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I realized that my judgment truly has clouded me from so much in life. From meeting diverse individuals, experience unimaginable moments. Why? Because I let my beliefs created by society determine what’s considered “cool” or not. Who’s considered normal or socially admired. Who’s popular and who’s well an outcast. Since I always felt like an outsider, someone who didn’t fit in. I kinda stared to not only nitpick at myself for how I was and who I was, but I also looked down at all kinds of versatile people around me. Made me ashamed of my friends and stopped me from ever looking past the exterior of every person I encountered. Because when you live by what society lives by you live in a shallow superficial reality, covered in pretty people and aesthetics. By fancy slang and cool mannerisms liking what’s hip and known and avoiding the misunderstood at all cost. The good thing about this is pure awareness, at least I caught on this flawed mindset of mine and realizing how judgmental I have been my whole life to myself to everyone is opening a whole new world. I push myself to get to know each person I meet like they’re the only one I’m the world, I thrive putting myself in others shoes and looking into their world with pure and utter curiosity. I don’t want to put at label on anyone anymore but live with pure acceptance and even tho I can’t understand certain people or situations it never hurts to at least try to. I thrive to have eccentric friends to know and know from a wide range of different kinds of people I can learn from each day.

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My possible infj boyfriend

So I should give the back story on my infj. We’ve been talking for about 6 months and he’s in the navy. He has these deep cat eyes with thick eyelashes the fall straight but are dark. You know the soul penetrating infj stare they give. Soft but deep. And he has nice thick lips that falls downwards as he listens. Ooo weee, he’s so attractive to me. And he’s 5’11 but can easily pass for 6’0 as he’s not too skinny but slim. With tattoos that cover his upper arms and his chest. With his pale skin that can be mistaken for a caucasian man with a hint of spice. But he is not, he’s half Mexican and half white to make it simple. Of course he can’t speak Spanish for he’s a third generation here in the U.S. A mixture of sweet and tangy with his uncalled for sarcasm and big puppy heart that you can’t help but fan girl over. He’s rare until pleaded guilty in my eyes, a rare commodity that this generation is in dire need to be reminded of. A gentle man but with a burning volcano ready to erupt at the attack of his values and his integrity. He’s incredibly generous and willing to play pan to be placed in the back burner of a stove, but not to be taken advantage of for he’s sweet as he is sour. His sense of humor is so lively and you can’t help but to fall into his child like mind full of ideas and dreams of his future. He’s a man of wonder thinking far out into the future, envisioning his idea of perfect. Maybe with me or without... he says I can go with him he’s my Peter Pan and I am his Wendy. It’s an unknown world with him but I’m willing to jump if he is.

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What do INTJs often find attractive about INFPs?

I can only from my very personal point of view. I know there are some INTJs who’ve never really met an INFP they like, but for me personally they are wonderful human beings to spend time with.

So here are some of the things I like about on particular female INFP I know:

1. She’s ridiculous and she knows it. She’s able to laugh about herself and her laughter is contagious. It’s easy to joke around with her because she gets my kind of humor and she simply is hilarious.

2. She is incredibly deep and thoughtful. From this one ridiculous conversation it’s easy to drift to sharing thoughts about life and all it’s problems. The discussion I had with her go deeper than most other conversations I’ve had in my life. Maybe it’s we have such a close relationship. In any way it’s beautiful to share my thoughts and to listen to hers. I might not think of feel the same all the time but it’s still always wonderful to talk to her. Also because:

3. She’s inspiring. I don’t understand her mind sometimes. How she jumps from one idea to the next one. And I can’t really comprehend how she’s able to find so many brilliant new things (like in music or food or places). She enriches my life in so many levels.

4. She taught me a whole bunch of things. One of them being spontaneity. She has this “living in the moment” attitude in her life. Often I wonder how she’s able to get everything done without having a long term plan. She seems ot have this gift of getting everything sorted exactly on time. She taught me things about people and her world and she also taught me a lot about myself. Which might sound strange and I’m not even sure how to put this becuase I think I don’t fully understand it either…

5. I like listening to her. I don’t even mind what exactly the converastion is about. Her point of view is pretty much always interesting. And the way she tells those stories of hers, is just enjoyable. And another good thing is that she kept contacting me (especially in the early years of our friendship this was crucial).

She also as a pretty damn awesome style of clothing and sense of design and is a brilliant illustrator, graphic designer and photographer. So yeah… This is my personal point of view.

What are your experiences with INFPs and why do YOU like them? Or why don’t you like them? Leave a comment!

Also: find a general post about INTJs + what attracts them here.

Yours,

Sandra

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INFPs I’ve Met (by an INFJ)

What I noticed and observed about them: (3 Males & 2 Females)

They are the introverts with a lot of friends. 

Each of them have some sort of hidden talent that I don’t even know why they keep hidden in the first place. They are just so humble. (It’s annoying– I LOVE THEM). Their hidden talent most likely has something to do with the arts. 

They are writers. The ones I know write blog posts, poetry, witty Facebook statuses, music, and lyrics. Self-expression is definitely a necessity for them.

Two of the INFP males I know have this innocent aura that will make you want to be super nice to them and even take care of them and not bully them even if they look so easy to bully. They’re that pure.

The other INFP male I know looked very tense and jittery before I first talked to him. But once I got him to start talking, he easily opened up. You just gotta reach out first.

Once you reach out to them, they will open up and you’ll discover that they are such cool people with strong opinions and beliefs. (pretty much closet ENFPs)

The two INFP females on the other hand were the ones who seemed loud at first–probably ‘cause they were with their friends–but ended up being really deep and humble people (I love it).

They are nice and civil to everyone. They don’t show it when they dislike someone (however, their close friends will know). They’re just that easygoing, which is why they have a lot of friends. (who are actually just mostly acquaintances to them–but they won’t tell them)

They have such good humor. Especially their sarcasm. AND THE TIMING OF THEIR JOKES IS PERFECT.

When they’re with their friends, you wouldn’t even think they’re introverts. They are so loud and lively with them (mostly the girl INFPs I’ve met are like this–the INFP males on the other hand are more obviously introverted). 

Everyone likes them. I’m serious, what’s not to like? They are such good-hearted and open-minded people (even if they have strong beliefs). Before you know it, you’re completely yourself when you’re around them. They just make you feel homey.

When they’re in a bad mood, they distance themselves. They just don’t want to be a burden, even to their friends. No matter how many times you insist to be there for them, they will shake their heads and handle their problems by themselves. After all, the fight is in their head.

When they present alone in front (in class), they can be the most awkward people ever. But they do have a lot of meaningful things to say. They just aren’t used to taking the stage.

Most of the ones I know suffer with anxiety. This is most likely due to the fact that they feel so deeply and tend to keep it inside–after all, Fi is their most dominant function. 

They are the nicest people ever (even if it’s not all that obvious), but if you hurt them on purpose–they will remember you for it. But they will forgive (on the outside).

They are the life of the party even if they aren’t loud. I don’t know, like when they aren’t present in their group of friends–there is obviously something missing. 

They are good with one-on-one conversations. It’s amazing how even though they aren’t good with big crowds, they have this ability to talk to a stranger for a second and make them feel comfortable (if they want to, that is). 

They are not boring– at all. It’s an Ne thing–their second dominant function–that makes them so talkative and animated. If they aren’t talking about something, they’re either making weird sounds to make others laugh or saying funny movie lines aloud (similar to INTPs). 

They are smart. They have their own way of understanding things and they are not clueless–I swear, they know a little about everything. Just give them a topic, and they will have an opinion about it.

They have trouble saying no. I swear, the last thing they want to do is hurt someone. (Unless it’s for justice)  

Music is extremely important to them. The INFPs I know either dance, play guitar, sing, or well–just need their earphones with them everyday to block out the world when they feel like it. 

The vibes they give off, equal to their current mood. They are infectious.

Well, what do you guys think? :)  Agree or disagree?

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“INFPs are naturally compassionate, non-confrontational, and tactful. Causing others that we interact with to perceive us as timid mice, not realizing they stand before titanic dragons. We are the gentle giants. Carrying tremendous emotional power and existential depth that is underestimated by most.”

— Submitted by @dyadicdreams (via infp-quotes)

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“I believe in everything until it’s disproved. So I believe in fairies, the myths, dragons. It all exists, even if it’s in your mind. Who’s to say that dreams and nightmares aren’t as real as the here and now?”

— John Lennon, INFP (via infpisme)

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I think I’m in love with an INFJ I think my fi is still processing this.

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I don’t hold grudges, but I don’t force anything either I’ll say my peace, then whatever I receive I receive and I’ll be on with my day.This is my world you only live in it.

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The more I chase you the more tired I get and one day the chase will tire me out that I’ll find a new race to run and it won’t be you

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I’m can be out of touch with reality but hey who says other realities aren’t as real 🥴

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INFP/ENFP PROBZ

When I hang out someone I always feel like I have to become this sort of entertainer to them because I like the attention.

...ok maybe that’s just me🥴

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So as I previously mentioned I want to be a social coach/ dating coach

For 2021 my goal is to go on at least one date every two weeks.

I’ve been on 3 this month, and my goal isn’t to find love but to find connection and understand the way people interact with one another. I’m trying to analyze insecurities, confidence, social skills, body language and friendship. I’m very excited for my long term project, I realized in order to be what I dream about I need to actually get the experience to help people out.

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My ideal career would be a social coach hands down

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Attention INFP’S

If you want to see an over exemplified version of what an infp is like watch Bobs Burgers. The character Tina Beltcher is an Infp and the author really wanted us to soak in what an ideal Infp is like I realized this 2 seasons in btw. Go ahead go watch it and tell me I’m wrong.

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INFP PROBZ

Feeling like a imposter online because you give out a persona that you don’t share in person. You feel like people who only know you online would describe you as expressive, extroverted, outspoken, creative, zany, funny, witty and in reality you do embody those quality’s but you don’t go out of your way to share that with people in person. That’s just me though I feel like I definitely tone myself down a bit and then believe that’s who I am. Like nope that’s just my anxiety and depression kicking in when reality hits. But online I’m unbeatable bitches!

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Infp probz

I need to feel like those around me respect me and accept me. And if I’m not I will show my dark side shall you say, extreme introversion and a cold heart. My true self doesn’t get to shine and I will punish you for it by simply not allowing you to enjoy the great sides to me that I know I have to offer to others. But alas you get a cold shoulder, sarcasm, attitude, and just plain uncomfortable awkwardness cause I know the effect I have on my environment and I can easily manipulate it by reserving myself.

Maybe this is just a me thing who knows.