#❝ aren't you tired of being nice ? ❞ 「 psa 」

[olderthannetfic]

As someone who's into a lot of noncon-related kinks, I'm really tired of seeing "I don't endorse this in real life!" and "don't do this in real life!" in the summaries, tags and authors' notes of fic I read on AO3. Two things. One, an entire lifetime of being told rape is bad by society will not be undone if you forget to say how much you aren't onboard with this. Two, no reasonable human being assumes you're into something IRL just because you write it, and the people who aren't reasonable are picturing a dark fiction version of reality by imagining you as into it, which according to them means they must also be secret rapists since they engage with fiction about it.

But thirdly, and this is the most important part to me... do you really think someone who's going to rape someone else would stop if only you had a disclaimer up? Do you truly believe someone exists who loves the idea of violating someone else's consent who will pause and go, "SansUndertaleStan4evaXoXo said not to do this!" and then not assault someone? The kind of person who's going to violate others' consent is not going to listen to what you want. They don't care. They're going to do it because they don't care about what other people want.

This is just all so silly to me. Even as a little kid, I remembered watching anti-bullying PSA ads on TV and thinking, "even if Dylan (my childhood bully) saw this he'd still be a jerk to me, because he's a jerk" and also understanding that my dad liking violent crime shows didn't mean he was violent. He was nice, he just liked make-believe.

Can we all please return to the depths of wisdom of seven year old me?

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[agereninjas]

Long day

[DESCR- After a long day, Kai and Lloyd cuddle.] Before you read this, just a quick PSA; THIS IS NOT GREENFLAME.

Kai gently rubbed Lloyd's back as he was wrapped in a blanket, pacifier in his mouth and his eyes half-closed. Lloyd had a rough day, he got hurt while training, he almost slipped during a mission, and he barely had two seconds to relax. It was around eight, nearly bedtime, yet he was sleepier than usual.

"Lloydy, are you doing alright?" Kai asked as he looked down at Lloyd. Lloyd nodded, his green eyes looking up at Kai, making a smile form on his face. Kai chuckled and continued to rub Lloyd's back, comforting him further. "Hey, do you wanna tell me how old you are, little guy?" Kai asked, waiting for Lloyd's response.

After a few moments, Lloyd tapped Kai once. "One year old? Aww, you're the littlest little guy in the whole world, aren't ya?" Kai kissed the top of Lloyd's head, earning a giggle from the blonde. Kai looked at the time; 8:43. He might as well get Lloyd ready for bed. He stood up and carried Lloyd to his room. He turned on a nightlight and then turned off the actual lights, then put Lloyd down on the bed.

Kai quickly found some pajamas for Lloyd; a pastel purple pair of pants and a matching green shirt. He helped Lloyd change, giving the little boy a kiss on his head. "Nice job, buddy. Do you want anything else before you go to sleep?" Kai asked. Lloyd thought for a moment, then grabbed his stuffed bat, which Lloyd had named Starlight. Lloyd then made grabby hands up at Kai, surprising the brunette.

"Me?" Kai asked, sitting next to Lloyd on the bed hesitantly. Lloyd wrapped his arms around Kai, his tired head resting on Kai's shoulder. Starlight was still being held, of course. "Ohh." Kai gave a quick nod to himself, then laid both him and Lloyd down on the bed. He pulled the blankets up over their shoulders, holding Lloyd close. "Goodnight, green bean." Kai whispered as Lloyd closed his eyes. "Sweet dreams."

[terraliensvent]

i just think it's super weird that you say that you don't want anymore milo asks and yet you keep allowing them every now and again. milo isn't a mod anymore hence why you said they shouldn't be talked about but bear and pokii also aren't mods anymore? i'm just a bit irritated because i come here for current terra drama and not old drama or shitting on people who aren't involved with the species anymore.

i think a lot of us defend pokii bc while she made a mistake she's actually very sweet and idk what else you have against her other than the slur thing that was said in a private chat with bear, who is her friend. and i've worked with her before for a cham custom and she's very active/helpful in chams. i really think we should stop talking about all of them as a whole bc it's getting tiring.

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youre the one bringing this back up dude, the topic was done with 2 days ago

the asks werent about milo, they were about bear because bear is now a mod in isopups (which is very intertwined with terras due to them sharing many members and staff) despite their shady history in terras that got swept under the rug. milo was mentioned because bears actions directly affected them, they are a key player

pokii was mentioned because her and bear were playing together to divert attention in the original psa thread. feel how you want about that, personally i think it was scummy to go and accuse milo of being an animal abuser to poison the well in a thread that should have been talking about the topic at hand. and even so, i literally say here that continued discussion of pokiis behavior outside of being a terra mod is probably better somewhere else, i really wasnt even shitting on her specifically, in my responses on the previous asks i barely scrape past her

i really dont care to entertain the defense that “well um pokii was super nice to me shes like my best friend and i think ur just a hater because of stuff from a bajillion years ago,” i dont really know a lot nor care a lot about her specifically. all i know is that she was working along with bear in the thread as previously mentioned, and that ive heard RUMORS (which im not gonna substantiate here unless given proof because again, theyre rumors) of her being shitty. along with the fact i personally dont like her art but thats not really something against her as a person. whiteknights of anyone are mot welcome here

[obscurebelief]

Okay, first I hope it's okay I reblog this @aeterna---amantes

Second, at this anon, I am their friend OOC but that also has nothing to do with this. I've seen you doing this to this person and others and I would love for you to knock it off both IC and OOC.

I'm being the big person and asking nicely when, if you are the same anon, I've been dealing with you for I think almost over a year talking to others about me and my character and quite frankly I'm sure I have every right to be so much more annoyed and angry.

I'm agreeing with the reply, get off of my and my friend's backs. And before you say: 'I never did this before' there are so many anon replies on blogs that I've seen and the fact I had to EXPLAIN to other rpers open to rping with me about an anon maybe coming into their asks pestering them about me and my character.. that is I'm sure considered harassment. And if you aren't somehow the same anon that's been doing this for months, apologies for tossing you into the fray but I'm done with anons pestering and going after rpers because of something you or whoever the anon is I somehow did.

But I am being the bigger person, stop doing this. To other anons that are legit curious and looking for fun, this is not directed to you all by any means I promise.

This is also a PSA to my followers in a way, if there is an anon like this that is obsessively asking about this blog or my @fangedmagick I apologize so much but also do block or ignore them. I'm really tired of this harassment and am here for fun.

Also another ANOTHER thing, Aurelius is allowed to connect with characters as friends and when he does get a love interest or have chemistry, they can enjoy that to without some anon that is acting like some crazy ex that I've never met or connected with with the 'if i can't have you no one else can' vibes.

I am here for fun, not drama. and again, PSA no drama OOC on my dash, only fun rp drama okay? Okay. Anon pestering any follower like this, please block. I don't want anything ANYTHING to do with them, but if they do say something out of left field please send it my way to if you want because it is obviously not true but I need to know what crap they may spill after this call out.

Now, without further ado, back to my regular sad baby obscurus boi hours. And again, sorry for reblogging this but I felt I needed to say something.

||You seem different around fangedmagick unlike the other writers you interact with.

|| Man, with all the respect in my pitch black heart, I'm so fucking tired. Please, knock this shit off. Get off of @fangedmagick 's (and their friends') back. Please.

[chronosbled]

{ Just a heads up to anyone I’ve ever written a starter for, if you ever randomly see the post I wrote for you disappear from my blog and/or the dashboard, it’s because I deleted it due to the clear fact that you are not interested in whatever I have written since you cannot even bring yourself to AT LEAST like the post after I link it to you so I can at least know you’ve seen it and read it. If you like the post and still have yet to respond to it, there is now going to be a time-frame in which you can respond to it before it gets deleted off of my blog. Said time-frame will be a month’s worth of time for non-mutuals/new roleplay partners, meanwhile the time-frame for mutuals is two months and the time-frame for my active friends/family will be three to four months (because that’s more than enough time). Though, if you are someone who has a lot of issues and barely have time to roleplay, please do at least let me know this, that way I can either add more time for you to respond or just take away the time-frame in general (the latter is more preferable).

Now as for the reason why I am now doing this is very simple... I’m simply tired of having supposed mutuals be “interested” in roleplaying with me, yet have the fucking gall to never respond to a thing I post or send them. This is mainly for the people who like starter calls or inbox calls and then never even touch them. I am tired of being ignored all the time either for other people or simply just because people think it’s okay to ignore someone. If you don’t wanna do something with me, just fucking say so and I’ll leave you alone. It’s really not that hard. I’m not going to fucking cry about it, if anything, you’re making yourself seem more like an ass by doing what you’ve been doing. I also reserve the right to remove untouched posts from my blog to get rid of useless and unnecessary clutter. Please be award that this does not apply to anyone that actively has threads going with me.

Thank you. }

[feroxsilvester]

//don’t worry about it (tag dump) (yes im making a new tagging system)

[arctikan]

tag dump.

[blueeyedwolf33]

you aren't doing anything positive for the fandom except being cruel and judgmental and advocating for the bullying and stalking of people who ship something you don't like. hate to break it to you, but people are allowed to like things you don't. even more amazing, they don't have to apologize for it or justify it to you. i don't blame anyone for blocking you. i'm a mutual. have been for a long time, and i'm so disappointed in the person you've turned into

Thank you for the “callout” message. I appreciate it. Really. 

A PSA: 

“Being cruel” and “judgmental” translates to evidently now calling out people who feign to be abuse victims to cover for the fact that they fetishize their abusive and incestuous ships? “Being cruel” and “judgmental” translates to calling out people who are fetishizing/romanticizing abusive behaviors, the suppression of women, and rape/noncon? 

And it’s all to “cope”. 

By all means, people are allowed to like what they want. I don’t really call out that much shit in the R/e/y/no fandom anymore because it’s impossible to fight with people who don’t listen and blow each little fact out of proportion. I’ve tried really but you guys are grasping at thin air, really. Or you know, the fact that they want our female protagonist to fall in love with her abuser who has a high chance of being her counsin/sibling. 

But that’s fine. Self-insert onto Rey. Have her love her abuser when a man who has treated her with nothing but the utmost care and respect is demonized for the sake of the ship. 

I hate to say it, kiddo, but by all means, leave then if you don’t like what you see. You already have, I see, so you don’t have to deal with me anymore. I’ve always been this way but never spoke out about it before. I just sat back and watched the shit storm so, I’m not really disappointed in myself. More so in you. 

Kinda proud of myself, really, for not having people walk all over me really. 

I’m sorry I’m being more outspoken and am tired of watching the unhealthy behavior fester in the SW fandom. I’m tired of it. 

I’m trying to make the fandom healthier by filtering out toxic behavior. The fact that people are romanticizing abuse/rape/stalking unsettles and sickens me to the core. 

I don’t want younger users on this blog to think that abuse and toxic behavior is okay in relationships. So, sorry that I’m not story for standing anymore for this shit. 

Love,

Kay or Blue 😘 (however, you knew me or how you once thought you knew me)

(Also, hi. I hope it’s nice in Canada 😉)

[backtothestart02]

What was that post?? nobody goes out of their way attacking "nice*" Sbs. PSA this idea that we should protect people who aren't racist for shipping a ship based on racism and hate is ridiculous.

No offense but your post rubbed me the wrong way. What about the nice and gentle WA shippers who get attacked daily? Or have to log into their ships tag to see racist posts? My concerns are with them first. The ones who have done nothing wrong but want to see a black character be loved. It’s not my job to make “nice” SB feel better about being part of a racist fandom. That’s their choice. If a SB shipper stays in their lane I ignore them. I don’t feel I need to give them anything else.

Y'all, I am TIRED. If you STILL don’t know what I was trying to get across after all the anon asks I have responded to and all posts I have typed up, I don’t know what I can possibly say to convince you otherwise or get my point across.

And if you don’t agree with me, that is FINE. If you decide this is too much for you and you want to unfollow me (or block me even), also COMPLETELY OKAY.

I’m not going to take back what I said, and I’m not going to answer any more of these asks.

If you are livid, vent to someone else about it, write a post on your own blog if you have to, or just find another blog that will make you happy instead of frustrated. I’m honestly not trying to cause conflict here, and I don’t want anyone to be upset, but I’m done talking about this, so please refrain from sending me any more asks about it.