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13lizardsinatrenchcoat ¡ 3 months ago
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Nothing I can say about Dunya has not already been said better by Hanif Abdurraqib in this article .
I highly recommend reading it in full, even if the Mustafa is unfamiliar to you. The mastery that both he and Mr. Abdurraqib have over language makes the interview itself a poignant mediation on art and class and race and music and war and and and and.
Dunya is probably my album of the year, and I'll steal a quote from the article here to tell you why:
"Perhaps the miracle of Dunya is how it moves with a spirit of vibrant protection, the miraculous ability to hold, in your palm, an entire city and everyone you have ever loved and who has poured into it – to draw people close and say can you believe THIS?"
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I'll end this with a reminder that the proceeds from Mustafa's music video for Gaza Is Calling go to the PCRF and that the song is an excellent entry point for his music.
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cxmomnia ¡ 5 years ago
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REPOST WITH YOUR ANSWERS! 
name: [REDACTED]
nickname/s: midnight
height: 5'4′’ 
nationality: american
favorite fruit: apples 
favorite season: winter
favorite scents: lavender and rose water
favorite animals: cats
tea, coffee, hot cocoa: mostly coffee, but occasionally i’ll have some hot cocoa. as a treat <3
average hours of sleep: about 9ish, depending on when I actually fall asleep and when i actually wake up 
when my blog was created: 2015????? i think????
random fact: i assume it means a random fact about me so uhhhhhh i really love makeup, but i’m so lazy that i rarely wear it
favorite food: it changes all the fuckin time, but rn? cheesecake
favorite t.v. shows: A;tla, and that’s p much it
favorite movie: Int/o the Spi/derverse, baby! 
sexuality: pan/demi 
pronouns: she/her 
favorite book series: i’ve said this before, but Sha/des of Ma/gic is bitchin, y’all
favorite video game/s: i don’t really play them that much, i guess mariokart and pokemon? 
favorite subject: music, art, literary analysis, and history
guys or girls: guys, most of the time
what I should be doing: taking my damn meds
favorite fandoms: none. we’re all going to hell
tagged by: stolen from @lilli-of-the-mountain​
tagging: YOU get a tag! and YOU get a tag! Look under your chairs, you all get a tag!
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creativitytoexplore ¡ 5 years ago
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Swim by Christopher K. Miller https://ift.tt/3757ycN Christopher K. Miller's character is tired of ageing and called by the sea.
Every February, for the past nine years, you and your second husband, Jack, drive down from Ottawa to Anna Maria Island. Official snowbirds now. Always stay at the same rental semi on the beach: a well-appointed cabin, really, with cable TV and high-speed internet. Central heat and air - most days you need both. Shared cedar deck with a big gas barbecue, saltwater pool, and hot tub, too, of course. Mornings you drink coffee with whipped cream and watch pelicans dive-bomb for fish. Last year, a woman you met on an island boat tour said she'd heard they eventually go blind from all those eyes-wide-open impacts, and starve. So no pelican ever dies of old age. Afternoons, it's burgers and beer at Skinny's. A snack shack with a bar. Close enough to walk. Decorated totally with dollar bills. Thousands of them. Like the owner tacked up the first one he made, but then couldn't stop. Then, after a nap, dinner someplace nice. Evenings, unless it's cloudy, you watch the big orange blob of a sun sink into the Gulf. Drink pink Zinfandel you buy at the local Publix for twelve dollars a gallon. Lean on the railing. Talk to the couple next door. Last year, dairy farmers from Wisconsin. From the moment the sun's orb touches the horizon until it's completely gone takes only a few minutes. You can stare without hurting your eyes. Second time you watched, you took a cell phone video and posted it on YouTube. You don't want to die of old age, either. You've given this some thought. Every day on the road is one less day in Florida. Plus you and Jack both hate motels. Always seem to have this musty smell, even the non-smoking units. Noisy heaters mounted beneath dirty windows overlooking parking lots. Crappy TVs, usually bolted onto something. Flimsy doors that either stick or refuse to latch. Shallow tubs with gritty anti-slip tread strips. Leaky toilets. A waste of time and money. So you just drive straight through. Easy in the Caddy. GPS. Cruise. OnStar. Jack, who used to work for QNX, says it's just a matter of time until the car'll drive itself. Still, it's a long haul. Twenty, maybe twenty-two, hours speeding down I-79. Depends on pit stops. Between Jack's prostate and Sheetz's bottled cappuccinos, you take almost as many exits as you pass. The first Waffle House is in Philadelphia: Welcome to Waffle House! Tim Hortons as far south as Georgia now. Not as busy as the Canadian franchises, though. Last year, driving back through Summersville, West Virginia, you thought your headlights weren't working. It was raining and, between the slick and the glare, you couldn't see the center line. Jack does all the driving now. Says he doesn't mind a bit. The trick's to not eat too much. And pacing the caffeine. This year's neighbor's a financial planner, also from Ontario. Works for one of the big banks. Maybe CIBC... or could be the Royal. Hands Jack his card. Tells him he oughta consider moving some of those GICs when they mature into oil and precious metals, maybe even cash out early if that's an option, pay the penalty. The mighty "petrodollar" is gonna crash soon. He uses his fingers to indicate quotes. Like didja see where Germany wants its gold "repatriated." Again with the fingers. But The Fed don't have it. Can't produce it. Prolly sold it to the Asians. No wonder they refused the Germans' request for an audit. Been wallpapering the Globex with naked shorts, unredeemable gold warrants, since Christ knows when, trying to drive the price down. Quash interest rates. Desperate to sweep Obama's latest QE clusterfuck under the rug. To mask inflation. Prop up the nation's credit rating. His wife, who looks maybe half his age, hasn't said a word. Probably heard it all a million times. Appears stoned in some asocial way, or maybe just super bored, as she watches the sun set, dusk fade. No breeze. The ocean looks coated in orange plastic. Like a giant sheet of Canadian fifties. You've heard that a good way to die is to swim out as far as you can. At first, you'd turn on the car's defrost. Then you blamed cataracts for the fog. Jack had them a few years back. Half your friends already, too. Really, nowadays, almost everyone gets them. Even babies. Jack thinks it has to do with all the cell towers and microwave radiation around. A million texts a minute zapping through your body. Fortunately, an easy fix. You researched it on Wikipedia. How they used to slice open the eye. Replace the lens. Stitch it shut. How you'd spend three days flat on your back in a halo hoping your retina didn't detach. Now it's a topical anesthetic. In-and-out with a needle. A simple ten-minute procedure. OHIP's rates lag the technology. A good ophthalmologist can do thirty a day, make three million a year easy. After dark the neighbors join you in the hot tub. Dip their toes in. Ask if you mind. She's fit enough for a two-piece. But he's too big for a speedo. How is it men are oblivious to their fat? The water rises with his entry. There's a restaurant/bar with an outdoor patio maybe half a kilometer down the beach. Semi-live music. Just a guy singing karaoke, really. Maybe a guitar. Everly Brothers. Simon & Garfunkel. Beach Boys for the younger set. Drowned out when Jack turns on the jets. He and the financial planner are working on a happy drunk. A loving drunk. Guy's explaining derivatives trading. How today, thanks to computers, that's where ninety-eight percent of the market is, and how a wise money manager uses 'em to hedge, not leverage. His foot keeps touching yours. The stars look out of focus. The moon's full and low, but murky. As if shrouded in smog. You point to where you think a city-sized cruise ship's lights decorate the horizon. But no one confirms. Jack says the stock market's always frightened him the way casinos should compulsive gamblers. Even after RIM bought QNX and handed out call options like Halloween candy and made him and everyone he worked with rich, he never cared for it. You wonder if he's playing footsie, too. Surprised that you don't care. What at first you think's a falling star turns out to be either a satellite or some high-altitude plane. Or maybe the space station. Even looking at it out of the corner of your eye, where objects are at their clearest, it's impossible to tell. Might just be something floating across your cornea. You were a pretty decent swimmer back in high school. Swam men's varsity your freshman year, only girl on the team. Still remember your times. Fifty yard freestyle: twenty-three seconds flat. Two-oh-nine-seven once in the two-hundred individual medley. Coach Burton's face in yours every time you breathed: Swim! Last year, at your eye appointment, you wondered if all the chlorine might've caused your condition. Dr. Hopfner, the optometrist, thought not. Anything's possible. But AMD's a genetic thing. More common in women, eh? Your mom died in a car crash when you were sixteen. On her way home from a Christmas party. Drunk. But you remember her mother as seeming kind of blind, always trying to see you better, always pulling you a little too close but never looking straight at you. Back then you figured it was just an old person thing. Like wrinkles. Like bad hair and teeth. Dr. Hopfner advised you not lose hope. Leafy green vegetables. Intravitreal injections. An SSRI if necessary. Though you were right about the cataracts. Just not mature enough to be operative yet. Better to take a wait-see approach. Weigh the risks down the road. The financial planner's wife steps into the pool. Says she needs to cool down. Her breasts are too big for the rest of her. Her swimming looks like some combination of doggie paddle and sidestroke. And drowning. The way she rolls and gulps. Appendages flailing. All working against each other. You almost want to rescue her. Takes forever to swim two laps. You can tell she's proud of her aquatic prowess, though. The way she leans over the shallow end's gutter drawing deep, even breaths. Like hyperventilating. Like she's just crossed the English Channel. Jack asks the financial planner why he thinks it is the US still hasn't gone with plastic money or chip cards, and why you gotta pay cash in advance at the pumps, which is a total pain the ass. This causes the guy to launch into a diatribe about the US economy being so bust now that it actually relies on a certain "manageable" level of forgery and identity theft. He puts his drink down to do the quotes. No one could even begin to counterfeit a fraction of what The Fed does each and every day. Not even close. So who cares, right? And did you know they get most of their oil from us? So how come gas is so much cheaper here? He advises Jack terminate any exposure his portfolio might have to US currency. Not just cash, but any mutual funds containing US bonds or equities he might have kicking around in RSPs and whatnot, too. He places his hand on Jack's shoulder. Giving free advice seems to evoke in him a sense of largesse. The ocean is black and smooth. Like an oil slick. Swells and ripples instead of waves. You wonder if dolphins sleep at night. Sometimes, in the morning, a pod will swim by, surfacing and diving. Up and down, up and down. Like swimming the butterfly. As if stitching invisible seams. You used to rush out to see. Peer through the binoculars. Though not anymore. It's funny how the amazing blurs into the commonplace. How you can become inured to anything. Like the sun. The good life. The whole universe. But probably not blindness, despite Jack's theories about its leading to enhanced spatial and eidetic memory, better hearing, and probably better sex. At first you thought they were sharks. You climb out of the hot tub's fever-temperatured water. Say you think you'll try a swim, too. But in the ocean. The financial planner seems actually impressed. Are you nuts? What about undertows? What about sharks? You tell him there's no such thing as an "undertow." Only rip currents. They'll drag you out, but never down. And that you're more afraid of jellyfish. Jack brags you're an unbelievable swimmer. A regular fucking dolphin. Sounds a little inebriated. Glances at the woman, again floundering in the pool. Looks a little worried. What about cramps, though? You take off your ring. Wouldn't want to lose it. Four flawless carats. Wouldn't want to attract barracuda, either. Jack's glad to hang onto it till you get back. No worries. Your muscles are limber. You haven't eaten in hours. Your fingers graze his palm. A kiss might seem too final. There's a gate, then a path leading down to the sand. Scrub grass on either side. You close it behind you. South on the beach, the entertainer's singing an old Lou Christie hit. Faraway voices blend with the nearby lapping of water. Two Faces Have I, but not quite Christie's keening falsetto. High tide. Probably headed out soon. The ocean's cool, but not much cooler than the air. You're still hot from the tub. The sand's soft and smooth. Early every morning a grader truck rakes up all the stones and shells. Someone said they use them on driveways. It seems to take forever until the water reaches your knees. The moon is almost straight ahead. You recall reading somewhere that its orbital period and women's menstrual cycles are identical in length. When the ocean tickles your thighs, you dive, and swim for it. But after only a dozen strokes your hands grab sandbar. Standing makes you feel heavy. Unwieldy. Removing your suit helps. You surrender it to the tide. Now the air seems cooler than the water. After the sandbar, the bottom drops away quickly. As if on the edge of a steep underwater hill. Or cliff. You raise your arms up over your head and perform a standing surface dive. The deep water's colder. But your feet don't touch bottom. So you kick back up. Swim for the moon. Effortlessly. Like flying in a dream. You wonder if you should pace yourself. And, if so, how? For the mile? Your personal best was 17:59. But that was in a twenty-five yard pool. A long time ago. Sixty-five flip-turns. Coach Burton screaming himself hoarse the entire final hundred yards. Bringing you home. Every breath to poolside, screaming in your face: Swim! Both Jack's sons are visiting next week with their daughters. No wives, though. Separated. The three girls call you Gamma. Like the radiation. Your step-sons call you Jeanne. Always have. You're glad they don't call you Mom. Even though you've known them since they were little. Kissed their owies. Helped with their homework. And, later, their finances. Even though you love them, and you're pretty sure they love you, you suspect it's not the same. Sometimes you wish you'd had children of your own. Though not right now. Stroke stroke stroke, breathe. Steady flutter-kick. Goddamn your feet are big. First thing Coach Burton ever said to you. Regular flippers. Mermaid feet. Huge smile on his face. Stroke stroke stroke. Your armpit forms an air pocket. Breathe. Stroke stroke stroke. You skip a breath, laughing. Never paced yourself for maximum distance. Stroke stroke stroke, breathe. Guessing eighty-second hundreds. Pulse maybe picking up a little. Sixty-eight or so. More from exhilaration than effort. The current seems to carry you. Even when you stop and tread water. Your longest competitive open-water swim was five kilometers. Organized by Swim Ontario. Then there were boats and buoys and other swimmers to guide you. You seem to have drifted south a little. Toward the open Atlantic. Toward the restaurant, which is almost directly behind you now. The singer sounds tinny. Lost in the tide. Strings of red, white and blue bulbs outlining the patio look like violet webbing. To the north, past your rental, past your husband and the financial planner bonding in the hot tub, a hotel's pool lights leer aquamarine. Ahead, the moon seems to have drifted to your left. Surely an unreliable guide. You've never heard of sailors navigating by it. Only the stars. Fuzzy and faraway. You wonder if it's really true that if all the stars visible to the naked eye were grains of salt, they'd only fill a teaspoon, whereas all the stars you can't see would fill a lake. The sun's amber glow still lingers on the horizon. Like a tease. You swim for it. Coach Burton always thought you had a shot at Lake Ontario. Would've gladly helped you train. You wonder if he's still alive. He was about the age you are now. So how old would that make him? Probably too old. It occurs to you, and for the first time, that maybe it wasn't all about mentorship. Maybe his will to your athletic success was mired in something more. Stroke stroke stroke, breathe. Of course. He had a crush on you. You with your big feet, flat chest and pimples. He just wanted to be with you. Even if it meant sitting for days in a small boat, gripping a sputtering outboard's steering arm. Tossed about. Hour after hour. Occasionally vomiting into Lake Ontario's rough, cold water. Just to watch you swim. He also taught Health Ed. Breathe. Stroke, stroke. Breathe. Only to the left now. One reason you never took on Lake Ontario was all its lamprey eel. Maybe the ugliest creatures on earth. Long, slimy suction cups with needles for teeth. Love to attach to swimmers. But the real reason, the main reason, was those who'd gone before. You wouldn't have been the first, the youngest or the fastest. Though now, it occurs to you, you could be the oldest. Something slick and firm bumps, really more like nudges, you on the thigh. As if to remind you that you're not alone. Maybe a manatee. You pause for a rest. Look around. Pee. That last glass of Zinfandel. The air's much cooler than the water now, which is cooler than your body. Your urine. You relax. Float. Easy. Seawater's buoyant. You settle into it, only your nose and mouth exposed to the chill air. Feel the ocean's rise and fall. As if breathing. As if in a deep sleep. You listen for the eerie howling moan of whale song. Hear only the drone of some faraway ship's engines. Then surface. Look around. Ears and cheeks cooling. All horizon now. Everywhere you look. You wonder if it's true that sailing ships of old always carried swine. That a pig, thrown overboard, will always swim for the nearest land. You feel a little dizzy. A mild vertigo. Disoriented. Faraway lights could be a ship, or a pier. Or an illusion. But the moon seems real. And about where you remember it. You've always had a good sense of direction. You consult your inner swine. Then do the opposite. Swim for the farthest shore. You're in the Gulf. So somewhere on the coast of Mexico. Or Texas. Or even Louisiana. Cuba, if you're way off course, would be much closer. But still far enough. Switching to backstroke works a different set of muscles. Gazing up into the night sky is not unlike gazing down into the deep. Both are unfathomable in their way. You imagine Jack has lost interest in matters of national economic import by now. Whatever buzz he's managed to tie on, you've probably killed. But surely the other couple hasn't gone to bed. Left him standing alone on the beach. You wonder how long he'll shout your name before he breaks down. Calls 911. The coast guard. No. It'll be someone else who does. Maybe someone from the restaurant. Americans are way friendlier than Canadians. Especially in the South. What's the problem, buddy? What? How long did you say? Oh man! Jack might even argue a little. A few hours in the water ain't diddly. Not for you. Hell, there've been Lake Ontario crossings took over forty. Some who've swum across and back. Even after the call is made, he'll keep trying to find you. Run up and down the beach all night. Screaming like Coach Burton. Like you're not the one who's lost. You stay on your back, but switch to a frog kick, with a lazy underwater double-arm sweep. Not a competitive stroke. Well maybe in synchronized swimming. Super easy. Have to be careful not to kick too hard, though. Don't need a calf cramp. But you have to keep moving. You've heard sharks have to swim to breathe. If you stop swimming, you could freeze. Seems funny someone could freeze to death at room temperature. Because that's what the water is. There's a kind of tension, a clenching, that precedes shivering. The air seems colder now. You push a little harder. Just enough to get warm. You don't want to sweat. You don't want to cry, either. The ocean is big enough. So you stop thinking about Jack and the kids. Roll over. Get back to some serious swimming. Count your strokes. In a pool it's about fifteen hundred per mile. In open water, usually more. Depends on waves and current. There are no waves out here. Not the breaking kind. Only swells. You rise and fall. Rise and fall. It's made you a little queasy. You also have a niggling headache. Like someone's squeezing your eyeballs. Dr. Hopfner mentioned glaucoma. Not to worry. You don't have it. But your IOP's at the high end of normal. Both eyes. Could complicate things down the road. Something to keep on top of. Did you know swimming goggles have been shown to raise intraocular pressure? Do you still swim? Goodness! No wonder you're so trim! You start over every thousand strokes. But was it nine or ten? Your arms are heavy. Burning. And, at the same time, a little numb. Breaststroke's just as hard on your lats, but easier on your shoulders, and better for looking around. Not a lot to see, though. Water. Sky. Stars. The spoonful that are visible, anyway. Tough on the knees. For about a hundred strokes, whenever you pull up to breathe, you think you hear a helicopter. Far away. And getting farther. Till it's just your heart thumping in your ears. Seems a waste of energy to try to shake or knock the water out of them. Should've worn earplugs. Sustained, breaststroke's hard on the neck. It's made your headache worse. Rolling to your back turns your stomach. Turns your queasiness into full blown nausea. Thinking about Skinny's onion rings doesn't help. What goes in a veggie burger? Do meats ever masquerade as vegetables? You need to shit. On the road, you're at the mercy of public washrooms. Restaurants, gas stations and service centers. You can usually hold out longer than Jack. But you get less warning. Still, you both try to sync washroom breaks with refueling. If you don't need gas, you buy an Almond Joy and something to drink. You feel like you should pay something. You wonder if whales ever hold it in, either as an exercise or out of some sort of marine etiquette. But you're just visiting. No holding back for you. You push. Sync it with your whip kicks. No wiping after. Nice thing about being naked in the middle of the ocean. Cleans you right up. Like a giant bidet. It helped. You feel less nauseated. Less bloated. But your head still hurts. All the way down your neck and back, really. Whoever said swimming out into the ocean as far as you can was a good way to die probably never tried it. Or wasn't a very good swimmer. Think about something else. You don't believe Coach Burton had a wife. A family. You remember how obsessively he bit his nails. Probably from being responsible for things over which he had no control. Like your times. Gnawed them till they bled. Right down to the quick. Right into the meat even. Had to have hurt. Probably be prescribed an anticompulsive today. Except when screaming, always had a finger in his mouth. Angry scabs oozing yellow pus. Especially his thumbs. You wonder if they ever got infected. Seemed to infect his breath a little. Your own, too, when blown back into your face. Bile rises up into your throat so, instead of air, you inhale that. And cough. And cough. Makes your head pound. Once, at the YWCA, you took a lifesaving class. Got your certificate. What you're doing now is called a jellyfish float. Tucked into the fetal position, curled like a question mark, you cough into the ocean. Gulp your own saliva and stomach acids. And seawater. Brackish and warm. Like blood. Like urine. Underwater, you vomit. Heave. Bits of veggie burger and deep fried onion and whatever it was you had for dinner... spinach salad and blackened ahi tuna... it all spews from your mouth and nose. Swirls around you. Like chum. But again, you feel better. Cleansed. Lighter. And thirsty. In lake crossings there's juice and pop. In country crossings there's bottled waters. Sweetened teas. Flavored coffees. Whatever you want. Everywhere you stop. But here there's only your saliva. You swallow. Roll to your back. The stars are gone now. The moon, too. You forge ahead, nonetheless. Feel for the farthest shore. Trust your inner pig. Ignore your thirst. The ache in your shoulders and back. Think about something else. Maybe Coach Burton's eating his fingertips was just his way of sharing your pain. How can you expect to push others to maximum endurance if you aren't willing to suffer yourself? Bleed yourself? That reminds you. He had a scalp condition, too. Maybe eczema. A wreath of scratches and pricks. Always a few tiny flakes of skin sprinkled on his glasses. Thick bifocals that made his eyes look as if they were floating in water. Try sidestroke. A lifesaving stroke. But, unless you're carrying someone, an inefficient stroke. Asymmetric and slow. Or maybe you just never practiced it enough. Butterfly is almost as fast as the crawl. But more demanding. A woman did once swim Lake Ontario using it, though. Land mammals all instinctively swim doggie paddle. But you wouldn't. Not if your life depended on it. Switch back to breaststroke. Then freestyle crawl some more. Then just lie on your back and kick those big feet without using your arms. Your mouth is dry. A kickboard would be nice. All the salt you've gulped. You feel weak in a way that transcends mere muscle fatigue. Drained at the core. Your headache is back. But you're almost there. Once, in a psychology class you took back in university, they showed a video of an experiment some psychologists had performed to determine how long rats would tread water before drowning. Some lasted as long as ninety-six hours. Four days. How this knowledge could possibly ever benefit anyone was a complete mystery to you then. You stop. Tread water. Ahead in the distance, you think you see the lights of that city-sized cruise ship again. But then it's gone. The sky and the ocean are black. But with different textures. Seem to reflect one another. Each distorting the other's image. Again and again. Over and over. Like floating between two vast funhouse mirrors. An assistant coach, whose name you forget, once told you Coach Burton had swum for the University of Michigan. On scholarship. Even qualified for Olympic trials. Made it all the way to the finals despite a very tough field that year. Then missed the two-hundred meter freestyle cut by less than a tenth of a second. Tragic in a way. The relay team took gold that year. All that hard, hard work. You think high school workouts are tough? You have no clue what tough is. Heat after heat, with only a few breaths to recoup. Then, after all that hardship and pain, to lose by a fraction of a second. Difference between a six-figure Wheaties endorsement and coaching high school. So maybe Coach Burton just wanted for you what he couldn't give himself. You wonder if he chewed his nails off to keep from scratching his head. Funny how a man can come into focus after so many years. Be seen clearer at a distance. You always wondered why you never saw him in the pool. Never saw him swim. Maybe the chemicals. You try a few more strokes. But, no. Nothing left. And so here you are. Finished. You made it. As far as you can go. So thirsty now. You look up at the starless sky. Feel like you should say goodbye or something. But instead say, Help. Not loud. Not to attract attention. Not even as a prayer. You don't pray. Wouldn't to save your life. You say it only as a kind of joke. Between yourself and the universe: Help. Still you can laugh. A hissing sweeps across the water. You hear the rain before you feel it. Then splashing all around you. Mottling the ocean's smooth surface. At first you think it's a bad thing. Just more water. You feel hope sink. Yourself, too. From below the surface, the rain sounds like it's shushing you. Telling you to listen. Then you realize: it's a gift. And rise up as from the dead. As if reborn. Lie on your back. Feel it pelt your eyes and face. Open your mouth and drink. And drink. Drink until all is quiet. Until the stars return. Again you try to swim. To forge ahead with your plan. Again your limbs refuse to obey. Your arms are numb. Legs, too. Only your lungs still burn. Only your heart still aches. Everything else feels like rubber. So this is it. This really is as far as you can go. Behind you, as if to agree, and to confirm the correctness of your course, dawn shimmers on the horizon. Offering guidance. Promising warmth. In a few minutes the entire sun will peer up over the edge of the world. Rising as it fell. You wonder when humans stopped worshiping it, and why. You feel a warm gust of wind in your face. Like Coach Burton's breath. Feeling has returned, accompanied by a prickling in your extremities. Still, you cannot swim any farther. Not another stroke. Not ahead. And so there you are. Two directions remaining. Down into the unfathomable. The inevitable. Or back into the morning's light. And whatever else awaits. All or nothing, now. Nothing, or all... And so you pirouette. Turn. Reverse course. Breathe. Stroke. Roll. Breathe. You probably look like the financial planner's wife. The way she does her laps. Stroke. Roll. Breathe. Still, progress is progress. Pain a blessing. Endurance unfathomable. This you have learned. This he has taught you well. Crab-walking along beside you. With that awkward crouching stride that must've killed his knees. At times, stooped almost as in prayer. Keeping pace. Bringing you home. Just as you remember. Bent down with that thorny crown. Those drowning eyes. Leaning right out over the water. One hand on the deck for support, and, in the other, holding forth, clenched in bloody fingers - not for you to read, but only to emphasize the importance of time remaining - his silver stopwatch. Screaming, blowing your breath back into your face. Every time you breathe: Swim goddammit! Swim!
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zhumeimv ¡ 5 years ago
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Cats Producers Respond To The Backlash Over Their Film
Cats Producers Respond To The Backlash Over Their Film
Date: 2019-12-14 12:00:02
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A lack of curiosity just might kill this cat.
Two of the producers of the upcoming film adaptation of the venerable Broadway play Cats have finally surfaced to comment on the massive backlash to the trailer’s nightmarish visual aesthetic. Eric Fellner and Tim Bevan are the heads of Universal…
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chadpetersondatingblog ¡ 7 years ago
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How To Make Sure Insecurities From Past Relationships Don’t Ruin Your Current Relationship
My college boyfriend made me feel bad about myself for the most random things. According to him, my favorite movies weren’t “weird” enough (because I like rom-coms, I guess), my music taste wasn’t “alternative” enough (I un-ironically like Top 40), and I was “too loud” (I’m from Jersey, OK?). I also didn’t smoke weed, which made me “uptight.” I felt like, in his eyes, I was a vapid, ignorant child who knew nothing about being cool and embracing culture, and I’ve brought this screwed up sense of self to every relationship after him. Learning how to overcome insecurity in a relationship, especially when every insecurity I feel has nothing to do with current partners and everything to do with my ex, has been the most challenging thing I’ve ever done.
My insecurities turn couples’ activities that should be fun and light-hearted into deep existential crises about how lame I am. Here’s an example: If I’m preparing to go out with a guy I’m dating and he wants to pre-game to, say, an indie band, while I’d prefer to pre-game to “Sorry” by Justin Bieber, I would keep that preference to myself because I don’t want to be judged for loving such a “basic” song. Mind you, I’ve yet to date someone after college who would judge me for something as absurd as that. In fact, everyone I’ve dated after my college boyfriend would easily bump to the Biebs right alongside me. But I’m so scarred from being judged by my ex that I project that fear onto current partners and stay quiet.
Lots of us have insecurities from past relationships that we carry with us into new relationships. Maybe your ex made you feel like you needed to lose a few pounds, so every time you’re in bed with your partner, you try to cover your thighs. Maybe your ex cheated on you, so now you panic every time your partner goes hours without responding to a text. Whatever your insecurity, there are ways to overcome it so it doesn’t ruin your sense of self or your current relationship.
Here are some things that work for me, as well as suggestions from relationship expert Susan Winter.
Remind Yourself That You’re Not Dating Your Ex
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It’s really important to remind yourself, every day, that just because your ex cheated on you doesn’t mean your current partner will do the same thing. Just because your last partner thought your thighs were “too thick,” believed you were “unintelligent,” or thought your music taste was “basic” doesn’t mean your current partner feels the same way. “You need to consciously remind yourself of that fact and not let the bogeymen of the past make you see bogeymen in your future,” Winter says. The more you tell yourself that you’re dating an entirely new person right now, the more your subconscious will believe it.
If you feel yourself begin to respond to a situation in your current relationship like you’re dealing with your ex, regain control by engaging in “positive self-talk,” Winter says. “That’s code for a litany of positive arguments to counter your fears.”
Here’s a great example of positive self-talk from Winter:
For example: ‘He’s not answering my text messages. Where is he? He must be with someone else.’ The positive self-talk argument to correct this fear would be, ‘Josh has given me no reason to distrust him. Maybe he’s busy or focused on something else. I’m going to let this go and not borrow trouble. I’ll find out soon enough what happened.’
Reminding yourself that you’re dating an entirely new person will also help you realize that your current partner isn’t even thinking about that thing your ex made you feel so insecure about. Your new partner doesn’t think your thighs are thick. They don’t think you’re stupid. They don’t think your music taste sucks. They think you’re awesome! That’s why they’re dating you. “Whatever your issue and whatever your fear, don’t assume this is a big deal for your new mate,” Winter says. If you start to spiral, though, positive self-talk will help you out: “[Say,] ‘OK, maybe this is just my issue. He/she doesn’t seem to care, so I’m going to do myself a favor and quit borrowing trouble. They chose me. They care for me. And I’m going to trust that what I think is a deficit isn’t even on their radar,’” says Winter.
What this entire point comes down to is this: Humans are different. What applies to one person does not apply to another. This realization, I assure you, is very, very freeing.
Don’t Boil Yourself Down To One Quality
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My ex believed that girls who smoked weed were cool and desirable. Girls who didn’t, like me, were neither cool nor desirable. I know, it’s dumb. But because of this, I can get super insecure about the fact that I’ve only done it, like, three times in my life (and low-key hated it every time). It makes me feel like an anal-retentive, straight-edge loser, and something as simple as seeing a bowl in the apartment of a guy I’m dating can trigger me. I start imagining all the chill stoner girls he’s probably gotten high with, and how I’ve never been that girl, and oh my God, does he wish I was that girl???
However, “historically not a weed smoker” isn’t my only quality. I’m also pretty, smart, interesting, and fun! I may not be “chill,” but I am a package, damn it, and reminding myself of this helps me feel more secure in my relationships when I’m starting to spiral. “You need to consciously remind yourself of all the qualities you have, not limit your entire worth to this one particular area,” Winter says. You, too, are more than your “thick thighs,” your “lack of intelligence,” or any other area in which your ex made you feel inadequate. You have so many other qualities that make up the entire package of who you are that your current partner loves. Don’t boil yourself down to just one quality, especially when that quality is the one your ex made you feel bad about.
Which leads me to my next point…
Gain Some Good Ol’ Fashioned Self-Esteem
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The simplest solution, and yet the most complicated.
To continue with my weed example: Yes, I have days where I’m insecure about not being chill with weed. But then I have days where I love making fun of myself for it. I laugh at the fact that I’ve said things like, “Do you do weed?” because I literally don’t know the lingo. When I fully embrace myself for who I am, nobody can tear me down — not even the inner self-hatred monologue that threatens to sabotage my relationships.
It’s cliché and eye-rolly, but true confidence really does come from within. I know how easy it is to fall victim to the voices inside your head telling you that you aren’t good enough, but you need to remember that you’re not actually not good enough — your ex just manipulated you into believing that. Don’t let them have that power over you! In fact, take the power back by empowering yourself with the knowledge that your ex does not determine what is cool, sexy, or desirable about you — you do. You get to decide what’s awesome about you. Nobody else.
And when you silence all the outside noise — when you choose to listen to yourself instead of other people telling you who and what you should and shouldn’t be — you become unstoppable in not only your relationships, but in your life.
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How To Make Sure Insecurities From Past Relationships Don’t Ruin Your Current Relationship
My college boyfriend made me feel bad about myself for the most random things. According to him, my favorite movies weren’t “weird” enough (because I like rom-coms, I guess), my music taste wasn’t “alternative” enough (I un-ironically like Top 40), and I was “too loud” (I’m from Jersey, OK?). I also didn’t smoke weed, which made me “uptight.” I felt like, in his eyes, I was a vapid, ignorant child who knew nothing about being cool and embracing culture, and I’ve brought this screwed up sense of self to every relationship after him. Learning how to overcome insecurity in a relationship, especially when every insecurity I feel has nothing to do with current partners and everything to do with my ex, has been the most challenging thing I’ve ever done.
My insecurities turn couples’ activities that should be fun and light-hearted into deep existential crises about how lame I am. Here’s an example: If I’m preparing to go out with a guy I’m dating and he wants to pre-game to, say, an indie band, while I’d prefer to pre-game to “Sorry” by Justin Bieber, I would keep that preference to myself because I don’t want to be judged for loving such a “basic” song. Mind you, I’ve yet to date someone after college who would judge me for something as absurd as that. In fact, everyone I’ve dated after my college boyfriend would easily bump to the Biebs right alongside me. But I’m so scarred from being judged by my ex that I project that fear onto current partners and stay quiet.
Lots of us have insecurities from past relationships that we carry with us into new relationships. Maybe your ex made you feel like you needed to lose a few pounds, so every time you’re in bed with your partner, you try to cover your thighs. Maybe your ex cheated on you, so now you panic every time your partner goes hours without responding to a text. Whatever your insecurity, there are ways to overcome it so it doesn’t ruin your sense of self or your current relationship.
Here are some things that work for me, as well as suggestions from relationship expert Susan Winter.
Remind Yourself That You’re Not Dating Your Ex
GIC
It’s really important to remind yourself, every day, that just because your ex cheated on you doesn’t mean your current partner will do the same thing. Just because your last partner thought your thighs were “too thick,” believed you were “unintelligent,” or thought your music taste was “basic” doesn’t mean your current partner feels the same way. “You need to consciously remind yourself of that fact and not let the bogeymen of the past make you see bogeymen in your future,” Winter says. The more you tell yourself that you’re dating an entirely new person right now, the more your subconscious will believe it.
If you feel yourself begin to respond to a situation in your current relationship like you’re dealing with your ex, regain control by engaging in “positive self-talk,” Winter says. “That’s code for a litany of positive arguments to counter your fears.”
Here’s a great example of positive self-talk from Winter:
For example: ‘He’s not answering my text messages. Where is he? He must be with someone else.’ The positive self-talk argument to correct this fear would be, ‘Josh has given me no reason to distrust him. Maybe he’s busy or focused on something else. I’m going to let this go and not borrow trouble. I’ll find out soon enough what happened.’
Reminding yourself that you’re dating an entirely new person will also help you realize that your current partner isn’t even thinking about that thing your ex made you feel so insecure about. Your new partner doesn’t think your thighs are thick. They don’t think you’re stupid. They don’t think your music taste sucks. They think you’re awesome! That’s why they’re dating you. “Whatever your issue and whatever your fear, don’t assume this is a big deal for your new mate,” Winter says. If you start to spiral, though, positive self-talk will help you out: “[Say,] ‘OK, maybe this is just my issue. He/she doesn’t seem to care, so I’m going to do myself a favor and quit borrowing trouble. They chose me. They care for me. And I’m going to trust that what I think is a deficit isn’t even on their radar,’” says Winter.
What this entire point comes down to is this: Humans are different. What applies to one person does not apply to another. This realization, I assure you, is very, very freeing.
Don’t Boil Yourself Down To One Quality
michela ravasio
My ex believed that girls who smoked weed were cool and desirable. Girls who didn’t, like me, were neither cool nor desirable. I know, it’s dumb. But because of this, I can get super insecure about the fact that I’ve only done it, like, three times in my life (and low-key hated it every time). It makes me feel like an anal-retentive, straight-edge loser, and something as simple as seeing a bowl in the apartment of a guy I’m dating can trigger me. I start imagining all the chill stoner girls he’s probably gotten high with, and how I’ve never been that girl, and oh my God, does he wish I was that girl???
However, “historically not a weed smoker” isn’t my only quality. I’m also pretty, smart, interesting, and fun! I may not be “chill,” but I am a package, damn it, and reminding myself of this helps me feel more secure in my relationships when I’m starting to spiral. “You need to consciously remind yourself of all the qualities you have, not limit your entire worth to this one particular area,” Winter says. You, too, are more than your “thick thighs,” your “lack of intelligence,” or any other area in which your ex made you feel inadequate. You have so many other qualities that make up the entire package of who you are that your current partner loves. Don’t boil yourself down to just one quality, especially when that quality is the one your ex made you feel bad about.
Which leads me to my next point…
Gain Some Good Ol’ Fashioned Self-Esteem
michela ravasio
The simplest solution, and yet the most complicated.
To continue with my weed example: Yes, I have days where I’m insecure about not being chill with weed. But then I have days where I love making fun of myself for it. I laugh at the fact that I’ve said things like, “Do you do weed?” because I literally don’t know the lingo. When I fully embrace myself for who I am, nobody can tear me down — not even the inner self-hatred monologue that threatens to sabotage my relationships.
It’s cliché and eye-rolly, but true confidence really does come from within. I know how easy it is to fall victim to the voices inside your head telling you that you aren’t good enough, but you need to remember that you’re not actually not good enough — your ex just manipulated you into believing that. Don’t let them have that power over you! In fact, take the power back by empowering yourself with the knowledge that your ex does not determine what is cool, sexy, or desirable about you — you do. You get to decide what’s awesome about you. Nobody else.
And when you silence all the outside noise — when you choose to listen to yourself instead of other people telling you who and what you should and shouldn’t be — you become unstoppable in not only your relationships, but in your life.
Check out the entire Gen Why series and other videos on Facebook and the Bustle app across Apple TV, Roku, and Amazon Fire TV.
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MCR #9 - Now That’s What I Call Music! 7
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It’s a kind of magic, magic-magic-magic-ma-gic.. deenaww. Pop fashionistas the NOW label were back with 33 top chart hits, a designer shopping bag, a Brucie Bonus from Queen and that mystery female TV ad voiceover. And that’s what we’ll cover first, I didn’t know this until recently (thanks YouTube) but the ad voiceover of both 6 and 7 was Jenny Powell. She clearly got the gig being the presenter of BBC2′s successful chart countdown No Limits, but have to say I remember her from ITV’s Wheel Of Fortune and Ghost Train. Anyway the gig was short lived as ‘merican David “Kid” Jensen moved from advertising HITS to NOW volumes 8 to 20.
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Rivals HITS were about to go one over on NOW at this point by issuing their first CD for “HITS 6″ but NOW had yet another trick up its sleeve, a bonus track from Queen. And to this day the team are always breaking new records, cue the double page Smash Hits spread!
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TRACKLIST :
RECORD/TAPE 1
Peter Gabriel “Sledgehammer”
UB40 “Sing Our Own Song”
Sly Fox “Let’s Go All The Way”
Level 42 “Lessons In Love”
Pet Shop Boys “Opportunities”
Pete Wylie “Sinful!”
Stan Ridgway “Camoflage”
Art Of Noise & Max Headroom “Paranoimia”
Chris De Burgh “The Lady In Red”
David Bowie “Absolute Beginners”
Genesis “Invisible Touch”
Simple Minds “All The Things She Said”
The Housemartins “Happy Hour”
Big Country “Look Away”
Furniture “Brilliant Mind”
Midge Ure “Call Of The Wild”
RECORD/TAPE 2
Wham “The Edge Of Heaven”
Owen Paul “My Favourite Waste Of Time”
Amazulu “Too Good To Be Forgotten”
Doctor & The Medics “Spirit In The Sky”
Bananarama “Venus”
Bucks Fizz “New Beginning”
a-Ha “Hunting High & Low (Re-Mix)”
Simply Red “Holding Back The Years”
Queen “A Kind Of Magic” * (Bonus Track)
Billy Ocean “When The Going Gets Tough”
Jaki Graham “Set Me Free”
Nu Shooz “I Can’t Wait”
Real Roxanne with Hitman Howie Tee “(Bang Zoom) Let’s Go Go”
Lovebug Starski “Amityville (House On The Hill)”
Midnight Star “Headlines”
Aurra “You And Me Tonight”
Patti LaBelle & Michael McDonald “On My Own”
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Special Mentions -
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I wasn’t a child of the 80s and I had heard of Max Headroom but never seen him. Cutting edge it seems, Max Headroom being the creation of Channel 4 whose Saturday evening programme was a big success in 1986. He was essentially a cleverly edited computerised video jockey in a latex mask (with a massive blonde quiff), a fibre glass suit, interviewing the stars, advertising Coke, had quite a stutter and really doesn’t like tea... *catches breath*. Oh and he did a record with the Art Of Noise (who also appear on NOW 13 with Tom Jones covering Prince’s “Kiss”) here on NOW 7 “Paranoimia.”
“NOW 7″ featured the first appearances from Fatboy Slim, Paul Heaton (Housemartins “Happy Hour”), Peter Gabriel and the only NOW appearances for Eurovision winners Bucks Fizz (New Beginning), hippies turned dance floor smashers Nu Shooz (I Can’t Wait) and William Shatner (Lovebug Starski’s “Amityville.”)
No more moaning apart from Patti & Michael (”On My Own”) and thankfully by this point, NOW had learned their lesson with album and video comparisons only to add hits that didn’t appear on the album onto the next volume, (Jermaine Stewart, It Bites) so we’ll let them off!
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Marc’s Faves -
Peter Gabriel - Sledgehammer
Simple Minds - All The Things She Said
Bananarama - Venus
Simply Red - Holding Back The Years
Nu Shooz - I Can’t Wait
Jaki Graham - Set Me Free
Sly Fox - Let’s Go All The Way
Furniture - Brilliant Mind
Genesis - Invisble Touch
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I would be an idiot not to mention Peter Gabriel’s “Sledgehammer” video which is still amazing in 2017 and directed by Wallace & Gromit creators Aardman Animations. “Sledgehammer” is also still the most played video on MTV worldwide - ever! Now that’s what I call impressive!
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