#that means the message wasn't good

[marrow-bone]

I mean, this can be true, probably even usually, but I think part of what makes this uncomfortable is saying 'need'. Saying everyone needs to encounter cruelty over their creativity to improve it is kinda... Bleak... And intentional or not seems to be endorsing snide, unasked for criticism.

Unwanted and meanspirited feedback is absolutely not good for the soul in every instance. Not everyone needs some sort of trial by fire by virtue of sharing a project. Many of us are just trying to have fun, which can be easily ruined by this kind of thing. Some of us are dealing with legitimately fucked up shit in our real lives and are dealing with it with creativity, and trying to share what they worked on in good faith. If I shared something I wrote about dealing with chronic illness, abuse, and the death of a family member for free without the indication for criticism and someone operating under this attitude (seen as acceptable to them, because they saw it being seen as acceptable in the culture) comes and bullies me, then I'm either not sharing my work or writing again, which won't make me a better writer.

I think the main point is good. That the positive of mean comments can be improvement. But no way should it be implied that it is acceptable or even beneficial to make these comments, and it shouldn't be seen as acceptable to tolerate this kind of treatment of oneself or of others.

I'd miles and away prefer to see more spontaneous creativity, then see way less but it's only by people deemed fit enough to 'take it'.

my toxic opinion is that to be a good writer you need some really really mean feedback. if its right then it makes you better if its wrong then you're forced to defend yourself which in turn helps you understand your own work better and realise what it's setting out to do

[fratboykate]

Papi, are you alive? Thunderbolts trailer leaked and we got Hailee back from the dead (and there's the movie with Andrew and Florence and its KYAU coded as fuck) Kate and Yelena content galor this week. PLEASE COME BACK. We've been deprived for a year. It's been jail for too long. Grace us with Kate x Yelena content again. Pretty please.

*taps mic* Is this thing on?

[aachria]

Happy birthday!!! I hope you have had a wonderful day surrounded by good food and good friends

The way I only saw my sister and mom today and spent nearly all of it in my room and only ate mediocre food 😭 bro why was my birthday PATHETIC??? I mean I had a good time because I'm a Huge Fucking Introvert but still

ANYWAY THANK YOU!!!

[scorndotexe]

genuinely sorry about all the dndposting recently it hasn't even been interesting but i'm so desperate to dm. i've got storytelling skills!!! i've got improv skills!!! i want to build a story around characters!!! i want to see what players do with what i give them!!!

[thatonecrookedsmile]

More progress being made. I finished re-reading The Illusion of Living this past Friday. It's a nice book. 👍 This was the last of the Bendy books in this "marathon" that I'm doing which I had already read previously and now I'm rereading, meaning that I'm kind of up to date when it comes to rereading all the books that were released until December 2021. But the race is not over yet. Soon I'll start Fade To Black, and (technically) I'll finally be up to date.

Just to continue my chain of posting about the books I finished (at least, the main ones that I really wanted to read) here it is…something I did at the beginning of March, on the night when shit went down. (I hope you know what I'm talking about). I saw the tweets first hand, I was there! Right at the damn moment. And it was..something reading those tweets alright. If the image above doesn't show it, my mood that night and the next 1-2 days wasn't so… great. You might read this and think I'm exaggerating, but that night especially I, uuhhh, I didn't feel good! And this image (and maybe 2 more posts I made that night) are the results of that. (And to think that a week before this happened, I had finished rereading DCTL after a long time. Talk about better/worse timing than this)

At least, if you want the bright side of this, it's that even after that day, I decided to continue with my book marathon, and I don't regret it. I was down that day, but I wasn't out yet damn it!! and I'm still not. (I don't know if this sentence makes a lot of sense, but you get my point)

As a bonus, here's something I did the night I got to the part where Henry is first mentioned in the book (you can consider this as a representation of my reaction when he's first mentioned, both for when I read TIOL for the first time in 2021, as now in this rereading)

Feat. canon Henry design and my fanon design for him (I wanted to include him here + I still read this book with my fan-designs in mind)

[millionsknives]

genuinely these panels are going to make me ugly cry

[1o1percentmilk]

i have many thoughts about self hatred, self destruction, existence, the community vs the self, family, duties, ethics, and responsibility, but i struggle to put them into one coherent work

[treesbian]

the other day while i thought this blog was still terminated someone sent me the stupidest fucking anon. i blocked them so i don't have it but it was stupid. they said smth like comparing the "civilian casualties" in the "year long gaza war" is in no way comparable to the holocaust (referencing that poll I made where I was just listing historical oppressive atrocities) and saying that it is or calling it a genocide at all is "wildly antisemitic."

if they had looked at who they were messaging for 2 more seconds they would've seen I'm literally choctaw by heritage and they look fucking stupid saying that shit to me. don't tell me what I can and can't call a genocide i'm literally native! I know what a genocide looks like. the nakba and the trail of tears are very similar!! and I've seen those fucking fliers to sell palestinian and lebanese land to settlers for cheap!! really reminds me of something!! anyway. they looked stupid and I know it was not a good faith critique!!!

[fideidefenswhore]

Yet, even Chapuys, who gives us this information, says earlier in the same letter that ‘there had been… talk of a new marriage for this king… which rumour agrees well with my own news from the court of France, where, according to letters [I have] received, courtiers maintain that this king has actually applied for the hand of Francis’ daughter’. Chapuys himself therefore does not connect up the rumours of a ‘new marriage’ with Jane Seymour. In early April, Jane was still little more than a lady whom the king was pursuing. At best, in accordance with the conventions of courtly love, she was the lady whom ‘he serves’ – a telling phrase. At worst, she was a passing fancy, whom Henry may have hoped to make his mistress. Chapuys certainly didn’t think much of Henry’s choice. He described Jane the day before Anne’s execution as ‘no great beauty’ and ‘not a woman of great wit’; he implied that she was unlikely to be a virgin, and reported that people said she was inclined ‘to be proud and haughty’. Yet, by this point, the world had changed, and with it, Henry’s intentions towards Jane. It is highly improbable that before Anne was considered guilty of adultery, Henry had seriously begun to plan to make Jane his wife.

1536: The Year that Changed Henry VIII, Suzannah Lipscomb

"I hear that, even before the arrest of the Concubine, the King, speaking with Mistress Jane Semel of their future marriage [...]"

[immortalsins]

time to accept that I'm upset about the fact "its OK if you just want to be friends" is empty words. that's not going to happen!! & i can never go back to the society we met in because it'll just be awkward! without us EVER dating (unless we were and I wasn't aware of it). so sick of not understanding this stuff i wish it was simple and clear

[iidsch]

Re the Neil Gaiman allegations but it really says a lot about the politics of this website that people care more about gay rep than the wellbeing of women. Major Tumblr darling gets accused of sexual assault and people in his fandoms either immediately jump to "the victims are lying/this is a smear campaign" or continue posting like nothing happened, with only a handful of posts actually dealing with the topic and getting attention. Not even a "let's wait until more details come out but sexual assault is bad". At this point I don't even care if the allegations turn out to be false because the biggest issue here is not the sexual assault, it's the silence of the people around it. This should have been a moment to step back, leave fandoms aside and realize that people are being hurt by his actions but that didn't happen! This was incredibly disappointing, ESPECIALLY after we had a wave of people arguing that you shouldn't buy the wizard game because JKR is transphobic. As always it's easy to cast stones to other people but when it comes to the guy who wrote your fav gay ship suddenly it's a different matter. If you wouldn't do "innocent until proven guilty" for a creator that you dislike who got accused of sa but you do it to Neil Gaiman, then you are willing to excuse despicable behavior as long as it comes from someone you have a parasocial relationship with and you should really think about what it's doing to your own principles and politics.

[godnectar]

Random confession, but I made someone I hate into a reaction image because they were a horrible person and did a lot of bad things and one time I was super mad so I posted the image of them on Reddit and it got thousands of likes and now they’re everywhere.

[set-wingedwarrior]

I have this feeling that I am going to hide in my university much more and much longer just to avoid my roomate because she's really stressing me out

[likeabxrdinflight]

...went through a bunch of old facebook messages looking for something from my first best friend

I found it, but I also found some random message from a deleted account that just said "your gay" and I mean...you weren't wrong, random high school bully. you weren't wrong. but I had sort of forgotten how many people used to use that word as a slur, to my face. but they sure did huh.

[8aji]

Loved your Izana fic ! Your writing is so delicate? I related so much to izana while reading it

i dont think anyone has ever described my writing as delicate, that's a very sweet and lovely compliment, thank u :D i haven't tried writing such a descriptive piece in a while so it was a little foreign to me but it was fun !! it makes me happy to hear you enjoyed 💕

[watermelinoe]

i loved barbarian but yeah she would make decisions that had me going IN WHAT WORLD

do you ever watch something and think “this was written by a man”