#....neighbor's handyman is blocking my driveway

[pridetempt]

something about lucifer's angelic nature meaning that his anger sets off others' fight, flight, or freeze response ?? even those that swear up and down they're not scared of the little king get that burning feeling they should leave , run , put as much distance between themselves and the angry angel as possible.

being on the receiving end of an angel's ire ( true anger. not adam throwing a bitch fit ) is a terrifying thing. they are not all holy light and everything nice. they were built to be warriors defending God's vision and were given the means with which to do so. for an angel as old and powerful as lucifer ? his anger creates a visceral feeling of absolute dread and terror you can't escape. he's as old as creation , helped make it ! he is intrinsically woven into its very fabric and his rage holds the potential of tearing it to shreds. you feel that in your soul.

[ashadowstone]

Dear individual who decided to sell the place we’re living, and the asking price being about a quarter million dollars. No matter what happens to my living arrangement, I will be spitefully glad, knowing this place will not sell for such a delirious price, just because the house a few doors down went for that price. • This place doesn’t have a fence. Literally every other house on the block does. We have dead bushes as our fence. • That place across the street has a full back patio. This house, does not. • The AC sucks fucking satan’s left testicle, and so does the house’s insulation. If the wind blows too hard, the cooling system stalls. If it’s too hot, it fucking sucks. It’s been over 100F the past few days, and it’s been at least 82 inside all day, not dropping below 80 until two in the god damned morning. We’ve had the cooling running well over 24 hours straight. • If you want heat? Literally need to go and find a handyman to TURN ON the heat. Same with the reverse with the AC. You can’t just flip a switch, and it’s one or the other. • The roof in the living room caved in a bit less than a year ago and leaked.

• The roof from the outside is visibly slumping in places, so it’s gonna happen again, even though they re-did the roof within that past year. • There are two garage doors just laying partially buried in the back yard, with tons of other shit, too. That never got cleaned up when we were tenants, though it was promised it would be. • No vents in the bathroom. They become fucking ovens. • Garage is absolute shit with hanging wires and nails visible through the roof. • WhoTheFuckKnows cables in every room of the house, just hanging there (probably for TV or something?) • Doorframes are all warped, so the doors don’t close properly or without grating against wood with enough noise to wake satan. • Continuous mold issues in the master bathroom. • Tree roots ever getting closer to the important shit (Had to have septic system redone since we’ve been here) • Front doors were replaced but they’re shitty as hell, there’s no coating on these wood slabs that pretend to be doors. Neighbors’ house that sold for that price have a fancy metal outer door, the inner door, and what looks like a screen door, too. None of that shit here. • You have to put towels in the cracks between the front door because they leak. All the windows leak. Some windows haven’t been opened in months because they’re duct-taped shut to keep them from leaking. • No dishwasher, or place for its hookup. • No dining room • And more, I just really can’t be fucking bothered to get into the petty shit. And none of this is counting just the ire I fucking have, that we’ve been amazing tenants. The individual came over to take pictures for the listing, and was fucking astonished that the carpet was still in good condition. You, individual, who were so damned blind on their inspection to not realize there was a closet in the room you were standing in. Who thought the closet in the hallway for the towels and vaccuum were were the washer and dryer went, even though I JUST showed you the garage with them in it. Last owners had a plethora of dogs and wrecked the place. I can show no less than 12 patched areas of the house where holes used to be in the walls, and doors. The house didn’t smell, we’ve caused no structural damage. Max is housetrained. Our rent was always on time and a month extra paid up. Neighbors never complained.  I hope you spend on this place, its asking price, just renovating it, like the cupboards you said had a good chance of being replaced due to their age, same with the ones in the bathroom. Tearing up all those fucking dead bushes to put in a fence, and fix the shitty as fucking balls driveway that’s cracked to hell. Fixing the roof. Fixing the insulation. Cleaning up the backyard because who’s going to buy a house with literal junk in the back. Fixing the bathroom. I’ve put my heart into this place, raking leaves and helping with its clean up, vacuuming, washing the dishes that resided in its cupboards, cleaning the toilets and showers. But for you, individual? I hope it burns a hole in your pocket, and shrivels your heart when no offers come for it.

[benwycatt]

my parents have been renovating their roof because of major hurricane damage and twice during the process our neighbors called the cops on the black workers we hired. The first time there was a group of men in a obvious construction truck at 10 am in broad fucking daylight. Furthermore on that day, the cop wanted to use our bathroom after harassing the black men trying to fix our roof because the cop probably thought my (black) mom wasn’t the homeowner.  The following time it was one black woman in a car waiting for her crew outside our house at 9 am( once again broad daylight) within minutes a cop was harassing her. 

To further highlight the point, the eccentric French Canadian handyman we hired who drives the largest shadiest looking car/rig/trailer thing I have ever seen has never had the cops called on him despite his car (or whatever you can call it) frequently blocking off parts of the neighbors driveways and frequently staying till dark. 

[newstfionline]

Want to be a great neighbor? Here are 9 things etiquette experts say you should do.

By Daniel Bortz, Washington Post, October 2, 2018

To live in a great neighborhood--and enjoy all the comforts that come with being part of a tightknit community--you have to be a good neighbor yourself. But what does it mean to be a genuinely good neighbor?

Here, etiquette experts share ways to build and maintain positive, long-lasting relationships with your neighbors. (It requires more than lending someone a cup of sugar.)

Share important information. One of the best ways to welcome new neighbors is by providing them with a “need-to-know” checklist, says Diane Gottsman, author of “Modern Etiquette for a Better Life.” If you know a great housekeeper, handyman, dry cleaner, dog walker or lawn-mowing service, give your new neighbor a sheet with their contact information. Also include suggestions on the best and nearest grocery stores, restaurants and pharmacies.

Keep up your curb appeal. Just one ugly home in a community can reduce property values for the entire neighborhood. Hence, you don’t want to become known as the owner of “that ugly house”--i.e., the one with knee-high grass, overflowing gutters, dirty windows, peeling paint or toys scattered across the front yard. “You should be cleaning up the front of your house as much as possible,” says Lizzie Post, co-president at the Emily Post Institute, a Burlington, Vt.-based etiquette-training business.

Be a responsible pet owner. “Pets can be a big bone of contention between neighbors, so you need to keep them in check,” says etiquette consultant Lisa Mirza Grotts.

Start with pet etiquette 101: Clean up after your pooch. “When you take your dog for a walk, do not deposit your dog’s poop bag into someone else’s trash can,” Gottsman says. “It sounds basic, but it happens a lot.”

Organize a service project. You may want to attend block parties, community cookouts and other neighborhood events so that you can mingle and form friendships. But to go an extra mile, suggests Elaine Swann, founder of the Swann School of Protocol, coordinate a community-wide project that neighbors can participate in together, such as decking out your neighborhood’s playground for Halloween.

Live by a senior citizen? Assemble a group of neighbors to help spruce up their yard or hang holiday lights.

Invite your neighbors over. Recently moved in? One way to build rapport is by inviting your neighbors over for a housewarming party (instead of only inviting your friends). But, “Let people know that you’re not accepting gifts,” Post says. “This should be simply a social event.”

Once you’ve established a relationship, you could form a neighborhood book club or weekly softball game to deepen friendships.

Don’t be the town gossip. Part of being a good neighbor is avoiding gossip. However, Post says there’s a difference between “good” gossip and “bad” gossip. “If a neighbor’s mother passes away, communicating that news to other neighbors so that people can attend the funeral is good gossip,” she explains. Bad gossip, meanwhile, spreads negative rumors (e.g., “I heard Jerry got fired from his job. I can’t say I’m surprised”).

Be a respectful party host. Keeping music at a reasonable noise level when you’re throwing a party is common sense. An aspect people frequently overlook, though, is minding where their guests park. “The last thing you want is for your guest to block your neighbor’s driveway,” Gottsman says. You also don’t want your guests’ cars to take up the entire block, which is why Gottsman suggests hiring a valet service.

Abide by community rules. When you live in a homeowners or condo association, you have to comply with the community’s rules. Still, a lot of people don’t take the time to review their association’s rules, Swann says. These rules may dictate parking restrictions, trash and recycling schedules, landscaping requirements, move-in procedures and more.

Also, check local codes to make sure you’re following city ordinances, particularly regarding noise. (For example, Arlington prohibits shouting, yelling and other loud noises from midnight to 9 a.m.) A new survey by Improvenet.com showed that six of the top 10 complaints people have about their neighbors involve noise, whether from music, voices, parties, kids, pets or the TV.

Handle conflict judiciously. No matter how friendly you are, you may have disagreements or quibbles with neighbors. Handling these conflicts with tact is crucial.

Generally, if you have an issue with a neighbor, your first line of defense should be to try to resolve the problem with the person directly. This should be done face-to-face--not over text message or email, where messages can get misconstrued, Swann says.

Let’s say your neighbor’s dog is peeing on your garden. Broach the subject by starting with a compliment, and then suggest working together toward a solution: “Duke is such a sweet dog. However, I have noticed that he’s been peeing on our begonias, and I would really love to curb that behavior so that my flowers don’t die on me.” If you can’t resolve the issue one-on-one, contact your homeowner’s association.