#I mean we've also fucked but i don't feel unsure abt my ace identity

[amethyst-cave]

I have some feelings on my aroace identity:

First and foremost, I am aroace. I think. I know I'm ace, I have no sexual desire/ interest in anyone. Sure there's smut but tbh I read it for the character dynamics mostly and also just cause it's fun.

And I thought for the longest time that I am aro as well. But I don't fucking know. I'm in what everyone else but me would call a romantic relationship. We kiss and talk every day and see each other as often as possible. Even though I haven't known him as long as some of my friends he is incredibly important to me. I wouldn't say he's the most important person in my life because that feels silly but he's up there.

And now I don't know anymore. I honest to god wouldn't label it as romantic feelings. I love him. A lot. But I've loved friends like this (It never ended well but that doesn't matter for now). And I don't know where platonic ends and romantic begins.

I suppose it doesn't really matter, I've told him about my worries and he's honestly been an angel about all my doubts. I know I'm just as important to him as he is to me.

But it sort of feels like I'm betraying my aromantic identity by having these sort of feelings and this type of relationship.

Idk I don't have a nice conclusion for this I simply worry