#'transracial' ppl (not adoptees. the ones co-opting their language) are still bad. because that's a matter of culture not personal identity

[levil0vesyou]

🤦‍♂️ I just keep finding weirder and weirder "movements" on this site (and probably elsewhere if I were to look) like...

There's this subgroup of people who I'm not gonna name cuz they're probably kids and I don't want them harassed who like... position themselves as the "good" lgbt+ ppl who are making the community better for other lgbt+ folks, especially ones who also experience other forms of marginalisation, which is, in theory, a nice goal.

And some of their ideas check out, they clearly understand the paradox of tolerance, they're expressly anti-terf, anti-exclusionism, anti-racism and more. But then they also are anti things that make no fucking sense to exclude (on the basis that they're not "valid") such as people with "contradictory" identities such as transmasc lesbians, also they're for some reason really obsessed with hating non-traumagenic systems? Like... those people are not your enemy, they are literally just chilling.

How's that saying go? There's only two types of people who don't belong at Pride: those that are in acute medical distress (who should go get patched up and then they can come back) and those that are attacking others. The same should be applied to the community in general tbh. And no, a trans woman having "fag" in her bio doesn't mean she's attacking you.

Like... who cares if someone's identity doesn't make sense to you, personally? Who cares if you can't wrap your head around it? You know who else casts people out because they think if they don't personally understand every aspect of their identity that means it isn't real? All kinds of lgbtphobes. Homophobes, classic transphobes, terfs, transmeds, aphobes, ... they think like that.

Kill the cop inside your head. You don't have to understand it, you simply have to accept it! I don't understand many things. I don't 100% understand kinnies. I still don't fully get how systems work. I don't see the appeal of nounself pronouns. I've tried my best to familiarise myself with these groups, but I'm still not up to speed. And that's okay! Generally, I do this: if someone tells me something about their identity, be it gender, orientation or whatever, I tend to take them at their word and respect their wishes. Because if anyone knows, it'd be them!