#I deleted folders that I didn't need but they're still there

[ms-demeanor]

I'm not the most security savvy but two-factor authentication makes me deeply suspicious. Is it actually more secure or is it just annoying? Especially the ones that send a code to your phone that pops up in your notifications.

It is genuinely, massively, TREMENDOUSLY more secure to use 2FA/MFA than to not use it.

One of our clients is currently under attack by a group that appears to be using credential stuffing; they are making educated guesses about the accounts they're trying to lot into based on common factors showing up in the credentials in years of pastes and breaches and leaks. Like, let's say it's a professional arborist's guild and their domain is arborist.tree and they've had three hundred members who have had their credentials compromised in the last ten years and the people looking at all the passwords associated with arborist.tree noticed that the words "arboreal" and "conifer" and "leaf" and "branch" show up over and over and over again in the passwords for the members of the professional arborist's guild.

So they can make an educated guess for how to log in to accounts belonging to the tree-loving tree lover's club, combine that with the list of legitimate emails, and go to town.

And they are in fact going to town. We're getting between 1000 and 4000 login attempts per hour. It's been happening for a couple weeks.

And every single one of those attempts is failing - in spite of some pretty poor password practices that believe me, I have been doing some talking about - as a result of having MFA enforced for the entire group. They all use an app that is synced to their individual accounts with a mobile device, except that sometimes you have trouble getting a code when you're up in a tree so some of them have physical MFA tokens.

People try to sign into my tumblr sometimes. To those people I say: lol, good luck, I couldn't guess my own password with a gun to my head. But if I *did* have some password that was, like "tiny-bastard-is#1" they would also need access to my email address because I've got MFA set up on tumblr. And to THAT I say: lol, good luck, it's complex passwords and MFA all the way down.

Of the types of MFA that most people will run across, the most secure to least secure hierarchy goes physical token>app based one-time-passwords>tie between email and SMS. Email and SMS are less preferred because email is relatively easy to capture and open in transit and cellphone SIMs can be cloned to capture your text messages. But if you are using email or SMS for your authentication you are still miles and miles and miles ahead of people who are not using any kind of authentication.

MFA is, in fact, so effective that I only advise people to turn it on if they are 100% sure that they will be able to access the account if they lose access to the device that had the authenticator on it. You usually can do this by saving a collection of recovery codes someplace safe (I recommend doing this in the secure notes section of your password manager on the entry for the site in question - if this is not a feature that your password manager has, I recommend that you get a better password manager, and the password manager I recommend is bitwarden).

A couple weeks ago I needed to get into a work account that I had created in 2019. In 2022, my boss had completely taken me off of managing that service and had his own account, so I deleted it from my authenticator. Then in 2024 my boss sold the business but didn't provide MFA for a ton of the accounts we've got. I was able to get back into my account because five years earlier I had taken a photo of the ten security codes from the company and saved them in a folder on my desktop called "work recovery codes." If you are going to use MFA, it is VITALLY IMPORTANT that you save recovery codes for the accounts you're authenticating someplace that you'll be able to find them, because MFA is so secure that the biggest problem with it is locking people out of their accounts.

In any kind of business context, I think MFA should be mandatory. No question.

For personal accounts, I think you should be pointed and cautious where you apply it, and always leave yourself another way in. There are SO MANY stories about people having their phones wiped or stolen or destroyed and losing MFA with the device because they didn't have a backup of the app or hadn't properly transferred it to a new device.

But it's also important to note that MFA is not a "fix all security forever" thing - I've talked about session hijacking here and the way you most often see MFA defeated is by tricking someone into logging in to a portal that gives them access to your cookies. This is usually done by phishing and sending someone a link to a fake portal.

That is YET ANOTHER reason that you should be using a good password manager that allows you to set the base domain for the password you're using so that you can be sure you're not logging in to a faked portal. If your password manager doesn't have that feature (setting the domain where you can log in to the base domain) then I recommend that you get a better password manager (get bitwarden.)

In 2020 my terrible boss wanted me to write him a book about tech that he could have run off at a vanity press and could give to prospect customers as a business card. That was a terrible idea, but I worked on the book anyway and started writing it as a book about security for nontechnical people. I started out with a very simple statement:

If every one of our customers did what we recommend in the first four chapters of this book (make good backups, use a password manager and complex unique passwords, enable MFA, and learn how to avoid phishing), we would go out of business, because supporting problems that come from those four things is about 90-95% of our work.

So yes, absolutely, please use MFA. BUT! Save your recovery codes.

[noellefan101]

Staying on Campus During Winter Break, Twisted Wonderland

Reader cant go home to their family during winter break, and seems a little down in the dumps when their boyfriend talks about what they'll do at home themselves. What would he do to fix their now sad s/o? (+ some headcanons for the character, some with reader in mind)

Characters: Trey, Cater, Deuce, Jamil, Vil, Rook, Epel, Azul, Jade and Floyd (all seperate) x Reader

saw someone else write smt like this and got ideas for it myself :> Original post

Part 2

Warnings: Reader is not yuu/mc, either your family lives too far away or are occupied, maybe they're real shitty you choose. reader is usually the same grade as the character, ooc. Reader is still called Shrimpy. gn reader

Epel and Vil's first parts got deleted, so i had to write it again when i woke up the next morning and found out. man i wanted to cry.

Trey

Trey may have forgotten you mentioned staying at campus during winter break, having a little burst of excitement from going home to see his siblings and such. Stopping his little rant when he saw your expression turn a little sour with envy.

After apologizing, he sat down beside you, caressing your leg slightly. Asking if you would like him to call you every morning and evening to catch up, although what he really wanted was to just invite you over.

But you couldn't just arrive alongside him as a surprise, he's sure his parents would have a shared heart attack, so he messaged them about it when you were distracted.

Saddening a little when you explained you would have nothing interesting to talk about to him, he quickly dismissed that, because anything you talk will be interesting.

When his mother responded a few minutes later, approving of your stay and arrival as long as you shared a room, he immediately took to asking if you would like to stay over during break instead.

He will get teased relentlessly but it will be worth it if he gets to see your smile.

"Be mindful im going to be busy, though im sure you'll just get dragged out to do something with my siblings. They're sweet don't worry."

(His family has so many pictures of him being decorated with pink bows, he's just praying his parents aren't showing that, it may be fond memories with his siblings, but its still so embarrassing)

Cater

Would love to stay at school with you tbh, he doesn't want to become a human bag holder again this year, it was #torture last time.

He also considered inviting you over during winter break but decided you didn't need his sisters fawning over you as well. Instead, he suggested calling you whenever something interesting happened, which would only save you from teasing and meant he would get teased more instead, but he can handle it. Hopefully.

Putting his family aside, he ensures you talk to him about anything that bothers you.

But he would keep his word, and calls you about 10-20 times a day, sending you pictures of him and his sisters, telling you about every little thing he did and then wanting your day in detail as well.

He'll talk about literally everything that's happening, to the point he even forgets to take a pic of something for Magicam, because he was more focused on letting you know what happened instead.

Do not be surprised when he puts down one of his own bags in your room though, it's only filled with things he thought you'd like and some cute things his sisters bought.

"Morning sweet pea! Ik it's 6am, but i just have to spill this tea to you, ok? Yes it's #important, and you're gonna love it."

(Has multiple folders only for photos of your bedhead, even a few videos so he can show you a 360 of it to laugh at.)

Deuce

Deuce was planning to invite you to stay with him over the break, before he was even told you were staying at school, then deciding not to since he thought you would stay with your own family. But now, he's over the bushes in excitement and hurriedly texting his mom that you'll be staying with them anyway.

Before he even asked you by the way, which seems almost rude if not for the fact that he knew you would say yes so quickly. And you did, for what weirdo would want to willingly stay at this school while everyone is gone? Not many, like barely a handful.

So you got a temporary place in his closet and shared a bed for a about a week, enduring and endless sea of embarrassment from his mother and the other locals.

Never the less, he had lots of fun showing you around and telling you all sorts of weird stories from middle school, though reluctant.

"N-No, I'm very sure it's ok with her. I mean it, she said yes before I could even ask... h-hey don't hug me so tight, I can barely breathe!"

(his mother gave him a little bunny plush years ago and he definitely still has it on his bed back home)

Jamil

Would not want you to go with him back home, he doesn't need his parents going wild over him having a lover. And the whole family will be way too busy dealing with the asim family, so you'll be just as lonely.

But, once Kalim had heard about your inevitable stay at NRC over winter break, Jamil invited you home anyway.

Notifying his parents of your stay, he spared no time in remotely lecturing you about how to act around the asim's, since you were joining his family for a week.

Don't worry though, you won't be doing any actual work unless you really want to clean every window in the castle.

You'll be spending a lot of time with Najma and a few of her friends, if you want to or not that isn't really relevant as there isn't much to do anyway.

Kalim might want to play some board games with you and Jamil at some point, but that should be pretty normal compared to other stuff.

"Keep your head low, don't start conversation, don't talk unless spoken to, that's all you have to do, got that? Good, you aren't an actual servant so they can't boss you around. But i'd still like to invite you again."

(Since Jamil likes to dance i'd imagine he has a pretty empty space in the middle of his room, so when he can't get Kalim to take dancing classes he can practice in his room.)

Vil

Originally wanted to take you with him, but decided not to so you could actually relax instead of facing peer pressure.

If he hadn't been as famous, he would have been invited you home without a second thought. Unfortunately he knows his fans, and how they follow his every step, especially when he's going to events.

But he promises to call you at least twice a day, making sure you've eating nutritious meals, wake up in the morning and to wish you goodnight.

He won't respond immediately if you text him, he is busy after all, but he'll answer as soon as he has the time. He's telling you about all the events he's going to, new gossip he heard ext.

If you're absolutely terrible at taking care of yourself, he might even prepare some quick, but healthy, meals and make sure to put them in your line of sight.

"Sweet Potato? Yes it's me, who else call you exactly fifteen minutes before your usual bedtime? I'm joking love, but I hope you remembered to eat real meals today?"

(Chooses to ignore Rook's existence about 60% of the time so he doesn't get creeped out, no matter how used he is to camera's, he still gets a little uncomfy when its Rook)

Rook

Rook had quickly noticed how sad you seemed, but wasted no time finding out why.

When he did it was like his heart was shattered and put back together with your simple words, it was a sad time yet a perfect time. Sad because of his lover's sorrowful being, but just the right time so he could invite you to go with him instead.

To where you ask? My my, it'll be where ever you want to be, traveling for your happiness is the greatest excuse to show of his family's pride and joy!

They have a residence in almost every country, so you're free to pick anywhere and he'll take you there no problem.

He'll take any opportunity to make your face shine in delight, until he can do it as easily as he can shoot with a bow. So maybe don't test him on that.

"Oh, but that's no good, I hate to see such a miserable expression on your face. So tell me Mon Amour, what has you in such a horrible mood today?"

(in his collection of photos, 45% are for Neige 40% for Vil and then the last 5% for other people he found beaute in, mostly you in that 5% though)

Epel

Nuh uh, no way you're staying at NRC, he will not allow it. You are staying with him over winter break, and there's nothing anyone can do to change that.

Though you got invited to Harveston before he could ask his parents, or meemaw, he was 99.8% sure his parents would let you. So maybe if his parents said no... But then he'd stay on campus with you, no way he's letting you be lonely.

...They said yes so fast he didn't even get to explain why.

So now he's running around town with you, showing all the good spots to be and every little corner you can hide in. By the time you go home again you'll know everyone on a first name basis.

But be aware if you're strong looking, or just unlucky, you will be helping out around the orchard, carrying anything and everything.

"See? they agreed to house you, there was no way I would let ya stay at campus alone, that sounds horrible. I was gonna stay here with you if they had said no anyway. Hey I'm being serious!"

(boy def has some built up muscles of some kind underneath his silky uniform, like theres no way the boy who grew up on a farm can't lift, plus he really wants to be manly.)

Bonus!

Since they also cannot go home due to the cold, how will the octavinelle guys cheer up their s/o in turn?

Azul

Azul is almost delighted at the news, until he understands that you are genuinely sad about not going home and having to stay here.

He is so glad he doesn't have to deal with the tweels alone though, and has a good reason to not be in their tomfoolery. No matter how much teasing is going to take place, he finds that better most of the time anyway.

You will have to see him rearrange his desk, closet, and just about everything anytime Floyd enters his bedroom though. Because his things have been taken before, and he does not want to find out what Floyd took/moved a month later.

He'll look through some of the newest coins he has collected with you, trying to find the most valuable and maybe putting it on the wall with the others. This is not an excuse to see your eyes light up a little when you see a pretty one, nope.

Will give you any coin you seem particularly interested in though, no matter if it was the best one he found in months or something that's less valuable than a nickel. He'll even help you put it on a piece of jewelry if you'd like.

You're also going to be joining game night now, but no he won't team up with you since he still would like to win.

Though you will be getting some tips from him, but mostly if Jade has fucked you over to the point he just cant stand looking at your defeated face.

"See this one? It has a design made only for a few years as the person on this side, was taken off the throne a mere year after sitting on it for the first time. It's very rare, this is also the first one I've come across myself."

(he hugs pillows close at night, and no matter how much he tries to get rid of the habit it won't go away)

Jade

He'll invite you over, though be aware that all he talks about in private is fungi and mushrooms. yes you should be used to that, but now you're staying over for more than an hour or just for the night.

Hikes will be what most of his time is spent on, so you'll be coming with him. At least three out of five of the hikes he plans on doing, but he might get you to accompany him on an extra.

Jade is doing his very best to distract you from home, so if you look sad for even a second he'll take you out somewhere, do something to get your mind back from that.

Maybe he'll even make you a drink or two for free, as long as Azul isnt aware of it.

You'll also be joining in on trying to beat Azul in board games, even if you've never played the game before his immediate target for

Would love to join in a every little thing you do, finding it all very intriguing. No matter if it's simple things like how you style your hair, or which clothing piece you put on first. He'll enjoy watching it all, especially likes to see you hug his pillow close when you don't wanna get up.

"You see this one is called 'the prince', otherwise known as Agaricus Augustus. It's a common mushroom in many places and has an almond-like taste. But I would recommend we should try it out around summertime, when it's more in season."

(i dont imagine him liking skin-to-skin contact a lot, but he would 100% watch you sleep and just caress your cheek gently at 2 am)

Floyd

He would rather not see his Shrimpy sad, so you're staying in his and Jade's room now. You'll do lots of fun things with him over winter break!

If you're still a little down about not getting to go home, he'll just carry you away to the kitchen and put you on the counter. You can watch as he makes your favorite dessert, or would you like something else? He's up to cooking up anything for you right now.

Be mindful that you're never going to be separated though, he'll either be right behind you looking into your soul or attached to you like his life depends on it.

Get ready to get teased by his mother, he likes calling her more on winter break. So you're gonna have to endure embarrassment together, all the embarrassing stories are being told now, yay

(i mean there has to exist some kind of waterproof phone for merfolk, i refuse to believe they dont when styx and ortho exist)

Floyd would love to go out in town with you if he feels like it, yes maybe it's not that interesting after you've already looked around, but he can get you all sorts of outfits to dress you up in! You'll have fun, he promises so pleaassseeee.

You're now his human-sized barbie doll, congrats. But seriously, he would love to style outfits on you since there are also more things your size. So yeah he's going to pretty you up in fancy dancy stuff(his words).

Might even have you wear some of his clothes, only to laugh at how big they look on you.

"Come onnn Shrimpyy, don't look at me like that, i know what clothes fit you and make you look pretty. No i didn't mean you arent already pretty, but it will be fun." :<

(He whines A LOT when he loses in card games, but especially when its against Jade)

Thx for reading, love ya! - Masterlist

[spacechild-glitchypix]

How to position facial features for the Our Life sprites

Idk how many people need this tutorial (especially since I kinda sat on it for like a month...whoops) but I noticed people were starting to make more sprite edits and videos using the in-game sprites and I thought having this tutorial might help for those of you who don't know exactly how to place the expression layers for the sprite.

Part 1: What am I talking about?

Ok so some of you may be reading the post title and thinking "what the hell does that mean?". For those who are unaware, if you decompile OL1 and OL2, you can find the sprites used for the characters in the game. These files are generally in character folders that contain all the bits for each sprite as well as several versions of the sprite itself in different outfits. All these base sprites files look a little like this

You may have noticed the glaringly obvious detail that Qiu here is missing most of their face. That's because there are several seperate images used for their eyebrows, eyes and mouth. The reason they're all seperated like this is to give more creative freedom over expressions than what would be allowed if there were just already a set number of sprites with set expressions

However, if you want to make a spite edit video, that means you have to piece all the expression layers over the sprite and, since the expression layers don't have the same canvas size as the sprite, you have to actually place them on the face yourself. This can lead to stuff like this.

If you're looking at this and thinking it doesn't look quite right, you're correct. This is the issue you're noticing

This is generally what happens when you try placing expression layers by eye, you end up sort of assuming you've got the right spot when you're actually slightly wrong. And this is gif just shows the facial features in the wrong spot vertically

So, I've explained the problem, now how do you fix it? It's simple actually.

Part 2: The actual tutorial part

What you'll need:

The sprites and expression layers you need (this tutorial assumes you already have the game decompiled. If you don't and have no idea how to do so, here's a tutorial for just that)

An editing software that has a tranform tool such as Photopea, Photoshop, GIMP, etc.

Step 1: Open up the sprite you want to use in your image editing software of choice and import in all the expression layers you want to use

Step 2: Open up the transform tool on your editing software. Where this is may vary, on Photopea and Photoshop you can open up either through the shortcut alt+control+t or clicking on edit in the top bar and selecting Free Transform from the menu. If you don't know where the transform tool is in your software, I'd suggest looking it up

(A showcase of where the tranform tool is in Photopea and Photoshop)

(What the transform box should look like

Step 2.5 (This might be photopea specific, idk if other software does this): If your transformation tool box looks like this, cancel out of the tool (using the little x button on the top bar) and then open the transformation tool back up again. Make sure you're not selecting multiple layers and also make sure you didn't open the tool with the transformation controls tick box from the top bar. If none of that works, just delete the layer and grab it from your folder again and try again

Step 3: With the transform tool still open on your desired layer, move the layer so that it snaps against the corner of your canvas. Your image editing software should automatically have layer snapping enabled but, if not, I suggest looking up how to turn it on. If it doesn't have this, the best suggestion I have would just be to make sure the corner of the transform tool's box and the corner of the canvas allign. Zoom in if need be. You then repeat this process for the other expression layers (and any other layers that aren't automatically allighned like the blush layers or the tear layers)

(Notice the red lines that show up when it snaps against the corner)

Step 4: Export your sprite file because that's it, you did it! Now you have a sprite with the layers placed in the right spots! Isn't that great!

...(maybe I should've chosed a happier expression for this...)

Anyways, I hope this helps!

[sychik]

ANCIENT ROMAN NECESSITIES. PART 2.5: FIXES

mostly QoL fixes for the things I missed. the links in the posts have been changed, new ones are included here as well, please re-download.

first of all, footstep sounds for EVERYTHING were changed to normal shoes (generic and not annoying). as it turns out, I hate the sandals sound and they're also not that floppy. and some of them I just plainly missed (heel sounds on most of the f tunics). well, won't happen again!

second, I know the game doesn't like many separate files (and stola is the worst offender), so I have made the merged recolors files. separate recolors are also still an option.

bigger fixes are listed below along with the links to sfs folders. in the folders, there is a MESH package file (you need this in any case), package files for MERGED recolors and a zip archive for SEPARATE recolors - you should choose either package files or the contents of the archive. choose the former if you want to save your time, choose the latter if you want to pick and choose or just to be able to delete the swatches separately.

cm tunic

cf longer tunic

mesh weights fixed (hem was distorting too much while walking, didn't notice somehow) - not perfect, but better

cf shorter tunic

um tunic w/ calcei/shoes

um tunic w/ sandals

uf short tunic

uf low-waist tunic

the more I look at the shoes, the less I like them. they're ugly, or at least, the color is, so I changed that. now they are dyed yellow and are a bit less ugly (yes, on all textures). I also fixed the uv/mesh a little bit around that area. now the underside assumes the color of the main tunic (not very logical sometimes but looks cleaner)

uf stola

same changes as for the tunic above

[redacteddoesstuff]

II S2 Ep 17 Spoilers

I'll be talking about what I got right from my previous theory post and some newer ones too.

Theory 1: The contestants aren't gone forever

This didn't happen. However I do think it will. I am one of the people who think there will be an act 3. Mostly because there are a lot of loose ends and plot points that they brought up (even just in this episode).

I am now more sure then ever that this is how their going to bring the contestants back. Or at least it will be an important part.

The fact that they continue to focus on soaps phone kinda proves that to me. Why bring so much attention to something meaningless.

Theory 2 (well not really a theory, more of a question): What about bow and dough?

Bow and dough are indeed created by Mephone. Which also means that Mephone can create soul-like-substitutes. Which is wild.

Theory 3: Mephone didn't know he created the contestants.

I was right with this one! Yippee! Kinda. While he didn't remember creating them, he did assign them personalities and quirks. What Cobs really did here was make Mephone put 2 and 2 together.

What I believe happened was after Mephone escaped he was like "Time to start a reality show! Wait... I need people for that" and his subconscious was like "haha, wait a minute, we already did that" and spawned in the contestants. Seeing as he had an interview with suitcase, a season 2 contestant, we can assume that the rest of season 2 and 3 contestants were all subconsciously spawned in, then held an interview with Mephone.

The picture below is just to highlight that even the season 3 contestants where characterized by Mephone.

Also I haven't seen enough people talk about how genuinely awful and disgusting what Cobs did here. It actually makes me kinda ill.

Theory 3: Mephone is part Prime Shimmer

I was also right with this one! I am on a roll! Mephone being a Shimmer just makes sense narrative wise.

Now, onto the theories/observations I have after this episode.

I don't think Mephone knew he could freeze everyone. Besides the fact that he didn't know he created them an therefore wouldn't think that was something that he was capable of, just look at him.

He has no idea what's happening around him. He's far more focused on the season 3 folder then his surroundings.

I also don't think Mephone created the island. He may have terraformed it but I don't believe he can straight up created an entire island.

And like I said earlier, I really don't think that this is the end.

Reason 1: the loose ends/plot points

It feels weird to me if they brought up important information just for it not to be used. Like Bow's tail story/coming back from the dead, Soap's phone, and the Prime Shimmers. Not to mention all the people who would still be there, like Mepad, Bow, Dough, Bot, Baxter, and the Prime Shimmers (and maybe toilet too? But that is a huge maybe in my books). Or even The Unvitational Committee. What do they feel about everything that's happened. What are they gonna do now everyone's gone.

Reason 2: common act structures.

While this is admittedly one of the weaker points, as they're allowed to do whatever they want, I think it's important to bring up. "Act" is a very specific word choice, and most stories follow a three act structure.

Reason 3: The themes.

II has a really prominent theme through the entire show, you don't have to be what others think of you. It can be seen within most character arcs. This episode is kinda the antithesis to that theme. Even the title "Through No Choice of Your Own" highlights that.

Reason 5: Brian said that there will be 2 special guest voice actors and we haven't gotten that yet.

Reason 6: He also specifically said "multi-part." People don't tend to say multi-part for 2 episodes, optioning to say two-parter instead.

Reason 7: Adam deleted his account shortly after he made(?) it. He also died from Mephone X. However this could just be nothing more then a fun way to leave and I'm looking to far into things. I thought it was important to bring up anyway.

Reason 8: General vibes.

While II has had lots of sad moments before, they usually have some kind of happy/bittersweet/hopeful ending. This is just depressing, with little to no upside.

Look man. I'm gonna be honest. This is mostly me sipping copium. I genuinely can't fathom there being no act 3. Like, that's not even an option. This ending is so genuinely horrible (emotionally) it's unreal. I might make another post just about how awful this all is for Mephone specifically. Like, it's the worst possible outcome from him. Anyways, post is ending here. I had some more ideas but I forgot them.

[moyokeansimblr]

Hi Moyokean

You seem like a really organized player. Are there any tips and tricks you can share? How do you stay so clean and organized with your gaming? Especially with a game that allows us to have so much CC. how do you decide what to use and what not to use?

Hey friend!

I think the biggest thing that has help me be more organized with cc is that I try to avoid downloading random one-off things from random creators. If I see something I like from a creator I've never seen before instead of just downloading the one thing I'll see what else they have and if I can't get more things from them I'll just let it go...unless it's super awesome or obviously in the case of a newbie creator if they don't have other stuff. But I would rather have lots of things from a few creators instead of a few things from lots of creators, if that makes sense. This is also why I avoid downloading sims or houses with cc because I don't want to have random things. Something like having one singular recolor of a shirt or one singular eyeshadow swatch in my catalog sounds like a nightmare to me, for example. If I ever do find a sim/house with cc I really really want I'd have to go download all of it myself and install the sim/house without it ticked in clean installer.

Other than that I'm not sure I do anything particularly groundbreaking. I used to merge my ts2 cc but stopped because it makes it harder to delete things when I don't want them anymore and it didn't make a massive enough performance difference the way merging does with ts3. I sort by both category and creator, and I keep everything inside it's own folder so it's always easy to find for wcifs or to delete later. Might not be the best way because it's a lot of folders but it's what works for me and my brain. For the times I don't have a lot from a creator of a certain category those will go in a _Misc folder, like shown here, but as I said I try and limit that.

(they're called AccessoriesSim because I have all the pet accessories from DeeDee separate)

I don't have any type of limit on overall amount of cc. Anytime I've tried to limit I would go over or feel like I didn't have enough of something so I just don't. I don't care about having things repo or not personally, but I do try and pay attention to polycount (in ts2, not ts3) It also helps to keep new downloads separate for a few play sessions so I can decide if it was an impulse download or something I actually want. That'll look something like this.

For ts3 I do things mostly the same except I do merge, but it's still by both category and creator. And I follow my same rule of always visiting a creator's page to download multiple things from them as opposed to random individual things.

(_MISSING is for things I can't find anymore so would I ever need to redownload I couldn't)

I think that pretty much covers it, but feel free to poke at me more if there's something else you're curious about!

[danjaley]

Some background about the works...

@tia-amorosa asked about this, and I thought it might be interesting to other users too.

When I started making poses, I didn't give much thought to the codes and used "-" as a space, simply because I don't have to press shift when typing it. In everyday life this works perfectly fine, but there are some technical drawbacks. If you export the poses, - gets replaced by %2d, while _ stays the same.

If you do "export and rename", - even cuts off the code.

I realize most users won't run into this, but if you want to recompile poses for personal use, you might. And I like things being neat.

A pose named "mcc-3a" is also a good example, for my pose-works living and growing with my stories. It's the "showing someone sitting in an armchair a letter" pose. I made this in the early days of the McCarrics to introduce some news and then move on with the story. One or two posepacks later I realized, naming poses "mcc" had no future. They're impossible to remember and I always had to check where I was with numbering.

Now with over 130 posepacks, I also have mixed feelings about releasing two-pose sets. They quickly clutter the download section. On the other hand, if I need one scene like the above, I don't feel inspired to think of a dozen other situations in which a letter is shown to someone. But I might need and make similar poses later.

On the other hand, I hate keeping poses "in the docks" forever. There they're of little use to me and of none to everyone else. That's why I often end up combining released posepacks. The "mcc3" pose is due to be moved to 'Poem', along with the odd reading pose and another random letter pose. And with a descriptive code. That would make it a general reading posepack, which might be easier to add to.

Over-combining, on the other hand, also to be avoided. For me, as a poselist-user, it's always the question if the poses are similar enough to be in a set, or if they'd clutter the list with off-topic poses. Like for example Bedside 1 and Bedside 2: Although they were made for the same character in consecutive scenes - talking to someone and kissing someone are two very different things. As a middle ground I moved them to a shared download post.

Then there's also the "2019 standards": Early that year I was asked if I could include previews in the pose-downloads. I'm still working on updating everything I made before that. (At the moment I'm in the mood to tackle a few.) For many early posepacks I had deleted the working folders and the preview-screenshots. Some of the earliest previews were horrible anyway. In some cases I downloaded the pictures from the tumblr posts. However, with included previews I prefer to be more compact than with mere tumblr-pictures (Example: old | new). And I got a 16:9 screen in the meantime.

Nowadays I archive the projects and the documentation. Dehyphenating can be done with S3PE, but in order to update the Bedside sets, I had to convert all the poses back into Blender projects. And it's always possible I need a quick variation of something for a story :)

[normalcartoonic]

Mr. Men Show Songs from Jared Faber's Soundcloud are gone, need help recover downloads

Hello, I normally don't make a post like this, but something just happened related to the Mr Men Show that needs to be addressed. Jared Faber (who did the music for the show) originally posted song tracks on his Soundcloud back in 2014/2015 sometime after the show ended. But recently in late 2024/early 2025, all the tracks he posted on the playlist are gone without warning. He also deleted tracks from other shows, but the Mr Men Show stuff is the most heartbreaking to see gone.

I don't know if Faber was under contract by the right holders of the show to take them down, or if he didn't had enough space for his Soundcloud, but regardless, it's a very sad day for us Mr Men Show fans as this is the only thing we'll ever get as an official soundtrack. Granted, there are a few tracks missing and it's only the US version, but what Faber posted is the highest quality of the songs as they are very clean, and there's some other versions that were early demos that were never heard until he posted them. It's just very upsetting for me as I'm trying to archive as much of the show as I can as there's a lot of lost media surrounding it, and the tracks Jared posted are gone makes it hard to get. If I would've know this was going to happen, I should've got the tracks back then. And no, you can't use the wayback machine. None of the songs works.

The only that we can obtain those song files again is if either Jared Faber can try reuploading the songs, or if someone else managed to download all the songs off his playlist before it was taken down. I tried contacting Jared Faber, but I haven't got any. The only other people I know that had managed to archive the songs are a user from my Discord server and mrmenshowfan786, but there's some problems.

The user that informed me about the playlist made a folder, but the problem is that the audio format is a mixture of either WAV or MP3, and I don't know what was the format that was downloaded from the site. Not only that, but there's other tracks missing such as two of the Mr. Rude songs from Season 2 (not counting the joke song that Joey D'Auria recovered).

Another user that goes mrmenshowfan786 made a video containing all the songs Faber had on his playlist.

The problem is that the user didn't had a download folder on the song files, or if they still had the

files. Not to mention, what happens if the user decides to either delete the video or shut the whole channel down? Then that means the songs would be gone forever.

There was another site that archived the songs, which is this wikia.

While it does have everything Jared posted, there are a few problems. One, they're in a OGG format, and it's a decompression of WAV. If the tracks downloaded from soundcloud are WAV, then I'm preserving lower quality rips and it's not a good way to archive stuff (especially if you're someone that cares about audio quality). Two, it doesn't tell which tracks are directly from Faber, and there's other songs that are not clean rips. And finally three, what happens if the wiki gets shut down?

If anybody managed to back up the songs from Faber's Soundcloud, please contact or respond to here, send a private DM or go to my Mr Men Discord server.

[propertyofwhitney67]

Behold! I am inspired!!!! Have some of my pc's story lol

Mickey's asked you to erase them from Bailey's database. It was what they wanted in exchange for helping you vanish those photos of you that leaked online - thanks to Whitney and his friends, no doubt. You had your reservations about working with Landry before, but you needed the money from the pickpocketing and the occasional break-in, and Mickey was proving to be someone who'd help make your life easier too.

If you were better at lock-picking and had any idea how to break into Bailey's computer, you'd simply sneak into his office when he wasn't at the orphanage and get it over with. Alas, you couldn't do that, and Mickey told you that they couldn't break into the pc either - otherwise, they'd already have done it.

And so, you wring your hands, trying to get into the right mindset to fool Bailey for at least five minutes. Not much would work, but you had been rescued by him enough times to be able to pretend to feel what you were back then.

"Bailey?" you knock, opening the door to his office slightly. "Sorry, it's just..."

"Don't waste my time. Get on with it."

"Someone broke in. They're bothering one of the orphans."

Bailey pauses his typing and sighs, pushing up his glasses. He groans at you but still gets up and leaves.

You move immediately. Bailey's computer is still on, and while you would have loved to snoop his emails, you know you have at most ten minutes to get out before Bailey comes and smacks you for lying. You get into the orphan database.

The orphans are separated by birth year, it seems. Mickey's told you they should be in the year group just behind yours - you look there first. You see statuses in the summaries near each photo - missing, sold, left, borrowed, still here... Some have no status. You shiver.

Mickey is easy enough to find. You delete them, and the backup you find in another folder. Just as you're about to delete the cache, just in case Bailey suspects you, you notice a full orphan profile open on the background. You switch to it.

Your face - younger, slightly less thin and tired but still haunted - stares back at you. You remember this photo. You took it when you were fourteen, just after the social worker in charge of most of the orphans' cases decided you could finally receive what little belongings your mother had when she died of childbirth complications.

You're wearing her locket in the photo. You don't like wearing it, so it's just been catching dust inside your wardrobe ever since.

Not for sale, the description states, very matter of fact, as if you could believe it. Sure, you've never suffered a fate similar to what other orphans have gone through - even Robin hasn't escaped it - but you always paid on time, and what little times you couldn't pay, Bailey didn't push it further. You can't exactly make money while stuck in the hospital after being stabbed, after all.

Still, as far as you could tell, Bailey has never written this about any other orphan. There is no reason as to why he would. He loves money more than anything, and the orphans are his moneybags.

Curious, you scroll down -and stand back in shock, before minimizing the window, clearing the cache, and running off before Bailey comes back.

You'll ask Mickey about this. They'll be able to tell you that it's fake, that it's just some weird joke that Bailey made up to laugh at your stupid face.

After all, there is no way in hell that Bailey is your father.

I fucking love this

[miaandmefan]

Some people have told me that the folder where I put pictures of the characters is not showing up on my profile, I really don't know how to solve this problem 😢 I didn't private the folders or delete them, they're still there

But if you look at my pins that I created recently they can take you to the folder I mentioned above!

By clicking on the folder title you are redirected to it ☝️

Pinterest is a great app but it gave me a lot of headaches as I posted — and still publish — images, it is a bit buggy, for that reason today I think I lost all the images of "Baby Blue", the dragon, I noticed that he didn't have a folder just for him, so I created one and tried to move his images to the new folder, but apparently Pinterest took those images to limbo 🤡 they are not in the new folder nor in the dragons folder...

I'm sad about these problems, maybe Pinterest will solve this "invisible folders" problem by itself, but about the Baby Blue case I'm not sure. I may need to take screenshots of him again T-T

[moonmeg]

I have seen one of your recent answers and

1. I would love to see that comic where Catherine and Caleb argue about what marriage is

2. About that, it could be said that Caleb expected Catherine to be submissive and obedient to him?? 😭😭

This is a bit ooc for Caleb (another reason I cut it) but here you go

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Cat: What was that all about?!

C: I protected you from some creep! You're welcome!

Cat: That "creep" was a friend I haven't seen in almost 10 years! And even if it as a stranger who makes me uncomfortable, I am able to protect myself. I don't need you for that!

C (after a small pause): You are not talking to him again.

Cat: Excuse me?

C: ?

Cat: How dare you?

C: I- What are you upset about?

Cat: Who do you think you are to tell me what to do?

C: Who I am to tell you what to do? I'm your husband! You are my wife!

Cat: Yes, your wife. Not your servant.

C: I don't think you understand me here.

Cat: Be a dear and enlighten me, then.

C (hesitant): As my wife it is your responsibility to, well, serve me. I provide for you and in return you obey me. You belong to me now and so you do what I say.

Cat: What? Is that your concept of marriage?

C: Well... yes.

Cat: Alright, let me make myself clear: I married you and am now your wife because I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I did not marry you to be treated like a maid or some subject to a king. My husband or not, you are not my superior and never will be. In this marriage there is no hierachy. I am your equal. I'm not your possesion, I'm not your servant, I'm not going to mindlessly obey you and I certainly am not going to be submissive to you - not unless I myself want to be so.

I am your wife and I am still my own person and you are going to treat me as such. You are going to treat me as a person and not like some accessoire. I know this roots in the human realm and you can't just let that go... which is why I will be patient with you on this. But if you can't let that go... this marriage will not work.

[They're both silent for a while, avoiding the other's face]

Cat: Perhaps I can help a bit. What about me is different from you? Aside from the human and witch thing. What does a human woman differenciate from a human man? And do those differences really mean I - or any other woman for that matter - am of less value and do not deserve to be treated the way you expect to be treated by me? Do those differences really mean I cannot have the freedoms and a voice in this marriage as you expect to have them? Why should I obey you? Why not the other way around? Think about it, Caleb.

[Cat leaves]

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I only wrote this far before throwing it in the "deleted scenes" folder. Like I said it didn't move anything along and would've just taken up more time.

They resolved this the typical Caline fashion. I would've ended the comic on a hug or kiss.

Depending on my silliness, I would've written out a fic where Caleb would ask what she meant with "not being obedient or submissive to him unless she herself wants to be so" to which Cat just smirks and replies "Do you want to try it out?" and well, they do ;)

[thepnwvarmints]

Head's up...

My @boydholbrookfanpage is missing a lot of gifs and reblogs from other content creators that I did over the last year. Including close friends that I talked to about it, and they haven't soft-blocked or removed my fan page, so the reblogs I did from them should still be there, but they're not.

Does anyone know if there's some sort of limit or restriction on how many times you can reblog from someone? Or if they started deleting reblogs after they've been on your profile for a while? I sure as Hell hope not.

Also, I've seen a lot of blogs suddenly getting removed from my list of followers, both here and on the BHFP. It's sayin' that I've stopped following people who did not soft-block me or unfollow from their end, that I didn't unfollow or soft-block from my end. Not sure what's up with that, though.

If anyone sees that I am missing content that should be on my Boyd Holbrook Fan Page, pleeease, please feel free to nudge me in DM's about it!

For example: The Corinthian sitting cross-legged on a table while flipping through a folder. This gif set is no longer on my page and I KNOW I reblogged that one a couple of times from a couple of different creators.

You can always show me a post via anon asks that you think I should have or am missing, so that I can attempt to reblog it when I get a minute. If the creator did, in fact, soft-block or unfollow me, then so be it. I won't make a fuss. But for those that didn't, I don't want their work to not get recognition, or for anyone's feelings to be hurt! That's my main concern here. I don't want fellow creators to think that I just suddenly removed their work, because I swear, that's not the case.

Thanks for your time. I hope this gets fixed soon. I'm trying to update tags and mobile links on a lot of things from the BHFP, which is how I noticed stuff was missing. *shrugs and sighs* Fuckin' Dumblr, man. I swear, they really need to fix this wonky shite.

-Dax

[booleanean]

I've heard various reports that this was an issue where the spam filter malfunctioned and flagged their account unintentionally, or that the document was reported by a disgruntled beta reader. That might also have been two different people that had similar things happen to them. I've also heard people say they got access back after a manual review. These situations suck for the person going through them, and they're very scary to everyone. The details don't really matter for the lesson we should all learn from things like this happening.

That lesson is:

One is None. Two is One.

This is an adage from the IT world (and other places), meaning that anything that you only keep one copy of is effectively already deleted. It doesn't matter if that copy is online or offline, a single copy is never enough to keep your stuff safe.

If you write offline

Keep a backup. Hard drives fail, usb sticks get lost, laptops get stolen, phones fall in the river. Best bet is to pay for a backup service if you can afford them (order of magnitude $5/month).

Second best option is to write in a folder that's synced with an online drive service like Dropbox, OneDrive, Google Drive, or Proton Drive. They're free, and unless you spend 16 hours a day writing for the rest of your life, there's no way you're going to fill them up with just your writing.

Corin Tellado is arguably the most prolific author in the world, writing over 4,000 romance novels in her lifetime. An article I found claimed she churned out a novella (20k words) a week from age 19 to her death at age 81. That's actually an underestimation by about 800 novellas if the first number is accurate. 4,000 novellas at 20k words each would put her at 80 million words written over her lifetime.

The least generous popular online storage service, dropbox, offers 2GB of free storage. That's the equivalent of ~285 million words. Corin could've shared her dropbox with two equally prolific colleagues and still have had 40million words breathing room.

If you write online

Keep a backup. Accounts get hacked, accounts get locked for no (good) reason, services go down unexpectedly. Best bet is to automate it however you want and make it something you don't have to remember to do at all. Just put a reminder in your calendar to occasionally check that it's still working. If that doesn't work for you, you can of course download copies manually. If your writing tool of choice doesn't offer a regular download option for folders at a time, most of them are legally required to provide you with a dump of the data they have on you. It's sometimes a bit of a process to request, and it can take a couple of hours waiting before you get your download, but it'll give you a snapshot so you don't lose everything when you do lose access for whatever reason.

There's also online services that can sync a google drive with onedrive or dropbox or protonmail, though I have no experience with them.

If you write NSFW works

It's worth splitting it out into a separate account, especially if you rely on your google account for other things. It reduces the risk if you lose access. I've got a proton mail/drive account for all my NSFW stuff, and while it would suck to lose access to it, it's not going to lock my phone or the gmail address I've had since you still needed invites to join gmail. (Bet lots of y'all didn't know that was even a thing, huh?).

If any of the automated solutions don't work for you, put a reminder in your phone to make backups manually at least once a month, if not every week. Try to get in the habit of making them when you stop writing for the day if you can.

Hey, you want to hear something horrific? Well, there you go anyway!

“You no longer have permission to view this document,” said the pop-up message. “If you believe this is an error, contact the document owner.”

This was how Renee experienced a moment that most of us have heart-pounding 3 am stress nightmares about. All 10 of her works in progress—some 222,000 words across multiple files and folders—were frozen. Not just frozen, but inaccessible on her phone and tablet. When her husband fetched her laptop, Renee logged into Docs and tried sharing the documents again. Then she received her own message from Google.

“Can’t share item,” was the header. “You cannot share this item because it has been flagged as inappropriate,” read the body text.

Stop using Google Docs. And ALWAYS keep local copies of your work.

[manateeteaparty]

This week started out so great. Monday was great. Monday night though- I was looking through Google Photos to see what pumpkin carving patterns I had saved to my phone over the past few years. The app automatically creates folders for you- categories of people, places and things- to make it easier to access. When I clicked on my collections and was swiping through, I saw a photo of Matt. I was surprised. I thought that I had deleted all of my photos of him. I clicked on the photo, and it took me to the folder it had of him. There were still quite a few. Then I remembered. I did delete a lot of the photos I had of him- most of them in fact- but there were some I just couldn't bear to part with. Some that were too special to me at the time, a couple of months ago.

Seeing them again hurt so much. Seeing his face. I have almost forgotten what it looked like- when I think of him in my mind, I see his outline, and his face is blurry. But those photos- photos of him laughing. Candid photos. A photo of us together, him in my lap. Both of us smiling. Me smiling one of the biggest smiles I've ever seen on me before. I looked so freaking happy in that picture. It broke my heart seeing it again. Remembering how I felt in those moments- so completely opposite from how I've felt for so long- I feel shame and remorse looking back at them. I feel sorrow and despair knowing that the happiness I felt in those moments was all fake, and never existed in the first place- at least on his part. I feel so much hurt. I feel so unbelievably broken.

I deleted every photo. I also realized that I still had him as a contact in my phone, and remembered how he had deleted me a long time ago- and as a friend on snapchat. I deleted our messages from my phone, and his number. Something I should have done months ago, when I realized he had done the same for me. I stopped using snapchat months ago- it hurt too much, it just reminded me of all the time I spent messaging him. I did go back on about a month ago to start my account again, in hopes that it would give me the boost of confidence I needed to start being social again- but that quickly faded in about a day. Yesterday was the first time on since then. Even though he's not listed as a friend, our conversation was still there. I never liked re-reading old messages- it always hurt too much- but I decided to do that before I deleted him for good.

Reading through the messages also made me realize how much he contradicted himself. How much he would say something to me, then say the complete opposite soon after. I was so fucking blind. I was so naive. I wish I could go back and shake myself and say "Wake the fuck up. This person doesn't love you. They're using you. They don't want to be your friend. They're lying to you. You believe them because they're saying nice things and it feels nice."

"Emily I'm so sorry I've hurt you so much these pass few months I never meant too"

"And Emily even if it isn't romantic love the way you need. I will always love you as a person and I will continue to be your friend if you allow me too."

"But I can't stand the idea of not having you a part of my life even if it's just a little bit here and there. I want us to be good friends emily and I also want to support you as well I don't want to just dump you and move on I care about you too much for that to happen."

"doesn't mean I won't speak to you or something extreme like that"

"And also emily I still love you maybe not romantically but I still even now want you in my life"

"And I wanna forget about why we didn't work out and learn how we can work as friends for the future"

"I don't want you to go away Emily not at all"

What a fucking joke. Lie after lie after lie. Holy shit, what do you take me for? Right to my fucking face. You don't want me to go away, but you're actively pushing me away? You want to learn how we can work as friends, yet you're purposely not speaking to me, and not making any effort to see me? You'll continue to be my friend if I allow you to- like I am right now- though you're the one who's not allowing it? You can't stand the idea of not having me as a part of your life? You want to support me??? Oh, my favorite one- you won't just dump me and move on, you care about me too much for that to happen. Oh my god. Holy shit. What is this bullshit. Reading all this last night, it was such a slap in the face. I had to take a break and go throw up. What kind of person says this shit only to immediately go and do it? A fucking psychopath. An absolute psycopath. Someone who has absolutely no regard for others at all. Just a narcissistic fuckboy who uses others to get what he wants, and discards them like a piece of garbage when he stops getting the attention he wants. After he broke up with me, he said (in regards to me always being on edge/paranoid about the thought of him leaving me or hurting me in some way)-"It really hurt tbh like I'd never want to do any of that but you felt that I would and it just devalued all the stuff I had done with you over the last 4 years. And I know you weren't accusing me of anything but just the thought that you couldn't ever truly trust me in that regard really hurt". And that just proves once again how I should always trust my gut instinct. For months I was feeling like something wasn't right, an he would just deny it- but then in the end, he was saying how for months he was feeling like he should break up with me but didn't want to, so kept going in hopes his feelings would change. In other words, my instinct was right, and I should have trusted it. The alarm bells were going off inside of my head, screaming that I was going to get hurt, and I should have listened.

He got so fucking upset at the thought that I could ever accuse him of hurting me- and I never once accused him of it. I told him I have an innate fear of being hurt, because I have in the past, and I didn't want him to ever hurt me. Not just physically- but mentally. Emotionally. I would beg him- whatever your feelings are, be truthful with me. Don't lie to me. Please, don't fucking lie to me. If you ever loved me- be honest and respect me. And above all else, please, please don't abandon me. If you ever want to leave, tell me. He would always say how he would never, EVER do anything like that, and then even had the balls to say one of the reasons he broke up with me was because I had a hard time trusting him in the end? When it turns out that lack of trust was for good reason?! Hey, guess what, I really hate to break it to you. Silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. It communicates: if you do something I don't like, I will act like you don't exist. Mental abuse isn't just screaming and calling a person names. It's also ignoring them, invalidating them. It is neglecting and not considering their feelings, treating them like they don't count. Witholding intimacy is a toxic form of emotional abuse. Purposely denying sex, affection, or any type or physical connection with your partner is emotional abuse. It is just as damaging as physical abuse, if not more. You did all of those things. For MONTHS on end. In the end, you became the exact thing you said you'd never be. You did fucking hurt me. You did abandon me. You did abuse me. Maybe not physically, but certainly mentally and emotionally. Congratulations. I hope it all was worth it.

I wonder, when you heard my voicemail- the one where I was crying- did you react at all? Did you laugh, thinking how pathetic I was? Or did you just delete it. Any time I messaged you, did you sigh out loud, or swear to yourself, because I was just a burden that you didn't want to deal with? A little annoyance who was getting in your way?

He talked so much about wanting to stay friends after we broke up. Even when we were on our "break", he said the purpose of that was to strengthen our friendship and and start back at square one. In so many messages he would say things like "I still love you, it's just not the romantic love I used to have". But then every single time he would message me over the summer, he would insist the only time he see me is if I felt no love for him at all. That he doesn't want me to see him until my feelings for him are gone. Ok, so you want to be friends with me, but you don't want me to have feelings for you? So what do you want, for me to hate you? Make up your fucking mind. Maybe you do things different with your friends- but I love all of mine deeply. I don't bother to form friendships unless I care for someone in one way or another. Love doesn't have to be romantic. Romantic love is great, but it's sullied by sexual desire. By cheating, lying, pain, jealousy. Familial love is filled with obligations and duties, and in some cases (my case) resentment. Platonic love- at least in my opinion- is the strongest form of love. To see a person, get to know them. To choose to walk together in life not because you have to, not because you desire each other, but because you truly admire them to the core of their being. I have never felt more seen, more loved, than when I am with my dearest friends. We always tell each other we love each other, and it's never awkward, or weird. I felt so much platonic admiration for you, and wanted to show it- and you said you wanted that too- but clearly that's not the case. And I've realized, that's truly what hurts the most. Not losing you as a partner, not losing you as lover, but losing you as a friend- because you made the very conscious effort to cut me out of your life, after telling me for so long that you would never do something like that.

Also,

"it's been really hard to feel love for you when you were away".

I was so emotionally overwhelmed at the time, I didn't absorb a lot of what he was saying back in July. Reading this again is fucking devastating. You don't feel anything for me unless you're physically in my presence? It's been really hard for you to feel that? Do you understand how shitty that makes me feel? That I'm only worth loving if I'm in the room with you? So basically you're saying "Out of sight, out of mind". Which would explain why you were able to move on so quickly. Why you were able to completely forget I exist. Because when I'm not around, I literally don't exist to him. I wonder if that made it easier to look for other people? Because he also claimed he never cheated on me. "1) I have never cheated on you". Yet, he also said, "But I had moments of weakness where I went looking but never found anyone worth my time". That is cheating. It may not be physical cheating, but it is emotional cheating. Which is still fucking cheating. And lol, "never found anyone worth my time"? Are you saying that if you did find someone worth your time, you would've dumped me a long time ago- that you were just hanging onto me because you went looking and couldn't find anyone "worth your time" so you just kept me around as a backup plan? Is that supposed to make me feel better? What the fuck. What was I to you. Just a toy?Something to use? Just something to distract you from your "lonely" feelings? I'M A FUCKING PERSON YOU PSCYHOTIC FUCK.

"Tbh I should've ended it that night you claim that I'm out here looking around behind your back trying to get laid when we were "dating" if you ever called it that. But I legitimately was told yours truly that you went to go fuck someone else and it wasn't good so you came back to me" Okay, great. So why didn't you end it that night? You're right. If you wanted to so bad, you should have. It would have saved us a lot of trouble, for sure. As for the whole "dating" thing- I knew from the beginning that I loved him. I wanted him to be my boyfriend. We would always talk in his truck about our ideas on dating, being with other people, etc. I would try to act cool and not seem like I was in love with him. I would ask him what his thoughts on dating were. I specifically remember him saying, "I like what we have now, meeting up like we do, but I don't want to tie myself down to one person". He would also talk about hooking up with other girls. I assumed he was doing that- and it hurt- but what the fuck was I going to do about it? Nothing. This whole Cam/parking lot bullshit happened on August 23, 2022. Matt and I met in 2020. I stopped seeing other people in September of 2021 cause I was so fucking enamored with him, I thought his personality was so great, he was so funny- I didn't want to fuck anyone else. Also, I just genuinely enjoyed hanging out with him, I wanted to dedicate what little free time I had into getting to know him better. I legitimately thought that he wasn't coming to the spot to see me that night. I was sure that he had ditched me. I was so fucking hurt. I didn't plan anything with Charlie. He started texting me while I was waiting there for Matt. He asked if I wanted to hangout. I had told him the previous year that I wasn't interested in hooking up anymore, but we still got together to go eat sometimes and go Geocaching. I told him I was meeting up with Matt- I had told him about Matt, and that I liked him a lot- and that I would see him some other time. He said cool. As time went on, and I was still waiting, I felt so upset. I thought 'Ok, if Matt really wanted to see me, he would definitely be checking the time. Or his phone. Or even feeling his phone vibrate in his pocket? He said he was just going to drop weed off at Cams, not hang out." I legitimately thought that it was going to be a 5 minute drop off. I had no idea he was going to be hanging out. And no he didn't tell me to go to the spot to wait for him when I did- I went there because I was so fucking excited to see him. Again, I didn't think I would be waiting for so long. So after an hour and fifteen minutes went by, I drove off. I called Charlie. I was crying, and I told him let's meet up. We did.

My intention wasn't to fuck him that night. I just wanted to do something fun to distract myself from how awful I was feeling. I was 100% convinced that I had been "Dumped". That Matt wanted nothing to do with me and was just ghosting me. Charlie and I did end up having sex- and I really regret it- and when I opened snapchat and saw the messages from Matt, I felt awful. And the thing is, Charlie continued reaching out to me- even through this year- and I always told him off. In May of 2023 he asked to meet- I told him that Matt and I were now officially in a relationship, and I had no interest in changing that. In December of 2023 he reached out again, and I told him the same- I said even if we hang out as friends, I wouldn't feel comfortable, knowing that it would be wrong to meet with someone who my boyfriend felt uncomfortable with me being around. And I didn't want to hurt my relationship. Even in August of this year, after Matt had broke up with me, Charlie messaged me- he said he was sorry to hear that I was sad, and that he missed me, and he wanted to get a room for us to spend the night... he wanted to help me forget about Matt, and feel special again. I was so pissed. The last thing on my mind was sex. I didn't want to have sex with anyone, at all, let alone Charlie. Even if I wasn't fucking traumatized, I wouldn't want to get a room with him. Even after being broken up with, I wanted to respect Matt. I immediately blocked Charlie and deleted him as a contact.

And I didn't come back to Matt because "it wasn't good so I came back to him"- what the fuck- I came back to him cause I was in love with him and wanted to be with him. I wanted to be his girlfriend, I wanted to hug him, I wanted to apologize. I felt genuine remorse. I was ashamed because I had these huge feelings for this person I thought was so amazing and so special, someone who I thought was just interested in me sexually and not romantically ,and I was so worried that those feelings were unreciprocated. I didn't want to scare him away by letting him know how I really felt- that I wanted to be more than just friends, more than just a fuck buddy- that I thought about him all the time, and wanted to be able to call him my boyfriend. But I thought he didn't want that, and I didn't want to push him away.

It's absolutely insane to me how he spent so much time convincing me he was different. He saw the pain in my eyes, he heard my suffering, listened to me cry and tell him about how so many people had broken my trust and me as a person. And he told me that he was different, that I finally found the one that was different, that he's the one I can finally trust. So I let my walls down with him, became vulnerable, opened up and told him every single thing and every single occurrence that has crushed me because I finally thought- I finally believed- I could be safe with somebody. But then he turns around and crushes me and shatters my trust in the exact same way that everyone else I told him about also did. For months I had the feeling that something wasn't right in our relationship and he was holding something back from me. He would always deny it, and get so defensive and upset. I stopped trying to ask. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but it made me more and more depressed. And when he said he wanted to take a break from being physical- from being intimate- that killed me. I pleaded with him and told him this is just going to make my mental health so much worse. I remember saying something along the lines of "I'm trying to tell you how important it is that you acknowledge me this way, and I'm really afraid that by the time you decide you actually want to, I'm going to be so far gone mentally, I'm not going to want anything to do with you". And he just ignored me and said "Well this is what I want right now, and if you love me, you'll accept that, or we'lljust have to break up now". And I did love him, so I did. (Once again- refusing to acknowledge your partner or their needs is fucking emotional abuse- and saying "Well if you don't do as I say, then you'll be punished" is a threat that abusers use all the goddamn time to get what they want- but no, he would never do that). But I was right. The lack of being close to him, the lack of everything, my mental health took such a huge turn. I was dying on the inside and trying to hide it. I was desperately trying to tell myself everything was okay. In the back of my mind I knew something was wrong, and I didn't want to face it. Mentally, I wasn't ready to. I knew that he was already checked out of the relationship, and I didn't want to admit it to myself.

As much as he pinned our end on me- and I know I did a lot wrong, and I am by no means perfect- I've come to realize over the past month that he wanted this, he fought for us to end, and he got what he wanted. If he truly wanted us to stay together, we still would be. He gave up on us, on me. He said he just felt so lonely, so miserable, so alone without me. That when we were together it was wonderful. It was like everything was happy again, and he could finally relax. But when we were apart- it was unbearable for him. Really- how the fuck do you think I felt? You think you were the only one feeling that? You think you were the only miserable one in the relationship, the only one who went home and felt like shit? Feeling like I was trapped inside my own house with nowhere to go, with no privacy, nowhere to be myself, constantly being berated by an adult manchild, being the sole adult and voice of reason and responsibility to two children, trying to keep my head above water and not lose my mind while I juggled my work life, mom life, bills, stress, emotions, while feeling and watching my physical health deteriorate and my love life be out of reach? Having to try and keep it all together while I was literally falling apart, while all the while I would go to work every day and force myself to smile and pretend that everything was okay, knowing that everyone around me was depending on me? That I couldn't fuck it up. That I had to pretend to be strong. That in reality, I had nobody to rely on. Feeling just as alone as you, if not more. Just as sad. Just as goddamn empty. I don't know how many times I would cry myself to sleep at night wishing I could just reach out and hold you, that we were together, feeling so goddamn depressed that I only got to see you a few hours a week. Feeling so pathetic and useless, so helpless, knowing that you were sad and wanting to just let you know how much I loved you and how much you meant to me and I would never give up on you.

Feeling so completely torn between wanting to run away with you- which would mean giving up my house, taking my daughter out of school, uprooting her from her place of reliance/safety, giving up everything in my life- just to what, move into a tiny apartment with you? To make you happy. When you wouldn't even entertain moving out of your parents house. Where you get to stay for free! What the actual fuck! You don't even have to worry about the responsibility of paying bills, and you tried to shame me for not moving out to live with you? You would always make me feel so guilty about not wanting to move out of MY house, the house that I fucking own, just to live with you. And the thing is, I would actually feel bad about that. I loved you so much and wanted to do anything to make you happy, I would feel guilty about that. I started to tell myself that I was a bad person for not moving out. For not wanting to take Maggie out of school and move her to a new place. That I should be willing to do ANYTHING if it meant make you happy- at least we would be together, and that's all that mattered. Holy shit, what a fucking idiot I was. Of course that wouldn't be right! My daughter is my priority no matter what! But you made me feel so guilty, so awful, for not wanting to do that for you- and I never thought for a second, Why wouldn't he do it for me? And you could only think about yourself- you never stopped to wonder how miserable I was. How fucking lonely I was. How being apart from you was killing me. You just used it as an one of your excuses to break up with me. I never thought it was a reason for us to breakup- I truly loved you- and I thought that as long as we loved each other, that was all that mattered. I guess that would be true, if I wasn't the only one who felt love. Despite all the times you would say how much being apart from me was killing you- and I would agree- you would refuse to meet with me to talk about things. Looking back over these messages, I realize how many times I'd try to explain to you how much I hate talking over text- how I wish we could just meet in person- and you would refuse. Yet somehow, at the end, you pinned everything on me and how I didn't want to meet you on that Sunday. Everything was suddenly my fault. Because of a miscommunication, on both of our parts. But to you, it was all my fault, and you absolutely refused to see or hear my side of things. Even the days after, when you asked me if I thought you had made the right decision, and I told you I fucking hate talking over text- let's just meet in person and talk things over- you refused. But still you kept saying how everything is complicated over text and you wish I just would have given you the chance to meet in person- what??! That was literally what I was doing. I was telling you I wanted that- I was asking you for that- and you kept refusing it! Yet you kept saying "I just wanted us to meet and talk" Yeah, me too! What the fuck? Also, you want to talk in person? Great, why didn't you any time I asked if you would back in July, back when we were on good terms? Once again- make up your mind. You do/You don't. Which is it? I think you just wanted another excuse to break up. Actually, looking back at how you breadcrumbed me all summer without any intention of actually meeting up or seeing me again- I know for certain that's what your goal was.

"My question is why are you looking on sexual Reddit threads? Are you seriously over me already?"

No, I wasn't- not by a longshot- but apparently you seriously were. You were over me a long time ago, and were just trying to guilt trip me for realizing something you didn't want me to.

I was so afraid of losing you, until I realized you never belonged to me in the first place. Because even though my heart was with you, yours was with everyone and everything else. So instead of losing you, I sat back and slowly watched you lose me, without even realizing it. I chose you over everyone else, and you went and chose everyone else over me. And I realize now that I did get the closure I needed from you: The lack of empathy was the closure. The lack of respect was the closure. That's all you were ever capable of giving. Back in August I wrote that I wish I never met you, but I took it back. I felt guilty writing that. After reading over all these messages again, I realize it's true.

I would have done anything for you. I more than loved you- I adored you. And I can't really describe it- but sometimes I felt you were my partner, sometimes my lover. Other times I loved you like I would an old friend, and sometimes I felt like you were a younger brother figure who I loved as family. Occasionally I felt so maternal and loved you like a mother who just wanted to protect you and keep you safe, and make sure you were always happy, to tuck you in, to kiss your forehead, to sing you to sleep. Always, I cared for you. Every morning I woke up and wished that you would have the best day- every night when I went to sleep, I hoped that you were sleeping well. I got into the habit of staying up until midnight every year the day before your birthday just so I could watch the clock turn over to midnight and send you a Happy Birthday the first second I could. I wanted you to know how special you were. I got so much joy just hearing you talk about your friends, your interests, the things that made you laugh. When you were sick, I would have done anything in my power to make it better- and always asked you if you wanted me to have anything delivered to your house (you never took me up on that offer). When you were sad, I felt miserable. I genuinely was so happy and excited for you every time something good happened for you. Even this summer- even when I was falling apart- I was still caring about you, long after you stopped caring about me. In August I still stayed up for your birthday, and when the clock beeped midnight, I whispered Happy Birthday to you out loud. In my heart, it still mattered. I didn't want you to ever feel alone, not even from a distance. I hope one day you look back and realize that my intentions were always pure, and all I wanted to do was to love you and remind you that even though you may feel alone, you never really are. I would always be your friend- or I would have been. That I wasn't afraid to take the risk for you, because you were the last big risk I was willing to take. I only wanted your happiness, and would have done anything in the world to see you smile. I hope one day you realize that you completely broke the one person who only ever truly wanted to watch you succeed.

[lab-gr0wn-lambs]

Lol I just deleted a shit ton of my art. Like. Hundreds of old pieces. I was just cleaning out my onedrive and it deleted them off my computer, gone forever I guess 🙃

[bardoo]

Bardø's Camera Rig

For some time I enjoyed taking screenshots in Sims 4 more than actually playing the game, but something that always bothered me, was that there is no real photo mode like in other games. Sure you can get far with the cinematic cam, but even the cinematic cam is limited (can't rotate the camera and thus not take 'vertical' or tilted screenshots) and sometimes its just buggy (messing up rotations, clipping objects while moving the camera). I was looking for mods, that would add a better camera or an object that would work as camera, but I had no luck. So some day I found out, that you could set camera points while being in first person mode and it would save everything I could ask for. So instead of mods or objects, I figuered out, that sims would be the perfect camera and after messing around for some time I created a rig for blender, that is 95% accurate and now I want to share this rig, to help this community to create even better screenshots, than it already does.

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In blender:

In game:

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So how does this work?

You need:

- Blender

- Sims 4 Studio

- Basic knowledge of creating poses and exporting/importing poses from/into posepacks.

- Download the rig and extract it from the zip and move the files of the tray folder to your own tray folder.

- Open up a pose in blender, delete the already existing camera and append the camera_rig + camera into the scene. If the rig looks like on the first thumbnail, then you did it right.

- Move the camera_rig so, that it wouldnt be in the shot later.

- Now move the camera by moving the 'b_neck' bone of the camera_rig.

- If you want, you can rotate the 'b_neck' bone, to rotate the camera

- To get a preview of the shot, just press 0 on the numpad and then alt+F10. If you're playing Sims 4 fullscreen, press alt+F11 aswell. Make sure you don't see the rectangle of the camera by zooming in, but stop zooming in as soon you don't see the rectangle anymore.

- If you have 'b_neck' still selected, you can move and rotate the camera, while being in preview. Press 0 to leave the camera, press alt+F10 to get back the interface and press alt+F11 to leave fullscreen mode.

- As soon you are happy with your shot, LocRot the camera_rig, just like you would with every other rig and save.

- Make sure every rig is saved separately and import them into your posepack. I always put a 'CAM' behind the name of the pose with the camera_rig.

- Get into the game. Open your gallery items and add the sim "CAMERA RIG" to your household (enable custom content). The sim CAMERA RIG will act as camera.

- Let the camera-sim pose the 'CAM'-pose. Depending on how much the 'b_neck' bone was moved/rotated around, the camera-sim might look completely messed up, thats totally fine.

- Now get into the first person mode (shift+tab), don't move around with your mouse or zoom in ( if you did, just press ctrl or re-enter the first person mode).

- You should see that the view is kinda like the preview in blender, but the FOV is not right. Don't worry you did nothing wrong.

- Now you have to set a camera point by pressing ctrl+5/6/7/8.

- Leave the first person mode and move the camera-sim away or make the camera-sim pose, if the sim is supposed to.

- If every sim is posing like they're suppose to, get into the cinematic cam by pressing tab and press shift+5/6/7/8.

- If you did everything right, you should now (almost) see the same shot, you saw in blender.

- Take screenshot.

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I hope this rig will help you guys to create the screenshots you always envisioned.

To get an even better result, set the resolution of your scene in Blender to the same resolution of your game. You do this here:

I hope, I didn't mess up this tutorial, if so please forgive me, it was 5 a.m when I started this.