 10).

This heavily leans in Will’s favor.

Power Balance

Whether people acknowledge it or not Will is referenced as Nico’s doctor many times. Doctor’s orders is a common statement Will makes, and it’s used to get Nico out of things and get Nico privileges others do not get. It could likewise be used to take away privileges even if that hasn’t been done.

There is a clear doctor/patient relationship here.

From the AMA (American Medical Association)

A physician must terminate the patient-physician relationship before initiating a dating, romantic, or sexual relationship with a patient. Likewise, sexual or romantic relationships between a physician and a former patient may be unduly influenced by the previous physician-patient relationship.

Doctor/Patient relationships aren’t really acceptable, and are not allowed by the AMA. There is an inherent imbalance, both in having power over the patient, and in judgement being impaired for the patient. So in the case of the power imbalance here...

This leans overwhelming in Will’s favor.

And so now we put it all together!

Actual Age (Nico 13, Will 15)

Physical, Emotional, and Power wise Will holds the power. Mental maturity wise they are equal.

Changed age (Nico 14, Will 15)

Emotional and Power wise Will holds the power. Physical and Mentally they are equal.

So my breakdown concludes with: this relationship holds inherent imbalances that lean heavily in Will’s favor. Other’s may add in headcanons that change the Emotional imbalance, but the power imbalance can only be fixed by making Will stop being Nico’s doctor.

Thanks for the ask anon <3

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