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clemencetaught · 1 year ago

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COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS

that he just takes things lying down; that he doesn't have a spine. i know in all of his verses i put him through a lot of shit and it seems like he's just experiencing one tragic thing after another without retaliating. but the main reason he doesn't retaliate is because he knows how to pick his fights. when to pick them too and when he does so, it's usually because he knows a. he has a chance at winning, but also b. he has a valid reason to. as a rational person, he always tries to assess the situation before taking any decisive actions.

basically, if he's not reacting to something you did, it's because either a. he doesn't think it's something worth getting into an argument/fight about or b. he's biding for his time, it's just a matter of when he strikes. and heaven help the person who manages to piss him off- patrick doesn't makes threats, he makes promises.

AN IMPORTANT HEADCANON

felicity price, who is actually a request muse on my multimuse blog, is one of the most important connections in every verse of patrick's. she's one of the few people who really got patrick to not only open up, but also to loosen up- throw a joke or two in. when she was alive, they were a very playful and affectionate couple, who didn't shy away from pda ( although patrick did have some decorum :'D ). i would say part of the reason they had such a strong chemistry is also due to each of them...recognizing and empathizing with each other's loneliness.

so when she passed ( and suddenly too ), to patrick it wasn't just losing his significant other, it was also losing his best friend, someone who truly understood him and loved him as he was all in the blink of an eye. and without any sound reason.

A USELESS HEADCANON

He's nerd in every sense of the word. once his interest in something is piqued, he has a tendency to jump down the rabbit hole and find out as much as he possibly can about the topic until something else comes his way. this is the reason research is perfect for patrick and the reason today he knows greek and roman mythology like the back of his hand.

POTENTIAL TRIGGERS

in verse two, he has really really bad pyrophobia, having literally been set on fire before. it's to the point that if he smells smoke, he will freak out and become aggressive.

violence and death are general triggers on this blog and there are triggers specific to each verse. they are listed in my rules page, but here's a comprehensive list for your convenience:

verse two: or*gan traf*ficking, torture, kidnapping, & ptsd

verse three: sex traf*ficking, sui*cide, and sa.

SOMETHING YOU ENJOY ABOUT (WRITING) THEM

i really like how literary he can get- like there's something about his character that makes me want to go into metaphors and imagery with him. i think it's the lit major in me that resonates with him. i also think that because he's more on the subtle side, writing him really forces me to...i guess think more deeply about how he might get a point across in comparison to say, someone on the genuine side. he's a roundabout kinda person, both with his words and actions. ngl i feel like if he weren't already a good guy, he'd make a great villain fjskldjflskj

that and around the right people, he can be petty as shit, i love it when that comes out :DDDD

SOMETHING YOU WANT OTHERS TO KNOW BEFORE WRITING WITH THEM

just because he's nice most of the time, doesn't mean he'll go along with whatever someone says. say something mean about his loved ones or pry into his personal boundaries and he'll give you choice words that will stab you. he'll slide them in so eloquently, so smoothly most times canonically the other person wouldn't realize they're being insulted until after a minute or two.

tagged: stole it! thank you very much <3 // tagging: @velvetineblue @uroborosymphony ( ara!! ) @tvsteoftrvgedy )@jeoseungsaja ( for...hyuk?? :D ) @mythvoiced ( sarang pls <3 ) @bloodxhound @phantombs and you, steal it and tag me :DD

#nothing that a biscuit can't help ( dash games. )#believe in a precious world ( headcanons. )#this was fun to do :DD #honestly i always have brainrot for this guy and lots of hcs #but also never enough energy to put it down on paper </3 #however i have a long weekend!!#so i will try to get some writing done either here or elsewhere #( check my other blogs if you want proof of activity seriously :'D )#anyways to everyone who was tagged....tell me something cool about ur muse PLS :DDD

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vacationcalendar · 3 years ago

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8/7/21

Hi boyfriend~

Just took a weed gummie in honor of Bonnie’s birthday weekend. My present for my friend is that I’ll suck it up and be an active participant in their life for a change. I’ll be game for a whole weekend. I got up early today and tagged along to volunteer at a charity 5k. We grabbed some coffee and wandered to the halfway point of the course (thus walking an entire 5k in the process! Not too shabby ;D), and then camped out a water station that I’d say should be very grateful I actually showed up to work its sorry ass. Bonnie didn’t have to do any managing/delegating, they just got to post up and chatter at the runners-by. I’m pretty sure if I didn’t go, and I promise I am not tooting my own horn, that water stand would not have been the fun water stand that it was. They would have had 2 dunces making it go worse, and only 3 people managing 4 tables of water cups. Volunteers man, what are you gonna do? I’m sure that’s why they were looking for 8 people per water stand, just to statistically ensure that SOMEONE with half a brain would be around to help out.

Great morning though. JUST a little too hot, but that’s how you know you were doing solid work out there. The proof is in the pits, baby!

Ok, 40 minute bathroom break is over. Man, nothing like starting the blog to make me SO productive in the mornings! It’s such a cheat code. I did laundry, dishes, pooped; my whole day is bright and available now! But now I’m tired and I don’t want to write anymore. I had about a 6 minute where I wanted to do this today and I actually hit it for a second before I had to stop and do ANYTHING ELSE I guess. So, fuck. What do we write now?

I had to get up suuuuper early for this 5k thing, and I only got like 4 hours of sleep because I did not factor in the early wake up until like 6pm yesterday, and I had already slept like 14 hours that day :I That’s right, I woke up, immediately crushed the blog, went back to laying down, played League, and watched tv and shit until I felt tired enough to sleep and get ready for the 5k, which was 2am. So now I have a weed gummie digesting in me and I have a nap climbing up my priority list and this is why I don’t like weed. I feel like I have to plan my fucking shit around it, and I’m not good at that. Part of me thinks I can crash right now and wake up before the drugs make me sleep for 2 hours longer than I want, and give me weird, unpleasant dreams. I can’t possibly pull that off, I’m not sleepy, I’m just like sluggish. So basically what I have to do now is power through into the “trip” (maybe I’ll luck out and miss it and I can just pretend I’m high, which I won’t do, but hey we’re brainstorming here), and let that smoothly transition me into a nap. And THAT would mean that I have to entertain myself for the time being to get me into a good place to start being high...? And then I can like power up my activities WHILE high, and that would be fun. Playing video games, great. Playing video game high? That’s the whole point of it. I mean like, that’s the whole point of life, right? And then I can be like NAPTIME BITCH, and that would be fun also, in theory. And then I can go put a podcast on and go to the movies? Ugh, I don’t want to go the movies anymore. I’m to tired :( This sucks.

I’m trying to go see Green Knight. I’m sure that sentence won’t matter at all in even like 4 months from now, but I think it should be a fun time. So much more productive than anything I can do from the desk. And it’s not summertime like this forever. You gotta get that shit in so you don’t think you miss it when the weather turns. You want to be sitting inside on a cold autumn day thinking “good riddance, being outside is entirely overrated.” And I’m not there yet. Man I don’t know. Well how bout this? Let’s do a little more brainstorming while I’m trapped here writing to your dumb ass. If you ever read these again this part will be like a little prank on you lol. Ok: 1: Stay here, no movie. Let’s lock that in. that should make having to navigate being high so much easier. Let’s let the pipe dream of doing everyone’s favorite thing of being at a theater high wait just a little longer. Today can be a trial run. We’ll walk around today and think about what it would be like if I had biked 20 minutes to a movie theater and watched a 2 hour movie and biked home. And when we suss out that it would have been unenjoyable, we’ll feel like geniuses for making this call. So that’s out of the way. LOCK IT IN

2. I don’t know yet. Let’s just start simple. Food. What’s up? We have almost no groceries. We have no bread for a tuna salad sandwich, but let’s put that in the to-do list. We need more english muffins too. That was an A+ 10/10 move last month. Just muffins w/ strawberry jam, and egg McMuffins whenever the fuck I wanted, which was always. Frozen Veggies like Corn or Beans would be good. Bag Chop Salad kits. They weren’t on sale last week, and it’s goddamn highway robbery when they’re at full price. So this week would be the perfect time to check in on ‘em. And I’ll commit more to an equivalent substitute this time if I can’t find a good deal. Let’s see, what else? Oof my wpm and accuracy is starting to take a hit. The first and only symptom! Nice! Miku. Meat. Spaghetti and meat sauce? Gotta check out what ragu shit you have in the house before you do that. Consider this your reminder! I know you’ve never successfully pulled that off, but I have full confidence in you. Oh fuck, now I’m starting to worry a little bit the coherent quality of this is about to start dropping. Well, another fun little prank for ya bitch! Fruit leathers? I just have no fucking idea. Ok, so shopping can 100% wait for another day. This isn’t anywhere close to a cohesive trip. So we can eat out somewhere! Great, lock it bitch. I’m starting to swear more; it’s because I can’t find the right words anymore. Oh boy, the weed smelling burps are happening. This really is so gross and difficult. Beer is just a more bitter version of soda. It’s actively refreshing. Damn, if only I’d been a little more exposed to peer pressure at an earlier age. I’d have been past this awkward uncomfortable phase of weed, like how I (and basically everyone) was with alcohol. You slam Natty Lites with your nose closed until you start to realize life is little more pleasurable than the absolute Kelvin zero you had come to be familiar with. Uh, ok, I’m starting to let my mind wander. He’s daydreaming, chief! I suppose I could just transcribe the dialogue of the daydreams, but I can’t keep up. This is just break o’clock.

3. What do I fucking eat!? I had to make a whole nother numbered point, and I still don’t have the plan. Jesus H,. Ok here’s what AROUND. Chex Mix, unopened. 1 Grape Soda. Cookie Dough Ice Cream (w choc sauce). Raisins, PB, Ramen, meh. Reese Cups! I just looked behind and was like, “oh yeah! Nice”. If that’s not everything, that’s REALLY close. So what’s calling my name? Pizza? Chinese? Damn, I might just have to play this by ear. Nothing at all sounds interesting, and I’m not the slightest bit hungry (we got free Dim Sum after the 5k. It was called the Dim Sum and Then Some 5k). Ok, so other options to keep on the back burner for later would be: Kebab, Chicken Sandwich, go get Pizza Rolls and Chippies at the store. Ok that’s enough options, that fuckin really took it outta me, I can’t believe it. My hands are kinda feeling heavier now too. I better think of a #4 thing to write about quick or I may lose all my inertia.

4. UMmmmmmmmmmmmmm. Movie time? I watch arrival and turn off all the lights and pop popcorn and have my soda? Where sunglasses and pretend they’re 3-D glasses? Maybe. Ugh, I can tell right now my eyes are gonna get bloodshot, or dry out or whatever. They already kinda hurt :(. It’s fine. I feel more good than not. Like I’m wrapped up in a blanket, even though I’m not. Maybe OH- Maybe I lay out on the beach chair and read in the sun with an ice coffee? Oh fuck that might actually be perfect. Then I can go no shirt and just feel nature, and maybe bugs are less troublesome when you’re high. And then I can pop Doughboys on and shower! Shower high, seems like a guaranteed home-run. Ok, I like it a lot. I have to do SOMETHING away from Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum or I’ll go crazy this weekend, especially if I have to tag in on occasion and “participate” for Bonnie’s Birthday. Which, let’s be clear, is the least I can do. It’s a gimme. I owe Bonnie AT LEAST this much, even just as like backpay for holidays or yore. Like if I have the zhuzh to punch in for birthday shtuff, I better do it, right? I just looked it up, it might officially be zhoosh, not zhuzh, but zhuzh appears to me to be the best way to do it. And there’s like 5 accepted spellings of it. Stupid, not helpful. Just because it employs a sound that has no [conformed] applications in the english language? Poor excuse! Oh man, it’s so early I can’t believe it! That 5k feels like a day ago, wild. Well, hey! Point 4 is finished. Moving on!

5. What to do tonight? Who gives a fuck. Figure that part out when you get there, it does not matter at all. There, numbered list over.

Ok so, let’s just wrap this up I guess. I’m cracking an hour here, that’s plenty. Maybe tonight you do a little PRE-WRITING before bed, so this isn’t so “chore-y”. Let’s just remember you seriously considered letting yourself down completely and bailing on the blog earlier this morning. So we need to keep our expectations at appropriate levels still. It’s this NEXT week that should be very interesting. Just in terms of output. A little more practice, and little more muscle-memory. A little less crap to distract me (I have been burning through non-stop crap youtube/tv this last week since coming home, it’s fantastic. I was gonna say it was sucky, or disgusting or something, but that’s a lie I tell to myself to pretend I’m more diligent than I actually am. ACCEPT who you are and love yourself for it)

I accept you and love you Max. Ok, I have to go, I feel like I’m gonna puke... awesome

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bedlamgames · 4 years ago

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Q&A #107

Today we have revisiting Rough Landing, a question I don’t need to answer in the best possible way, double bimbos, tumblr being tumblr, me possibly somewhat going off on one in regard to what NOT to do, and more.

[Anonymous said:] Had a Corruption rank up and one of the slaver options had both Depraved and Spiritual, which are supposed to be mutually exclusive I thought: Choice 4: Madeline Crakewyne - Human Wastelander Futanari - Competent Skybreaker - (Spi)(Fly)(Res)(Clu)(Cun)(Usc+)

- You’re right, those should be mutually exclusive.

[Anonymous said:] There is an event where one of your slavers will slip into your tent at night and have their way with you. Can you explain some of the mechanics that govern this event?

- My absolute favourite kind of question. Mainly as there exists a resource in game already which I hope should be able to fully explain all the details. Please see under Help and Prefferences -> Forced Encounters.

[Anonymous said:] Need to ask; any chance for standard dwarf female commission, or this one is considered up to date?

- There technically is one in Scout the Coast though I’d prefer to get another one for the examine. I’ve been trying to get one done for ages through the commission polls that would serve to be a fun NH take on Dorf Fortress. I’ve also got a set of portraits potentially coming as a bonus though there’s some health issues getting in the way of that.

So it’s not consided up to date, there is a chance, but maybe not for awhile.

[Anonymous said:] Bug report: orc cum addict training on bimbo slave results in double bimbo.

- That’s hilarious, and far too appropriate. Alas, I must say that has been found and will be fixed for the update.

[Anonymous said:] the links to pixiv have disappeared

- Oh tumblr... why must you be so well tumblr. Tried adding a link to the twitter which has a link to the pixiv and that’s not showing either as an active link. Thankfully if you go the tumblr directly (i.e not on the dashboard) there’s an embed of the twitter so you can access them that way.

[academiy-blog said:] Hey man, Love the work you do, please don't give up on this path, you're so talented and creative. I am in love with your game No Haven and want to make a game like it but don't know where to start or how to do it. I am a complete stranger to coding and game making but I want to create adventures that people can lose themselves in like you do. Can you please tell me where should I start learning and what skills would I need to make a game like No Haven? You're awesome, take care Your big fan, me

- First seriously appreciated!

But oh man do not like it like I did as it was the complete wrong ass-backwards way to do it :D

Starting with RAGS meant I learnt a rather terrible system like the back of my hand which I worked how to break horribly to do what I wanted it to do. Doing it that way meant I often learned the wrong lessons when it comes to coding more in general, and didn’t know that, cause it worked.

Then moving onto Twine without the time to really take a break to learning coding properly meant I was having to pick up concepts on the go, and again made a bunch of mistakes.

Personally if I could somehow start over I’d do a coding course of some kind, and then use that knowledge to make games rather than deciding to make games, and still at times be lacking vital knowledge about what I should be doing or indeed not doing.

Saying that I’ve found freecodecamp (especially the emails with five things to read each week), and w3schools to be great resources so maybe you could try starting there?

[Anonymous said:] If someone hates being spiritual leader, they won't leave role when asked. In fact slavers leave this role only if they dislike it. Is this a bug?

- I’m pretty sure that’s been fixed, but will double check.

[From the Patreon:] Short question:How do i transform my Character or another Slaver into the opposite gender? Male -> Female or Female -> Male.Are there certain assignments?

- There's a couple of different ways.

Biomancy and Corruption can both do it for Male>Female. So you can either work towards doing it on purpose using the encampment activities, or you can run assignment that can result in Corruption like Changing Places and it might well happen.

There's assignments that can do it one way or the other like Keldan Alley or Into the Depths.

Then there's the option of getting too deep in debt with the Ensnared Rose.

[From TFgames:] The game is very fun and enjoyable.How to actually win the game?I gained a lot of money, trained the slavers and slaves.What to do next?I got tired of repeating tasks.

- Hi, I'm glad you're enjoying it!

Currently there's a placeholder win condition of reaching 10k gold. Honnestly it's not very interesting as is and purely in there as a placeholder, and most players from what I've heard prefer to set their own goals like aquiring certain uniques and training them up. I know one player on my discord server always goes for the full collection of cheerleaders, along with making sure they have their own 'assistants'.

There's also the golem scenario which has an alternate win condition which is more involved complete with patron submitted art for the final victory.

I do have plans to address the win conditions by making them more interesting and varied. So that will be coming down the line.

[From the Collective:] Some theoretical questions:a slaver promoted witch with Racial:Wyrdcraft is supposed to go away after some time. How does this combines with aspect Bimboborn ? Does she comes back after some time? Is there a way to keep her? What happens if a slave version of her is given as a slave to a dominant slaver with the appropriate aspect. What does she gives as traits to her master? any magic or Elementalist traits ? Can she go away?

- Bimboborn would not apply like if they were sold. She does not. There isn't but certain slave training and levelling her up can get her to stick around for longer. Witches can't be given with that aspect and there's a special scene to reflect that.

[From the Collective:] My MC gained this Debauched Exaltation: Caress of Bone -40 And the Mal Trait that goes with it.Does it make him immune to mind control events ?Apparently not if I look at the Mashlands Witches but there's other events I haven't tested.

- Call it Malevolence light so it mainly just works on assignments. Also those totally-not-witches have all sorts of tricks so who knows what they're actually fully capable of.

[From the Collective:] Negotiate entry of the Lord's gate: It doesn't trigger a level up if your slavers win enough xp to level up at the end of the mission. You need another mission to level up.

- Doesn't surprise me. It's a miracle that utter mess of an assignment hangs together at all so something minor like that is a small price to pay. Had to try to pull it apart recently for the Twine conversion and man it is so much yikes you would not believe.

[From the Collective:] Not really a bug, per se, but still:I want to do the Mistress of torments mission (For the Normal Success result). When my slaver number is at maximum I can't do this even if I set the general orders to "Don't recruit anyone"I think it's the case for all missions with potential slavers. You should be able to do them with the "Don't recruit anyone" option on.

- I'd need to go back and do an alternate result where no recruitment is possible for that to happen. It's something I've been trying to do a lot more with the slave taking assignments recently especially, as I know it's also annoying when you're full up on slaves and are then locked out on too many assignments.

[From the Collective:] what's the requirement for crafting traits and Artisan/Artificier aspect? leaving a slaver on crafting assignment for months doesn't seem to trigger lvl ups.

- Currently impossible as Crafting xp isn't really a thing. Saying that the first Crafting assignment is currently walking the commission poll (along with the Insatiable fuck off fight) on the patreon so now it's just a matter of time for that to change.

[From the Collective:] Imperial Muse I don't understand a part of the rewards Rewards Diplomacy rank up bonus: large wood elf shaft x4

- That's an amusing, if very annoying bug as I keep forgetting about it (happened with this update that's about to come out too though did get to hotfix it before the public release), if I don't add a new Diplomacy assignment to a certain condition.

[From the Collective:] at the moment no enchantement. As far as I know there is only one enchanted item, from the ooze mission, maybe a proof of concept.the tinkerer encampment position is also in development.

- There's also the enchanted armours possible to find from corruption, there's a late game assignment in the city that can provide some, certain uniques start with one, and the next update will have an update which can also provide some.

[From the Collective:] I have just realized that the bug that allowed to promote slaves even after you have reached 20 slavers had been fixed (sometimes I hate myself) Can you do something to expand the number of slavers - Do not count slavers and slaves in camp position - Do not count unique slaves and slavers (this way you will not be blocked with new missions of the update that have a story role), the 2 golems the witch queen, the fallen paladin and his demi angel friend, maybe also the cheerleaders, was unable to have more than one until slavers were 20) - Have a small number of places that can on be used by promoted slaves - a unique mission, perhaps one for each region that allows additional camp size. - Some camp positions can be unlocked by missions. Taskmaster at Mountains, Alchemist at City, brewer at Coast, Cook at Forest, Emissary at Plains

- The current limits are in place due to RAGS (along with partially due to how I've set up the arrays, see previous answer about mistakes being made), so for now I'm not planning to change that or add ways to get round it in RAGS. However I do plan to change this I hope in the Twine conversion. There I can redo arrays on the fly which should make changing that more reasonable.

[From the Discord:] Favorite Boardgame?

- I’ve played much better, much designed games and certainly much more well regarded ones, but if I’m being honest for the best memories attached to it then absolutely Go. Not the one with the black and white tiles. The International Travel Game which came out in the early 60′s that my grandparents had a copy of.

Thinking about it I suspect how willing it was to utterly screw with the players by diverting them on a flight to Paris to ending you up in some tropical island on the other side of the world you were trying to get to might have some influence on my approach to game design :D

[From the Discord:] What are the chances of a 10 Year Anniversary Remastered Edition of RL in 2024, complete with CHAPTER 3 (j/k... but I would play it)

- Honnestly, with what I’ve learned doing WR and NH I’m reasonably confident I could do a combined RL1 and 2 in Twine in a couple of months max if I dropped everything else. So not something I’m likely to do anytime soon with so many other priorities, but one I have thought about.

[From the Discord:] What are the most recent major Scientific, Magical & Cultural innovations in the land of NH?

- I have an assignment chained to discuss that.

[From the Discord:] Do marlsunes get fleas?

- Yes, occasionally if they let themselves go, but it’s treatable.

[From the Discord:] With the existence of a Horned One camp... is there any credence to the rumoured couples only Horned Two camp?

- Given how well the double horned one idea is doing in the commissions recently, looks so.

[From the Discord:] Specifically, how advanced is the art of glassmaking in the land of No Haven? Are glass panels a thing? Maybe even one-way mirrors made by the foremost guilds that employ E:Ea?

- See that’s a more tricky question than it sounds, and it’s all down to the Neko Protection League.

One thing I’ve found with commissions is it’s often a negotiation to get everything you want, and in that sacrifices end up being made, and/or details that were important in the original pitch get overlooked to focus on something else that is more urgent to be amended. In this case the glasses I wanted to look even more archaic didn’t get reflected as much as I’d have liked.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s a bloody fantastic pair of pictures. Just a minor regret you know that I feel as is they don’t quite fit what I had in mind for the tech level of the setting.

[From the Discord:] Draki harpies - possible or UFO-like sightings?

As cool as a visual that suggests, which is tempting don’t get me wrong, draki are of elvish and human origins only.

#Q&A

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aquarianlights · 7 years ago

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Are you capable of being in a sexual relationship? Do you undergo therapy? There are strictly softcore Bdsm related erotic photography blogs, but almost none of them won't contain triggers. You'd have to make it all yourself by cherrypicking posts. It's probably better to avoid Bdsm, collaring all together if it's so problematic because Bdsm is inherently sexual.

Ah, boy. And here, folks, we have a prime example of the #1 problem with BDSM community as a whole.

Actually, no it’s not. And that’s the BIGGEST problem with most people who are in the community. They are all under the assumption it is sexual. And it’s not. For people who enjoy intercourse, it is. But not for the asexual community and not for people with serious sex-related PTSD like me and not for people with vaginas who have vaginismus. There is a WHOLE OTHER SIDE to BDSM. It’s called the lifestyle side. The lifestyle side of BDSM CAN contain sexual things, but it doesn’t HAVE to. The lifestyle side all things like…speech restriction, commands, micromanagement, certain fets that don’t involve sex like bloodplay/knifeplay, petplay, certain types of torture, suspension, ropeplay, binding, cageplay, voiceplay, leash training, some things in DD/lg are most DEFINITELY not sexual, *ahem* COLLARING, etc etc etc …tbh, I could name almost ANY fet and make it not sexual. It’s just that people who DON’T have those issues I named above don’t see a problem with it. And majority of the BDSM community is under the same impression you are: that BDSM is inherently sexual, when it most certainly is not. Getting your sub to a level of subspace doesn’t have to be sexual either; it can be purely mental stimulation. (Like everything is to me...alll pain and BDSM-related things are pure mental stimulation which is what I live for.) It’s living life in BDSM world…you live with your dom/sub/switch (s) and…I mean…are you seriously going to be doing sexual things literally 24/7? I’m honestly not sure how someone could do that, but…I mean…if you go to work or school and do sexual things, PLEASE, by all means, inform me how you accomplish that. Because I would love to know. When you go to sleep/eventually have to sleep, do you sleep with a penis inside you or a dildo inside you or something? I’m a little confused on how you sleep while having intercourse.

Even besides the extreme questions like that, how is it even a relationship when you’re living with your dom/sub/switch (s) and all you guys do is have sex or do sexual things every single second your together??? Where is the laying down and watching your favourite show together while you (or your sub) is tied up and you’re cutting them up or dripping hot candle wax on them? Where are the scenes where you put ankle cuffs/hand cuffs on your sub and paddle them/whip them/flog them/whatever? Where are the moments where your aftercare is being given a nice hot bath and massage? Or…does your dom/you not do aftercare? Damn, that’s fucked up. Coz aftercare is most definitely not sexual.

For the lifestyle and asexual side of BDSM… we very literally LIVE in the non-vanilla world. We live every second of our lives in this world and our day-to-day life consists of BDSM. Our houses have cages and floggers and restraints and other toys and fun stuff in them 24/7…sometimes there’s a sign on the door that says “Please don’t call 911 if you hear screaming: Session in progress.” Things like that.

This is our lives. Our WHOLE lives. Every second of every day and every second of every night. Even if we don’t live with our Dom(me)(s), they still control every second of every day and night by prior rules and commands and this and that and ofc there’s gonna be plenty of sessions when we actually have time to get together.

To give a specific example for those of you not getting this, my biggest/number one fet is micromanagement. My dom(me)(s) tend to give me rules I have to abide by in my day-to-day life (ie; wake up at this time, text me/kiss me at this moment when you wake up, eat a meal at this time, do this specific thing for 30 minutes, drink x bottles of water per every 24 hours, give me the standard update on your day at x:xx, take your medications at exactly x:xx, do not do x until x day/time, etc etc etc etc etc) and then there are actual restrictions/specifics (ie; eat this, this and this for x meal, say “[insert thing here]” to [name] during this thing that is happening, send me a picture with your collar on at x time today, get x amount of work done at this time, come see me for a session at x time for x amount of time, practice your knots for mistress and send me pictures, go to x place and buy x thing because you need it/i need it, if you don’t do this thing by this time you will be punished, etc etc etc) and then there is what I like to call “the board” which is where there is a dry erase board in our house or both our houses if we live separately in which she will write certain things and either send me a picture and have me write it on my board, too, or just expect me to check the board every day…and I will have to accomplish each of those tasks on top of the general rules and whatever sporadic commands she sends me throughout the day by the end of the day or a time she specifies. And she will normally just generally control everything: when I eat, what I eat, when I sleep, how long I sleep, when I wake up, when I call out of work when I’m sick, when I shower, how long I can shower, whether I take a hot or cold shower, what products I use for this and that, how I dress, what brand things I can get,…….etc etc etc….all things that make me happy that we have agreed upon before in our D/s contract….and all things that are reasonable and negotiable if a safe word is used that day…

Honestly, micromanagement is like having a life-coach that actually commands you to do this and that and doesn’t just suggest…and is there 24/7…always monitoring you…and actually controls your decisions instead of just attempts to influence them…and is a Domme…rather than a psych-professional. Therefore, your domme will generally do a much better job with micromanagement than a life coach ever could, tbh. (Speaking from experience.)

Another specific example, in case you STILL don’t get it, is speech restriction (which is probably a better/easier to understand example than micromanagement). You’re out with your domme (usually at a BDSM-related event/meet-up)…someone speaks to you…you have to look at your domme and get an eye contact command or hand command in order to get the okay to speak to them directly…or your domme will speak for you automatically. Or they will pre-dictate what you can and cannot say when given permission or without looking for permission. Stuff like that. There’s absolutely no sexual things regarding speech play. And most dommes give punishment that is pain-related…not sexual related. Or…just an adult-time-out. Lol. Those are fun, too.

But…Man, you REALLY came to the wrong brat sub to say something like I should avoid being collared…….Like, holy shit, you REALLY came to the wrong neighbourhood, friend. Haha. You obviously have absolutely NO idea who I am or my past or ANYTHING about me…like…WOW. You sound like someone who just came on my blog and sent me an ask without doing ANY research or having followed me for ANY amount of time prior to this…Just so you know…you really shouldn’t say something like this to people who are experts. Lololol. (Also, I’m sorry if you thought I would have a NSFW blog containing images of me, but uh…this kit is NOT one for posting pictures of himself…lol.)

I mean…you obviously have NO idea how many dom(me)(s) I have had…how many D/s relationships I have been in…that I have been a professional pain slut…that I have been actively involved in MAAAAAANY BDSM groups and am about to be joining a group in the place I just moved to…you seem to have NO idea how many times I have been collared (I have been collared quite a few more times than most subs have, considering how much I have moved states), how obscenely long I have been in the BDSM scene…etc etc etc.

Honey, I hate to tell you this, but I don’t need to go to the BDSM community…they come to me.

It’s just VERY hard to find a domme that can actually handle a brat sub. Coz this boy is fiesty af…and this boy happens to be the epitome of a brat sub. In general, majority of dom(me)s cannot handle brats properly. If it’s obviously you can’t handle me properly and do not want and intend to learn, I’m not gonna keep you around. I deserve a dom(me) who loves me enough to want to learn how to properly handle a brat if they do not know how already. And if they don’t know how and don’t want to learn and want me to change for them? Then that’s proof that not only are they are a horrible dom(me), but they are a shit person, too. So…why would I want to keep THAT around? Lolol. They shouldn’t change for me and I shouldn’t change for them. No one should change for anyone.

It’s not easy to handle a brat… and I will admit it’s not easy to handle someone as bratty as I am…But, if they really do desire to be my dom(me), then they will WANT to learn how to handle me and take me on. They will WANT the challenge of taming me.

Honestly, I probably won’t ever get back into the BDSM scene on tumblr or online in general, coz you’re right…most people are ignorant of this side of BDSM like you are (which just means they know nothing about it and make an ass of themselves with assumptions like this). But, hey, now you know! So…you’re no longer ignorant. And I’m happy that I could help to educate someone because more vanilla people and EVEN people in the BDSM world seem to not have a good grasp on this or really are ignorant and really do need someone to sit them down and explain it to them.

Also, I don’t really NEED to get into the online BDSM scene anywhere anymore coz I have moved to a place with a bigger BDSM scene than I have ever seen in my life in ANY of the cities I have ever lived in… Like, I AM AMAZED. And one of my roommates is in the group I am joining and has introduced me to MANY a BDSM member. Lol. So…I will most likely get collared from either someone in the group (coz…it’s a HUGE group…literally hundreds of people wowowow) or someone I just randomly meet. Like, hell, I met another brat sub who is a wolf pet in a hair salon I went to. Just…random as fuck. She was wearing a collar and I was like “Are you wearing that collar for aesthetic purposes….or are you actually collared?” And then she lit up and we had like a half hour long convo on the 50 shades of grey vanilla people who are getting into our scene and discovering what our scene really is and then being like OH MY GOD and backing out reaaaaaaaal fast….xD God, we laughed sooooo hard. I love her.

But…anyways, if you (or anyone else) has any questions or need me to clarify a little more on anything, just lemme know and I’ll try to clear the confusion up! But…if you just wanna deny all of our existence as a non-sexual BDSM community…you really need to not send me anymore asks because those are just going to take up my time for me to read and take up time for me to delete and ignore. Like…yeah, it won’t take up MUCH time, but it’ll still take up my time and that’s a slight annoyance in the moment of doing it, so please don’t do that to me. Lolol.

If anyone else in the asexual BDSM community wants to add anything, feel free to add onto this. Coz I’m half-asleep right now and have ambien in me so……tbh, none of this might make sense…I will check it in the morning (it’s about 9pm right now) to see if any of this came out coherently. Sorry, sorry.

ALSO…Idk whether you’re vanilla or not, but from just reading your last two posts, you sound like one of those really horny vanilla people. So …you may have just been ignorant from having never been in the scene. And if so, I seriously genuinely apologize for making the assumption that you knew anything about our scene already. I have never heard of a single vanilla person or a “yeah I’m kinky. pull my hair ;)” kinda vanilla person knowing about the intricacies of the different sides of BDSM culture. So… I really, really am sorry about making that assumption if you’re vanilla coz it kinda sounds like you might be. Fuck. My bad, fam.

OKAY UH

Honestly, I could go on and on but man…I’m fucking TIRED AS ALL HELL from hospital stuff last night, REALLY need to get on this homework, and I still have bronchitis. ;A; Ugh. I’m probably gonna lie down and finish up this Spock documentary on Netflix and then try to get some homework done before my ambien knocks me out. Will check back on tumblr either tomorrow or Tuesday! (Coz I have a FUCKTON of adulting to do tomorrow ahhhh!)

Bye from your friendly neighbourhood brat fox sub. ;p

EDIT: FUCK I FORGOT TO ANSWER THE FIRST TWO QUESTIONS! 1) No, I am absolutely not capable of being in any sort of sexual relationship. a) I am aseuxal, b) I have severe dysphoria when naked or sexually stimulated, c) nothing turns me on sexually, d) sexual stimulation of any kind hurts in a really bad way, e) I have seveeeeere af PTSD regarding sexual things, and f) I have really, really, REALLY bad vaginismus.2) Therapy for…..vaginismus or the PTSD? I have tried for PTSD. I have not tried for vagismus. I don’t think there actually is therapy for physical vaginismus, is there?? Also, the PTSD therapy didn’t work. At all. In fact, therapy is bullshit. None of it helps; none of it ever works. Therapy is a waste of time and money. Lol.

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moffixxey · 7 years ago

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What Is GDPR and How Does It Affect Bloggers?

What is GDPR? And are you wondering if it affects you as a blogger?

Well, they most likely do. And in this article, I will explain what GDPR is and how it pertains to us bloggers.

Disclaimer: I’m not a legal professional nor do I play one on the internet. Consult an attorney to make decisions for your blog/business related to GDPR.

Side note: Yes – this is a long article. If you'd prefer to be lazy, you can jump to my summary for lazy people at the end in the form of an infographic.

Don't worry, when I say lazy, I say it with love, lol.

The Privacy Problem

GDPR – General Data Protection Regulation

It's the buzzword these days – privacy. Everyone wants it, but nobody seems to have it.

Sites like Facebook seem to throw privacy out the door with the baby and the bathwater.

So many news agencies are up in an uproar over Cambridge Analytica. Russia seemingly undermined the U.S. elections.

What's a country to do? Well, the continent of Europe has decided to do something big, and it's called GDPR.

What is GDPR?

GDPR stands for General Data Protection Regulation. According to the GDPR website, the goal is “to protect and empower all EU citizens data privacy and reshape the way organizations across the region approach data privacy.”

In simple terms, Europe wants their citizens to have more control over how and when companies use their personal data.

A VERY Brief History

Every European state could create its own local laws based on the directive, which became difficult to enforce.

Back in 1995, Europe established the Data Protection Directive. This had some general guidelines for data protection.

But every European state could create its own local laws based on the directive. As you can imagine, this resulted in a messy situation with laws that were difficult to enforce.

Some states had very strict privacy laws. Others were more lenient.

The EU parliament wasn't feeling this and wanted something more uniform.

So on April 14th, 2016 they approved the GDPR, and the world turned upside down (hat tip to the Hamilton soundtrack).

There is one HUGE difference between the GDPR and the data protection directive of old.

The GDPR governs ALL member states.

So Does it Affect You as a Blogger?

If you collect ONE email address from ONE EU citizen, the GDPR applies to you.

The GDPR affects any blogger who collects any data from EU citizens.

It doesn't matter if your blog or business is in Europe or Timbuktu.

Let's say you're building an email list (which you should be doing). If you collect ONE email address from ONE EU citizen, the GDPR applies to you.

In other words, if you're a blogger, it's safe to say that it applies to you.

I mean – I'm an EU citizen (bet you didn't know that). If I'm on your email list and you don't uphold the GDPR, I can probably report you ;).

So what exactly does this mean for you? I'm Glad you asked.

Get Consent and Make it CLEAR!

Be explicit when getting consent.

This is one of the most significant tenets of the GDPR. They are very explicit in their statements on how you should get consent.

Let me make it clear for you. Let's say you're collecting email addresses to build your email list. Make sure to follow these guidelines:

Be clear about who you are. They should know who they are transacting with.

People must opt-in to receive your messages (HALLELUJAH). If you've been adding people to your list, STOP IT NOW.

Consent must be “freely given, specific, informed and unambiguous.” Use clear and plain language letting them know what they signed up for.

If you are using their personal data in any way, let them know how.

Silence is NOT consent. In other words, they have to actively show that they want to join your list. Do not use any pre-checked boxes or anything like that.

Only collect what's necessary (they call this Data Minimisation). Don't collect any data that's not needed for the intended purposes.

“It must be as easy to withdraw consent as it is to give it.” In other words, don't have those hidden unsubscribe links that nobody can find.

The Burden of Proof Lies with YOU

Keep a record of proof of consent.

It is now your responsibility to be able to prove that you have consent. You have to keep a good record of this.

Fortunately, good service providers are aware of these changes. They should be taking steps to be compliant. To be on the safe side, check with your email service providers to see what they are doing.

I use Drip. They are aware of the situation and working on making sure that they are compliant by the deadline.

So is GetResponse, the service I recommend for beginners. Even Thrive Themes, the company behind Thrive Leads, is making changes.

But it doesn't end there. You are the one that needs to make sure that everything is being done to meet the regulation.

What About Existing Subscribers?

So Leslie, what about my existing email subscribers? Surely I don't have to do anything about them since they subscribed before the GDPR took effect. Right?

WRONG!

Based on the GDPR, you have to bring those subscriptions up to the current standards.

If the EU citizens on your list have not given the kind of consent required based on the GDPR, you have two options:

Get the kind of consent I spoke about earlier. It must be “freely given, specific, informed and unambiguous.”

Remove them from your list.

How do you know if you have EU citizens on your list? Most email service providers will allow you to search by Time Zone.

In Drip, you can search for anyone with a Time Zone in Europe.

Through Drip's filter, I can have an overview of the number of European subscribers in my list.

Just to give you an idea, I have 16,880 people on my email list. 1,507 of those people are in European time zones.

But this doesn't account for EU citizens living outside of Europe.

So What if I Do Nothing?

What if I do nothing?

I know – it's tempting to think this. I mean, what's the big deal? Nobody's coming after me, right Leslie?

Well, they are taking this seriously. Not following the regulations can lead to some pretty significant fines.

How big? Up to €20 Million, which is almost $25 Million US, or 4% of global annual turnover – whichever is HIGHER. I read that and chuckled.

The exact thought that came to mind was – DANNNGGGGGG, these EU people are SERIOUS.

And yes – they are. Will they come after you? Technically, they can. But I would imagine that coming after small bloggers would be quite an undertaking.

So What do YOU Think About this Leslie?

Yes, this is a HUGE change for the industry. Yes, the requirements are stricter. But you know what?

I LOVE IT!

Does it make it harder to grow your email list? Yes. But I believe it gives you a much higher quality subscriber.

Personally, I believe this will gives us a higher quality subscriber base.

Instead of using shady tactics to boost our subscription rates, we have to do it by providing value.

We have to be more transparent about what we're collecting. Transparency breeds trust, and I love it.

So I won't complain about the GDPR. Instead, I will embrace it as an opportunity to up my game. I look at it as a challenge to become better at what I do.

And I always love those kinds of challenges.

But it's not all about me.

What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments section below.

Resources Mentioned

Email service providers GDPR plans:

Drip

GetResponse

Thrive Themes

Infographic

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stevenshartus · 7 years ago