#'but you said you hated the ending and the mim—' the what i don't know what you're talking abt

[spring-lxcked]

rip to everyone who hated it but ruin still has a chokehold on me. started a new playthrough to look for secrets. gave william a self-indulgent SB verse. added ca.ssie and roxy to my multi. fighting every day to not add gla.mrock chi.ca. thinking abt it always and forever say i love you ruin!!

[mentalillnessmouse]

Is it possible to have an FP (favorite person) without having BPD? I don't think I have BPD but I always seem to have a certain person I emotionally rely on a lot and put above everyone else and seek validation from and always look up to. I guess I idealize them but I never devalue them I don't think? I thought I might have DPD but I don't constantly depend on my FP like that, and I'm okay with having my own opinions, I just don't want then to hate me or I feel like my world is ending.

Yes it is possible. Not all people who have an FP, or even all people who have BPD & an FP split and switch to devaluing them. Surely it is most common in people with BPD or DPD, but other people can have FPs as well. With me, for instance, since I was a teen, I have always had an FP, and I don’t have a personality disorder. I do have PTSD, and part of that for me, and a result of the trauma I experienced, was needing the security of having that one person I know I can count on and am emotionally dependent on/who I have more security in knowing won’t abandon me. So that is just another example of under what circumstances someone can have an FP. I also get extremely anxious if I think they are going to abandon me or if they are mad at me, so I can definitely relate to that aspect of what you said. Having an FP is not a clinical term, but a way that MH communities (particularly Tumblr) has used to describe those relationships people with MI have with others that can be over-valued/overly dependent etc. Here’s an old post on MIM about FPs that you may appreciate as well. That being said, you can use this term to relate to your friendship/relationship if you see fit, regardless of your diagnosis (in my opinion anyway!)Take care,Ari