#this is stupid but relatable? perhaps? perchance? i hope!£

[auntiejohn]

I do enjoy being british because our accents are banging and we have some great things like the great british bake off and ceechynaa and we do have some amazing words such as leng and nyash HOWEVER I will never experience an american high school and that makes me sad sometimes

[m1ckeyb3rry]

Finally back to my chronically online era for the time being hoping it stays that way for while LOL

LMAOOO nooo this unfortunately is the grind type of grass so not particularly enjoyable shskdhs and trust me no amount of good influence could make me stop being online HAHAHA also you’ve probably already noticed but idk why sometimes there’ll just be a random a at the top of my reply idk why maybe im accidentally hitting a key when I paste into the ask box but um yeah just ignore that LMAO

So true I rarely ever see people striking the sweet spot that balances the on field asshole off field sweetheart!! Atp everything in the miraverse will slowly become canon oaeu so true I love the chigiri and nagi bff dynamic even them first talking in the 4v4 dorm was so cute!!!

NO BECAUSE ME TOO??? Heavy on the otoya and also I see so many CLICKBAIT KARASU EDITS BUT ITS ACTUALLY RIN UGH like it’ll show karasus intro or him from the additional time and flip to Rin like no stay where you are and edit my man please…..wait if the Barou editors started editing Karasu….wait…..no because they’ve got TASTE the music choice is always on point they make him look so scrumptious

UAHAHSHDHS REAL if Mira goes down I do too I’m crying but yeah why did he kinda kinda good there…..the power of an edit….,

We’re fr just on the same page LMAOOA because same I thought he was just being goofy and saying something like his “bakyuun” (???) hearing it side by side with the air horn has me cackling

HAHAHAHA Aiku would SO make Niko do tiktok trends with him wait imagine he drags him along to do those stupid street interviews like either the ones asking about opinions or like the “call your bffs bf to see if he’s cheating” or the “I’ll buy you anything if you don’t speak”

Always serving and saving my fyp fr thank you for your service o7 idk why but my fyp fr never floods with bllk actually what’s funny is I actually get more haikyuu content than bllk but I don’t even interact with or watch haikyuu content so??? And FR T-10 hours until ep2 im so hyped especially because the ep title is “assassin and ninja” so we KNOW karasus gonna be all over the episode

LMAOOO perhaps the next few episodes will persuade you….perchance….im crying it’s like nagi and Karasu shared custody battle over your theme or something LOL

HAHAHSH classic Mira activities /j it’s ok extra time just means more time to marinate and cook!!! Very excited to read the final product though!!

- Karasu anon

AHAHA YAYY WELCOME BACK!! and yeah ikwym like sometimes the grind takes over and you have to just lock in for a bit but then once it’s over the feeling of being chronically online once more is so refreshing!! and dw hehe i usually mentally filter it out and figure it’s smth funky going on w tumblr like usual

LONG LIVE OAEU it’s basically canon to ME like everything in it actually happened…omg only tangentially related but i missed having you to make silly jokes with because i’ve been forced to post them raw to the world and some people take them WAY too seriously and start yapping about how i’m being dramatic or interpreting characters incorrectly or whatever 😭 like uhhhh well. yes i AM exaggerating that’s how jokes work obviously i don’t view the characters that way irl 😓 sometimes the analysis grind takes over and people forget that you can just be lighthearted and silly about characters sometimes too but anyways…very happy to have you back…

BRO OMG THERE’S SO MANY EDITS WHERE IT STARTS OFF W KARASU AND SWITCHES TO RIN UGH FLIP THE CAMERA BACK GIRL I WANT THE CROW BOY!!!! i feel like barou fans need to like karasu he’s basically barou but slightly skinnier and with shorter hair KSDJFHSLKD like come on guys he’s made for you all to like him…edit him…please edit him…i’m on my knees PLEASEEEE at least otoya is getting love though??? but i’m actually so shocked that otoya has more fans than karasu HELP

WE ARE INSEPARABLE if i ever convert i will literally bring you with me i can’t convert on my own…no because that edit lowkey did him too well i was like huh ig i see it now 😩 not enough to like actually change my opinions though because the itoshi bro fanbase is a little too annoying for my liking so i could never join willingly but i do see the vision yk

YES it’s like an established thing for him to just make random noises so i thought this was some weird ninja bs he was on but no he’s actually just chill like that ig 😭 ugh i need to work on pursuit more so i can finally write him and karasu in that verse they are truly my goats and pursuit otoya especially has exactly that kind of humor where he just references dumb stuff constantly LKSJDF

HELP OH MY GOD HE WOULD he makes niko film him stopping random girls on the street or like niko’s holding the camera and the ring light while aiku does his little thirst traps or smth…aikuniko duo forever famous i will always love them

wait that is weird that you don’t get as much bllk 🤨 i will do my best to provide and serve…anyways animation on this ep wasn’t STELLAR however karasu looked so good and his voiceeeee oh my god and that one scene of his hands LKSJDF I HOPE YOU KNOW THE ONE it literally redeemed everything for me idgaf that abt the animation or wtvr i’m just happy we got to seem him 😩 i think karasu does look more majestic in the manga art style (maybe because the smirk doesn’t translate quite as well to movement and talking??) but he still looked rlly good!! and that one scene of him in the bambi osaka kit hehehe he’s so muscular omg i was fr giggling and kicking my feet every time he came on the screen (also we got the iconic “he’s…a villain 😱” line i’m sorry that will never not crack me up)

PLSSS KARASU AND NAGI CUSTODY BATTLE i wish they had majestic panels together so i could do a joint nagi and karasu theme…they have a lot of silly ones from the shibuya chapters but idk if it’s theme worthy…lowkey what i could do is have my header be one of the silly panels and then do one nagi panel and one karasu panel in my theme so that it’s still both of them?? idk i’ll have to think on it

HELP DO YOU KNOW HOW LONG IT IS ATM??? 15K AND I’M NOT EVEN DONE i never want to hear someone saying i don’t write as much for my opps EVER again it literally just depends on the way the request is formatted SLKDJFD like as long as you give me something i can work with i WILL cook it’s literally just people giving me the most specific scenarios with little plot that gets me to write shorter…not that there’s anything wrong with that those are fun to!! but it’s proof that it’s not the character as much as it is the scenario which gets me to do more or less ☝🏻 but anyways i’m kind of in the final section of it so hopefully that means it’ll be out before i go to bed tonight

[fideidefenswhore]

Hello! I hope you’re having a nice day and I’m not bothering you. Regarding this post, I haven’t read Sarah Gristwood’s book so I was really surprised to see that it’s possible Henry didn’t have an affair with Mary Boleyn? I was wondering what the evidence is for this? Sorry if this is a stupid question, I’m still pretty new to Tudor history and I’m only just recently learning that most of the things I’ve read in historical fiction novels aren’t strictly factual.

I mean, it's pretty much what she says? The Latin has been interpreted in those two ways, but more commonly as alluding to Henry's sexual past with Mary Boleyn. It's not the first time Latin in a dispensation has been interpreted variously, either. The wording of the dispensation for Henry VIII to wed Catherine of Aragon is so questionable that hers remains the Bermuda Triangle of Virginities to this day:

“The word translated as ‘perhaps’ is forsan. Its root is fors (‘chance’ or ‘luck’) and its usual meaning is indeed ‘perhaps’ or ‘perchance.’ In this usage, forsan expresses a strong doubt about the marriage  having been consummated. But forsan is sometimes used to state a fact, just as in English we say ‘something chanced or fortuned,’ when we mean ‘something happened.’ In which case the meaning becomes the opposite: ‘This marriage happens to have been consummated.'

Make sense? No? Well, it didn’t clear things up in the 16th century either, so you’re in good company."

So, it's not a stupid question, but it's very hard to prove something didn't happen, she is just stating (as most do not) that we don't actually have definitive proof that Mary Boleyn was ever Henry's mistress. What we do have is a collection of circumstantial evidence, most of which, taken altogether (and this is my opinion, fwiw) makes that seem rather likely.

I think what's easier for your question is just to lay out all the evidence, timeline-wise:

A series of land grants given to her husband, William Carey. To me, this is one of the weakest of Eric Ives' arguments as laid out in his AB biography. Very circumstantial, Henry made land grants to a lot of noblemen.... it is true he granted many to Bessie Blount and her husband after her marriage (more often in her favor, and sometimes to his exclusion, which was rare, the same with her daughter). But, if we're following that MO for Henry, then these land grants, if anything, seem more likely to be granted, if they're in connection with Mary Boleyn, after their affair, not during, much like again, with Blount.

The dispensation request in 1527, this is generally treated as the "smoking gun": "Of this there is no direct proof, but the statement rests upon contemporary belief and chiefly upon the extraordinary terms of the dispensation granted to Henry to marry Anne Boleyn, which included the suspension of all canons relating to impediments created by "affinity rising ex illicito coitu in any degree even in the first." Here's, since it was asked, arguments against this specifically referring to Mary Boleyn-- some of them are decent (I do think the question of why would Catherine never bring this up is a salient one, the argument could be made that she didn't want to 'shame' her husband-- and she did always see him as her husband-- but I think by the point the hero-worship dimmed enough that she was actively petitioning for his excommunication, she surely would have brought this up, if she knew of it), some are weak. I brought up that 1504 dispensation because if C.O.A partisans want to claim the "perhaps consummated and perhaps not" does not mean anything and that it was just her parents 'covering all their bases in the wording to any objections that could possibly be raised in the future’, as one typically did with dispensations, then that has to apply here, too. Food for thought.

I mentioned earlier that since the focus is always on the 'first degree of affinity', the "second or third degree of consanguinity" is interesting, too. I believe it refers to a dispensation covering that Henry had a previous sexual relationship with one of Anne's first cousins. Looking at all the rumored mistresses altogether, I believe the most likely candidate is Elizabeth Carew.

This one is not spoken of much, I'm not going to dig up the specific quotes right now, but I do recall several comments by Chapuys in his dispatches that referred to the marriage of Henry and Anne being 'more incestuous and unlawful' than the former. He never specifically refers to Mary Boleyn as the reason for this belief, but I assume that was what he was getting at. If it was left at just 'unlawful' I would assume he was referring to bigamy.

To bring up Chapuys, a general argument is that this is what was brought up by the Aragonese/ Seymour faction. If they were clever, I don't think it was: "She is also advised to tell the King boldly how his marriage is detested by the people, and none consider it lawful; and on the occasion when she shall bring forward the subject, there ought to be present none but titled persons, who will say the same if the King put them upon their oath of fealty." So, I think if they understood Henry, they wouldn't claim the marriage was unlawful either because it took place while Catherine was alive (I don't think Jane quite understood how vehemently he felt about the invalidity of that marriage when she asked for Mary's reinstatement, but that came later), and they wouldn't claim it was unlawful or unpopular because it was known that Mary Boleyn was his mistress. Both of those things would have been critical of him, and he didn't really take well to that. In all likelihood, what they probably brought up was the rumors of precontract with Henry Percy...tellingly, that is the Achilles' heel Cromwell goes for during the Boleyn downfall.

Chapuys, May 1536: “ Yesterday the archbishop of Canterbury declared by sentence that the Concubine's daughter was the bastard of Mr. Norris, and not the King's daughter. This already removes an obstacle in the way of the Princess, who, I hope, whatever difficulty the King has made hitherto, will be declared true heiress of the kingdom, not as born of lawful marriage, but as legitimate propter bonam fidem parentum. Others tell me that the said Archbishop had pronounced the marriage of the King and Concubine invalid on account of the King having had connection with her sister, and that, as both parties knew of this, the good faith of the parents cannot make the said bastard legitimate." (I’ll repeat my point about no official document that exists about either, and Chapuys, as he was wont to do, sheepishly tucking his tail between his legs to admit his 1st statement was false in the next dispatch)

Reginald Pole [this is the blueprint for the narrative framework we generally get regarding Anne & Mary Boleyn, and often just the former herself], 1536: “She, indeed, has said she will make herself available to you on one condition alone. You must reject your wife whose place she desires to hold. This modest woman does not want to be your concubine. She wants to be your wife. I believe that she learned from the example of her sister [...] how quickly you can have your fill of concubines.”

Where did he get that rumor, one might ask, and why bring it up so late? I believe the point of connection was George Throckmorton, who he was in correspondence with. This was GT, when under suspiction of treason in October 1537: “About six or seven years ago conversed with Sir Thos. Dyngley in the garden at St. John's about the Parliament matters. Dyngley wondered that the Act of Appeals should pass so lightly, and Throgmorton said it was no wonder as few would displease my lord Privy Seal. Told Sir Thomas he had been sent for by the King after speaking about that Act, and that he saw his Grace's conscience was troubled about having married his brother's wife. "And I said to him that I told your Grace I feared if ye did marry Queen Anne your conscience would be more troubled at length, for it is thought ye have meddled both with the mother and the sister. And his Grace said 'Never with the mother.' And my lord Privy Seal standing by said 'Nor never with the sister either, and therefore put that out of your mind.'" This was in substance all their communication. Intended no harm to the King, but only out of vainglory to show he was one that durst speak for the common wealth; otherwise he refuses the King's pardon and will abide the most shameful death.”

Anyway, I believe Throckmorton probably relayed this incident to Pole via letter before Pole wrote (7), or perhaps Peto did during his exile. The immediate denial of the former has been viewed as tacit admission of the latter ever since. 

(Thomas Dingley, btw, was “included in a bill of attainder passed under Henry VIII of England; another person on the same bill was Margaret Pole, Countess of Salisbury [...] accused, together with Robert Granceter, merchant, of "going to several foreign princes and persuading them to make war with the King".” One rather wonders, given the timeline, if Throckmorton sold him out, given Throckmorton was eventually cleared of suspicion)

Throckmorton also confirms where he got the story, which was Friar Peto: “Explains his conduct since the beginning of the Parliament of 21 Hen. VIII. Just before that Parliament friar Peto, who was in a tower in Lambeth over the gate, sent for him and showed him two sermons that he and another friar had made before the King at Greenwich, and reported a long conversation he had had with the King in the garden after the sermon. He said he had told the King that he could have no other wife while the Princess Dowager lived unless he could prove carnal knowledge between prince Arthur and her; which he said was impossible, as she, who knew best, had received the Sacrament to the contrary, and she was so virtuous that her word deserved more credit than all the other proofs; that prince Arthur's saying that he had been in the midst of Spain was probably but a light word; and that the King could never marry Queen Anne as it was said he had meddled with the mother and the daughter.”

As far as I’m aware, that is all the evidence that covers “contemporary belief”. My personal belief is that this much smoke ---> probably fire (it is interesting to note that in all these claims/accounts, there is never a mention that the Carey children are believed to have Henry’s paternity), but I do think his relationship with Mary Boleyn was probably brief, probably before she was married. 

Considering all the heinous shit Henry ending up doing, I do find it funny that he was so embarassed about it, though:

Interrogatories to be ministered to Sir George Throgmerton.

First where he says "that it is thought, &c.," let him be examined whom he ever heard say any such thing of the King. (2.) Where, when, and why he spoke "those words" to Sir Wm. Essex, and what conversation ensued. (3.) Ditto with Sir Wm. Barentyne. (4.) Whether he communicated the matter to any other. (5–6.) Whether he thought the words true and why. (7–8.) Whether he did not think the words very slanderous to any man's good name. (9.) Whether he knew not that Sir Thomas Dingley was a man sometime travelling in far countries, whereby he might the rather spread abroad the said infamy. (10–15.) Whether he thinks such reports conducive to the peace of the common weal or fitting for a true subject to spread.

[celestialholz]

Inspired by your recently posted Continuum story and if you still do the event: It ended with Q thinking, he will find out about the others secrets. So what if, in a positive turn of events, he does find them out and can blackmail himself to the top of the proverbial food chain of the Qs. Now he can do whatever he wants without any stupid council telling him no. Picard is torn between feeling glad for Q or unsure about one of the most morally gray beings he knows gaining absolute power.

Oh, excellent. Love a good follow-up! ^_^ Allow me to reward this wonderful ask with something rather different and a little longer than usual, though it may have to avoid our positivity tag just this once…

(Related to this, for context: https://celestialwarzone.tumblr.com/post/615422269797384192/the-continuum-is-not-entirely-sure-what-to-think)

Got any fun, fluffy or just Soft™ headcanons you’d like as fics for our positivity event, friends, despite this delightfully dark diversion? My inbox is open!

Seven o’clock creeps up on Jean-Luc Picard as though through treacle, slow, heavy and plodding; the problem with deep space, he’s been musing since morning, is that everything is so desperately far away, and inevitably, there are days where little of merit can be accomplished until they’re where they ought to be. With a sigh of something suspiciously like relief, he heads from the ready room and his sixth tea of the day to meet his First, deeply glad to leave the trail of electronic paperwork behind.

“Long day, sir?” Riker asks conversationally, though the question is rather rhetorical; he imagines the weariness will be etched into his features, plain for all to witness. Inactivity has never really suited him for any length of time, and this is their second day in a row of simply ‘boldly going’.

“At least we’re only several hours away from Deep Space Eleven,” he replies simply, expression quirking into reassurance. “Can’t imagine you’re faring any better.”

Riker’s lips twist into a warm grin. “Well, at least holodeck two’s been mostly free. You’re relieved, Captain.”

“Oh, you have no idea,” comes the dry riposte, the grateful smile. “Safe travels, Number One.”

“Is that an order, sir? I could really go for a battle fleet right about now.”

Amusement creeps into a smirk, head shaking.

“Yes,” he answers wryly as the turbolift doors slide shut. “Deck nine, officer’s quarters.”

Safe from prying eyes, Picard lets out a lengthy sigh; he’d always been more tolerant of steadiness before Q’s continued presence in his personal life, acknowledging it as something to merely accept as a drawback to the job he adored, but forty-nine entire hours of tedium had left him almost wishing he could snap them to their destination himself.

Well, at least he could finally sink his teeth into some delightful diplomacy tomorrow - and in the meantime, perhaps the god could whisk them off somewhere wondrous, full of exploration and academic curiosities to sate… though he’d seemed uncharacteristically distracted recently, and unusually unwilling to discuss the reasons.

An ancient city, perchance, he ponders quietly as he makes his way down hallways. Interesting enough to avoid eye contact, quiet enough to speak your mind.

He smiles, keying in his code on autopilot, and as the door opens to simple, vividly white nothingness, all hope of solving the enigma easily fades into the ether of his quarters. It’s uncomfortably familiar, and he’d rather thought they’d moved past such things…

“Q?” He questions softly, stepping in with a series of rapid blinks, beginning to simply wander for lack of a clear path. “Q, why on earth are we back here?”

“Earth, dear? Oh, hardly.”

His brow creases as he finds him, and the prickles race higher up his spine; it’s almost identical, down to his lover’s white robes, the metaphorical distance between them painfully obvious.

To hell with this, he thinks furiously, wasting no time in closing the symbolic gap; there aren’t realms between them now, simply things not yet disclosed, and his hand claims his lover’s in silent acknowledgement.

“What is this, Q?” He urges, grey gaze earnest. “Are you alright?”

Grasped fingers tremble then tighten, free hand flung out to the void.

“You see this, Jean-Luc? It’s mine.”

Something distinctly unpleasant splinters through the captain’s very being. “Yours?”

“Yes.”

“I don’t -” Picard swallows, almost dreading the response. “What does that mean, mon dieu?”

“Oh, whatever I feel like, really,” Q answers cryptically, unnervingly blank for a being usually so theatrical. “What do you think it should mean, mon capitaine - this, perhaps?”

He clicks sharply, and the void shifts instantly to space, pure black and twinkling.

“Or even this.”

Another snap sends them into chaos, swirls of brightly coloured gas spiralling madly around them, and every inch the commanding officer, Picard abandons his astonishment, frantically clasping his other hand in a pointless effort to cease his whims.

“Q!” He states firmly. “That’s enough!”

Disturbingly neutral eyes blaze with the scope of the universe; fire and stoicism, the ultimate parallel. “I don’t need to click, Jean-Luc.”

I know you don’t, but what else am I supposed to - he silences his inner desperation, focuses down. 

“Tell me what’s wrong, dear,” he demands gently. “Please.”

Kindness is all it takes to strip down shields, both clasped hands squeezed almost to the point of pain as a shadow steals over omniscient vision.

“They threatened you.” His voice trembles. “Just before Utirion, they were keeping something secret…”

They’re back to the starkness of white in a blink, though the captain barely notices, too locked to those wondrous eyes, the unfolding, pained narrative.

“I found out, Jean-Luc. Oh, they can misdirect all they like, of course, but the right application of blackmail works wonders.” The faintest of smiles half-raises a lip. “And my son can’t lie to save his own omnipotence. It was written all over his vaguely ionised being.”

“Threatened me?” Picard repeats, desperate for full clarity, and the darkness only seeps further into an anguished deity.

“Oh, only for a moment.” He sets, rigid, livid. “More than long enough.”

An understanding shivers between them for a protracted moment.

“So, you -”

“Made sure it wouldn’t happen again.”

Picard curses himself for the shudder that braces across his shoulders; there was nothing to fear from this entity, he’d long since known that intimately, but that phrasing -

“How?”

A frown etches into an ancient expression for a second, distressed at the clear horror in his beloved human. “I didn’t kill them, I assure you. Oh, I was almost angry enough, but - well, I’ve learned from the best. Billions of years of acquaintance rather familiarises one with weak spots.”

Picard’s mind whirs as he slots together pieces of a bankrupt jigsaw, eyes widening.

“So this, the void, space, is truly - mon dieu -”

“Capital D,” Q expresses, brow quirking. “King of the proverbial hill, Jean-Luc. Captain of the starship Continuum.”

He glances pointedly down at his robes, and Picard balks, spontaneously letting go of hands.

“You are not God!”

His lover’s features flicker in recognition, almost entertained. “I wasn’t, then.”

Picard reels, stepping away, struggling to process the magnitude of what such a concept could mean; he’d always accepted the wealth of power that stood insurmountably between them, but one thing needles at him above all others, a nasty, clawing anguish he can barely describe before the words burst forth.

“… And you did all this for me? To keep me safe?”

Confusion claims the all-powerful entity, stare shining. “And I’ll do it over and over again, if I have to. Didn’t you know that, darling?”

A soft, strangled cry tears itself from Picard, dashing back solely to tightly embrace him.

“You can’t do that!” He protests furiously against a robed chest, even as arms encircle him fiercely. “This isn’t healthy -”

“Less of your human morality, thank you,” Q scolds quietly, eyes falling closed as he drops a kiss to his captain’s skull with a gentle shiver. “I’m reliably informed that homelessness is desperately bad for the soul, Jean-Luc.” 

Tearful eyes meet his, divided almost perfectly by outrage and despair. “I’m not worth this, you fool.”

A head shakes in pure exasperation, expression almost unfathomably tender.

“Au contraire, mon capitaine,” he whispers, and they hover in an extended breath, fractured and ironically whole in perfect harmony.

“Now what?” Rises a deceptively simple question from his beloved, and the ashes of bitterness sweep across Q’s lips, crease into his face as he stares into eyes that believe he’s ultimately capable of using his absolute power for kindness.

It’s enough, he acknowledges silently. It’s always been enough, that belief; it doesn’t require further proof over time.

“Oh, now?” A finger runs up a cheek, smile warm. No regrets, Q. “An ancient city, perhaps… well, at least after you wake up.”

Picard’s gone in an instant after a tender touch to his temple, and God swallows fire.

Jean-Luc Picard has more than enough to deal with. He doesn’t need the burden of knowing the lengths a homeless, frightened entity will go for him, however many times he must.

————–

“Can’t say I’m not mildly offended. Infinite scope of time presented permanently to me, mon capitaine; I run ten minutes late in an exceedingly rare instance of miscalculation, and you fall asleep on me.”

A familiar voice permeates his consciousness, rouses him from a deliciously restful slumber; he blinks, briefly confused, and meets an amused gaze.

“I…” Since when had he ever come back to his quarters and instantly drifted off? “I was asleep?”

“The light was well and truly out, my dear,” Q assures him, eyebrow hitching. “Dull day at the office, I take it?”

He thinks of their seemingly endless trek to Deep Space Eleven and wrinkles his nose just slightly. “Rather, yes. Ought to have asked you for a lift.”

“Indeed,” Q murmurs, gaze piercing. “I’d have done it, too. I’d do anything for you, dear - do hope you know that. Capital of Tenhaglion, then? Rather delightful four millennia ago.”

He offers him a hand, and something in Picard pauses for a long moment as he meets the rich bronze of eternity, the absolute tenderness that resides there, that flashes with the most heated warmth and desperate trust.

… There’s something decidedly different about him today, he acknowledges to himself as he accepts the help, gifts him a bright smile. He’ll have to ask him about it later.

[honeycvntcake]

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As well as you’re not including yourself on the market, trying to stop the questions or perhaps moves?

Do away with Your Fear PLUS Save His or her Manhood You think about just what you’re going to get on on a date. You may think concerning questions you might ask your dog. Why not also think in advance about how precisely you want to react if one of these challenging cases come up?

When you are armed with trustworthy and positive responses, you could avoid halting a potential fantastic date inside of it’s hiking trails. Then, manage your conversation to things that assist two superb people familiarize yourself with one another.

At this point is how my Prepared Fights work:

Here’s an example #1: The causes did you might have divorced?

You can answer: This individual cheated when me therefore i left their sorry bottom.

OR you can try a Prepared Affirmation like this:

Appears divorced By years. It absolutely was a difficult marriage really lot of methods. Maybe even as get to know eath other better we were actually able to share a great deal more. For now I want say that Most of us learned a great deal, especially about precisely how important their that each and every people are prepared and able to communicate emotions. I’m curious… what are your personal big guidelines from your prior relationships?

Sort of this #2: What exactly haven’t any person ever wedded?

You could answer: I just don’t have found the perfect guy. (And, if you’re just as I was with regard to so long, get along with that using a look which says ‘ if you ask me everything else about that I’m going get up along with walk out, any person jerk. ‘)

OR you can use the00 Prepared Confirmation I ultimately started making use of:

I’ve experienced an enjoyable as well as successful employment, enjoy the actual hobbies whilst still being have lovely, promoting relationships in addition to my family along with friends. We am AND FOR THAT REASON looking forward to seeking for a partner to express the fantastic lives caused by created. Why not you? Exactly what you ready for in your approaching?

Have you established how my Prepared Keywords work?

Any person tell him numerous truth, within your boundaries. (He deserves which will. He’s going to get to know that you. On very first dates, nonetheless, he will not need facts. ) You make sure he understands the advantages about your existing and/or regarding the experience. You segue into a linked. meaningful concern that helps you’re able to know your dog and start a new grown-up conversation. How about in case he goes in for your unwanted obtaining? (He is not grossing an individual out, nevertheless, you definitely am often not ready. )

You could leap back and claim NOOOO WAYYYY!

OR you can take a breath, look them in the eyesight and declare:

Bob, I am enjoying studying the needs regarding you and wish to know more… but I am not looking forward to that still. I hope functions for you.

Someone tell him the simple fact. You set your existing boundary. Take action kindly, excluding him feeling kicked from balls.

Persons check in applying him to check out some important about him. When he’s the, maybe you may still start a adult conversation relating to physicality within the relationship. (And if he is not together with keeps searching for, run for the hills following calling him or her whatever you’d be interested. )

I am guessing you might have fumbled on the answer to a variety of gnarly requests before. One of two goods happen:

Variety you feel unpleasant, damnit!! Your own personal fight or flight impulse kicks within. You turn off. You decide your dog is a elegant. You want to affect him!

Precisely what NOT to do after you answer their question NOOO. Are likely do this!

Or perhaps you go the actual TMI route; sharing an enormous amount of. This undoubtedly devolves proper bitch getaway about your exes or displays him some thing special in relation to yourself that they ought definitely not know.

Similarly responses usually are first period killers, mate.

Important: You no longer need to count on everything he might ask as well as might achieve. I’m most certainly not saying this. But you most certainly have people few things that give you in which “ Stuff. I feel icky and coming from control” sense when requested or every time done to any individual.

For me ? testosterone levels had been the ‘ why have never you been married yet’ question. (Still makes myself cringe! )

I’ve reviewed to quite a few super ingenious women who include told me simply how much they regretted their step to a guy they wanted to perspective again.

Unfortunately they recognize this adhering to your date. If so it’s too late.

So , as an option to crossing your current fingers along with hoping they doesn’t query that terrifying question along with go in for often the kiss, make the effort to prepare often the grownup manner in which you want to act in response.

When you do, you may strike once again thing off your pair of Why Online dating Sucks. Since you see… you may be prepared together with skills as well as the precise item information that allow you to remedy dates daily life. You can get to uncover the men someone meet better. You can have more fun!!

That is the best way set yourself up to get second, lastly and endless dates with the obligation man!

Therefore tell me… what are the concerns you loathe to get asked? How are you answering them or maybe, better yet, hoin what way would15351 able to answer all these now that you know how to use tidy statements?

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How Do You Alternative His Doubt When It May feel Rude as well as Scary?

When you find yourself dating aiming to get to know 1 another, there’s a top notch chance quality guy ask any person all kinds of worries. How do you solution his problem that looks rude, or maybe that gives a person that correct because you have no clue how to answer.

Men might ask some pretty unsure and stupid questions, proper? And they can make some moves leaving all of us wondering ‘ what the in addition to was they thinking? ”

Instead of incorporating your arms and anticipating he doesn’t ask this particular scary query or с the make out and coat, take a little time to help ready the grown-up way in which you need to respond.

The reason did you receive divorced?

The reason why have you filled so many spots?

What you do for that living? (And you’re involving gigs. )

And the best: The key reason why haven’t a person ever been engaged to be married???

Arrggh! Just about every date I put developed over the 30-ish years My spouse and i became single said that freaking question! Each one time, issues i heard appeared to be: What is WRONG along??? ” Pissed me speedily.

Oh… in addition to about when he hmu.com/russian-brides makes this kind of unexpected move? This individual goes in to obtain a kiss and also you are SO not likely ready for this kind of.

How do you improve with his concern, or answer something she or he does this kind of knocks an individual off-balance? Honestly, in the event he’s a great all-around impolite jerk requesting a bunch of personalised questions, I truly don’t proper care how you reply. Tell him your pet is a snazzy jerk and give up.

But if you fundamentally LIKE the man, how you solution something that astonished you could make difference including you keeping single… or finding grown-up love.

You observe, if everything else is going well… he’s been recently respectful, he’s got nice sufficient looking and perchance you ridiculed a little… you don’t want to let a minute define you… or indicate him!

Have a look at face the product: sh%t takes place two people trying to get to know one other. You don’t want to respond in a fashion that totally transforms off an otherwise good man, right?

If you think he gets into for a kiss and lick and riff and you step back in horror… that girl is going to feel embarrassed. He’s recently been emasculated. Your puppy is not intending to call anyone again.

In the event it he demands about your prior relationships so you answer which include snippy, protecting response… he’s going to assume you happen to be a snippy and shielding woman. She has not vulnerable to call you will again.

What the results are if he’s a fantastic guy together with partner possible who simply went away from (your) script for a small?

I’ve learned that most the makers of unichip really typically are not idiots. They might be asking sensible questions… conceivably indelicately. (Don’t you want to realize why any kind of 50-year old fart has never married? Or the explanation he’s been recently divorced twofold? )

And maybe he’s trying to touch or perhaps kiss an individual because he is attracted to anyone and has misinterpreted your signals? That doesn’t produce him a horrible man you ought to run via. Maybe the item implies you just need have fun with a grownup discussion.

The truth is there is a few questions or even man-moves that you can anticipate… still you’re ongoing to be caught off-guard.

As well as you’re not including yourself on the market, trying to stop the questions or perhaps moves?

Do away with Your Fear PLUS Save His or her Manhood You think about just what you’re going to get on on a date. You may think concerning questions you might ask your dog. Why not also think in advance about how precisely you want to react if one of these challenging cases come up?

When you are armed with trustworthy and positive responses, you could avoid halting a potential fantastic date inside of it’s hiking trails. Then, manage your conversation to things that assist two superb people familiarize yourself with one another.

At this point is how my Prepared Fights work:

Here’s an example #1: The causes did you might have divorced?

You can answer: This individual cheated when me therefore i left their sorry bottom.

OR you can try a Prepared Affirmation like this:

Appears divorced By years. It absolutely was a difficult marriage really lot of methods. Maybe even as get to know eath other better we were actually able to share a great deal more. For now I want say that Most of us learned a great deal, especially about precisely how important their that each and every people are prepared and able to communicate emotions. I’m curious… what are your personal big guidelines from your prior relationships?

Sort of this #2: What exactly haven’t any person ever wedded?

You could answer: I just don’t have found the perfect guy. (And, if you’re just as I was with regard to so long, get along with that using a look which says ‘ if you ask me everything else about that I’m going get up along with walk out, any person jerk. ‘)

OR you can use the00 Prepared Confirmation I ultimately started making use of:

I’ve experienced an enjoyable as well as successful employment, enjoy the actual hobbies whilst still being have lovely, promoting relationships in addition to my family along with friends. We am AND FOR THAT REASON looking forward to seeking for a partner to express the fantastic lives caused by created. Why not you? Exactly what you ready for in your approaching?

Have you established how my Prepared Keywords work?

Any person tell him numerous truth, within your boundaries. (He deserves which will. He’s going to get to know that you. On very first dates, nonetheless, he will not need facts. ) You make sure he understands the advantages about your existing and/or regarding the experience. You segue into a linked. meaningful concern that helps you’re able to know your dog and start a new grown-up conversation. How about in case he goes in for your unwanted obtaining? (He is not grossing an individual out, nevertheless, you definitely am often not ready. )

You could leap back and claim NOOOO WAYYYY!

OR you can take a breath, look them in the eyesight and declare:

Bob, I am enjoying studying the needs regarding you and wish to know more… but I am not looking forward to that still. I hope functions for you.

Someone tell him the simple fact. You set your existing boundary. Take action kindly, excluding him feeling kicked from balls.

Persons check in applying him to check out some important about him. When he’s the, maybe you may still start a adult conversation relating to physicality within the relationship. (And if he is not together with keeps searching for, run for the hills following calling him or her whatever you’d be interested. )

I am guessing you might have fumbled on the answer to a variety of gnarly requests before. One of two goods happen:

Variety you feel unpleasant, damnit!! Your own personal fight or flight impulse kicks within. You turn off. You decide your dog is a elegant. You want to affect him!

Precisely what NOT to do after you answer their question NOOO. Are likely do this!

Or perhaps you go the actual TMI route; sharing an enormous amount of. This undoubtedly devolves proper bitch getaway about your exes or displays him some thing special in relation to yourself that they ought definitely not know.

Similarly responses usually are first period killers, mate.

Important: You no longer need to count on everything he might ask as well as might achieve. I’m most certainly not saying this. But you most certainly have people few things that give you in which “ Stuff. I feel icky and coming from control” sense when requested or every time done to any individual.

For me ? testosterone levels had been the ‘ why have never you been married yet’ question. (Still makes myself cringe! )

I’ve reviewed to quite a few super ingenious women who include told me simply how much they regretted their step to a guy they wanted to perspective again.

Unfortunately they recognize this adhering to your date. If so it’s too late.

So , as an option to crossing your current fingers along with hoping they doesn’t query that terrifying question along with go in for often the kiss, make the effort to prepare often the grownup manner in which you want to act in response.

When you do, you may strike once again thing off your pair of Why Online dating Sucks. Since you see… you may be prepared together with skills as well as the precise item information that allow you to remedy dates daily life. You can get to uncover the men someone meet better. You can have more fun!!

That is the best way set yourself up to get second, lastly and endless dates with the obligation man!

Therefore tell me… what are the concerns you loathe to get asked? How are you answering them or maybe, better yet, hoin what way would15351 able to answer all these now that you know how to use tidy statements?

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