#respect yourself to move on

[trust-over-love]

I’m not perfect & I can learn to forgive & forget a lot of shit as well. We are human & we all sin. But this post is how I feel as well. This is what it takes to lose me for good. I wouldn’t feel safe with my partner at that point. Trust & loyalty are important to me. I’m too loyal & real to accept that. I rather someone leave me & move on. Unfortunately some people just can’t help themselves but cheat & deny it. Idk why. That’s weird to me. Just woman / man TF up & take accountability for your actions. Just choose to be single & mess around. It just doesn’t make sense to me.

[kristingelatin]

[spacecasehobbit]

After seeing yet another popular tumblr post with thousands of reblogs bemoaning the state of comments on fanfics these days - more specifically, the supposed lack of commenting these days, as opposed to The Good Old Days - I have decided that this is in fact a hill I am willing to die on. I'm making a separate post about it rather than reblogging the latest iteration, though. This is hardly the first time I've seen these types of discussions, and my issue is with the mindset in general, not any of the specific people who hold it.

In the most recent version, the entire post with all its various arguments and assertions was plenty frustrating across the board, but it included one line in particular that cut beautifully to the heart of my issue with this type of discussion. The line in question:

"fanfic authors now are treated like content mills, and not like valued members of a creative community who thrive on interaction."

Once I read this bit, I had to stop, take a few deep breaths, and then go make my own post before I imploded over the sheer level of NOPE this line inspired. And okay. The thing is... I want to say this as gently and kindly as I possibly can, but I need to be real blunt for a minute, too.

That line I quoted sounds like a wannabe social media influencer.

It sounds like a person who thinks fandom is - or should be - comprised of fanfiction writers, aka Valued Content Creators, and their respective communities of readers, aka Content Consumers, a strictly distinct group from fic writers, for whom they create fanfiction content and who in turn pay them back with attention and validation in the form of comments and praise.

It does not sound like a fanfiction author who enjoys the creative hobby of writing stories based on characters and worlds from existing stories, engaging in their hobby within a community of other likeminded creators of fan content.

Frankly, fandom has always been worst when it starts obsessing over Big Name Fans who wind up treated like elite fandom social influencers, instead of hobbyists engaging in a fun hobby together based on mutual interests. A shift towards the idea that every fanfic writer should be effectively a social media influencer whose community consists of fans reading the content they oh-so-lovingly create (but only if they get enough positive attention from passive consumers, presumably readers who don't write their own fic or expect comments back from the author in return) sounds like an absolutely awful direction for fandom to take.

I don't want fanfiction and fandom spaces to turn into another social media space full of Our Valued Content Creators, all fighting to build the largest "community" of passive consumers turned devoted followers.

Again, that sounds frankly fucking awful.

The people who only read fanfiction are not your fanfiction community, because they are not engaging in the shared community hobby of writing fanfiction. Your fanfiction community is, perhaps, the other people who are also writing their own fanfiction based on someone else's original work.

So perhaps if comments really are declining on fics these days, instead of asking why passive readers aren't heaping praise on every fic they read and making sure it all happens where the Valued Creator can hear it, you should ask yourself how many other fanfics you've commented on recently, and then go comment on another one if you're still feeling down about your own work.

Or, I dunno, find a fic author you admire and send them a message on tumblr, if you've already commented on all of their fics that you read and enjoyed.

Or start your own discord for likeminded fans, or find a way to set up your own fandom forums centered on your personal fandom interests and invite other fic authors to come join.

Or, like, anything that involves reaching out to the actual community of hobbyists you can reasonably consider to be a community you are actually a part of.

Aka, other fanfiction writers.

[youngpettyqueen]

I know the decision to have Julian's parents have him augmented was made on the fly but imo its pretty obvious from early on that Julian has Family Issues because he avoids talking about his family like the plague and I think they should've incorporated this into the Julian and Sisko dynamic right from early on because I think it would've made for some really compelling stories and moments and could've set up a REALLY interesting Julian and Jake dynamic which they kinda started to do but never fully went for

[everyone-loves-you]

[its0you]

[bloominginsilence]

"We must forgive those we feel have wronged us, not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because we love ourselves so much we don't want to keep paying for the injustice."

- The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz

[mooseonahunt]

Hope everyone who reposts art without permission or credit gets hit by a car. That’s all. See y’all in a week.

[bellaxgiornata]

I'm just making a general statement that isn't meant to come across as rude, aggressive, or to make anyone feel singled out/attacked, but please heed the pronouns someone may have listed on their blog. They're there for a reason.

I know earlier today @souliebird made a brief post announcing their pronouns which have always been listed on their blog. It was never a secret. They were not trying to call anyone out, hurt anyone's feelings, or asking for apologies. It was just a polite request to be referred to properly and a clarification for those who may not have looked at their blog and saw that. It was getting upsetting for them to be misgendered and instead of needing to correct multiple people, they figured they'd make a single post to make it more widely known. It wasn't meant for anything other than that, so please do not feel the need to make apologies or make it anything other than what it was. Some of the attention from a simple ask to have pronouns respected has been overwhelming and not necessarily friendly.

I know this community is full of wonderful people so I'm hoping y'all will be respectful and not rude. We're all here to connect over the same fandom and to have an escape from reality, so please be kind and think before you speak. If you've misgendered someone, just please correct yourself in the future, that's all that is being asked.

Just spread the love instead of the hate, y'all ❤️ And please don't create drama where there isn't any. That's it.

[voidimp]

really not loving this trend lately of acting like shaving makes you a disgrace to the whole fucking queer community

like we really went from "not shaving is totally fine and good, body hair is completely natural & not gross" (correct) to "shaving is disgusting and unnatural, why would you do that to you body" (hmmm sounds kinda familiar) & even "its literally impossible to have dysphoria or sensory issues due to body hair/want to shave for any reason other than to appeal to patriarchal beauty standards & anyone who says they do is lying" (real, actual things i have seen people say, what in the god damn)

you can shave your face you can shave your head but as soon as its below the neck suddenly shaving is some sort of unforgivable crime. god forbid someone doesnt like the way it feels when their clothes rub against every little fucking hair. god forbid they dont like how it holds in sweat. god forbid they dont like how it holds in heat. god forbid they dont fucking like how it looks on them.

like. is the word "choice" not in peoples fucking vocabulary or something

[thepeacefulgarden]

[princessefemmelesbian]

Well would you look at this. 😵‍💫 Because obviously if you dare say anything as wild and controversial as “lesbians don’t like men, please stop using a label that hurts us and tries to force men into our identity” you’re a raging terf radfem transmisogynist. Because obviously ONLY trans women use the bi lesbian label and it’s not like there are transfem lesbians who are rightfully against the label as well or anything and it’s not like terfs use the label to refer to cis lesbians who date trans women and why can’t you just let people identify as how they want of course lesbians like men stop the infighting already if you disagree with me that lesbians can like men then surely that’s because you’re an exclusionist gatekeeper who hates trans women.

[tunababyyyy]

also i think we as trans people need to start being a problem again. call yourself a faggot transvestite and crossdress whichever way you want in public. embrace the inherent glorious punk nature of a sex change. be a horrible freak full of love. i'm so sick of being palatable

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

You know, actually, I deserve someone who's sure about me, not confused about whether I'm the right person or not. Fuck you.

[jay-wasreblogging]

Need more authors having their characters that refuse to be put through a traumatic situation to 'prove' themselves or just because they don't want/have to.

[dailydiarynquotes]