#the biphobia here is actually exhausting

[starsarefire824]

Why can’t we all agree that Mike is queer. Mike Wheeler is a queer person. Why does it fucking matter if he is gay or bi or somewhere else. Sure, the possibility of Mike being bi speaks to me. But I would firmly accept Mike being gay if that’s what the show makes explicit. Why are you so offended at his bi-ness being a real possibility???

[jellyfemmedyke]

"I'll also say that this is sometimes supported by the trans man creators, like Jammidoger. It's not just the trans women, it's not just the essayists […]" & "you should feel gender affirmed from the violence done to you because that's just how men are actually".

Thing is, until I found trans men/masc people talking about transmisandry/transandrophobia online, every time I tried interacting with my local trans community, especially with other trans men/masc people, has included them all parroting or agreeing with the above sentiments, and it's why I stopped going to my local support group or interacting with them at all. Hearing those things from some well-known and respected trans women and men in our local community and getting pushback when I wanted to talk about trans masc issues, was just so disappointing.

Which is why I'm happy Jessie made that video and came to the conclusion she did. I left a comment just about my opinion on the matter, that while yes I've felt left out on her videos and wish she included our perspective more often, I also remind myself that she and her co-writer are both trans femme. So I don't take it as intentionally or even unintentionally leaving us out, it's a side effect of people writing what they know, however, that's exactly why I watch her, to get a better perspective for myself of trans women/femme issues.

But there were also lots of trans men and masc people in the comments who said a lot more about what our issues are and the harm it does to exclude us, how we do face similar or even the same kind of violence for the same reasons as trans women and femme people, and that often, her exclusion of us in her videos (especially the Barbie one) is adding onto the already exhaustive history of transandrophobia from within the trans community. While I've not changed or added to my comment, in the face of those others, it felt lacking, but I'm also really kinda exhausted at this point, since I've been fighting against biphobia from both cishet and other queer people most of my life now, so in the face of transandrophobia, I just have no more fight in me and have resorted to elevating the voices of others who do.

Sorry for the rant, you don't have to respond, I guess I just wanted to say thank you for getting a ball rolling and here's hoping it goes farther than other attempts before this.

Hey! I think I actually saw your comment, I thought about it a lot too which is is cool that it's bringing me full circle here but I do also agree in part that because they are trans femmes their thoughts and opinions are bound to be almost exclusively from their perspective. I do also watch for that perspective in part as well, but I feel that bigger trans creators who talk about trans topics, need to remember that there isn't just that one kind.

They have the opportunity to make a difference, to give others a voice, a voice which severely lacking in these spaces. I'm not going to wholesale blame them for perpetuating transandrophobia or anything, but if you're making a video on trans experiences and then leave out a crucial part of that experience, or at worse, uncritically repeat those same ideas as a bigger creator with lots of followers, it can have a serious negative impact on members of that groups and reinforces it, transandrophobia. This reminds me of the video that Abigail Thorne did called Beauty, Food, Mind. A lot of that video is her talking about how fatphobia affects HER, a thin beautiful actress, and doesn't really even mention much of fat struggles, or get fat perspectives, and she gained a lot of criticism within the fat youtube community for it because she had an opportunity and the didn't take it, making fatphobia only about thin people instead. I will be honest, I haven't had much of an irl queer community, I have my friends and I have gone out and interacted, but I'm disabled, and poor. I don't have the chance to go to any sort of community events or anything other than maybe a drag show every now and again especially here were I live now, I moved and am back in my home state, so it does make me nervous to even seek out and find a local community. online it's easier to brush off that kind of thing, not being considered or being talked down to or ignored, and tbh gaslit, but in real life? In my own home area, in my real domain?

I'm not sure I'd know how to cope with that rn, especially because I too have had some, let's just say not great experiences with in few irl trans people semi community type groups.

Lots of people are hurting and they take it out on each other, so I feel like I have to put on a persona, or be more femme to even be taken seriously and that sucks. So yeah, it's a breath of fresh air to be able to talk about transandrophobia online with other men and I'm happy happy happy we have this, but It is disappointing and I think it shows historically why trans men have tended to keep to ourselves.

[sunshine-zenith]

In honor of Dean Winchester’s birthday (and to have an excuse to bring attention to some of these fics again), here’s a handful of my (destiel heavy) Dean POV fics

“Got That Something” — A lifetime of needing to jump from sleep to total awareness and surviving on an average of four hours a night prevent him from just turning over and dropping off again, but he doesn’t mind. Not when he gets to wake up to Cas sleeping beside him.

Rated G, 798 words, married fluff, post canon/canon divergent from 15x19

“Heavenly” — Cas has been avoiding Dean in heaven, despite Dean's best efforts to find some information on the guy.

Rated T, 2.5K+ words, canon compliant within 15x20, grief, humor, dumbasses to lovers, Dean Winchester uses his words

“Let Me Drive My Car Into Your Heart” — Dean loved his Baby, fact. He also loved his Angel.

Rated T, 3.5k+ words, fluff and humor, unsafe driving, brief butt touching

“Drag Can Bee For Everyone” — As Dean helps set up for the all age drag show his partner will be part of, he reminisces on how lucky he feels to have them in his life

Rated G, 2.5K+ words, Modern/Normal Human AU, Artist Dean, dad Dean, married fluff, nonbinary Cas

“Wings to Dance” — A night of awkward conversations, humiliating moments, and halfhearted attempts at trying to learn to dance for his brother's wedding take a surprising turn for the better for Dean when he realizes he accidentally locked himself out of his car. He and Castiel, the dance instructor he's admired from afar for so long, end up bonding over buried memories of past pain and find themselves dancing towards a brighter future together

Rated T, 12.5k+words, RomCom, Modern/Normal Human AU, humor, fluff, minor angst, Comfortably Bisexual Dean, references to biphobia/homophobia, references to past homelessness, Dancer Cas

“Flight Back to You” — Dean's exhausted, wracked with strange dreams that bring back memories of a teenage fling he had years ago. While on the way to check out a potential case with his brother, his exhaustion catches up with him, nearly sending both him and Sam over a cliff's ledge. Luckily, a familiar face from Dean's past comes at the perfect moment to provide them shelter for the night. The thing is, as it turns out, they actually have a lot more history than Dean initially remembers. And all three of them apparently have a lot more feathers than Dean is comfortable with.

Rated G, 11.5k+ words, Wings AU, Reincarnation, Comfortably bisexual Dean Winchester, minor Jimmy/Dean and Michael/Castiel, references to minor character death and divorce

[ladyimaginarium]

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[gettin-bi-bi-bi]

The last internalized biphobia anon here, thanks! I think it's less a fear of personally being shut out of the queer community around me (which is made up of a shocking amount of bi ppl lol) but more a fear of not being seen or believed as legitimately queer by my homophobic parents when I come out to them soon (I'm an adult with a job and all don't worry). I know if I'm not gay theyll hear 'so there's hope you could "turn straight" someday' and the thought of dealing with being constantly

(Pt 2) questioned is exhausting so that could definitely be influencing me. And I'm genuinely mainly into my own gender so much that it's genuinely hard to parse my own identity. But I know it's not the end of the world, I just feel like I struggle to find the words to explain out loud why this all bothers me without feeling like this is all too dramatic. Thanks for the resources on this blog btw

Hi,

I'm pretty sure you did already send a reply a couple of days ago after I answered your first message. At least the content is pretty much the same. Sorry that I couldn't get back sooner but I got covid and am just starting to feel better.

Anyway... I know it's easier said than done but try not to give a damn about your parents and their expectations. They have no influence over your sexuality. And they clearly are no experts on queerness and bisexuality so why should their "opinions" be worth more than what you know and feel about yourself as the queer person in question?!

You also don't have to explain to them or anyone what your sexuality is exactly. If you think it's easier to just tell them you're gay then tell them that - doesn't mean you cannot tell your queer friends that you're actually bi or homoflexible or whatever label you like. Just choose what makes you feel the most comfortable.

Maddie

[sophiamcdougall]

This isn't funny. This is unreconstructed, exhausting biphobia. If you are "making love to men in the imagination" (and are also attracted to women) you are bisexual. It is nothing like unfathomably getting carried away with a crowd's enthusiasm for a queer character you play or whatever the fuck was going through Misha Collins's mind. I don't know or care what happened with Travis McElroy.

"Haha so-called bisexuals aren't real, they're faking for sexual attention" is one of the tropes that pushed me back into the closet 20 years ago and I really hoped in the year 2023 that I finally wouldn't have to see it any more. Here of all places.

Your sexuality is not defined by whom you are actually having sex with. I believe we've been over this.

college-aged obama portraying himself as bisexual in an effort to attract artsy girls is the funniest thing i’ve read all week

[knight-du-mortain]

Still feeling pretty miffed that A’s trauma and sexuality continue to be the punchline of jokes and that F, the only black character, is portrayed as childish/immature in continuing to ignore boundaries of what is essentially their family…

[dravrag]

I know that the Fandom is dead but

here's how I picture the beginning of chad and ryan relationship starts from high school musical

- ryan fell in love first

- in high school, sharpay dragged him to a basketball game (because of troy), and for several days he could not stop thinking about number 8

- which then continued for weeks filled with sadness, because "oh no, I fell in love with a straight dude again"

- and then they ended up in the same class

- Kalsey, being Ryan's best friend, listened to Ryan's endless cries about what piece of trash chad is

- but the more time they spent time together, the more Ryan noticed that perhaps he still had a chance

- their communication consisted exclusively of "hey, theater kid, don't get your white shirt dirty, or mommy won't be happy" and "watch out for your ball, if something's happened to him you woyld cry"

- after that, chad carries his basketball everywhere

- and it annoys the shit out of ryan

- everything changes after the summer break, when almost everyone works for the Evans family

- did ryan ask for chad specifically, to help carry golf clubs when he and his family went to play golf?  Yes.

- Ryan often spent time with "workers" because of gabriella and kelsey, and chad could not help but be distracted from his work, staring at ryan

- Ryan ran into the kitchen every morning and every evening to check how everyone was doing

- and Chad finally began to understand that he is not just a rich guy, hes actually a really good person ... AND he's  also SO damn cute

- Chad's internalized biphobia tho quicklygot rid of those thoughts

- and what better way is there to distract yoyrself from gay thoughts than sports, right?

- and then i don`t dance happened

- they fucked.

- Ryan was on the cloud 9 from happiness, and chad still could not accept himself

- so he decided to have a girlfriend heehee - Ryan cried. so much.  and complained to his mom.  and kalsey. oh poor kalsey.

- during their graduation preparation Ryan worked a lot so as not to think about cgad

- he often stayed late at school, preparing dances and sets

- once, chad also stayed late at school (played basketball, of course) and noticed that the light in the assembly hall was still on

- he saw Ryan asleep without his shoes on in a pile of unfinished decorations and paint

- of course chad began cleaning up, trying not to wake Ryan up

- but it's chad, come on, his basketball ball rolled off the stage, waking Ryan up

- and Ryan, being still sleepy, tired and exhausted, began to swearing at chad, telling everything he has felt since summer

- and chad could not think of a better answer then a simple "sorry"

- and Ryan, not expecting to hear an apology, stupidly froze

- they were able to talk it over, and, well, now they were dating

- and at the next rehearsal, Ryan dressed chad up in a clown costume, because that's what he deserved

[nevereveraster]

So, let's go through underage child @mushroomchoir's rather unhinged and incorrect suppositions here, which I notice have no evidence whatsoever backing them up in addition to being a worrying datapoint on how current teen children view trans "healthcare": "permanent sterility and sexual function loss generally doesn't happen LMAO." Lie. In addition to permanent sterility and sexual function loss from other puberty blockers, [See Dr. Susan Bradley's statement and attached documents below] the puberty blocker Lupron has now been taken off the market after it became clear that the drug manufacturer had lied and deliberately downplayed risks to those who took it, mainly young girls. These young girls took Lupron for precocious puberty, height increases, and transgender identification. Lupron was taken off the market after hundredfs of young women in their late teens to early 20's reported:

bone density loss,

brittle bones,

depression,

fatigue, brain fog,

shattered hip

faulty joints,

severe joint pain,

vision issues,

deadly seizures,

blood disorders,

mitichondria breakdown,

nerve breakdown

And that's not an exhaustive list. Lupron was yanked from the market because there are young people right now walking with canes in their 20's, health completely destroyed, because they trusted doctors that the benefit of pausing puberty for trans issues, precocious puberty, or to grow taller was worth the "minimal risks" of Lupron. Not everyone who used Lupron had these side effects. But enough did that the puberty blocker drug, once the drug used, is no longer sold. "Also not every single trans kid is a csa victim and not to mention MEN CAN BE CSA VICTIMS TOO." Nowhere did I ever say that all trans children are CSA or even trauma victims of any kind. Do not put words in my mouth due to your own poor reading comprehension. I listed it as a contributing factor to ROGD because sexual harassment and assault of any kind is in fact a co-influencing factor for ROGD. ROGD exists. The Cass report just reconfirmed it. Data does not lie: there has been a marked shift in the population seeking puberty blockers and hormones from trans-identified young men to trans-identified young women who se dysphoria or trans feelings meet the qualifications for ROGD. This is concerning as it is a new population subset with a unique presentation. ADDITIONALLY: Your deliberate bad-faith attempt to derail this topic has been noted. We are not talking about AMAB individuals. My example was specifically a hypothetical about an AFAB child (hence, 'twelve-year-old-girl") and the reasons that AFAB children develop ROGD. It is deeply sexist and misogynistic whataboutism to try to intentionally derail this topic to center a male in a discussion about a female. Examine and reflect on why you chose to act as a pickme handmaiden and center a boy/AMAB individual in a discussion exclusively about girls/AFAB individuals. "also, the comic actually does show what people like YOU do to your kids. which is abuse, btw." Oh my stars. Child. Sit the fuck down and be silent in your ignorance. I have experienced actual homophobia / biphobia in my lifetime. I remember the watershed moment what Matthew Shepard's death was widely reported. I was a teen in a time when a boy could be beaten bloody for wearing an earring in "the gay ear." I had my own parents scream at me while I was still a child that they didn't want "some fucking lesbo queer" under their roof, and then get angry when I explained that, no, I like men too, because "why did I even say something if I could just hide it and date men??" Just because you are an inexperienced and ignorant child with limited to no understanding on how 'transing the gay away' and 'trans as gay conversion therapy' is a serious issue DOES NOT mean you get to open your tragically undereducated mouth and speak this way to someone who knows and remembers what actual bigotry, hatred, and discrimination looked like. For Fuck's Sake, Jazz Jenning's mother has openly said that she didn't want a gay child. Just because YOU don't like ugly reality doesn't mean ugly reality isn't happening around you. How fucking dare you spout this kind of homophobic ignorance. It is a well-known fact that the overlap between autism, homosexuality, and trans identity is so large that medical practitioners have started anonymously expressing doubt and worry because solely in the transmedical field they risk career destruction if they speak out publicly. "also, hormone blockers don't somehow cause your entire sexual makeup to crumble LMAO they literally just repress hormones. that is it. that is all. all aspects of transitioning are completely reversible." Lie.

Of all the lies you've bleatingly repeated, this one concerns me the most. It shows an alarming and common false belief that puberty blockers are somehow "reversible." New York Times - Puberty Blockers Dr. Susan Bradley: "We Were Wrong" Excerpt: "We were wrong. They're not as reversible as we always thought, and they have long-term effects on kids' growth and development, including making them sterile and quite a number of things affecting their bone growth. We thought it was relatively safe, and endocrinologists said they're reversible, and that we didn't have to worry about it." -- Dr. Susan Bradley has helped pioneer "gender affirming care in Canada since 1975, and has been issuing puberty blockers since the year 2000. I think that just maybe she might be more authoritive on the subject of puberty blockers than a sixteen-year-old child blindly repeating hearsay. So maybe next time shut the fuck up if you have no clue what you're talking about, @mushroomchoir. I won't coddle you for your age and ignorance; I'll slap down your prattle just like I'd slap it down for anyone else speaking metaphysical religious nonsense that doesn't fit with established science. I'd act the same way to a flat earther -- because at the end of the day trans medicalism has about as much scientific fact as flat earthism.

[corijamison]

“I KNOW WE’RE ALL FUCKING EXHAUSTED; AM I IN MY HEAD OR HAVE WE ALL LOST IT?”

INTRODUCING…

NAME: Coraline ‘Cori’ Loretta Jamison

GENDER & PREFERRED PRONOUNS: Cis woman {She/Her}

AGE: 26

BIRTHDAY: January 10

ZODIAC: Capricorn Sun, Leo Moon, Scorpio Rising

SEXUALITY: Bisexual

FACE CLAIM: Maggie Lindemann

HOMETOWN: Brooklyn, NY

OCCUPATION: Actress (Francesca Gillian on Unashamed) & Musician (Quickswitch)

CHARACTER PLAYLIST: HERE.

UP NEXT: “DEBBIE DOWNER” BY LØLØ

BIOGRAPHY: tw drugs, overdose, death, mental illnesses, runaway, homelessness, hospitalization, suicide attempt, homophobia / biphobia

Coraline Loretta Jamison was born at 1:10 AM on 1/10/1998 in Brooklyn, NY (she’ll pull her birth certificate out to prove it). Her mother was a teenager and couldn’t take care of her, so she was given up. Her adoptive parents being a young couple who couldn’t have a child, so it wound up working out perfectly. Cori grew up in a loving household. Her father being a homicide detective whilst her mother a preschool teacher. Though her father was rarely home, she adopted a lot of his traits.

Her curiosity for the world and everything around her was one of those traits. Her mother, though sweet, restricted most if not all of Cori’s freedom. But that’s expected when you live in an area that contains 90% of crime for the whole state. With her father having such a dangerous job, it only made sense for her mother to be overbearing on her. But overbearing parents made rebellious kids. Cori would always sneak off to Manhattan for as long as she could remember.

Cori was always intelligent, but she’d swear up and down that she hated school. The truth of the matter is that everything was too easy for her, so she would just skip classes or not show up, altogether. It did get progressively worse as she got older, especially in high school; If it weren’t for her grades and her family’s name, she would’ve been dropped. It just..... didn’t hold her attention, and she would rather be in a record store in the East Village than have to sit in a room with people who took an hour to comprehend two lines in a book.

Cori had a lot of mental obstacles she didn’t quite understand. Most of it was rooted in her identity - feeling like a stranger in her own skin, constant disassociating. People would say her name and she wouldn’t feel as though it was her. She was suppressing her bisexuality for the longest time, mostly due to her mother thinking it was a ‘made up’ sexuality. In Cori’s mind, she was a girl who went to school - but what else?

She never really voiced these feelings, fearing she would seem crazy to others. Instead, she found music. Now, Cori already had fond moments with music; Most being the jam sessions with her father in the car. Her taste of old-school punk actually came from her father, his favorite band being The Sex Pistols. She also had her city friends, when she would sneak out at night and crash concerts of more underground bands all throughout the AMs. But, on her 15th birthday her father took her to see Green Day on their 99 Revolutions Tour. Billie Joe Armstrong actually pulled her up to play guitar, and it was that moment that she knew she wanted to pursue music.

Her father gave her his old guitar from back in his high school days, and she would go to school (or skip) and just practice for hours. This created a distance between her and her parents, which made her mother even more controlling. The pressures from her mother to focus more in school and pushing this pre-established path her mother created for her, made Cori push back. Feeling as though she couldn’t breathe nor have the freedom to grow and develop into who she was meant to be, she ran away at age 16.

Cori couch surfed between her friends in the city, also being sucked even further into the night life. She dabbled within her sexuality as well as drugs. Though, being so young, she didn’t understand the extremities of her actions. She was brought home after being hospitalized due to an overdose and she wound up moving back in with her parents.

Her parents wound up telling her about her adoption when she hit 17, which pushed her over the edge and mentally destroyed her. This strained her relationship with her parents, marking no trust and a blame she put on them for her identity crisis. She always felt there was something wrong and that she didn’t fit, and unloaded that blame on her parents (mostly her mother). It was around this age that she became very ‘fuck you, and YOU, AND YOU’ towards everyone. It was also around this time that because she couldn’t be a voice for herself, she became a voice for her friends and those who were dealt the short end of the stick in life.

She was hospitalized again at age 18, but due to depression. To this day, she’ll swear she didn’t know you weren’t supposed to take that many sleeping pills. Through the program in rehabilitation, she gained a support system from those going through the same shit she has. She had a newfound confidence that was built so high that once she was out, she announced that she wanted to be a musician. Her father was disappointed in her choice and well as her mother. They still pushed her to go to a community college to gain a degree as a backup, where she dropped out within the first semester. Her parents wound up kicking her out because they weren’t going to house someone who was ‘going nowhere’ in their life.

Being kicked out had her back on her friend’s couches, and back in the nightlife scene more than usual. She was a merch girl for one of her friend’s bands, and that introduced her to harder drugs. She lost one of her friends to an overdose and swore she’d stay away from any of it, ever since. Seeing that NYC held more negative memories than positive, Cori packed her bags and wound up wandering around the country with only $60 to her name. This is the point in her life where she claims she found her home; her people with whom she banded together with in order to conjure up a crazy band - banking everything on her dreams and the kooky family she found for herself: Quickswitch.

Quickswitch was created as a way to bring feminine power to the punk-pop/alt scene. It was not by their own doing that they blew up on TikTok; fans posting videos, which landed Cori and the band to migrate to California. With the lack of a record label, Quickswitch was on the rise but was on the lookout for that vital piece in order to reap any benefit financially. Cori wound up being ‘discovered’ by a casting director who popped into the record shop where she worked double-time to make her part of the rent. Basically being handed the part of Francesa Gillian due to the interaction they had, Cori knew it was a dream but not her dream. She took it for the sake of the money. With the success of Unashamed, Cori and her band were able to attract enough attention from record labels. Ultimately, they utilized a majority of Cori’s income to create their own label for themselves; Not wanting to fall into a binding contract and fucking themselves over by the blood-sucking management of a big label. In honesty, they didn’t need much of PR with the success of Cori’s show. Now, if only she could quit the acting gig. Unfortunately, there’s no way she can without black-balling herself. So, she kinda is just waiting for the network to stop renewing her show so she can give all her time and energy to her genuine passion in life.

EXTRA-EXTRA, READ ALL ABOUT HER!

Cori is heavily extroverted. You can’t tell, based on how closed-off she appears. But, she would go crazy if she had to go the day without conversing with people. She loves late night adventures, horror films, and last minute plans. She’s impulsive and reckless when bored, and takes a liking to thrill-seeking activities mostly because she’s numb on the inside and wants to feel something, ya know? Cori is very just. This comes from being raised by someone in the law enforcement field, but also from the music she was raised on. She’s very quick to defend and root for the little man. She’s also very passionate about people being themselves and throwing social norms out the window. Cori is sarcastic; She’s a Capricorn, okay? She calls other people out for their shit (but god forbid you call her out), and keeps her circle very small (fear of rejection if she shows people the real her). If she does see you as a friend, she will 10/10 be loyal: call her up at 2 AM if you need her for anything, she’ll be there. She’s always down for debates and will play devil’s advocate for the fun of it. She loves conspiracy theories (totally thinks Courtney Love killed Kurt; loves joking about simulations). She has a problem sleeping, and her sleep is just all around fucked? She can sleep for 3 hours and be good for 72. She loves food (Taco Bell for the win). Uh, idk what else to say - oh, she doesn’t trust people. She’s also very secretive about her past and no one knows about it besides the fact she’s from NYC. She also hates the fame and wishes she could give it up - but it’s far too late for that; Definitely thinks she shouldn’t be someone who has fans.  

HEADCANONS

Cori has a padlock necklace she wear religiously from her father. It’s a replica of Sid Vicious’ who is both of their favorite band member from The Sex Pistols. She wears it as a salute to her father, because even though he kicked her out, he was the one who was always there for her and who she viewed as her best friend. He’s part of the reason she got so into music (introducing her to bands via jam sessions, the Green Day concert). To this day, she never talked to her parents.

Cori goes by ‘Cori’ because she watched Coraline as a kid, and it scared her shitless. Now the movie is one of her favorites, but still goes by Cori for signature sake.

Cori is vastly educated in music due to her extensive obsession and research growing up. Her knowledge on vinyls comes from her dealing with vinyl specialists in the city when she was younger and hungry for inspiration. Due to this, she was hired as a vinyl specialist for a short period when Quickswitch was gaining their footing in LA. 

Cori isn’t medicated. This is mostly because she’s too stubborn to see a therapist, but she also uses her humor? Basically, she is like every other comedian you see on Netflix who make other people laugh and happy because they can’t make themselves happy. She’s also really good at hiding her unhappiness, because of her comical trait.

Her favorite pun of all time is the scene from ‘Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs 2′ when the boat goes off the cliff and the guy goes ‘AH! THERE’S A LEAK IN THE BOAT!’ and then it pans to a LEEK AND THE LEEK SCREAMS. She laughs for a good 5 minutes at that.

She is the lead singer, rhythm guitarist, and main songwriter for her band; Though, she can play upwards of five instruments, total.

PERSONALITY:

+ Comical, Open-Minded, and Adroit

- Self-Destructive, Enigmatic, and Outspoken

[rantingcrocodile]

If bi women's rate of experiencing domestic abuse was biphobia instead of homophobia, bisexual women would also be victims of female partners. But we're not. I really wish more studies about bi women would take the sex of our partners into account. It doesn't make any sense in most cases to blame biphobia when it's actually how bi women experience homophobia. But whatever, you have a clear agenda and I don't believe you'll take this in good faith because you never do, you're always screaming at the bi women who disagree with you that we're somehow the most oppressed to ever walk the earth.

Please don't embarrass yourself like this.

I say, repeatedly and clearly, that biphobia and homophobia are both serious, that neither is more important than the other, that what we need is solidarity, and yet you still manage to come here and just straight out lie and pretend that I'm saying that bisexual women are "the most oppressed to ever walk the earth."

If you actually thought I was wrong about something, you wouldn't need to lie about what I say and what I believe, by the way. Ironically, that proves that I'm here telling the truth and you're the only one with an agenda.

The only homophobia that bisexuals experience is the specific instance of homophobia against same-sex couples or through presumptions from homophobes that we're actually lesbians (when we aren't.) The rest is just biphobia. Pretending that every oppression that bisexual women face is "just homophobia" not only denies the fact that bisexuals are oppressed on the basis of being bisexual individuals, it reduces us to nothing but objects validated by partners we might have (which is also constant sexualisation), and it also appropriates the permanent homophobia that lesbians actually face. Which, as you might have guessed by now, is homophobic. And I shouldn't have to point this out, but homophobia is bad.

Seriously, can you actually take two seconds to think out what you're saying before thinking you have any point?

What you're actually arguing is that a bisexual woman, in a full relationship with a man, is somehow only abused for being seen as a lesbian in that opposite-sex relationship.

Pretending that there isn't intimate partner violence in same-sex relationships at all is just nothing but abuse apologism, too.

It's really just amazing that every time a biphobe or a bisexual with internalised biphobia comes to me anonymously and thinks, "Ha! I've defeated Croc now!" you always, without fail, end up just proving everything that I keep saying.

Aren't you ladies tired of constantly being wrong? Aren't you sick of proving me right? Aren't you exhausted knowing that the only way to tell yourself that I'm wrong is by blatantly lying about me? It'll be much easier when you properly start reading what I say in actual good faith instead of lashing out ignorantly and figure out that, oops, Croc's right yet again.

Start actually critically thinking about biphobia and then join the smart side. Put those brains of yours to good work.

[ladyimaginarium]

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[perryabbott]

i sent you an anonymous ask about this, mostly because your replies are restricted but also because i wanted to see if maybe you were getting "negative", so to speak, feedback about this (and other similar) posts and just not responding to them, and i suppose i did get my answer since you didn't publish it. so here i am responding to this publicly since this type of behavior basically going unchallenged is actually making me insane.

first of all, this isn't funny. i don't think it's a joke to say characters should be "put back in the closet" just because their coming out didn't happen with YOUR fanon ship. coupled with the idea that it "should have been eddie who came out" because "he has more subtext" just feels like blatant biphobia that you're attempting to mask as a joke. acting like there isn't enough "evidence" of buck's sexuality despite plenty of scenes prior to his coming out makes it seem like you don't think he's "gay enough" - something bi people constantly have to hear, and most of the time feel about themselves, like we're somehow being bisexual "wrong". but fanon and subtext literally doesn't matter at the end of the day when a character is canonically confirmed as bisexual. how is it not biphobic to say "since he isn't kissing eddie, he should have stuck to women" ?

buck may not be real, but the responses from people ARE affecting actual, living bisexual people. from joking about him being put into the closet to "speculating" his boyfriend is going to be biphobic leading to their breakup to acting like he MUST be in love with his best friend who happens to be a man just because he likes men to the people who have been saying buck should get the "itch" bi people get to sleep around - these are all biphobic stereotypes that you are perpetuating with your "jokes". and no, being bi yourself doesn't shield you from criticism. you can still be biphobic and bisexual.

on-screen representation does not exist in a vacuum and the responses to buck clearly show that people still don't respect bi people and it is exhausting and frankly, hurtful.

My toxic trait is that if they’re not doing Buddie then part of me is looking at Bi Buck and going well I didn’t order this, this is only half of what I wanted. I ordered a burger and they only gave me the bun and some ketchup. What’s the point? I want to speak to the manager

Literally, this is not what I asked for, that it back and do it again lol I don't want to compromise in this, they are a bonded pair, get them both out of the closet or put Buck back in ksaoksaosaksoasjk

[posi-pan]

What is it with people being like "I support pan people/the pan label/the pan community uwu!! But I don't like when they spread rampant biphobia, such as when they say bi people are transphobic or aren't 'woke enough'"

I really, really want to see what pan people they are talking about, because for the life of me I have rarely if ever seen a pan people claim bisexuality isn't "woke enough" in regards to?? What?? Gender preference [and/or lack thereof]?

Also, I hate when they try make it out to be that pan is the only guilty party and identity out of the two. Like, sometimes they don't even mention all of the horrific panphobia in the bi community and just general rainbow community. All the guilt and blame is put onto pan. Why??

Like you said in your tags once, yes there are pan biphobes, but the harm they do is nowhere near as big, noticeable, or influential as panphobia circulated by anyone but especially BABs. I have never seen a pan person be actively hostile and aggressive to bi people just because they're bi. Never.

But I see so many people reblogging and posting pan positivity with the replies turned off because they just know the risk of voicing any support of pan people. Seriously, what the fuck is this willful ignorance that people are doing. Why are they putting so much blame and guilt on pan people.

sometimes i feel like panphobes (and other people) act like it's still a decade or two ago, when there was a lot of defining pan in opposition to an incorrect definition of bi. like, that was a very common thing to see at the time. but it's not like that anymore. of course there are still pan people who don't know what bi actually means or insist it's wrong when someone tries to educate them on it, but it's nowhere what it used to be. and that is in part due to the pan community calling it out. so it's annoying to see people act like certain things are still common among pan people, or that we don't deal with our own.

just like with hearts not parts and genderblind. those were very common for a while, but it died down due to people, including the pan community, calling them out. i rarely see people use hearts not parts anymore (genderblind still pops up sometimes). but i very often see people making call out posts for the pan community over those phrases, as if we're still in the peak of their use.

it's one thing to call out individual pan people when you see them saying xyz, but to make generalized call outs for the entire community based on one or a few people you randomly saw post something with zero/nearly zero interaction? to act like those individuals represent the behavior and beliefs of the entire community? absolutely not.

(especially when intentionally malicious panphobic posts among bi people get thousands and thousands of notes/shares and it goes unchallenged. and people act like pan folks are biphobic for being hesitant in bi spaces due to not knowing if they're panphobic. like, call that shit out! if y'all made it clear that you don't fuck with bi panphobes, then we wouldn't be wondering if you're a panphobe!

people love to lie and say we don't deal with biphobic pan people when we absolutely fucking do, but i have never seen a single post from a notable bi person or that had significant notes/shares that addressed the seriousness of panphobia from bi people. it's always "pan is valid!" great but what are you doing about the rampant panphobia in your community?)

and honestly, there's a lot of strawmanning here, too. they see a pan person say something biphobic and present it as if it's the entire, or majority of the, community saying it, in order to justify their panphobia and make it easier for others to believe in it. they'll post screenshots of like four posts from pan people, that either are biphobic or they're twisting to be biphobic, and say things like "this is why i hate pan people" and it's like, really? you hate all of us because of something four people said?

it's just. exhausting dealing with this level of hatred and then having people downplay it and make us out to be bad guys.

(also. like. these people need to learn the definition of rampant. no biphobia from pan people has ever flourished or spread unchecked. but you know what has? panphobia from bi people. or if you want an example of rampant biphobia: lesbian separatism. that shit is still affecting the bi community to this day.)

[rayveewrites]

What did tumblr do? - Ying Yang

Something very, very stupid. So this is actually probably Apple's fault, not Tumblr's, but it's a Thing either way and a complete pain in the ass. If you use the IOS app, specifically the IOS app, posts tagged with certain words/acronyms WILL NOT SHOW UP on neither search nor dashboard. The result of this, of course, is that this discourages people from using said tags, including SEVERAL MAJOR TRIGGER TAGS. We don't have an exhaustive list, but @bannedtags (who has been shadowbanned, unfortunately) has compiled a list of known tags affected by this. How stupid are these, you ask? Well. Here are some highlights.

-Ask to tag

-anxiety

-Alice Lightwood (idk who that is, but Google says he's a fictional character?)

-beads

-bimbo

-CW (you know, as in CONTENT WARNING)

-Eros (as in the greek god of love ?!)

flashing/flashing lights (you know, the tag to help people with EPILEPSY.)

-fuck

-girl

-high heels

-long post (??????)

-Paint mixing

-queue/queued

-scar/scars (which will affect the GTWscar too, I imagine)

-self reblog

-single dad/single mom/single parent (idk about the nonamerican spelling for mum but this is so dumb either way)

-stim/stimboard

-submission

-suicide prevention

-Tony the Tiger (why)

-trigger warning (for some inane reason)

-trypophobia (a very common phobia that needs to be tagged ffs)

-various hair colours, including blonde, brunette, and redhead.

-various discrimination-related terms, including antisemitism, racism, homophobia, biphobia, and lesbophobia

-THIS BS:

(also mine and me)

-and an awful lot of common triggers, mental illnesses and sexual phrases.

Again. THIS DISSUADES PEOPLE FROM USING THESE TAGS. THIS WILL AFFECT PEOPLE WHO FILTER THESE TAGS. TUMBLR WHAT THE FUCK.

[bidotorg]

Musician, Scientist, and Activist. Meet Carlos Castaño.

My name is Carlos Castaño. I was born on April 16th, 1987 in Béjar, a small town near Salamanca (Spain). However, I’ve been living in Madrid for the last 12 years where I work as a Ph.D. scientist researching molecular biology. I love movies, books, nature, and music. I actually play the keyboard and sing in a rock band called Me Quito el Cráneo!

Turns out, I am also bisexual. This took me a lot of time to figure out and the bisexual group of COGAM (an LGBT association from Madrid) was very relevant in this process. Having a safe place where bi people could just be themselves showed me what bisexuality really was and allowed me to embrace my identity and live my life to its fullest. I started my bi activism in this group, which I am currently coordinating with other bi activists.

In time, I joined the bisexual area of FELGTB (Spanish LGBT Federation), which is one of Spain’s main LGBT organisations made of LGBT groups from all over Spain. Here, I was part of the group of bi activists coordinating FELGTB Bisexual Visibility Year in 2016, which increased bi visibility in Spain. This was the first time I came out as bisexual publicly (in national papers or TV news). It was very, very scary, but also, very rewarding in the end. At the moment I am part of the FELGTB main board, a team made of nine LGBT activists from different areas of Spain working to improve the life of LGBT people from Spain and the rest of the world.

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?

I’ve been out for four years and a half.

The hardest person to tell was probably my mother, even though she and my father had raised me in an open-minded environment. At first, she did not understand what being bisexual was and she accepted me nonetheless. This acceptance increased when, bit by bit, I explained to her about bisexuality, bi-erasure, and so on. This made me so happy.

Who is your bi icon?

My bi icons are the Spanish bi activists that worked before me. They paved the way so my activism and my life would be much easier than it was for them. And of course, the bi activists that are currently working all over Spain to fight biphobia and increase bi visibility.

What is your greatest extravagance or indulgence?

I've got plenty of those but I would say that my greatest extravagance is that sometimes, when I am alone with my husband, we speak to each other using some sort of a made-up cat language (just using “meows”) and, oddly enough, we understand each other! It’s super weird!

As for my indulgence, I use to eat food that I like as a reward for the work that I do, so on Saturdays, after a looong week, I often eat a large dish of pasta with cheese and Lea & Perrins sauce using my mum’s recipe.

What do you like most about yourself?

I can multitask! I am a scientific researcher, a musician, a writer, and an activist. I think that’s cool… and a bit exhausting.

What was your last post on social media?

Two tweets saying how much I loved the movie Ralph Breaks the Internet and how I probably enjoyed it more than the kids that were watching it.

Where would you most like to live?

I love Madrid. I got everything I need in this city… although sometimes I miss the countryside where I grew up… but I can get to my hometown by car in less than three hours and enjoy nature.

Would you like to be famous? If so, for what?

My only ambition is to sleep eight hours a day, which I rarely do, even on weekends! I think being famous would demand less sleeping for me, so no thanks!

What do you know now that you wish you’d known when you were 18?

That studying a lot, getting a degree, a master and even a Ph.D. would not necessarily get me a good job. I would tell myself “stay away from science, lad!!!”.

What are you the most grateful for today?

My family, my friends, and my husband.

If you could change any one thing about the way you were raised, what would it be?

I wouldn’t change that much. I was lucky enough that my parents always told me that I would be loved no matter who I loved. Of course, they never taught me that bisexuality was a thing, but then, they didn’t know!

If you could wake up tomorrow with one new quality or skill, what would you choose?

I would love to have the ability to sleep whenever I wanted, for the exact time that I wanted. That would be awesome.

What’s your fandom?

I love way too many fictional stories or characters that I find inspiring and have contributed to my view of the world. For example, I love Doctor Who because of the witty anti-violence and feminist stories, or the Final Fantasy videogame series as they have some of my favourite stories and characters, especially Yuna from Final Fantasy X.

What trophy or prize do you most covet?

I don’t recall winning any trophies in my life, to be honest! Does a Ph.D. fellowship count as some kind of prize? If so, this definitely the prize I most covet!

What is something you remember fondly that someone who is now a baby will not grow up with or understand from personal experience?

Jokes from Monkey Island or The Simpsons that some younger people than me don’t understand. How can they communicate without using jokes from The Simpsons!?

What do you consider the most overrated virtue?

Courage, probably.

What stereotype about bi people annoys you the most in your own life?

I just hate the stereotype that says that bi men are actually gay men in denial, or that bi women are just straight women “playing." It is oftentimes used as a joke in a very harmful way because it shames people’s internalized biphobia or/and homophobia. When you think about it, it’s incredibly cruel.

Your house is on fire and all people and animals are already out and safe. You get a chance to run back in safely and save a single possession. What would it be?

Nah, I think that I would enjoy the company of the people and animals that are out and safe! It’s not like I don’t care for my possessions but, my favourite music I can find on Spotify, my favourite books are in my ebook (and could be retrieved if my device broke), most of the video games I own I have already finished so I wouldn’t need to buy them again. After moving a lot from house to house I’ve learned not to accumulate much, or I will suffer the consequences when I have to leave one house and move to the next. And it’s not like I (or most people my age) can afford a house in Madrid so…

Who’s your favorite bi character?

Captain Jack Harkness from Doctor Who and Torchwood.

Given the choice of anyone in the world, living or from history, with whom would you want to sit down and have dinner?

I believe that we often have these fantasies of meeting some celebrity or person from history that we admire. However, I have the theory that these role models are idealized, so it is highly likely that we would be disappointed when finally meeting them. Therefore, I’d rather have dinner with someone I have already met and admire. My answer is definitely my late grandfather and grandmother.

What is the best thing about being bi?

Being bi is like being a double agent. You know that what most people think about dating men or women is wrong. For example, straight men that complain about how difficult is to communicate with the women they date don’t know that this also happens when men date men. Having dated men that see and treat you as an object helped me to understand painfully well everything that my female friends were complaining about all the time. It gives you a great gender perspective and an out-of-the-binary view of the world that I find very rewarding. Of course, being bi does not necessarily make me a better person but I feel that all that I have learned from my bisexuality may help make the world a better place.

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