#(Anxious munday meme)

[alwaysxinxtrouble]

Anxious Monday meme: Does knowing the other mun make writing threads easier or harder?

It makes it SO much easier! I hate the idea of assuming anything about my partner's muse and if there is something in reply that I might find might need to be clarified (confirming a muse's position, what they're wearing, intentions, etc.), I will always reach out to my partner to confirm. If I don't really know the other mun, then reaching out to ask gets hard because I'm always worried they will be offended or annoyed if I do, maybe think less of me for needing to clarify.

[saiyanandproud]

Do random messages out of the blue upset you at all?

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Not really -- as long as they’re not aggressive or disrespectful of course. If anything it’s cute to receive them, there’s the whole curiosity of “Oooh what might it be?” behind it. After all, it can be another way of having a bit of OOC interaction, which is always useful in RP. It can be inspirational, even!

[morethanaprincess-a]

How hard is it for you to approach new people you want to interact with?

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As far as new people whom I’ve just followed or have followed me? Not very. To be honest, I don��t really search out the general RP tags much due to the amount of replies I usually have or memes I’m sharing, so when I find new people to write with, it’s usually a case of them finding me. And that’s not terribly awkward because I figure if they’re following me, they either want to write or read my threads. And I’m fine with either option.

I get nervous about approaching people I’ve been following for ages who either seem not as active or have a lot of threads with other muses, because it’s often the case of I want to write with them but I don’t know if they have the time or interest in writing with me. So I’m just sticking with being patient and if memes and threads get answered, they get answered. If not, there’s plenty of people to send memes to/write starters for.

Instead of “Not to be dramatic, but please ship with me” I’m usually feeling “Not to be dramatic, but please write/plot with me” most of the time.

Of course, if muns are interested in being overly dramatic with storylines, count me in. I’m a sucker for drama.

[alwaysxinxtrouble]

What are some things you worry about in terms of new people?

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I have literally rewritten the answer to this four times now. Everything worries me about new people. Do they respect boundaries? Will they lose their shit on me for enforcing my boundaries? Did they even bother to read my rules page? Apparently they want to write with Clint, did they read his bio page? Are they going to send me hate for not writing Clint the way they want me to? Are they following me because they only want to write smut with Matt? Do they even want to write with me? Or are they looking for a follow?

I ask myself these questions because they are constant issues I come across. The amount of hate I get for Clint. Or the best thing about my portrayal of Matt is that he's a slut.

Those are the things I worry about with new people on here.

[alwaysxinxtrouble]

Anxious Munday Meme-What is something you want people to know right away about yourself?

I get a lot of comments that I'm intimidating and I honestly don't understand why. I try very hard to be kind to everyone, be supportive, and reach out to new partners to say hi, though on occasion I do miss doing it. I always try to be supportive of my partners. But still I get the same comments and it leaves me wondering what I'm doing wrong. So I guess I would really want people to know that I'm not a mean scary mun...just a smol potato.

[saiyanandproud]

How would you rate your conversation skills?

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Depends. Very poor if it’s just casual chatting. I lose track of it, I can’t see the purpose, and it just makes me feel awkward. However, I’m very good when the conversation is focussed on something specific. I’m quite analytical as a person, so I like to examine topics, questions, ideas. As for crack conversation, I’m 100% into it once I am comfortable with the other person!

[saiyanandproud]

What’s a tip you would give to people trying to get to know you?

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Being patient? dfksjvjgfds

Well, apart from that... Engaging in conversations. While I do reach for people first, if I’m always the first one doing it, I do feel like it’s a one-sided interest, and after a while, I might step out of it. There are cases when I’m still on good terms with people that rarely contact me, but it’s usually because I am aware they’re really busy with IRL stuff. Otherwise, if I see the other person is always up to mess around/chat with others, but never takes the effort to reach for me when I constantly do... I’m sorry, I’ll just drop it. I’ve been in these kind of situations too many times.

Also I fee like people should know I’m really bad with small talk,. I’d rather discuss something specific, even something silly, but ‘defined’. With small talk, I often run out of things to say in a short span of time, while I’m all for engaging in deep conversations. Got headcanons to explore, relationships to develop, narrative to study, characters to analyse? I’m always 100% up for it.

Another important thing is that I am/can be direct. I’m usually open to discuss an issue, and I will point out if I feel like there is one. Never being aggressive, but simply open. I’d much better talk with the other person if there’s an overstanding issue, rather than mull about it, complain about it with others, spread drama, and never actively resolving. Asking for advice is ok. Spreading drama is not. And I hope the other person would feel free to talk with me if there’s anything they feel “wrong” about our interactions. I don’t like problems left there hanging.

And finally... I’m quite reserved. I rarely mention personal stuff. So don’t take it personal, it’s just a thing of mine!

Also I realise this wasn’t a tip, it was a list. Sorry! I like to be specific! 

[saiyanandproud]

How hard is it for you to approach new people you want to interact with?

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A bit, but not that much. I first try to see if the other blog has several rules where they ask not to be “pestered” if they are not mutual followers -- in which case, I won’t bother the other mun. 

Otherwise, I “test the ground” first, maybe interact casually through comments, asks... And after a while, if I feel there is solid ground (in my opnion) for a more stable/serious interaction, I usually DM the other mun telling them I appreciate their blog and would be up to write with them. I always try to have a few suggestions for a thread in mind, when I do. Otherwise, the “let’s plot” falls kind of in the void. 

I believe that asking for an interaction is never wrong, as long as one is polite about it and leaves the other one an option to refuse. Hence why I make sure to word it with a “if you’re busy or uninterested, it’s totally fine” section. I know it can be just as awkward to say no, at times.