#'every post phallo trans man has complications!!! it's not going to be as fun as you think!!!' i don't care lol

[transmascpetewentz]

I just got told I was faking being trans by a transmed because I made a joke about having anonymous gay bathhouse sex post phalloplasty

[angerytrans]

Why do so many people on this site, more specifically voluntarily non-op trans men, insist on talking shit about phallo and spreading misconceptions to pre-op trans men and boys and getting them to think that phalloplasty isn’t right for them?

I used to think that I shouldn’t get phallo cause it wouldn’t feel “natural” or be “functional” like a cis man’s dick, but a few hours of learning about post-op men’s experiences and looking at a few results made me realize that that wasn’t the case. It’s very rare to not have the nerves connect properly (like a 1% chance, even then you’ll still have a little bit of feeling) and there are cis men who don’t have a “functional” dick (inability to get erect naturally, lack of ejaculation during orgasm) according to these people’s standards. The results are also amazing and look 100% cis, but because of the common belief that post-op dicks don’t look natural, you’ll see many people say “wow your results are the best that I’ve ever seen” when the person’s results look like dicks that I’ve seen on dozens of other trans men. But because people’s main exposure to post-op dicks are ones that usually only have the first stage done and are 10 years old, they’re shocked when they see one that has just been considered a normal or average looking phallo result for years. (I don’t mean this in a bad way, I mean that the results look good but literally every dick looks like that)

We’re not allowed to talk shit about top surgery results because it’s body shaming, and rightfully so, but we can talk shit about phalloplasty as much as we want. Showing a post top man’s chest that has complications as an example of all top surgery results is wrong because it’s just a bad result that rarely happens, but sharing a post phallo man’s dick that has complications, or just looks a little “off” to you as an example of all phallo is fine because you’re “spreading awareness”. When you share a post-op man’s dick to people that isn’t completed, has necrosis, or has some other kind of complication in a negative way, you are not only making horrible generalizations about an advanced surgery, you are also mocking a man who has spent so much money and has gone through so much pain just to be content with his body. I’ve seen pre transition trans guys call post-op dicks “frankendicks”, “gummy worms”, and “knee arm penises” and say that them using those horrible names for phallo dicks is just “coping” with the fact that they’ll never be satisfied with or get phallo. Not wanting bottom surgery is fine, the problem is when those people shame and make fun of those who do. If you don’t want a certain procedure I suggest that you shut up about it if you’re just going to say negative and false things about it. It’s sad that even with a new technique that’s going to be used in around 2 years, a lower complication rate, and a higher satisfaction rate, there are still people who want to spread these blatant lies.

If you’re a trans guy or anyone else who is interested in bottom surgery, only listen to post-op men and men who are looking into or about to get bottom surgery. Go on Transbucket to see newer results. Learn about all the bad things and all of the good things, think about if every risk is worth it, even if you have a higher chance of winning the lottery than getting it. Just don’t listen to people who have said that they do not want bottom surgery, because they are usually very wrong about any concerns you may have.