#GREAT actually but was just musing what AO3 tags I'd chuck on it...

[sunmontuewrites]

TMI below the cut - discussing my first time having sex with a guy. Nothing explicit at all, just general musings.

My first time with a guy, I was a few weeks shy of my 19th birthday.

I was going to a friend's 21st birthday a 6-hour bus ride away, and his family knew my family and my mum (being her VERY liberal self) just told me to have a good time.

Now - I was quite over being a 'virgin' - keep in mind this was back in the 90s and I was then a product of my time and upbringing. I had had a sexual encounter with a female when I lived in Sweden, but didn't count it (I count it as my first time with a woman now though). ANYWAY, I digress.

I wanted to get this pesky virginity thing over and done with, and this weekend (to me) was the perfect opportunity to find someone and get rid of it. 

Now, birthday boy was an out gay man, and his 21st birthday party was held at a gay night club. Awesome. (Keep in mind the drinking age in New Zealand was 20 at the time, and it was a 21st birthday, but I'm there as a friend of the birthday boy). So - it's safe to assume that people in attendance thought that I was at least over the age of 20, if not actually closer to 21 (probably assuming I went to high school with him or something, I don't know).

Anyway, I see this man, he's very good looking okay? 6'6", broad AF, STRONG looking. We spend the night dancing together (filthy hands all over dancing, we're in a night club). He asks if I want to go home with him. I definitely do.

We have sex THREE TIMES, and one of those times was in the shower. He was freaking attentive and generous and I loved every fucking minute and still think back on that night VERY fondly. (He was strong enough to pick me up, which was a treat).

Next morning he drives me back to my friends' place and drops me off, makes out with me in the car and then says bye. All good with me, that's what I signed up for (he knew I lived 6 hours away - we did manage to talk a bit between grinding on the dance floor). 

HOWEVER - it was NOT safe sex. (And this was the first time I learnt that I get a skin rash with latex, so it was a good thing that only the first time we used a condom). But my friend took me off to the medical centre to get the emergency contraceptive pill. When I got back to my hometown I talked with my mum and organised to get checked for all the STD/STIs. (My mum admitted she was very envious of my first time, because having a guy who knows what he's doing your first time is apparently a good thing, unlike her first time.)

Now, I learnt after, that this guy was 28 and my friend's helicopter instructor (he was doing a Bachelor of Aviation). So it was understandable that he knew what he was doing. 

So... I was thinking about the warnings that would have to be slapped on this if it were a fic on AO3. Age difference? Unsafe Sex? Dubcon? (We were both drinking, but not to the point where I didn't know what I was doing or agreeing to at all times).