#Honestly I think I'm probably more likely better fitting with the term demigirl

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sorry if you've answered this question before but what sexualities do you headcanon sokeefitz as? also maybe their gender identities too

i haven't gotten asked this before, no worries!

it really depends on if it's an au and what au for the specifics, but there are some headcanons i have that are pretty consistent: keefe and sophie being bisexual, and fitz being aro-spec, especially demiromantic. i don't picture fitz liking labels a lot though, since he's been put in boxes his whole life and hates it, so in multiple of my au's he simply labels himself as queer. no further elaboration, because he doesn't owe it to anyone and thinking hard about strictly defining himself gives him anxiety.

for gender identities - that's even more dependent on whether or not it's an au, and what au. both demigirl (she/they) and nonbinary (they/them) sophie hold special places in my heart. in terms of canon, demigirl would probably fit better, but nonbinary sophie owns my heart.

i personally headcanon fitz to be that one chill cis (verified) guy that's just along for the ride, listening and awkwardly patting shoulders when someone rambles to him about a gender crisis and just. trying his best to understand. usually he just asks if the person in question wants ripplefluffs to munch on something sweet while losing their mind.

with keefe, i go back and forth with a lot. honestly the way i headcanon keefe's gender is conceptually similar to the way i currently view my gender - i go back and forth about whether or not keefe is cis, or genderfluid, or even bigender. (for me, i question whether or not i'm cis or genderqueer lol.) most of the time, when i write fics with keefe in them, keefe's a cis guy, but i dunno man. keefe's got those vibes where i can't tell if it's funky gender expression or funky gender. we love keefe either way tho <33

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I'm afab, gender questioning for 2+ years. I always see posts saying how trans men are not women who want to be men (which I 100% believe and agree with), but my problem is...I don't feel like I //am// a man. But sometimes I wish I were. I look at myself and wonder "why am I like this? why couldn't I have been born male?" I've always related more to male fictional characters, pretended to be them as a kid when I'd play pretend games with others... Why might I wish I were male, but feel I'm not?

Hey there. I definitely don’t have a for-sure answer for you -- gender can be complex and confusing, and in the end you know yourself better than I do. But I can offer some suggestions for what might be going on.

You might indeed be a trans man, and simply experiencing doubt and hesitation because of internalized transphobia (which is totally normal!), or because of the mainstream world that talks about trans people being “just confused” and in a “phase” and super “rare,” or because it’s hard to imagine what life as a man would be like, or for some other reason.

You might indeed be a cis woman who identifies more with male fictional characters because male characters tend to have more depth and be better written than female ones. You could be experiencing internalized misogyny (something all women face, don’t worry!), or be tired of experiencing misogyny, that leads you to be hesitant about being a woman despite being one.

You might be agender, genderfluid, a demigirl/boy, or some other non-binary identity rather than a binary cis woman or binary trans man! That could account for not feeling exactly like a man but also not being able to fully identify with your assigned gender.

So, how do you know which of these three possibilities is the right one? (There could also be other possibilities that I haven’t thought of, too). A good place to start is transgenderteensurvivalguide’s resources for trans people and gender questioning people -- particularly their “What am I?” page. This page offers tips for exploring your gender, from daydreaming to going by new name/pronouns for a while to see how it feels. If nonbinary genders are something you want to explore, try their NB flowchart to try and see if any nonbinary identities fit you.

Another thing I’ve heard is that honestly, most cis people never question their gender. If you’re questioning -- especially as long as two years like you have -- the chances of being trans are probably more likely than being cis. I don’t know if thinking in those terms helps, but if it does, great! 

The most important thing is to be patient with yourself. It’s totally normal to be confused when questioning your gender, to go through doubts and worries and just have no idea what’s going on with your gender. You have plenty of time to figure it out.

I hope this helps somewhat, and I’m sorry I can’t help more, but in the end figuring this out is up to you! 

If anyone has more advice (or corrections for what I said), please share. Thanks!