#set goals to change your life

[theegreenmuse]

10 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐆𝐨 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐨 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐁𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟

1. Self-Doubt:

- Negative Self-Talk: Eliminate thoughts and words that undermine your confidence and abilities.

- Imposter Syndrome: Stop questioning your worth and recognize your accomplishments.

2. Procrastination:

- Delaying Actions: Stop putting off tasks and start taking immediate steps toward your goals.

- Distractions: Reduce time spent on unproductive activities like excessive social media scrolling.

3. Perfectionism:

- Fear of Failure: Let go of the need to be perfect and embrace mistakes as opportunities for growth.

- Over-Planning: Avoid getting stuck in planning mode without taking action.

4. Toxic Relationships:

- Negative Influences: Distance yourself from people who drain your energy or bring negativity into your life.

- Unhealthy Comparisons: Stop comparing yourself to others and focus on your unique journey.

5. Limiting Beliefs:

- Scarcity Mindset: Replace thoughts of lack and limitation with abundance and possibility.

- Fixed Mindset: Let go of the belief that your abilities are static and embrace continuous learning.

6. Unhealthy Habits:

- Poor Diet Choices: Give up junk food and replace it with nutritious, whole foods.

- Sedentary Lifestyle: Stop leading an inactive lifestyle and incorporate regular exercise.

7. Lack of Boundaries:

- People-Pleasing: Stop prioritizing others' needs over your own and learn to say no when necessary.

- Overcommitting: Avoid spreading yourself too thin by setting clear, healthy boundaries.

8. Fear of Change:

- Comfort Zone: Give up staying within your comfort zone and embrace new experiences and challenges.

- Resistance to Growth: Let go of the fear of the unknown and welcome personal growth and transformation.

9. Negative Environment:

- Clutter: Declutter your physical space to create a peaceful and inspiring environment.

- Negative Media: Reduce exposure to negative news and content that impacts your mindset.

10. Financial Mismanagement:

- Impulsive Spending: Stop making impulsive purchases and develop a disciplined approach to spending.

- Lack of Budgeting: Give up the habit of not tracking your finances and create a strict budget to follow.

[chqnified]

People who are truly your friend will not leave you behind attempting to catch up or exclude you from things just because you're disabled. They won't make fun of you just because you have learning disabilities. They won't claim it's too difficult for them to correctly refer to you by the right pronouns just because you're queer.

If they do, they aren't a friend. Get yourself some new ones and you'll start to feel a whole lot happier

[super-selfpower]

How do I make changes to myself that stick?

A lot of people are making resolutions for the new year, but this time you’re going to stick to it. You’ve seen people make resolutions and break them in a few weeks or days. But this time you’re going to make sure that your changes stick.

We all know that if we want our changes to last, we need to be committed and determined in what we do. We need the plan to help us stay on track with our goals and achieve them quickly. This article will guide you through the process of making your changes stick so they can last for years.

1: Identify The Reasons For Making These Changes in Your Life

You know what you need to do, but you're having a hard time sticking to it. You don't know how to push through the mental blocks and frustrations.

Concrete goals and results are key to long-term success — they give you a clear direction and make it easier to stick with your decisions.

Determine why you want to stick to these life changes! When we lose motivation, it's usually because we don't understand what it is that we're hoping to accomplish. If you identify WHY you want something, then not only will it be easier to keep going, but decisions will come easier as well.

2: Plan a Series of Mini-plans to Help You Accomplish Your Goals

It's hard to stay motivated to make the changes you know you need to make.

Planning is incredibly important, but who has time to plan? Meanwhile, no one ever wants to make mistakes because they didn't plan well enough, so they end up giving up on their goals too soon.

It's time to make plans work for you! Make a Plan of Mini-Plans is a tool designed for anyone who already knows what they want, but needs help outlining the steps for getting there. It's much simpler than you think!

3: Make Sure Your Goals Are Attainable And Measurable

Feeling overwhelmed by the prospect of starting a new habit or lifestyle change.

Not being able to follow through with your goals because you have no idea what you should do or how to even start.

Laser-focus on the first step of your goal and break it into small, manageable, and attainable tasks. You will be unstoppable when you know what you’re doing and can see it.

4: Keep Track of Your Deadlines And Make Sure They Are Met

It's easy to say you want something changed in your life, but taking the time and effort to work for it is where most people falter.

Set deadlines and stick to them. Set mini-deadlines in your plan and stick to them. Start from the final date that you want to have accomplished your life changes, and work backward from there. Ask yourself what you need to do each week, month, or year that will get you closer and closer.

5: Consider The Action Rather Than The Goal When Deciding What To Do

The faster we achieve our goals, the faster we can change our lives for the better. To make anything happen we need action, and that means pushing ourselves to just do something even when we don’t know if it’ll work out. We gain the knowledge that it did; if it didn’t, we can push ourselves, even more, the next time.

Focus on action instead of goals. It's easier to stay determined and focused on your goal when you're making progress as opposed to feeling like what you're doing isn't enough.

6: Maintain a Record of Your Progress

It's important to stay on top of your goals and make sure you're taking the steps necessary to achieve them. Otherwise, you'll end up feeling like nothing is changing and nothing is going your way.

Use a tracking chart or checklist to stay on top of your goals and keep yourself accountable for the changes you want to make in your life.

7: Take The Time to Reward And Praise Yourself For Your Efforts

Every step you take towards sticking to your life changes is a mini victory and deserves to be treated as such. A great, and free, way to reward yourself is through self-praise.

Give yourself rewards and praise! Celebrate your achievements with self-praise and watch your motivation soar!

[dipnots]

The Power of Positive Thinking: How to Transform Your Life

Positive thinking is a powerful tool that can change your life for the better. It’s easy to get caught up in negative thoughts, but by making a conscious effort to focus on the positive, you can improve your mental and physical well-being, and achieve your goals. One of the key benefits of positive thinking is that it can reduce stress and anxiety. When you’re constantly worrying and ruminating…

[monsterfactoryfanfic]

if I've learned anything from grad school it's to check your sources, and this has proven invaluable in the dozens of instances when I've had an MBA-type try to tell me something about finances or leadership. Case in point:

Firefox serves me clickbaity articles through Pocket, which is fine because I like Firefox. But sometimes an article makes me curious. I'm pretty anal about my finances, and I wondered if this article was, as I suspected, total horseshit, or could potentially benefit me and help me get my spending under control. So let's check the article in question.

It mostly seems like common sense. "...track expenses and income for at least a month before setting a budget...How much money do I have or earn? How much do I want to save?" Basic shit like that. But then I get to this section:

This sounds fucking made up to me. And thankfully, they've provided a source to their claim that "research has repeatedly shown" that writing things down changes behavior. First mistake. What research is this?

Forbes, naturally, my #1 source for absolute dogshit fart-sniffing financial schlock. Forbes is the type of website that guy from high school who constantly posts on linkedin trawls daily for little articles like this that make him feel better about refusing to pay for a decent package for his employees' healthcare (I'm from the United States, a barbaric, conflict-ridden country in the throes of civil unrest, so obsessed with violence that its warlords prioritize weapons over universal medical coverage. I digress). Forbes constantly posts shit like this, and I constantly spend my time at leadership seminars debunking poor consultants who get paid to read these claims credulously. Look at this highlighted text. Does it make sense to you that simply writing your financial goals down would result in a 10x increase in your income? Because if it does, let me make you an offer on this sick ass bridge.

Thankfully, Forbes also makes the mistake of citing their sources. Let's check to see where this hyperlink goes:

SidSavara. I've never heard of this site, but the About section tells me that Sid is "a technology leader who empowers teams to grow into their best selves. He is a life-long learner enjoys developing software, leading teams in delivering mission critical projects, playing guitar and watching football and basketball."

That doesn't mean anything. What are his LinkedIn credentials? With the caveat that anyone can lie on Linkedin, Mr. Savara appears to be a Software Engineer. Which is fine! I'm glad software engineers exist! But Sid's got nothing in his professional history which suggests he knows shit about finance. So I'm already pretty skeptical of his website, which is increasingly looking like a personal fart-huffing blog.

The article itself repeats the credulous claim made in the Forbes story earlier, but this time, provides no link for the 3% story. Mr. Savara is smarter than his colleages at Forbes, it's much wiser to just make shit up.

HOWEVER. I am not the first person to have followed this rabbit hole. Because at the very top of this article, there is a disclaimer.

Uh oh!

Sid's been called out before, and in the follow up to this article, he reveals the truth.

You can guess where this is going.

So to go back to the VERY beginning of this post, both Pocket/Good Housekeeping and Forbes failed to do even the most basic of research, taking the wild claim that writing down your budget may increase your income by 10x on good faith and the word of a(n admittedly honest about his shortcomings) software engineer.

Why did I spend 30 minutes to make a tumblr post about this? Mostly to show off how smart I am, but also to remind folks of just how flimsy any claim on the internet can be. Click those links, follow those sources, and when the sources stop linking, ask why.

[onlinecoursesguniguru]

Goal Achieving Made Simple: Steps to Turn Ambitions into Reality

Turning ambitions into reality requires a clear strategy and consistent effort. Guniguru’s "Personal Goal Setting" course provides practical tools and techniques for those looking to refine their approach and achieve their goals effectively. This course guides you through the steps to set, plan, and confidently achieve your goals.

[witchyweighty]

Trying to start a new habit of setting 10 goals for myself every Sunday night to do for the week. Setting it as my phone background too so I’m constantly reminded of them. 💪🏼 I’ve eaten like absolute shite the past few days down to massive amounts of stress and upset, and not exercised at all, but absolutely determined to get back on track. 🎯

Also at least one person needs to vote on this poll so I don’t feel like a total loser and become despondent. I totally don’t rely on other people to feel things.

[exopelagic]

ohhhh my supervisor is so sick of me

[whiskey-bumblebee]

anyway two roads diverged in a yellow wood

either stay in this city, far from where i feel is home, but with a job and a boyfriend and financial security and a nice apartment, but also isolated from the life that i feel i want to be living

or drop everything again and move to the other city, the one I feel is home, leaving job and boyfriend here for a life that doesn't exist yet and maybe never will

[paularoseauthor]

Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life.

Even my mind told me, 'You're getting old,' and said, "No, I'm not going to be living like this anymore; I've had enough! It was then that I knew I needed to change my mindset.

Thank you for reading my article, and it’s great that you’re interested in holistic wellness. I’ve had things changed dramatically in my health. Although I have fully recovered from my knee replacement, due to stress at my workplace, I became thoroughly burnt out. I have been out of sorts, constantly feeling weak and tired with losing my appetite, and I lost a lot of weight.  Just Getting…

[livingwellnessblog]

Stop Manifesting So Desperatly!

Manifesting insecurely? WHat should you do? Affirmations? Imaginal scnes? No! STOP being insecure and remember that YOU are manifesing YOU first, not them. If you see this from a religious standpoint you are currently “having another God beside God.” You have to remember what comes fist when you manifest. Desparate for an sp? To me, this is an addiction. People manifesting their sp is…

[bookished]

HOW TO GIVE PERSONALITY TO A CHARACTER

Giving personality to a character is an essential part of character development in storytelling, whether you're writing a novel, screenplay, or creating a character for a role-playing game. Here are some steps and considerations to help you give personality to your character:

Understand Their Backstory:

Start by creating a detailed backstory for your character. Where were they born? What were their childhood experiences like? What significant events have shaped their life? Understanding their past can help you determine their motivations, fears, and desires.

2. Define Their Goals and Motivations:

Characters often become more interesting when they have clear goals and motivations. What does your character want? It could be something tangible like a job or a romantic relationship, or it could be an abstract desire like happiness or freedom.

3. Determine Their Strengths and Weaknesses:

No one is perfect, and characters should reflect this. Identify your character's strengths and weaknesses. This can include physical abilities, intellectual skills, and personality traits. Flaws can make characters relatable and three-dimensional.

4. Consider Their Personality Traits:

Think about your character's personality traits. Are they introverted or extroverted? Shy or outgoing? Kind or selfish? Create a list of traits that describe their character. You can use personality frameworks like the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator or the Big Five Personality Traits as a starting point.

5. Give Them Quirks and Habits:

Quirks and habits can make a character memorable. Do they have a specific way of speaking, a unique fashion style, or an unusual hobby? These details can help bring your character to life.

6. Explore Their Relationships:

Characters don't exist in isolation. Consider how your character interacts with others. What are their relationships like with family, friends, and enemies? These relationships can reveal a lot about their personality.

7. Show, Don't Tell:

Instead of explicitly telling the audience about your character's personality, show it through their actions, dialogue, and decisions. Let the reader or viewer infer their traits based on their behavior.

8. Create Internal Conflict:

Characters with internal conflicts are often more engaging. What inner struggles does your character face? These can be related to their goals, values, or past experiences.

9. Use Character Arcs:

Consider how your character will change or grow throughout the story. Character development is often about how a character evolves in response to the events and challenges they face.

10. Seek Inspiration:

Draw inspiration from real people, other fictional characters, or even historical figures. Study how people with similar traits and backgrounds behave to inform your character's actions and reactions.

11. Write Dialogue and Inner Monologues:

Writing dialogue and inner monologues from your character's perspective can help you get inside their head and understand their thought processes and emotions.

12. Consider the Setting:

The setting of your story can influence your character's personality. For example, a character who grows up in a war-torn environment may have a different personality than one raised in a peaceful, affluent society.

13. Revise and Refine:

Don't be afraid to revise and refine your character as you write and develop your story. Characters can evolve and change as the narrative unfolds.

Remember that well-developed characters are dynamic and multi-faceted. They should feel like real people with strengths, weaknesses, and complexities. As you write and develop your character, put yourself in their shoes and think about how they would react to various situations. This will help you create a compelling and believable personality for your character.

[girlwithrituals]

101 ways to improve self esteem

1) Master a new skill.

2) List your accomplishments.

3) Do something creative.

4) Challenge your limiting beliefs.

5) Talk to a counselor.

6) Don't worry about what others think.

7) Read or watch something inspirational.

8) Stay true to your character.

9) Let go of negative people.

10) Set healthy boundaries with others.

11) Care about your appearance.

12) Welcome failure as part of growth.

13) Be a lifelong learner.

14) Face your fears.

15) Become a mentor.

16) Accept compliments.

17) Eliminate self-criticism.

18) Practice coping skills to manage stress and big emotions.

19) Notice negative thoughts and beliefs.

20) Challenge negative thinking.

21) Think about what you learned from negative experiences.

22) Practice gratitude.

23) Exercise.

24) Eat healthy and limit junk food.

25) Get good sleep.

26) Spend time with positive and supportive people.

27) Encourage yourself.

28) Write a list of your strengths.

29) Don't compare yourself to others.

30) Avoid perfectionism.

31) Do at least one positive, enjoyable activity every day.

32) Celebrate small victories.

33) Be helpful and considerate to others.

34) Be honest with yourself and others.

35) Accept your flaws.

36) Don't give up.

37) Practice self-care.

38) Go easy on yourself.

39) Practice being assertive.

40) Practice saying "No".

41) Practice relaxation techniques.

42) Take on challenges.

43) Volunteer to help others.

44) Forgive others and yourself.

45) Set goals and work toward them step by step.

46) Seek balance in all areas of your life.

47) Discover your passions and purpose

48) Groom yourself.

49) Dress nicely.

50) Be kind and generous to others.

51) Practice good posture.

52) Change a small habit.

53) Smile.

54) Don't procrastinate.

55) Don't take things personal.

56) Organize your personal space.

57) Challenge unkind thoughts about yourself.

58) Spend time outside.

59) Notice the good things.

60) Celebrate your successes

61) Write a list of things you like about yourself.

62) Don't take too much on.

63) Do something for yourself every day.

64) Develop daily habits.

65) Remind yourself it's okay if not everyone likes you.

66) Practice mindfulness.

67) Learn to tolerate discomfort.

68) Use problem-solving skills.

69) Take responsibility instead of blaming.

Tell Yourself Positive Affirmations Such As:

70) I am grateful for every day.

71) I am worthy of happiness and love.

72) I am in charge of my own happiness.

73) I love, respect, and believe in myself.

74) I deserve to be happy and successful.

75) I approve of myself, right here and now.

76) I am learning and changing for the better.

77) I accept 100% responsibility for my own life.

78) Every day in every way, I am getting better and better.

79) I can learn to accept the parts of myself that I don't like.

80) I am thankful for my challenges as they make me a stronger person.

81) Write down three positives about each day.

82) Make a collage with your talents, goals, and dreams.

83) Practice laughing.

84) Be proud of yourself.

85) Say mistakes are an opportunity to learn.

86) Show respect to yourself and others.

87) Resolve conflict peacefully.

88) Ask for help or support.

89) Complete a daily task list.

90) Have a growth mindset.

91) Be optimistic.

92) Treat yourself with kindness and compassion.

93) Focus on the things you have control over and can change.

94) Get started on tasks you have been putting off.

95) Practice good daily hygiene.

96) Focus on solutions not problems.

97) Talk about your feelings with someone you trust.

98) Drink plenty of water.

99) Start a new hobby or join a club/sport.

100) Do random acts of kindness.

101) Create a dreams list.

[cloakedstarlight]

It just clicked for me, like yesterday, how long I have been following this comic and how much I love it. There’s so many adventures and mysteries under a deceptively simple premise: becoming a hero to save stories.

Which becomes a story in of itself, (ie., Hero’s Journey) that’s full of thought-provoking questions and gentle world building. There’s background that’s explained, but it never feels like word-vomit. It’s told like a story by stories because every character has a story and is a story themselves.

It’s so meta, and abstract and profound in so many small ways that encapsulate the human condition and the complex emotions that exist within that

Hello! I've been following TPoH for about a decade now and I can say it rewired my brain in many ways:D Your work is wonderful and deeply inspiring to me, and I was skimming your blog to see if you were okay with getting tattoos based on the comic (I read that you are? Is that the case still? Because I'd love to get one based on TPoH!) when I got the courage to write for the first time:) Thank you so much for writing this story!

YES I am very pro tattoo, be sure it's what you want! but absolutely do go ahead I'd be honoured :D thanks for the support this means a lot to me!

[afeelgoodblog]

The Best News of Last Week

1. ‘We are just getting started’: the plastic-eating bacteria that could change the world

In 2016, Japanese scientists Oda and Hiraga published their discovery of Ideonella sakaiensis, a bacterium capable of breaking down PET plastic into basic nutrients. This finding marked a shift in microbiology's perception, recognizing the potential of microbes to solve pressing environmental issues.

France's Carbios has successfully applied bacterial enzyme technology to recycle PET plastic waste into new plastic products, aligning with the French government's goal of fully recycling plastic packaging by 2025.

2. HIV cases in Amsterdam drop to almost zero after PrEP scheme

According to Dutch AIDS Fund, there were only nine new cases of the virus in Amsterdam in 2022, down from 66 people diagnosed in 2021. The organisation claimed that 128 people were diagnosed with HIV in Amsterdam in 2019, and since 2010, the number of new infections in the Dutch capital has fallen by 95 per cent.

3. Cheap and drinkable water from desalination is finally a reality

In a groundbreaking endeavor, engineers from MIT and China have designed a passive solar desalination system aimed at converting seawater into drinkable water.

The concept, articulated in a study published in the journal Joule, harnesses the dual powers of the sun and the inherent properties of seawater, emulating the ocean’s “thermohaline” circulation on a smaller scale, to evaporate water and leave salt behind.

4. World’s 1st drug to regrow teeth enters clinical trials

The ability to regrow your own teeth could be just around the corner. A team of scientists, led by a Japanese pharmaceutical startup, are getting set to start human trials on a new drug that has successfully grown new teeth in animal test subjects.

Toregem Biopharma is slated to begin clinical trials in July of next year after it succeeded growing new teeth in mice five years ago, the Japan Times reports.

5. After Decades of Pressure, US Drugmaker J&J Gives Up Patent on Life-Saving TB Drug

In what can be termed a huge development for drug-resistant TB (DR-TB) patients across large parts of the world, bedaquiline maker Johnson and Johnson said on September 30 (Saturday) that it would drop its patent over the drug in 134 low- and middle-income countries (LMICs).

6. Stranded dolphins rescued from shallow river in Massachusetts

7. ‘Staggering’ green growth gives hope for 1.5C, says global energy chief

The prospects of the world staying within the 1.5C limit on global heating have brightened owing to the “staggering” growth of renewable energy and green investment in the past two years, the chief of the world’s energy watchdog has said.

Fatih Birol, the executive director of the International Energy Agency, and the world’s foremost energy economist, said much more needed to be done but that the rapid uptake of solar power and electric vehicles were encouraging.

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[nenelonomh]

building the life that you deserve

building the life you deserve is a journey that involves self-reflection, goal-setting, and consistent effort. here are some steps to help you get started:

decide what you want: identify what you want to change about your life and how you envision your ideal life. this clarity can help you focus on your goals.

envision your ideal life: this step is all about creating a clear and vivid picture of the life you want to live. when you start to envision your life as you want it to be, it helps to guide your actions and decisions towards making that vision a reality.

set goals: break down your vision into achievable goals. this makes the process less overwhelming and more manageable.

take action: start making changes, even if they are small. consistent effort over time leads to significant progress.

prioritize relationships: building and maintaining strong relationships is essential for a fulfilling life.

simplify your life: remove unnecessary possessions and distractions. this can help you focus on what truly matters.

believe in yourself: trust in your abilities and strengths. confidence is key to overcoming challenges and achieving your goals.

remember, it’s your journey, and you have the power to change it.