#they were gatekeeping this for so LONG

[pedgito]

not a word from any of you

[anghraine]

jenndoesnotcare replied to this post:

Every time LDS kids come to my neighborhood I am so so nice to them. I hope they remember the blue haired lady who was kind, when people try to convince them the outside world is bad and scary. (Also they are always so young! I want to feed them cookies and give them Diana Wynne Jones books or something)

Thank you! Honestly, this sort of kindness can go a really long way, even if it doesn't seem like it at the time.

LDS children and missionaries (and the majority of the latter are barely of age) are often the people who interact the most with non-Mormons on a daily basis, and thus are kind of the "face" of the Church to non-Mormons a lot of the time. As a result, they're frequently the ones who actually experience the brunt of antagonism towards the Church, which only reinforces the distrust they've already been taught to feel towards the rest of the world.

It's not that the Church doesn't deserve this antagonism, but a lot of people seem to take this enormous pride in showing up Mormon teenagers who have spent most of their lives under intense social pressure, instruction, expectation, and close observation from both their peers and from older authorities in the Church (it largely operates on seniority, so young unmarried people in particular tend to have very little power within its hierarchies). Being "owned" for clout by non-Mormons doesn't prove anything to most of them except that their leaders and parents are right and they can't trust people outside the Church.

The fact that the Church usually does provide a tightly-knit community, a distinct and familiar culture, and a well-developed infrastructure for supporting its members' needs as long as they do [xyz] means that there can be very concrete benefits to staying in the Church, staying closeted, whatever. So if, additionally, a Mormon kid has every reason to think that nobody outside the Church is going to extend compassion or kindness towards them, that the rest of the world really is as hostile and dangerous as they've been told, the stakes for leaving are all the higher, despite the costs of staying.

So people from "outside" who disrupt this narrative of a hostile, threatening world that cannot conceivably understand their experiences or perspectives can be really important. It's important for them to know that there are communities and reliable support systems outside the Church, that leaving the Church does not have to mean being a pariah in every context, that there are concrete resources outside the Church, that compassion and decency in ordinary day-to-day life is not the province of any particular religion or sect and can be found anywhere. This kind of information can be really important evidence for people to have when they are deciding how much they're willing to risk losing.

So yeah, all of this is to say that you're doing a good thing that may well provide a lifeline for very vulnerable people, even if you don't personally see results at the time.

[cam0mi1e]

so about my audhd assessment

I wasn’t diagnosed. But. Doctor said that i need to see a specialist. And generally it was kinda confusing. She said that I, like, almost qualify for autism, tho my mom probably said that all things that i said were bullshit. And she discarded adhd because i wasn’t neurotic enough?????? Even though i told her that I practically had meltdowns for 2 previous days. And all other symptoms are there. And she said that i just have anger issues??????? Even though emotional outbursts are a legit thing that adhders expirience???????????

I feel like she just forgot half the shit that i told her before? But she said that she’ll refer me to another specialist.

Honestly i just think that she disregarded my experiences because they’re “subjective ”, and maybe because she thought it might be a teenager thing. It felt like she just didn’t asknoveleged (how the fuck do i spell) things that i didn’t explicitly stated, like, in bold letters but with words. To be fair she might’ve had couple good points but it might be just because in my family lotsa people r similar to me and my mother’s opinion is just as subjective. By her words I didn’t have repetitive behaviours even though I literally rewatched same 3 cartoons all the time. And lined up and sorted toys, and preferred not to engage in imaginative play.

Tbh it’s just confused me more and i will cry when i get back home. Also that thing with ignoring my perception. And lying about letting me ask questions in the end of the sesh.:,,,(

Tldr: Self diagnosis rules. I know myself better and it was just an another case in support of that statement.

[helenofblackthorns]

see everyone loves Alastair now... I see how it is

[nexus-nebulae]

known we were a system for about 7 years now, probably been a system for far longer, and just realised. we got an intrusive self-fakeclaiming thought today and laughed it away

[blitzythefanvergentpitsterthings]

[girl-in-the-mirrorbluenight]

I do sometimes feel like being a pre-hatchetfield fan does make me a bit of a fandom old at the ripe age of (almost) 25 lol. Even though I was not an actual original fan (pretty close though) I do feel like at least my youtube comments are mostly people who got into starkid as teens and young adults in the past couple or years, even the people who are around my age (or older) a lot of them discovered starkid through firebringer or hatchetfield. But my secret is I have an older sister so I got a look into some of that stuff a little bit before some of my peers who were the oldest children which is why I've been a starkid fan since I was 11 lol

[rararasputins-dick-mind-control]

HELLO NEW IHNMAIMS FANS HELLO HELLO HELLO WELCOME HI!!!!!

[pupkou]

trans people who have had the luxury of transitioning that don’t celebrate other trans people being able to start ..

[alackofclareity]

ohhhhhh denial for some aspects of my trauma but not others is so... it's so much. I can't explain some of these things away. other things simply couldn't have taken place that way, but there's some kernel of truth in these memories and I feel like I can maybe, just maybe, see the shape of what was done to me and why my mind constructed the aspects it did to hide the full truth. I feel like my brain is going to combust trying to understand any of this.

[lepakonpaska]

good evening i got an apprenticeship at an explicitly queer friendly and punk tattoo studio with a view of the sea within a 20 minute walking distance of my home and have been unable to focus on anything all day because this feels like a dream and i really don't want to wake up from it

[scattered-winter]

looking to fuck myself up this weekend inquiring top 5 jason comics :)

while there are in fact very many jason comics in this world, asking for 5 good ones is a very tall order. nevertheless I did my best because I love he :]

5: batman: a death in the family

as depressing at it is, it's a great look into the catalyst event that really created jason as he is today <3 it has some.....less than stellar moments (joker becoming an islamic diplomat for some fucking reason, for one. what the fuck, dc) but overall if you're looking for being fucked up <3 that's a good way to go <3 and also a very good starting point for jason comics in general if you're getting into them for the first time!!!*

4: wayne family adventures (on webtoon)

funky and fun :] if you're looking for basic info/characterization on jason (or ANY batman character, tbh) it's a pretty good place to start for people who don't know who they like yet/where else to go. I will say that the character portrayals are VERY surface-level and since the webtoon is more of a comedy/slice of life genre, a lot of the....darker, messier aspects of the characters are left out, and some of the fanon characterizations have some influence on the writing from what I've seen. however it's very good for some fun shenanigans that don't require much brainpower <3

3: countdown: search for ray palmer

jaykyle bible <3 I also really love jason's characterization in this one as well, which is fairly hard to come by because his writing is so inconsistent. if you want clarification on the huge crisis event that this comic is part of, I am the Wrong person to ask <3 I largely ignore the big crises because they're so fucking confusing and I have a brain the size of a peanut

2: red hood: lost days

second to utrh only because of The Unspoken Thing that happens at the end of one of the issues (I.....cannot remember which one for the LIFE of me) that every jason fan has collectively wiped from their memory <3 it never happened <3333 but other than unspoken horrors, it's a good jason read!!! it shows some background on how he grew and changed after his resurrection into the red hood

1: batman: under the red hood

here it is <3 the red hood bible <3 every time someone has an incorrect idea of how jason acts/thinks I am waving this comic under their nose and assigning it like homework. imo this one is essential reading to understand red hood jason and if I had my way it would be required to read before writing ANYTHING about him (both canon dc writers and fanfic writers smfh)

*it's a good place to get into jason if you want to read about him as red hood, since that's the kickoff that begins his red hood journey, but if you want to read more about him as robin it's one of the last things you read. unfortunately I haven't read very many robin!jason comics since (while i LOVE the boy!!!!) he isn't as interesting to me as red hood!jason, but there are people you can ask for recs!!! @/autisticredhood would be a great person to ask for robin jason comics I think <3

ask me my top 5/10 anything!!

[notjanine]

i’ve submitted well over 50 job applications this summer. tell me why the one (1) position i’ve made the most progress toward is one i didn’t even apply for???* and THEN. yesterday. one of my preceptors from the internship i just finished emailed me out of the blue like Hey i'm gonna have an open position at my private practice soon, are you interested?** girl what the fuck is going on here***

[pocket-size-cthulhu]

Ok not to get verbose on a succinct and effective post but I truly don't understand it when people want to get all gatekeepy about queerness. All this discourse around bisexuals in het relationships, or "cishet-presenting" white she/theys or whatever--isn't it exhausting? Shouldn't you be excited instead? I don't understand why it's threatening and not exciting. Haven't we always believed queerness is more common than cishet society wants us to believe? Haven't we always been all about believing people about themselves? And maybe most importantly, what harm does it do to you for someone who seems cishet allosexual to say that they're queer? And is it worse than the harm you do when you gatekeep queerness from them?

Pride season is approaching and if I hear ANYONE speak poorly of bisexual women with boyfriends/husbands I’ll pop all your tires okay thx for listeninggg <3

[nexus-nebulae]

really trying to be patient and wait for my brain to go back to normal over time but by god do i want to just obliterate creative block with a hammer

[clearallcathy]

i guess it Is possible to get press on nails to last a pretty long time but like why would you