#2. my ''man hating phase'' was whenever i was fresh out of the trauma of 2 abusive relationships and multiple rapes | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

tittyinfinity · 6 days ago

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I see what my transfem friends go through. I see my own experiences with misogyny. and then I go online and people are reinventing the decades old MRA argument of "these women just hate men and should stop causing Meaningless Discourse" well perhaps if you listened to them instead of seeing them as nothing but over emotional bitches (wow! misogyny!) you would see that it's not meaningless!

and yes women can absolutely perpetuate this misogyny, too!

TERFs caused the feminist movement to regress significantly yes but a lot of you have been like "so we should just throw all of feminism away" thinking that's somehow going to help

#one of my transfem friends was recently kicked out of a trans friend group (the rest tme) for expressing discomfort #with them being able to laugh along to transmisogynistic jokes #and she was given the whole argument about how she was playing oppression Olympics or whatever #I've only ever seen these arguments in response to women saying they're treated like shit by everyone else (both cis and trans women)#and if you have plenty of friends in your life of all genders the difference is fucking obvious #especially if you've actually been a feminist for more than 5 years #these are the same arguments cis men use against cis women #no it's not healthy to live life treating all men as inherently predators because it turns you into an anxious mess #and leads you to treating some people unfairly #i know this from experience #but 1. it doesn't change the fact that men hold power over women globally #2. my ''man hating phase'' was whenever i was fresh out of the trauma of 2 abusive relationships and multiple rapes #and there was a brief epidemic of men my age in my city constantly sharing rape jokes all together #with thousands of feminists being told that we were just overreacting #so yeah for a while i wanted nothing to do w men!#bc it was rare as fuck to run into a man in my city who wasn't a misogynist #even men i ''trusted'' would be like ''well rape is bad but you should have protected yourself better –''#if you're a man you have to recognize that women have trauma when it comes to men because we live in a male-dominant society #trans women aren't hated for ''being men'' people hate FEMININITY they hate ''men'' being FEMININE #because if it was a ''hatred of men'' then MEN WOULD BE OPPRESSED FOR BEING MEN #BUT THEY'RE NOT!#it's also the same racist ass argument that comes from white people towards PoC just reworded #''um just because you have a bad experience w racism doesn't mean you should say white people are inherently racist''#is REGULARLY used to shut PoC up #IT'S ABOUT THE POWER IMBALANCE!#you can not approach these subjects without understanding the fucking power imbalance!!#read some feminist theory for fucking once especially from trans women of color

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