#where do y'all get that butch/femme is more accepted? get out of here

[goldxnfemme]

friendly reminder that if you see butches/femmes expressing their joy and love for their butch4femme love (which is still highly stigmatized even within the lesbian community*) and your first thought is that it somehow takes away from YOU then you need to work on yourself

*let's quickly recall what I got told when I made a post about femme identity: "butch/femme looks like a queered version of hetero dynamics"/"The masculine and feminine pair as roles, look exactly like the cishet gender roles"/"this is just like comphet but it's compgender"/"an attempt to also hide ourselves for safety, by appearing cishet at a glance"/"it looks like boy/girl but wlw instead" a sapphic told me these btw

[aurelxi]

how much will you hate me if i say do at least half of them??? maybe split them up odds or evens idc just like,,, it’s pride be gay i wuv u 💞

I rolled a d420 to decide whether id do odds or evens and it landed on odds so here we go !!

1: did you ever think you were straight?

pretty much all my life everyone besides me knew I was hella gay. I didn’t fully accept it until I was like 14 because I so did not want all the bullies in my life to have been right

3: are you femme, butch, or neither?

I haven’t really gotten to be in an environment where I get to explore myself too much tbh but knowing myself id say im probsss gonna be a hella femme bitch and im totally stoked to actually express that someday ^^

5: what’s the worst part about being a lesbian?

100% the inability to actually gauge whether or not a girl actually likes me asdjsdkfhgjl

7: how long were you questioning for?

I think 13-15 was my questioning period? ive been pretty confident with my identity since then ^^

9: what do you look for in a girl?

I have no clue at this point tbh I think I just want a girl who sees me as their equal and is excited to talk about our interests?

11: do you have a crush right now?

nope ^^ I just recently got over a crush and have been enjoying some me time and gaying out over shows n junk its been the best (but if somebody wants to swoon me over, by all means definitely try)

13: is there anyone in your life right now you think you’ll date in the future?

hmmm I dont think so. most of the people I have in my life are amazing friends and im happy like that ^^ (seriously if any of y'all out there have a crush on me I will retract this statement of platonic-ness im gay and full of love)

15: do you think you’ve met your future wife yet?

I dont think so but life is just full of fun surprises ^^

16: top, bottom, or vers?

im throwing this one in to say im a top im still salty bout all y'all telling me ive got the personality of a bottom?? like that cyberbullying keeps me up

17: is there anyone you wish you could fuck right now?

not anyone in particular tbh

19: how many stereotypes do you fit into?

well I really love tegan and sarah and xena and I was gonna continue but tegan and sarah and xena needs to actually happen in some capacity please im begging

21: do you have a good gaydar?

im pretty sure I do based on the time before I actually talked to @chaichaichuu but also chai ur just really fuckin gay so it was hella obvious

23: are you cis?

not a bit

25: are you committed to someone at all right now emotionally?

nope ;;

27: is there someone you’d like to be in a serious relationship in?

I mean I said im over my crush but if they asked me out I definitely would not be opposed

29: is your family accepting of your sexuality?

most of them are. just not my mom who’s definitely the worst ever ;;

31: are you polyamorous or monogamous?

im pretty sure im monogamous? idk I just never saw myself with more than one partner but who knowssss

33: have you ever been to a gay bar?

bold of you to assume I leave the house

35: describe your dream girlfriend

sweet, kind, fun, energetic, doesn’t put up with my bullshit, short curly hair, beautiful singing voice?? PLEASE I just remembered im so fuckin ggay for voices I love pretty voices more than ANYTHING

37: what elements of gay culture do you actively participate in?

uhhhhhh being bad at math and really wanting a girlfriend. not driving but thats for a different reason

39: would you rather adopt a kid or have a biological kid?

tbh id rather adopt just because ive had such an unhappy childhood id love to be there for some kid and save them from any sort of unhappiness. like,, my biological family hardly means shit to me but my friends are definitely who id consider my family way more even if ive never actually met them irl so I could definitely love a kid who wasn’t my own blood as family ^^

also ty so much for asking all these I love you so much !!!!