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5ellaal5 · 7 days ago

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Share what works for you

One of my favorite AuDHD parasocial relationships is with the Nagoski sisters Emily and Amelia.

Their Feminist Survival Project has restarted. It was in 2020 and now it’s for 2025.

In it, Emily shares a website that helps her, which asks to be shared with attribution/citation:

This has a list of things to do to stay grounded and replenished so that we have the capacity to do the shit that will be necessary. Phase in and out of rest and activity, joy and pain. (Or you can be like Amelia and wax your legs which is both joy and pain; I recommend sugar waxing rather than wax-waxing. Less burning. Still pain.)

One of the recommendations is to share what is working for you. I have been revisiting their episode about Savoring and how that act of mindful/present enjoyment helps us move from a suspicious/reactive/closed in state to an open/curious/explorative state.

One of the things I have been savoring is Hozier’s EP from 2017. First it was NFWMB which inspired me to be worthy of that sort of devotion and admiration. Then it was Nina Cried Power (which checks another item on the Finding Stable Ground list of paying attention to inspiring stories of overcoming adversity).

Now it is Moment’s Silence (Common Tongue) because I own that I am seeking the safe haven of intimacy with a trusted other person: someone I trust to treat my body and soul with care and kindness. And because I think Eros and Joy are a good counter to Chaos, Thanatos and Entropy. (Look, I have a Type and it’s Irish Boys who feel things, OK) I listen to this song and I’m Feeling Myself when I walk through the world.

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Another thing Amelia shares is an audiobook of Richard Armitage reading things designed to put people to sleep and Emily notes people probably just masterbate to it because it’s Richard Armitage, and I think that fits too. This is an Audible exclusive so if you have credits you need to burn through as you cancel the subscription to fuck over Jeff Bezos, do it. I haven’t listened yet but I am *ahem* excited to try it out.

And one of the things is (as mentioned above) seeking stories where horrors were resisted and overcome, I’m making my way through We Refuse by Kellie Carter Jackson. The last section is about Joy.

( ^ Screenshot from the book’s website)

What works for you?

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wasabi-gumdrop · 7 months ago

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Kabru has a secret admirer in the castle!

#running from my responsibilities (drawing armour) by imagining post canon Kabru fashion #minor spoilers in the tags!#royal advisor Kabru’s office is probably overflowing with gifts from foreign dignitaries eyeing him up for marriage #and sacks of perfumed letters from Melini citizens #Marcille would be so sick of it #Laios also has his fair share of proposals #Yaad is like … boys spare us all and pick a suitable candidate already #well Yaad there’s a saying that goes two birds one stone #anyway lol #someone might have suggested to Laios ‘hey Kabru works so hard. you should show your appreciation.’#Laios (blushing sweating): uuuh how do i do that #Marcille probably: i hear it’s customary to give your royal advisor flowers the same colour as their beautiful blue eyes #Laios: well if you say so #but he starts having second thoughts bcs what if the gift is too romantic #so then Laios is like oh i know i just won’t sign it (:#fool proof plan Laios good job #totally not taking into account that Kabru can recognize his penmanship at a first glance #so at their next meeting Kabru is like ‘i wonder who my secret admirer in the castle is 😉’#and Laios sweats so hard he falls out of his throne #doesn’t Kabru of Melini have a nice ring to it #better yet …. Kabru Touden #much to consider #dungeon meshi #dungeon meshi spoilers #kabru #kabru of utaya #labru #if you squint #wasabi doodles

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 3 months ago

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A procession of confessions.

[First] Prev <–-> Next

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #lan xichen #jin guangyao #lan wangji #When Lan Xichen and Jin Guangyao flew into the scene I honestly had to hit pause and catch my breath.#I did not expect them to waltz in and start flirting with each other.#With this comic I have officially drawn all sides of 3zun doing something homoromantic with each other. Nice!#Lan flirting is offering to organize events. “Please...let me open up my planner...do you want to create a shared google calendar with me?”#“Oh...we will have to spend so many nights at a desk working out logistics. Do you want to see how good I can balance these accounts?”#Lan events probably have the best 'stayed within budget' reputation of all the clans.#What I mean to say is...Where are the Lan Wedding planner AUs? Actually scrap that: ALL the sects as rival wedding planners.#The Jins would do high end clients with huge budgets. Lans do traditional style weddings. Yunmeng Jiang promises fun and colour.#Sit with my vision for a moment. I'm going to move on to another topic but don't *not* marinate on that idea.#Pour one out for Lan Wangji. For having to sit through all this flirting and confessing while he ruins his own chances.#He will have to wait many years before living out his romantic fantasies. Until then...he must wait in the wings for his cue.

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ibahibut · 2 months ago

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💀: Fewer wounds, more kisses from me.

🐦‍⬛: Contract's accepted, mi amor.

Music inspiration: A Little Death by The Neighbourhood

#dragon age #dragon age veilguard #dragon age the veilguard #datv #lucanis dellamorte #emmrich volkarin #lucanis x emmrich #emmrich x lucanis #old man yaoi #i kinda dont want to link the part 1 so you can see it on my blog #i know ive done this neck kissing artwork many times lo #what can i say neck is very delish #if you have any fic to share based on my artwork do dm me #im happy to read and definitely share the link on my ao3 also #aight i feel good after 3 days working on this art #neck kisses #hurt/comfort #Whether they end up in dining table 🫣 or they just snuggled up in Emmrich’s cozy room 🥺💕.Choose your own story ☺️

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crabsnpersimmons · 4 months ago

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i'd love to celebrate my birthday with y'all! no pressure to say or do anything, just wanted to share and "invite" you all 🥰

#fnaf sun #fnaf moon #fnaf dca #fnaf eclipse #dca fandom #crab art #digital art #bright colours #animated gif #im shy and i don't want to come off as presumptuous or pushy #but i'm also learning to be honest with what i want and speaking up about it #and i want to celebrate my birthday month with the fandom that's been such a blessing to me #i'm so used to celebrating my birthday without friends because i never bring it up because i don't want to be a bother #it's also summer break so people are often on vacation or busy with work #but like #i cannot emphasize more what a blessing the dca fandom has been to my life the past couple of months #it was a welcome break from my studies and during my career change #and it refueled my creativity as an artist and a writer #and it's just so so nice to have friends that i could be honest and weird and silly with #that's why i want to share my day with you all

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cutiesigh · 6 months ago

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❤️🖤🩷

Wuthering Waves has taken over all of my free time recently, so here's a sketch of Scar!Ren I originally shared in da 14DWY Discord!!

#14 days with you #to be tagged later #Sometimes a team is just Sephiroth; some random flower girl; and a dragoon from FFXIV #Like....... Look me in my eyes and tell me that one of Jiyan's abilities isn't just stardiver /silly #Anyways!! Sharing dis on my main only because it's just a sketch and doesn't feel ''official'' enough for da 14DWY blog #If I come back to this piece + retouch/put more effort into it maybe I'll reupload it there instead #But ya!! Any inconsistencies in Scar's outfit is because I was too busy staring at Taoqi <3 #There was also absolutely no rhyme or reason as to why I drew Ren as Scar specifically too—#—Other than the fact that he WOULD rock da onigiri strip (RIP T_T) /ij /silly #Plus I was going to draw [REDACTED] as (WUWA SPOILERS AHEAD!!!!!!!) Geshu but?? Babes I don't think the timeline works out??#I really saw the marks in the same spot and was like “oh!! they're the same person :3” LIKE GIRL NO?? This is what happens when you skip cs #Geshu is still my number 1 next to Taoqi though (in terms of design) <3 I have a type teehee #Mayhaps I will draw [REDACTED] after all...... (It's currently 3pm and I'm nowhere near my tablet)#Also also!! A treat for those who've read this far: Day 3.5 will be made public very soon!! It's pride month n I wanna celebrate—#—With everyone's fave demi/pansexual enby (who sometimes does a bit of stalking) (as a treat) (he's a yandere)#Violet's birthday is also June 10!! Early birthday gift!! Yippeee!!#Ok I'll shuddup now <3

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floccinaucinihilipilificationa · 6 months ago

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Hey hey hey may 31th anon! How's 2024 going? ☆ヾ(*´▽｀)ﾉ This year I have for you a leaked Sherlock season 5 image. Thinking of you!! And everyone!!

#may 31th anon #Hello hello hello friends!! How are you!!#I miss you all I miss tumblr I miss drawing these silly men #work was soooo boring today I was really happy that I got to draw John in a baby carrier afterwards (*´︶`*)#what have you been up to??#my job is very boring most of the time unfortunatly!! I want to have a new job a little bit but I also never want to have a job interview #ever again and also I might get a lamp this year (!) I have heard that someone has already printed out the lamp form #are you excited for good omens season 3??#I am!! I have also been watching a lot of x-files #(*´▽｀*) we also have moths in the kitchen #I do not know what they are eating we have been storing all of our food in the fridge since last week but new moths keep coming #yesterday one flew out of the forks and spoon drawer #it's her kitchen now #I also got a mole removed #now instead of the mole I have a scar the exact same size an color of the mole #I have also been working on a longer comic project!! I think it will be ready to be shared this summer and I really hope you will like it #it's about the old dragon bros characters and their life with the princesses (◍•ᴗ•��)❤#I'm having a lot of fun drawing again!!#I hope you're having fun too #also I had to write an email today and I had to attach a pdf file but it was upside down #I could not fix it #I just hit send

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laurasimonsdaughter · 8 days ago

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If you want to write stories and you feel like you're not managing to write the way you want to, maybe you haven’t found your medium yet.

I’m not talking about making money, I’m not talking about getting some agent or publisher to see money in your work. I’m talking about you, writing what you want to write.

I love writing. I do not love writing novels. They hurt me, physically. I have been so much happier since I stopped trying to force myself to write novels and disappeared into my flash fiction and short stories.

Maybe novels aren’t your thing either. And maybe short stories aren’t! Maybe your words want to be poured into poems, or songs, or TTRPG campaings, or drabbles, or podcasts, or anecdotes, or (screen)plays, or something else entirely!

There are so many ways to be a writer, and even more to be a storyteller. You don’t have to let yourself be bullied by a medium that does not suit your creativity.

#laura babbles #writers on tumblr #this goes for original work but for fanfic too #you can write whatever and however you want #it's yours #your words #your stories #and what's more: whatever way you choose to share/publish/spread them is equally valid #and does not change a thing about their value as your stories #writing #writeblr

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tcustodisart · 6 months ago

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Whenever I drew Connie with a single dandelion behind his ear this scene was playing in my head like wii channel music.

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siffarooni · 5 months ago

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(You just want to dance with someone! Anyone!)

#isat #in stars and time #siffrin #mirabelle #isabeau #odile #bonnie #loop #isat fanart #isat mirabelle #isat isabeau #isat odile #isat bonnie #isat loop #(shaking you) go buy the prologue artbook. right now. right now do it go. go. go.#i have songs in mind for all of these. if people get curious ill share em #they're not necessarily representative of the relationship they're just what i was listening to when working on them

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bluegiragi · 1 year ago

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they lost focus and had a consensual workplace relationship

nsfw on patreon

#“what about MJ?” peter b. has two hands you FOOL #also i know miguel isnt an actual vampire. but what if he was <3 #dad on dad action #i just. i think they work #peter was there when miguel lost everything like theres no way there isnt SOMETHING there #something something shared trauma #you fill in the blanks #peter parker #peter b. parker #miguel o'hara #across the spider verse spoilers #spiderverse #miguel x peter #i dont think this ship has a formal name yet asdfjklajsd #giragi art

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demaparbat-hp · 3 months ago

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Oh, Lala...

#atla #avatar the last airbender #atla fanart #atla art #atla azula #princess azula #atla ursa #suki #atla suki #kyoshi warriors au #kyoshi warriors #Kyoshi Warrior Ursa AU #wip #I felt like sharing a little snippet of a two-page comic I've been working on for AGES #Literally you have no idea for how long this has been sitting on my drafts #Mainly because I keep getting sidetracked by new AUs and sketches and projects. But that's nothing new so #This one is a deep-ish dive into the basic character dynamics between the Fire Siblings as well as Ursa and Suki #Or should I say #Between the siblings Ruolan and Jian Li regarding their mother Noriko and each other.#I know the names can get rather confusing. I'd love to explain the reasoning behind them if anyone would like to know tho #Moving on #There's a lot to unpack in that scene #The characters are different from how we know them due to their circumstances in this AU. But they have things in common with the og series #Of course that remains for you to see #I'm so excited to finish this and share it with you guys!#Some of you have been asking about Azula/Ruolan and Ursa/Noriko in this AU and I am here to deliver #I love the dynamic between this little family SO much it's driving me insane #That being said #What do you get from this panel alone? What do you think it's happening?#I'd love to hear your thoughts on this

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 5 months ago

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The Quest Continues...

(part 1- part 2)

#Fourfold Soul #<- That's the title of the project I've been working on!#I am very excited to finally show off the cowboy (gender redacted) I've been cooking in a slow boil!!! Yeehaw!#Yes this is the game project. YES I am commited to the bit of having the main character go through a long running pronoun-quest.#This character does not have a name so I cannot formally tag them...#(Okay. Technically they have an internal name for coding/scripting reasons...and I have a nickname for them.#But the important part of making a video game character you get to eventually name is that the name must come from *you*!)#The girl here is a npc so she has a temporary name. So I also cannot tag her. Hmm...#I have several FFS comics thumbnailed out. This one got made first because it's the funniest without context. Lore wise it's weak.#I would love to post the sexy clown but you have to wait just a few more comics.#Fun artist woes moment to share: This is the first time I've had to colour these characters traditionally. *That* was NOT fun.#Going from a specific digital colour palette to being at the whims of my limited colour choices in markers? Hell! On! Earth!#I might also be extra frustrated because this sure is 3x the length of what I usually do for comics! I spent a Whole Day on this.#Past me thought it was soooo funny and needed all the extra panels for pacing. I hate past me. That guy needs to be exploded.

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rendevok · 1 year ago

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“Take my hand” pages 12-15

1 - 2 - day 3 - 💙free day❤️ - 4

#nmweek23 #narumitsu #wrightworth #they’re so in love in this it makes my stomach turn because OOHHHHH MY GOODDDDDDDDD #I WANT. WHAT THEY HAVE! WHEN WILL IT BE ME #SMOOCHES #YALL SHOULD HAVE KNOWN IT WAS COMIN FROM ME #phoenix wright #miles edgeworth #aa #fan art #fan comic #past me wrote this comic like YEAH IM GONNA PUT IN ALL THESE THINGS I LIKE #and now im like [sets myself on fire] [sets myself on fire] [sets myself on fi #I’M SO EMBARRASSSSEEEDDDDDDDDD how the hell do any of you share your work i literally feel like im cutting out my heart for you #my two favorite panels are the 4th one on page 12 and the 3rd one on page 15…. framing them #i hope i was able to make it worth the wait! everyone’s support has meant so much to me as i worked :’^)#rendevok #please imagine them making out from now until the time it takes me to share the next part bc that is what they will be doing in my head

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crabsnpersimmons · 5 months ago

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"Your heart was in the right place. Don't blame your earnestness and efforts for their lack of understanding—the right people will appreciate your heart."

EDIT: i mention this in the tags already, but please don't copy my vent tags in your reblogs. thanks for understanding.

#fnaf eclipse #fnaf dca #dca fandom #crab art #traditional art #bright colours #self-insert #my OC Esther #nearly didn't colour this because i was really happy with the lines #but i'm glad i did #please don't copy these tags i'm just going to vent a bit #sigh i've been really feeling it lately #just very discouraged when my efforts to help are dismissed #i know i'm a people pleaser and i just want people to like me #but like #sometimes we just don't click #and it's not worth trying to work myself to the bone to convince people to give me a chance #and it's not fair to blame myself for the friendships that never came to be #they're on their own journey and i'm simply not a part of that journey #just as they are not a part of mine #and that's fine #it's easy to forget when we can connect with so many people online #that we have a limit to how many quality relationships we can realistically maintain #what does it matter if you have so many friends who “like” you #but have no one close enough for you to be open and honest with?#so i will save my heart for those who appreciate it #for friends who will celebrate with me as i celebrate their achievements #who i feel comfortable enough with sharing our troubles and sorrows and supporting each other through it #those are the friends who are worth my heart

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idliketobeatree · 20 hours ago

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10. in the meanwhile as you chop down our roots measure out D E V O T I O N add lantern oil stir the concoction counter-clockwise. leave it to simmer on the lowest heat. [charles' book of secrets] poem by me art quote by @wordsinhaled

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