#yes theyre part of the lgbt community but listen

[mercurialsmile]

ok so yeah ppl are allowed to do whatever they want w their original characters and however you imagine them is how you imagine them. And that includes all their traits, personality, appearance, orientation, etc. 

HOWEVER

I find it... so weird... when someone has, quite literally, hundreds of OCs and NONE of them are gay, bi/pan, or transgender. 

That all of them, in some way, shape, or form, are either straight or one of 2 varieties of asexual. 

And with a history of... hmmm... not being “ok w the gays” that’s a little weird is all I’m saying 

[la5t-res0rt]

fun fact fucko no one cares that he’s trans, gnc, or autistic. all they care about is that he said someone wasn’t bisexual all because they hate them. thats fucked up no matter who you are. being austistic isn’t an excuse to be an utter dick hole.

alrighty folks strap in because we are in for a long one today

to start off i will begin by saying that i care about the identities of people i like and call friends i care enough to listen and learn from them because they have different perspectives on issues that i as a person who is none of the things that this person is will ever understand

it is important to listen to people and learn from them not just shine a light out of your ass for someone out of a weird place of blind worship thats honestly so cringey but that isnt what this is about this about you and likely others harassing ad sending death threats my friend and comrade betel bitches

i will now be going under a readmore to spare the dashboard

so lets recap what exactly is he being harassed for

as you all are no doubt aware there is a blog called nether receipts where a certain user we shall not name catalogs instances where members of the beetlejuice fandom are harassed correction its a blog where this person catalogs instances where flaws in their character as well as the characters of the people around her are highlighted and critiqued with the occaisional off color remark and threat which i obviously do not approve of who would

anyway following reading some ill-informed and not-so-well-phrased comments from a certain narcissistic user about their sexuality my friend had this to say

this was the post that got them put on this receipts blog which really exists as a source of people for a certain cluster of the beetlebabe fandom to harass and try to drag or cancel 

this is the post that has made people call him biphobic and here is why thats wrong and stupid

you said in your ask that he only is saying that this icky person is not bisexual because there is malice between them and while yes its true that there is malice orion never once said that this person wasnt bisexual

i took the liberty of sifting through the harassment asks he received yesterday because you all love receipts so much i took the liberty of grabbing a few and adding some highlights so you dont miss the important bits

orion never once said this person isnt bisexual he stated that equating doing femme on femme  pornography to bisexuality is a biphobic statement and is in fact a problematic thing to say

there may be crossover between bisexual people and people who do femme on femme but they are far from the same thing doing pornography is a choice you actively make and you do it for compensation however being bisexual is simply part of who you are it is something you dont choose 

although this person would perhaps disagree

and before you come for me this person posted these for the world to see and obviously i have as many receipts as my drive can carry furthermore how does this argument make sense why would you care so much about heterophobia if youre not heterosexual why are you so pressed oh wait is it perhaps

because this person is using the split attraction model for woke points like this screams that this person sees women as sex objects or perhaps this person is comphet and is denying themselves because heteronormativity is so deeply ingrained in their being that they wish to cling to heterosexuality to keep up their squeaky clean white feminist woman persona or maybe theyre just not well informed on lgbt+ issues

editors note the editor is an ace person who considers using the split attraction model is situations like this isnt exactly helpful like i cant stop you from doing it but you shouldnt have to say im a bisexual heteromantic person you can just be a  bisexual woman and keep dating men you dating men doesnt erase your bisexuality saying that you would have sex with a woman but not romantically be involved with them makes the editor think woman = sex object and as a feminist the editor has to say thats fucked up

i will reiterate implying that doing pronography of any kind is equitable to a human sexualty is harmful to bisexual people and if youre like uhhh im bi and i think its okay guess what you do not speak for every single bi person so you should try harder to be compassionate for other peoples level of comfort

in any case statements like these are hurtful to bi people equating voluntary sex work to a sexuality isnt okay and its something that person should maybe address and consider apologizing for but since this person only listens to people in their inner circle and they dont even really listen to them its unlikely that this person will ever make amends for past biphobic tendencies because as everyone has been so quick to point out being bi doesnt excuse biphobia or homophobia or anything of the sort editors note heterophobia is not a legitimate issue im sorry if you feel oppressed for your straightness but really thats a you issue 

here is one more screenshot where my friend basically covers what i have just said as well as reminding the world that the owner of nether receipts is a narcissist 

being a bisexual person does not excuse you from saying biphobic things and there is literally no identifier you can use for yourself that exempts you from criticism for your actions and it doesnt mean that people cant demand that you address the wrongs youve done or said

you dont have to listen you dont have to do anything but dont be surprised if you say something shitty to a group of people and they get mad at you

also all that being said what orion said was not biphobic if anything he is raephobic but lets be honest who isnt ok there thats my one funny haha for you

we have every right to criticize someone who creates simulated cp and shares it with minors in 18+ servers or someone who equated bisexuality to voluntary sex work or someone who accuses people who disagree with them of being fascists or nazis or someone who goes out of their way to repost and edit art in a mocking manner or someone who actively claims to own a fandom like these are all critique worthy behaviors that all come from the same person who never explains their actions never holds themselves accountable for the shit they cause like we as people who share the same space as this person have every write to call bull roar when we see it

it is no secret that i dislike his person and it is also no secret that i will not hesitate to the the opportunity to drag them for being a shitty person whenever the opportunity arises and since their most recent beef with me was about how i was a bad friend i guess i figured this would be a good time to come forward for one of my friends who received dozens of harassment messages and several death threats over his commentary on the actions of this one vile individual

and i am addressing them now if they ever end up reading this or when it is inevitably sent to this person 

if youve got a problem with the way he and i or other antis critique you maybe come out from behind your wall of dipshit cronies and talk to us your damn self i am very sick of having to deal with nasti or morgan or that one minor or suz or that person that runs the rp blog or any of the others in your little hoard im tired of them trying to be slick like we see you we see all of you

all of your simulated cp aside youve said some really shitty things that you could easily amend since youve likely learned more about what it means to be lgbt+ since it is now a community you see yourself being a part of 

part of being human is learning from your past and making a better version of yourself for tomorrow and although i think you are a really awful person i dont think youre above self betterment and self reflection and self awareness 

also you dont seem to care at all when threats are being tossed around by your buddies but no matter how much me or orion or any of the others dislike what you do no person in their right mind would be okay with sending death threats and you shouldnt either you should at the very least extend that courtesy 

anyway

fuck you asker youre full of trash garbage and i hope you have a not so good day like i hope it rains or something invalidate my friends identity and ill yell at clouds

[floralkittygambler]

Reposting for reasons

Response to Honest’s post here: Doing this to spread this awareness more as I know theres a bit of a rift in the critical community - plus I really fucking go on. Im PISSED and I do apologise however it NEEDS urgent addressing. I know people will hate me for it but Im used to hate and honestly? Hating rather than helping to solve the issue only furthers my fucking point here. So yeah this is so more people are aware (no offense to any of those involved in said rift either, but this is an important message. Thank you for understanding and if I can do anything to make all sides comfortable, then please message me and I’ll do my upmost.) “ More awareness of this is needed. Even if it’s your favourite, you can’t justify their shit but rally against another’s shit. Have people tell you you’re experiences arent real or invalid because, like Husk, people have - in real life - shipped you with someone you are far from comfortable with but you still treat them like a person. Because you have basic respect. And people force you to accept harassment, touching, stalking, advances for THEIR satisfaction. People use you for their fantasies. But you’re just a ‘tsundere’ for it. Or you have addiction issues but people think being with another addict will ‘save’ you because you’re apparently too incompetent to save yourself. Love isnt some magic fuckin cure so stop romanticising it as a fuckin saviour. It’s gross and fuckin creepy. Get stalked and have someone NEVER accept your no just because you show youre still decent enough to not treat them shitty or any different from anyone else. Try having someone way older or way younger (both in morally fucked up ways) advance on you and people encourage that. People you’re supposed to feel safe around.

People touch you when you pull away or show discomfort. Follow you home. Have pictures of you and wont accept you dont like them like that and it’s not ‘playing hard to get’ or ‘the thrill of the chase’. Fuck. OFF. In fact, Im not only disappointed in the fandom. Im disappointed in the entire team who some should know better from their OWN personal experiences - or at least the bare minimal of being a fucking adult. Im disappointed in especially females (sorry idk whether girl or woman is more appropriate here-) who statistically are more likely to have experienced something similar at some point in their lives think this is a cute gay moment. No. Angel is made out as a fucking predator - Im not saying he is, Im saying that his persistence is very fucking unwelcome like one. People like Husk dont need that fucking invasiveness. They/We need patience and someone on our level. Angel’s I know are the fuckin polar opposite - and some of them I know are very sexually harassing, including unwanted touching. It’s a shitty way to present gay people. Gays are fuckin people. Some are cunts and some arent. It’s a HUMAN thing. But considering the shit theyve been subjected to, presenting a gay as a victim only to also show them as a perpetrator is insulting! And for those Ive seen argue this about how people like AD wouldnt know how to express their love normally and whatnot? His pig. His best friend. He’s in his fucking 30s. There are literal real life criminals who get molested as kids and then go on to molest kids. Not all who grow up like that turn into nonces. Stop just fucking STOP justifying and romanticising this bullshit! I used to see the good in AD but now he makes me fucking sick. Especially with my verrrrrry fucking real traumas and connections. But fuck me, eh? Because this fictional guy matters so much more. Fuck real victims. And whilst we’re at it, fuck AD too when it suits your fetishes! Sarcasm aside, the fans and the team need to straighten up their abhorrent behaviour. Stolas. Fucking clearly having an affair, knowingly fucking up his daughter’s mental health and bribing a guy into sex who only wants the book and nothing more. He even has a fucking warning button over Stolas- Guys, how do you think any of this is cute? Even the team gross me out- I genuinely see potential and talent and it’s all gone to shit to satisfy horny teens, horny adults, and literally everyone who doesnt for the life of them understand being an adult is more than sex, drugs, violence and swears! I REALLY want to keep enjoying HB/HH but it’s getting harder and harder with such ignorant and bordering lazy creators (note: lazy as in wont do the fucking research or actually listen to real criticism and victims), such despicable fans (yeah, some HDers fuckin mocked that they triggered my ED, yet they had the fucking NERVE to support Angel’s potential ED AND laugh and blame me for me getting treated so badly for actually having the balls to call Angel and the teams hypocrisy. I got told to kill myself, that my problems arent real - oh but Angels apparently is! Which... They *are* but AD isnt real so technically only onlookers will suffer and not a drawing  - and they just excused their toxic behaviours. These people are like “aww poor angie babey!” yet fuckin INSULT sex workers. All this red in Hazbin yet it feels everyone and they mama colour blind. The issues are getting worse and fans are outright becoming EVIL, VILE, Vindictive little bullies - from kids to adults. You SHOULD be ashamed of yourself if you conduct yourself in such a manner. And you need to readjust your attitudes and behaviours because the only fuckers getting hurt are actual fucking victims. Ever been violated and been gaslit so much you STILL fucking question it’s reality? So you drown that shit out yet somehow it’s effects still hit you? Fetishise it. Make it your uwu gae couple goals, you’re no better than people believing Harley and the Joker werent toxic af. If this shit happened to you, most of you would actually SEE where we’re all coming from. Also, stop making gay a fetish - you’re like those creepy old men in the alley heckling lesbians to make out so they can wank off. Gays, no ALL the LGBT+ are fucking people too. So dont give me that bullshit then start turning everything just gay or just straight to mentally wank off to. It’s degrading and dehumanising. And yes, fiction does effect reality. You crush on a fictional character? Mourn one? Support one? Hell, fuckin jerk off to one - that’s affecting reality. Remember how in fiction all blacks were treated as villians? Look how theyre treated IRL. JAWS, great classic unfortunately their was a spike in shark killings over a fucking movie - the shark in the movie wasnt even real for the most part because they dont behave like that! (Also the animatronic was so shit they genuinely had so many issues - I think they even took to naming each one! Some fun trivia there!). Tiger sharks are more nasty than great whites as tiger sharks will hunt and eat a human. Great whites prefer seals and dislike human flesh, they just mistake us for seals. Hell, theres the toothless basking shark - theyre often SWAM WITH by divers for being so friendly. Yet Jaws made people think all sharks are bloodlusting over humans. Slenderman was created for a fucking contest and that influenced a stabbing (NOT Victor’s fault). Watch a horror movie that isnt based on a real life event and tell me that at least ONE has left you peaking over your shoulder. Stella may be a bitch - we dont know for certain - but try getting cheated on. Y’know what? Try growing up in such a broken home like Octavia. Yeah reaaaaaal fucking cute now, huh? Funny how as well y’all petition for male victims to be taken seriously then laugh when fictional males experience this abuse, further adding to stigma. You can be hit on by the hottest mf on the planet but if you arent interested, that should be respected! Also we’ve all been inspired by at least one fictional character so yeah. Yknow, since I was little Ive been fighting for sex worker and homeless rights. But HH/HB treatment of both leave a bitter taste in my mouth. I’ll still fully support sex workers and the homeless, but that’s the fucking effect this show is having. Bearing in mind I wont ever share everything Ive been through - and I shouldnt fucking have to in order to be believed and validated (obvs proof is required in a legal case but that’s a whole other topic). Why should I share MY fucking pain especially when you fuckers have belittled and triggered it more so? We have our rights to our secrets but fuck ME you lot NEED to start acting appropriately and like decent fucking humans. ‘iTs HeLl’ yeah and welcome to Earth- the team and yourselves live HERE. You obide by THESE rules. And as someone with beliefs (and a LOT of ancient fucking texts and studies on this shit) their Hell isnt even a proper Hell! It’s closer to purgatory and even then it’s not. Regardless, it’s a poorly built world with the lore consistently changing per episode and tweet, with many plot holes, and is apparently easy to get into - even via accidentally watching porn according to a stream. If youre gonna parade youre a fucking expert and research into demonology and use real believed figures, at least get THAT right. In fact, Lucifer and Lilith (and Stolas tbf) are ESPECIALLY risky as theyre a lot more complex than most easy access texts will tell you. Likewise, Stolas’s first introduction and main focus is sex. He’s one of the FEW Goetia demons that dont have some involvement in relationship issues at ALL. He’s known for astrology, crystals and herbs but hes also known to aid MONEY troubles (it’s lesser known but it’s true! HB Stolas is an insult to the Prince). Turning Vodou into something evil is vile considering it’s powerful and liberated slaves. Pentagrams are nothing to do with Satan, they’re magic based sigils. Upside down cross is the symbol of a SAINT. It’s just some edgy attempt to trick people into believing they know more than they do. Also you should NEVER dabble and doodle sigils without knowing the meanings or respecting what they behold. Vox and Val, real fuckin cute way to make them look like a stupid fucking highschool drama instead of a fucking SEX TRAFFICKER (note: real pimps often target YOUNG folks too - aka minors - and groom them into sex work. Theres different types of pimp. Viv has shown barely any understanding of ‘the game’ and its a fucking insult to injury. Yes we KNOW what a fucking pimp and prozzie are! We dont need to see it. We need REAL AWARENESS.) and a fucking scheming bastard of a CEO salesman botman. And yet even THEN lets go a step further and make some yandere wuv on boyfweind aboose! Fuck off- Now I love a good anime but these tropes are getting fucking dangerous now. And unrealistic to real love and relationships. Kids nowadays know fuck all on a healthy relationship (neither did the fuckin 50s tbf) and Im seeing more romaticism and glorifying abusive situations. Like the show ‘You’. Ok, there’s a fuckin bloke online who slaughtered innocents and kidnapped yet people commented how cute he is on his IG and that they want to be kidnapped or killed by him next. Dont believe me? Look up Peter Manfredonia Connecticut and the comments people left him and then tell me why shit like whats being presented in HH/HB ISNT fucking concerning - because it is. For a series about redemption, it’s brilliant at the opposite (Quote from the creator herself, Viv has posted that it’s influencing her bad choices. Even as a joke, proof’s in the pudding). And the overall focus on sex in the way Viv does is so immature and really creepy, and this is from an ADULTS perspective. From one adult to another, Im concerned as to why any of them think this is a normal fixation. Then again they’ve hired quite a large amount of dodgy folks and even a child. Most of this shit gets avoided with a basic background check like most companies run. I DO like Hazbin. Or the premise. I love some of the cast and spite the others. In Helluva, I just like a tiny portion of the cast. And I critique it so harshly because Viv DOES need a wakeup slap, grounding to reality, people who arent going to big her up or kiss her arse for once and shape her up to be the best she can be. The actually reach and even surpass her potential. And to reach where you need to be, there’s a lot of harsh lessons youll face. That’s life. Shes chosen one of the most HEARTLESS industries and if she blocks out critique as ‘hate’ then she’s not strong enough and wont last. It’s just another unprepped YanDev again (except I dont believe Viv to be a nonce. Even with her dodgy past and dodgy present, I think her perspective on sex and relationship with sexuality is FAR from healthy BUT I dont believe she’s a pedophile. Ive bled my fair share and so far, I just think her sex perspective isnt healthy or mature for her age. But there’s little to nothing to suggest actual noncery - dont worry about accusations there. But YanDev is totally a dirty predator. Just clearing that up). Viv NEEDS some harshness and stability if she wants to do things right. And it’ll make her fucking cry but if she loves these projects as much as she claims to, then you’ll sacrifice blood, sweat and tears for that shit. Even the strongest points are mediocre at best when properly observed. She CAN do more, but she’ll have to face the harsh music. Viv wont see this, but if she does, I dont care if it upsets her. Why? Because this is that much of an issue - something she’s cultivated - that she needs to take action and not ignore it or be secretive about it. She needs to grow up and get tougher skin. Im not saying this to cause her pain. In fact, I wouldnt waste my fucking limited time if I DIDNT care. Trust me, I have duties to be met at a certain quota every single day. I say this shit only because I give a shit and care. If we met, she’d fucking hate me. But people like me are good for shaping people up to their potential. And we arent always this ‘tough love’ either. But when someone needs that level of harshness to help themselves, we’re not afraid to lose people or cause upset if the results end up being the best for them. If she ever saw this, she needs to re fucking evaluate her message, her story, and those she’s choosing to welcome into her circle. And all Im seeing is one rookie mistake after the other. Her paid patreon discord. Just like the messages Honest has posted on her side of being harassed (not in Vivs fyi), Ive experienced shit and bullying and even stay silent on their for being attacked for a group I fuckin paid to be in and yet I feel isolated. It’s all arsekissing and ‘thank you viv’ (thats an actual channel-) and it feels like a place of borderline worship and people trying to appease her 24/7 whilst kicking others with different opinions down. There’s so many I love but I aint kissin yer fuckin arse. Ask the closest friend I have - we’re fucking raw and wont just side with each other just because. We’ll call each other out if we think they’ve fucked up and then help each other build themselves up better. Because real fuckin people who actually care wont just want to be adored by you. They’ll care enough to point out your bullshit and help you, even if they upset you at the time. They’re real and upfront with you. People like us arent always the easiest to be close to either because we arent afraid of upsetting someone if it’s in their best interest and to help them. Likewise, we dont go out looking for fights either. Most times, we’re fuckin soft bastards- All this shit listed is the fuckin surface level of the real life hell of this fandom. And unsurprisingly, those who experience little to no toxicity have always been higher on that popularity ‘food chain’ - enough admirers and shared opinions that people wanna arse kiss regardless of their OWN feelings as well as neutral perspectives. I’d say you’re the lucky fans, but you’re not. You’re sheltered, and that isnt always the best way to be sadly. As for the fans. If Ive upset you. Well... I dont care. Because many of you have actively sought me out and weaponised my traumas against me. You never cared about my feelings then. Why should I care about yours? Im not doing this out of malice. Im fed up of humans behaving so pathetically yet claiming to be high and mighty. Most of you have been arseholes to those in and out of the community. The victims and non-victims alike. Hardly any of you considered once my real suffering. You put a drawing over a life. Many lives. You had the audacity to tell me Im full of shit. Some even using my real traumas to make a mockery of me and those Im around with a very similar history. Some with traumatic histories that differ from my own. You hardly ever considered the real lives of those effected. So no, Im not sorry for having the fucking balls to this day to still stand up for our rights and give us a voice that’s long been stolen. Im not sorry for being a fucking victim. Im not sorry for saying what desperately NEEDS voicing. And Im not sorry for not conforming to you or any fandom just to belong. We deserve better than to constantly be your fuckin arse monkeys (well... the trope is butt monkey but yknow-) and to be mistreated, misrepresented and harmed by you. You’re no different to the school bullies who give speeches on anti-bullying day. And I hope every single one of you starts looking into yourselves and improving. PS: Depending on the texts you read, Lucifer is said to have been redeemed or to be redeemed. Fun fact to haunt yalls with~ “

[rockerfemme]

all the colors

yas king indulge my need to talk about myself online! we stan!

orange: if you could, would you change your eye color? why? to what color, if so?

would change to green bc green eyes are gorgeous and the idea of being able to actually see your own pupils is whackadoodle

yellow: name of an artist you think is underappreciated

thin lizzy

green: do you have a favourite flower?

i do not

blue: preferred type of weather?

overcast

purple: a poem you think describes your closest friend

listen i know 2 poems off the top of my head and one of them is about a funeral and the other is the raven. i cannot answer this

magenta: do you keep your fingernails long or short?

i like long nails but i’m also a guitarist so they’re short on my left hand and long on my right. yes i know im unhinged

turquoise: favorite sea animal?

ooh girl shock me like an electric eel

cyan: are you religious? spiritual?

fuck no i actively dislike religion

sea green: can you fold a fitted sheet?

honestly? never tried

violet: are you a part of the lgbt+ community?

yup

amber: what's saved as your phone's lockscreen?

it’s like a metallica logo with a skull

aqua: do you thrift?

nope ive only bought 1 thrift store item ever

pink: what's your natural hair color?

black

beige: have any pets? what're their names?

never had any pets :(

black: would you ever try going vegetarian or vegan?

i could never i love eggs and bacon

coral: an animal you wish hadn't gone extinct

not actually extinct but yknow that post thats going around about how america used to have millions of bison

grey: how many languages do you speak? do you want to learn any more?

just english and a school-level amount of spanish, which i want to get fluent in eventually

maroon: do you care for clothing brands?

nope i just go for whatever looks cool

rose: favourite scent on a person?

no idea

charcoal: have you ever been camping?

nope

copper: gold or silver jewelry?

gold

cream: any piercings or tattoos? do you want any?

piercings: i have both nostrils, septum, and industrial and i want a bunch more tattoos: i have a few and also want a bunch more

salmon: how many pairs of sunglasses do you own?

none bc i wear glasses but i really want a pair of aviators so ill prob have to look into getting prescription ones

ebony: would you ever want to play a game on television? (jeopardy, family fued, etc)

idk probably not 

indigo: have you ever lived on a farm?

no but it seems like it might be fun

lavender: relationship status?

taken

fulvous: another name you think would suit you

i literally keep thinking about this bc i’m not sure im satisfied with kyler but i can never come up with shit. maybe just jeffrey

coconut: a subject you enjoy learning about

chemical weapons

frost: a -core you enjoy

proud to say that i do not enjoy any damn cores

porcelain: an tv show you used to love

zoey 101

fawn: any interesting family stories?

the time my dad allowed the basement to flood TWICE in TWO different houses bc he ignored my mom when she said “hey maybe you should check on the tank the shower water is turning brown” and, 3 or 4 years later, “hey maybe you should check on the tank i can quite literally hear water running under the floor” 

gold: do you wear your socks mismatched?

yes all the time. it even became a running joke with my dentist bc every year id visit and lay down on the chair and my socks wouldn’t be matching

honey: your thoughts on magic- does it exist?

don’t think so

ginger: any sideblogs?

yup theyre all in my about

cherry: YouTubers you enjoy watching?

danny gonzalez, emily boo, it’s black friday

wine: do you have a 'type'

punks and metalheads basically

mahogany: your sun, moon, and rising signs

sun: capricorn. i’m not into astrology so idk any of the others

blood: twin beds, queen, or king?

i have a twin but god Damn i would like a big bed

hot pink: did you/do you had/have strong feelings against the color pink?

yeah i used to hate it but i’m accepting it back into my life again

plum: a food you've never tried

shawarma 

lilac: dogs, cats, or fish?

dogs

amethyst: do you collect anything?

vinyl and i want to start a lighter collection at some point

mulberry: earbuds or headphones?

headphones

azure: jean jackets?

only if they’re black

teal: have a job?

yup

denim: kill the spider or take it outside?

kill kill kill kill k

sapphire: do you think you can sing well?

perhaps

mint: favourite flavour of gum?

hate gum. shit runs out in like 5mins and then you have to SPIT it back out? disgusting 

penny: icecream or cake

ice cream

ash: can you do your own makeup?

yeah

jade: ever written fanfiction?

yeah

grape: how many blogs do you follow?

1459

umber: do you brush your teeth before you eat?

no why would i

chestnut: type of phone you have

refurbished iphone 8

prussian blue: what's your first choice at the vending machine

skittles

aquamarine: beach or pool

pool

brass: least favorite food condiment

relish. never had it but it looks nasty

mustard: how much sugar in your tea/coffee?

i don’t put sugar in tea but 2 packets for coffee

silver: ever broken a bone?

nope

rose quartz: rings or necklaces

neither really but necklaces

onyx: do you still play Minecraft?

never did 

scarlet: favorite holiday

christmas, in theory

apricot: opinion on 3 in 1 body wash/hair wash

bad

platinum: do you follow politics?

yup

magnolia: your Instagram handle?

alice_nchainz 

[sillyspirit]

Listen im only gonna talk about this once ok so please read carefully

I've been seein a recent spike in people bein shitty to pan people so im gonna try and express my thoughts on this as clearly as i can. There's something i think a lot of people are forgetting here, and its how important all of our identities are to us. Of course theyre important, they ARE us after all. Yes its true the pan label is rooted in biphobia and transphobia, and that ultimately there isnt a difference between bein pan or bi, but i promise you most people didnt think that hard about it when it started. They, like most if us in the confusing journey that is identity started gettin those special feelings and realising that they were different from their peers, and i dont think i have to remind most of you this, but thats TERRIFYING. It can feel so incredibly isolating and unsafe especially in the shitshow that is puberty and highschool.

So they did what most of us did, they started asking around the internet as quietly and anonymously as they could, and eventually someone asked them the questions: "are you attracted to the same gender? How about different genders? Ok what about trans people? Oh theres a word for you, its PANSEXUAL" and then all of a sudden the confising feelings werent isolating anymore, theyd been given something theyd desperately been craving. A community. People that were like them. People who could listen and actually understand. And all of these people had been united with them under one flag. A lit of people started fighting from there. Just like everysingle sub community in the lgbt community had been fighting for our right to exist and love as we love. And there are people who have been fighting under that banner for decades. The pan flag has been their symbol and shield the whole time. It brings with it the same message that all of our flags carry. "We EXIST and no matter how bad things get we have others that are like us who love and accept us!"

And now as information is getting easier and easier to come by and people are finding it easier and easier to point out the shitty implications of things, more and more people are saying the same thing. The pan identity is superfluous and anybody who IDs as pan is scum. And yes, on paper it is a reduntant identity. Another name for an identity that already exists, and it is a little bit insulting as a bi girl (especially as a trans bi girl) when people try and tell me my identity isnt inclusive enough, so it makes sense that people are calling for the term to be retired and everyone to update their identities to get with the times. It also makes sense that pan people are now desperately searching for anything that could potentually justify the existance of their identity i.e. the whole "hearts not parts" thing, or saying its about soul or whatever. And sonetimes those arguments also cross the line, we live in a combative age after all.

BUT

Pan people dont need to justify anything.

BECAUSE

There already is perfect justification for their identity. The bonds, the community and the sense of secirity the label have given them are more than enough. No matter what anyone says, you cant erase something thats been etched onto someones heart easily, and usnt that something all of us can understand?

[semicryptid]

are aces/aros lgbt??? im so confused. for me theyre not???? because you can be ace or aro even if you're straight???? pls correct me if im wrong :)))

listen

whether aces and aros are lgbt isn’t the question we need to be asking. it is possible to be a heteroromantic ace or a heterosexual aro, but that doesn’t mean these people couldn’t benefit from being part of, or at least supported by, the lgbt community!!!!! there is no reason not to call them part of our community! we lose nothing by it!

is a community based on accepting people whose sexualities aren’t accepted by society really going to say that ace/aro people, who very often have intense personal and interpersonal struggles because of their lack of attraction, can’t be part of their community? their community that is based on acceptance???? what aces and aros want is a community in which they feel they can be accepted! that isn’t that much to ask! 

next time you think aces and aros are trying to invade your community, think about what would drive them to seek that kind of comfort! maybe they feel ostracized by people who see them as inhuman or different, just like lgbt people have been ostracized in the past!think about how over the entire course of lgbt history we have never been perfectly inclusive!!! and time and again we have improved ourselves to be more accepting and open!!!! think about that!!!! think about the fact that even bi and trans people, who are half of the acronym we use now, were not accepted or even acknowledged! 

the lgbt community is not pure or perfect in any capacity! by excluding ace and aro people from discussions about experiences with sexualities that society considers deviant, you aren’t being progressive or accepting in any way! i guarantee that no ace or aro person has it out for you, and showing them basic compassion, understanding, and an open mind is never going to hurt you, only benefit them, and maybe give you a different perspective that you hadn’t considered before.

remember that not everybody lives in the urban northeastern united states. not everyone has a family that accepts their sexuality, whether it be gay, trans, ace, or otherwise. these people have their own individual struggles, just like all people do, and we cannot cite a four-letter acronym from the 90s to erase, demean, and invalidate them and everything they go through.

so yes, aces and aros are part of my lgbt community. whether or not you agree does not change the fact that gatekeeping and intentional exclusivity have never been anything but harmful. ace and aro people are not our oppressors, and deserve only the same kindness and understanding that we give to everyone else.

[intagiio]

Hi. 1-40

Perish.“1: did you ever think you were straight?”I mean yeah but also like no“2: what’s your favorite element of gay culture?”I mean idk if this counts but the fact that gay people can all of a sudden cling to a fucking TV show and like .. make that show.. i think its rlly funny also its the only way i know what stuff to watch. “3: are you femme, butch, or neither?”i guess neither but probably somewhere in the middle and im certain if i had the motivation i’d be more femme lol“4: do you prefer to date femmes or butches?”femmes lol“5: what’s the worst part about being a lesbian?”well i’m not Technically a lesbian but anyway other than the general societal disapproval,,, probably the fact that.. it’s so hard to date lol like idk��6: what’s the best part of being a lesbian?”when women do date each other, it’s oftentimes very.. soft.. and comfortable..“7: how long were you questioning for?”literally fucking never i just always assumed i was either bi or gay bc like there’s no way i couldn’t have been shdjjfsjd“8: what’s the most annoying thing straight people do?”exist probably. jk but get annoyed at like pride month and FUCK I HATE WHEN THEYRE LIKE “don’t politicize this!!!” when something shows support for the LGBT+ community“9: what do you look for in a girl?”honestly fuck if i know anymore but probably humor and like... idk is a good listener? or can talk to me lol like.. conversations are nice... “10: of you had to marry someone you know right now, who would you choose?”well i certainly can’t say that on tumblr dot com“11: do you have a crush right now?”lightweight yeah but no but yeah i think it’s more of an admiration but huh idk“12: do you fall in love easily?”well. fall in love is a loaded term probably tho“13: is there anyone in your life right now you think you’ll date in the future?”well probably not but maybe“14: is there anyone you want to be kissing right now?”i guess but no also“15: do you think you’ve met your future wife yet?”absolutely not“16: top, bottom, or vers?”well I’M a top “17: is there anyone you wish you could fuck right now?”oh yeah duh but it’s all rather unfortunate“18: rough or gentle?”depends on the mood! duh. gentle tho... :’)“19: how many stereotypes do you fit into?”i’m sure a lot“20: what version of the lesbian flag do you like most? (butch, lipstick, original, etc.)”i feel so out of the loop but probably the original“21: do you have a good gaydar?”honestly yeah but no at the same time like i’ll miss rlly obviously gay people and think they’re straight but kinda just get the ... less obvious gay ppl“22: be honest, would you rather be straight?”lol sometimes but also... women are superior to men at least in terms of romance so also no“23: are you cis?”yessir“24: are you a sugar mommy or a sugar baby at heart?”don’t ask me that but sugar baby definitely“25: are you committed to someone at all right now emotionally?”nope!“26: are you looking for a serious relationship currently?”not really bc i leave in like three months“27: is there someone you’d like to be in a serious relationship in?”i mean kind of but alas not really i just romanticize the thought of people“28: do you want children?”yes!!“29: is your family accepting of your sexuality?”absolutely not“30: how confident are you in your sexuality?”i mean i know i’m not straight bc i enjoywomen but thats about it so i’m fairly confident in that“31: are you polyamorous or monogamous?”monogamous as fuck lol“32: what’s advice do you have for your 12 year old self?”yeah maybe dont fucking do any of the shit you do and maybe try to be a better person idk also ur not going to stanford lol dont think u are“33: have you ever been to a gay bar?”nope“34: leather jackets or flannel?”flannels fuck i love flannels!!! at one point in time i owned 13“35: describe your dream girlfriend”uhhHhh funny... understanding... loyal... lol, uhhh... like someone who is simultaneously a caretaker and wants to be taken care of... u know ,,,??? also attractive but thats just me being superficial i think. i was gonna go more in depth but perhaps i should not on this public website. anywho. someone who cares about the world and is motivated and doesn’t do things just .. to have the right stance on it. ya know? yeah. also a dog person bc i want a corgi w her. frick“36: do you have any lesbian friends?”yessir but i have more bi friends sooo“37: what elements of gay culture do you actively participate in?”i’m gay“38: do you find straight people irritating?”i mean not bc theyre straight obviously but yeah occasionally“39: would you rather adopt a kid or have a biological kid?”well i don’t want to give birth but i do want to have a biological kid. i would like to do both i think.“40: do you love yourself?”i think i’d like to but i think i just think nobody else does, so i don’t know why i would. i’m rather neutral to myself and i kind of see my brain as separate from my body like i’m.. two different people. lol #gemini. u know what i mean tho. so i don’t hate myself but i’m not entirely favorable towards myself

[nonbinary-support]

Hey, I've reclaimed the q word and have for awhile but today one of my friends asked me what identifying as the q word tells anyone about me besides it being negative and it got me thinking and upset but she was right, im gay but if i just go around saying im q**er, what will tht tell anyone? Tht im "different" or "not normal" or "special"? Now im worried about how ppl see me and my identity and i just want to hide under the covers...

for the record, i would never push the q word on anyone who didn’t want it bc thatd be pointless and rude

however

i personally identify as queer (yes, it’s okay to say about yourself) and part of the reason is because of its history in our community

after it was reclaimed, it became our word. for years it unified our community and it was even used in academic circles (queer studies, queer film, etc.) it wasnt until recently that a large number of people started protesting its use. and yeah, thats fine, its up to you what you wanna be called, but the word queer still has value to people use it and its not up to anyone else, friend or not, whether or not it’s specific enough or whether or not you can use it. only you can decide that.

identities dont have to be specific to be valid, you dont have to tell anyone anything with the word you choose. you choose a word because it fits your identity, not because its most concise. for example, nonbinary isn’t very specific. there are probably hundreds of nonbinary identites, each as unique as the last, yet some people are also comfortable just saying theyre nonbinary

anyway, its up to you, but imo you shouldnt let people talk you out of ur identity

-avery

I agree with this except the phrasing of “now that it’s reclaimed it’s our word”. I personally disagree- slur reclamation can only be done in the personal setting. The co-opting of the slur as an overlay (queer studies, the “”“queer community”“”, etc) was mainly because of cis people who, while still affected by the slur do not face the same stigmas in calling themselves queer as trans people do.

A lot of people in the community have always been against the term queer, and it’s generally those of us with marginalized identities that intersect with our LGBT identities. Those of us who are already more prone to violence are generally those who are against it. Queer was a word that was gaining positive traction pre-AIDS crisis, but with the uprise in serophobia based homophobia/transphobia, the slur was revitalized. It has always been an intracommunity discourse topic. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Plenty of LGBT elders will tell you that. We need to listen to them and constantly remember to be humble- we’re lucky to even be having this discussion regarding a slur at all.

You can only reclaim a slur for yourself. There is no queer community, there is only queer identity. And that is power in your hands. You can empower yourself with this word. But also be aware that calling yourself queer, while powerful, does not give any indication to others about what your alignment under homophobia or transphobia is so please do be aware of what privileges you still hold. -Mod Dave

[deeply-unhappyy]

Continued.. last part

92. Have you ever celebrated National Coming Out Day (Oct. 11)? No, i wasnt out yet . But i will definately celebrate next year

93. Have you ever participated in the National Day of Silence? No

94. Have you ever attended a GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) type of club? No

95. Have you ever attended a PFLAG (Parents & Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meeting? No

96. Have you ever attended a gay or lesbian wedding? No

97. Have you ever been part of a softball team? Yeppers

98. Do you skateboard or longboard at all? Nope

99. Do you play any video games? Yes some

FROM 1-10, HOW ATTRACTIVE ARE:

100. Muscular women? Depends how muscular. Eveyone is pretty in their own way

101. Women who wear glasses? AMAZING

102. Women who are covered with tattoos? Great

103. Women who are covered with piercings? Eh not into it but you do what makes ya happy

104. Curvy/plus-sized women? I am one and i say theyre beautiful.

105. Women with short hair? Not my type but still pretty

106. Highly intelligent women? Wonderful , great conversation

107. Tall women (i.e. around 1.83 meters/6 feet or taller)? Pretty, not my type but pretty!!!

108. Masculine/butch women? Funnn

GETTING SERIOUS:

109. What does equality mean to you?
 it meand everyone gets equal opportunity and everyone deserves to be treated with respect

110. Do you consider yourself a feminist? Yes

111. Do you eat meat at all? Yes

112. Are you religious at all? No

113. How do you feel about the terms “woman crush” and “girl crush”? Theyre fine, i use them . But if i ever say them and it offeneds you i sincerly apologize .

114. How do you feel when platonic female friends refer to each other as girlfriends? Its fine

115. How do you feel when people use the word gay to mean things such as stupid, dumb, boring, or idiotic? Horrible. Gay is not an insult and should never be used as such.

116. Are you comfortable with terms such as lezzie, lesbo, dyke, homo, or tranny? I personally find them offensive to a certain extent.

117. What are your views on gender identity and bathroom use? It should be based on what you identify as not by what your birth certificate says

118. Do you have any opinions on LGBT people in the military? LET THEM SERVE. SEXUALITY MAKES NO DIFFERENCE IN HOW YOU DEFEND YOUR COUNTRY AND BELIEFS. LET THEM SERVE IF THEY WANT TO.

119. Have you ever been called a gay slur? Yes

120. Have you ever been queer bashed? No

121. Have you ever been discriminated against because of your sexuality or gender identity? If so, please explain. No but im not out publically as bisexual. I do get offended and defend others when i hear someone being discriminated against.

122. Does it really get better? Yes to a certain extent. I am trying to get better.

123. Americans: How did you feel on June 26, 2015? AMAZING its about damn time.

124. How accepting of LGBT people is the city/community you live in? It seems decently accepting but every city has those people who hate on everything just because they can.

125. Have you ever tried to “pray the gay away”? Nope i love myself for who i am and if you don't like that well then you are free to gtfo of my life.

126. How annoyed are you with how heteronormative society is? Its annoying. Who says being straight is normal? It should be normal for you to love who you love no matter the sex

127. What LGBT stereotype do you most disagree with? Identifying as bisexual I most disagree with the common stereotype that just because I'm into girls means that I like every girl or that I'm attracted to all of my friends that are girls THAT IS FALSE.

128. Is there anything about the LGBT community that you wish you knew before coming out? How accepting they would be

129. What advice would you give to a girl who is struggling to figure out her sexuality? It takes time. It took me years. Don't settle, experiment, mainly listen to your brain and your heart it'll tell you what you are into and what you are not. And most of all you are amazing no matter what you decide to identify as and you do not need a label.

130. What advice would you give to a girl who is struggling to come out? Do it when you are ready. Don't let others determine that day for you. Do it when you feel comfortable and when you feel safe. You don't have to rush it. You choose who you come out to, when you come out and how you do it. Be confident. Be prepared for bad outcomes and good . Let them know that if they have questions they can feel confortable asking you because they will have questions . And always remwmber you are loved, you are important and you are valid.