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dragonflymage · 4 years ago

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(This has taken me forever to write. Be prepared for a long answer! *kicks it out of the draft box*)

I don’t think I’ll choose a Type for this answer because I chose Types in similar questions. This time I’ll go with the word “ideal” and play with that for a while.

This answer will be about the steps to finding an ideal match. INFP style.

Everyone knows that INFPs are the dreamers. They dream their way through being a child, through the teen years, and yes right through adulthood. It’s unavoidable. If a potential situation creeps up on an INFP, it won’t be long before they have come up with all the imaginative ways to live it and make it their own. Within their minds.

I am going to reveal some things about myself as an INFP that aren’t easy to reveal. Tapping into this realm of idealism that INFPs seem to be known for.

What exactly does it mean when someone says that INFPs are idealistic? It’s more than just seeing the good in others and hoping for a bright future. There’s a side of darkness within it as well because this doesn’t always mean ‘realistic’. It can mean searching for qualities that only exist in our thoughts.

My topic within these imaginative daydreams will focus on “The Ideal Match”.

I have to say that the first sensation that comes to me while thinking of this topic is… wistfulness.

In my expansive INFP imagination, my ideal match is someone who wants to know me.

That’s it.

Okay, that’s not all, but that’s where it begins. With someone who has SEEN me. And not just seen me, but moved closer instead of shaking their head and walking away. Of course, that doesn’t make an automatic match, but it has to begin somewhere.

Can you imagine the elation of being truly seen? That tiny ray of INFP light shown outward has caught someone’s attention. What should be done now? It isn’t love yet. Right? This elation isn’t love. But what if it is? No, it’s much too soon. Maybe if the door is opened a little bit more. … What are they doing now? Running? Moving even closer? OMG. What should I do next?!

Breathe. This doesn’t mean they are devoting all of their eternity. It just means they are curious. Stay calm.

Does that sound like panic? It might be. There’s always the fear of doing too much too soon, yet wanting to reach out and touch. The unseen internal tug of war.

So, this is where the INFP stands now — Revealed some of their deep self and was noticed for it. Then the person stuck around wanting to know more.

This is a great beginning. But what’s next? It would probably be easier to know what to do if this took place in-person. Body language and tone of voice is clearer to decipher. Most likely this all happened online, where emotions and reactions can be filtered through the process I refer to as: “I’m doing my freakin’ best to explain myself with only text!” *flails*

I would say that being seen and someone wanting to get to know you are where new friendships and possible future-relationships reside.

Being seen is nice, but being understood is even better!

It looks like a connection is forming. This is where our INFP will decide what sort of sharing is appropriate.

There are all sorts of sharing:

💙 Surface sharing - which involves interests and everyday activities. Also known as “small talk”. Topics such as pets, job or school, hobbies, books, etc. This isn’t always an INFP favorite, but conversations have to begin somewhere. During the small-talk phase, an INFP will determine whether there is potential for a connection. And, yes, an INFP is more than capable of this discovery just from small talk. This could last for a brief time period or for many days, depending on the person’s comfort level. 💙 Test sharing - which involves emotions attached to topics. Such as the meanings behind this or that event in life. It could be another subtle test to see if the other person is still interested in talking. Or it could be a bit of desperation to have someone to finally discuss the deeper aspects of the world. Some of these emotion-laden topics might not be used by most people until later in a potential friendship-relationship, but INFPs may reach this level of conversation fairly quickly. This type of conversation could continue throughout the friendship-relationship, obviously while no longer in a ‘testing’ fashion. 💙 Personal sharing - which involves longer and more frequent conversations. It’s a bit like sharing your life in ‘real-time’. At this point, the INFP has decided this is someone who is interested because they haven’t run away, and maybe it’s okay to invest more of ourselves with them. These sorts of talks are like inviting them to our home and giving them a glimpse of what life is like for us. These discussions are saved for close friends and potential love interests. 💙 Deep sharing - which involves all those things an INFP shares with no one. And by ‘no one’ I mean ‘a rare and special someone’. I think many INFPs have an inner vault where they keep all the topics that have been too much for other people to handle - such as traumatic memories. Some INFPs, after being rejected in the past, may choose to never touch this level with anyone again. Other INFPs may decide that if this special person can understand what’s in the vault, then they are absolutely ‘the one’. Whether as a love interest or a very close friend.

🍵 There could also be a level 5 which may involve fantasies or the darkest of secrets they may never tell anyone, but some INFPs might lump those in with #4. It depends on the individual. 🍵

The difficulty with those Sharing Levels is finding an order that works and sticking to it. It wouldn’t work well to start with #1 Small Talk and then skip right to #4 Deep Sharing. (I mean, unless you’re talking with a therapist, then go ahead.)

Now that I got the informative portion out of the way, it’s time for some INFP idealism!!

INFPs are amazing humans. We care with our every breath and we want the best for those around us. We can also become stuck within our idealistic thoughts. No, that isn’t a secret.

We are called The Dreamers for a reason.

INFPs have a difficult time with this strange thing called Reality. We are flooded with violence from the media, and sometimes it exists in our personal lives. Reminding us of all the hurting souls we can’t help. We have potent plans of how we will change the world. Then Reality sneaks up from behind and whispers “you do realize no matter how hard you try, you can’t save them all…” Thanks, Reality.

It’s these realizations that can infiltrate all aspects of life - how we envision our future, how we envision our environment, and how we envision our Ideal Match or our Ideal Partner (in a potentially romantic sense).

I first started imagining a ‘love interest’ at around age 12. It wasn’t marriage or white gowns that I imagined. It was someone who cared by listening to me.

One of the first crushes in a love-interest way I had on a person (other than classmates I mentioned in a different answer) was Hawkeye from the MASH re-runs. ( I don’t know what it is about me and ENFPs, but anyway… I spent long hours daydreaming about somehow being illogically inserted into that environment just so I could sit and have long conversations with Hawkeye. 😅 I thought he was the perfect match for me. Of course, he had other issues going on, but I was willing to overlook them all! This daydream went on for a few years until I moved along to other potential unreachable love interests.

The important factor about the idealism and daydreaming is that I was internally forming a list of what I hoped to find in a future partner.

Attention and caring were important. Kindness to others. Devotion to helping people. Silly humor. Depth of character. Capable of understanding pain. Willing to imagine what could be.

Sadly, if an INFP isn’t paying attention, they can idealize themselves through life…even through the most painful events and can become addicted to this coping mechanism.

Like I did.

The downside was that since I never truly encountered a great deal of decent treatment personally, I didn’t know how to recognize it in others. It was unfamiliar territory (for many depressing reasons). So in my early 20s, what I did was latch onto a person who I thought had the potential and idealized everything else about him. He gave me attention, sure, but I think I consciously idealized everything else about him. Even when there were many clues that he wasn’t a good match for me.

I rejected every natural instinct I had and encompassed myself in flowery daydreams in order to survive the life I’d suddenly found myself in.

That is probably an extreme example of what idealism can do to a person. But I think that INFPs have the very real probability of slipping into this unhealthy internal mindset.

If we aren’t careful, idealism can turn into an INFP mind-trap.

I don’t want to turn this into a negative answer. Idealism has wonderful benefits if used in healthy creative ways. To imagine what could be. But there also needs to be a balance with Realistic thoughts.

Always stop and ask yourself “Is this truly a possibility? Is this actually what is taking place? Am I somehow coloring the truth from myself?”

Only then will an INFP truly find, not just an Ideal Match, but a True Match.

Without any of the rose-colored glasses interfering with what is Real.

#mbti #infp #infp thoughts #relationships #mbti thoughts #introvert #myers-briggs #hsp #emotions #emotional #sensitivity

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myfandomrambles · 6 years ago

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Rory Gilmore Character Analysis (Expanded)

Facts

raised by a single mom

basically abandoned by her father

grew up in a small town who adore her. Functionally like an extended family

huge reader

Family financially struggled when she was little

highly devoted to education

Goal oriented when she is young

Wants to be a journalist and travel

Highly obsessed with media of all kinds, a shared interest with her mother

Somewhat of a wallflower as a teen

attended an elite preparatory school for last three years of high school

Tends to do whatever is asked of her, most common with her grandparents going against her upbringing and mothers lifestyle

deeply competitive with her main Rival in school (Paris)

Excellent in academic settings

Displays a willingness to be in unhealthy relationships with her BF’s

Believes in a strict pattern in her life and rejects changes

Has visceral reactions to rejection, like with Mitchum

Learned to fit in well with an elite culture

Struggled in her work

Analysis:

Rory overall was a combination of natural gifts, communication issues, commitment, perfectionism, and a girl who faced very little criticism.

Rory’s relationship with her mother Lorelai is the deepest defining connection. Her taste in media and food come from her mom, as well as her struggles to form competent romantic connections. Lorelai instilled an independent identity as well as a fun-loving idea and a love of laughter. Lorelai also shaped Rory by acting as much of a friend as a parental figure, part of this was having trouble ever telling Rory “no”, or that anything she did was wrong. Rory was to some extent a parentified child. She helped run a lot of the boring but important parts of living and was the main emotional support for her mother. Lorelai and Rory also had a relationship that lacked normal boundaries between parent and child. Lorelai did love and support Rory. Lorelai would do everything she could for Rory and worked her ass off to give Rory everything she could to be happy and successful. Rory did know that, and it was important in her best characteristics.

Rory grew up with a very strong extended family in the form of stars hollow. Mia was a grandmother figure more than Emily when Rory was very young. Sookie acted as an aunt figure to Rory often, was at all the parties, baked the birthday cakes etc. Lane was her very close friend throughout her childhood. Lane appreciated Rory and Lorelai as an escape from her strict home life. Rory was influenced her in musical taste by lane, as well as her seeming to be Rory’s only friend around her age in stars hollow.

Luke was a large part of Rory’s life way before he dated Lorelai, often playing a fatherly role. He consistently made meals, helped with birthdays, giving presents, taking care of Rory when she was ill, fixing up the girls house, being deeply protective and attending her big events. Rory struggled with her lack of a father but seemed to really appreciate Luke even going to him when she was struggling during her and her mother’s huge fight. He was awkward and sucked as much as the girls in proper communication, but tried as best he could to support her. Luke is just as protective as her own father, and present way more often.

The rest of the town: Ms Patty, Babette Dell, Morey Dell, Fran Weston, Bootsy, Gypsy, Taylor Doose, Mrs Kim, Jackson Belleville, Andrew & Kirk Gleason were all very important in Rory’s upbringing teaching her different things, keeping her in books. The town at large loved Rory as a kid and into her adulthood. They all come to birthdays and throw her a bon-voyage party.

Being surrounded by a large extended family in the form of the town gave Rory a kind of cushioned experience with how people treat one another. Even if she wasn’t intensely popular at school the town at large prop her up, told her she was wonderful and basically never told her that she was wrong. She was the darling of everyone. Rory was deserving in some senses, she was kind and helped with the town but she struggled to learn how to deal with other people realistically, expecting things to always go well and others not to take advantage of her.

Rory's relationship with her grandparents becomes extremely close after 15ish years of almost no interaction. They love Rory but are controlling in a way that causes strain. Another problem they often have is they are also navigating around the fallout of Lorelai and her parents' history. Emily and Richard want to "fix" what went "wrong" with Lorelai. Rory is their second chance, placing an unfair expectation. They also feed Rory's need to be perfect and expectation of getting it. One reason I do think they click is they do in a way give her more traditional parenting. Lorelai struggled to balance her want to be friends with Rory and Parent, Emily and Richard are always parents. I do think even with headstrong, stubborn and independent person like Rory to have people care for her and not force decisions on her. But this becomes toxic when she lives with them and she suffers the stifling aspect of emotionally controlling and abusive nature of the Gilmores.

Dean was her first love and an important part of her life for a long time. Her relationship with Dean was fine enough in the beginning but Rory overlooked the part of that that wasn’t healthy. The unhealthy behaviours grew overtime instead of exceeding good parts, this ultimately leading to them having an affair and Dean hurting his wife. Rory was supported in this relationship when she was younger by most of the people around her. Rory wanted him to be the one and only but it was an unrealistic goal. Their second try at a relationship began as cheating and ended when Dean realised she had more to her life than being his girlfriend.

Her relationship with Jess started off as a kind of forbidden romance against the wishes of society and the feelings started while she was dating someone else. the relationship was strained for a lot of the time because they both sucked at communication. She was also the only person besides Luke Jess ever had, it's hard to experience a healthy relationship when you are really the only person the other one has. They did care deeply for each other though, and end up helping the other be a better person through their deep understanding of each other, even if their romance didn't work out.

Logan and her relationship was mostly healthy in terms of making each other happy and was the best communication, though that is a low bar. In slightly less productive he was also a large part in her embracing the partying lifestyle. He also enables worse impulses like leaving Yale, he doesn't force them but his lack of care and Hakuna Matta lifestyle making it easy. Their disagreements like the others come mostly from lack of communication and being hyperemotional people. Rory expects him to be the worst he can be, and he doesn't take time to think through what he doesn't. They also have similar family lives which cause strain, though the handle it differently, Rory tries to be the perfect Gilmore while Logan bucks the system. Logan also has aa implied Alcohol addiction problem which of course strains their lives, as it always does.

Rory's relationship with Paris Geller is another huge one in her life. They start off pretty much enemies in school. Paris is so obsessed with being the absolute best she hates that Rory is able to match her skill and standing in the class. She spends much of the first year playing games to have more success and power. Rory is also a perfectionist and has the same natural skill and usually, the same time and work put in. Rory ends up seeing that Paris is deeply insecure and has even worse family relationships then she has ever had. It's hard for them to hate each other when they are both struggling to be as best they can, working together. They end up being more "frenemies" for the last two years of high school and in college. They push each other forward a lot and support them as time goes on. Paris's intensity and propensity to think everyone is acting against her, and their inherent need for competition keeps them going back and forth quite a bit. But they stay friends for their whole adulthood seen in AYTL.

Rory slid into higher society better than her mother ever did. She was close to her grandparents that might have been healthy they expected a better Lorelai and in many ways, that’s what they got. Rory learned the functions well, attended elite schools and dated a Huntzberger. Rory, in the beginning, so conflicts averse she did as she was told, and then adopted much of that lifestyle by choice later. This society allowed her intellect to continue to be praised as well as her looks and luck of birth.

Rory’s friends and family viewing her as usually flawless has always been the best, and truly being naturally gifted academically made it very hard for Rory to deal with any rejection. She is so deeply perfectionist that losing is unexpected and quickly hugely destabilizing. We see this when she isn’t perfect at college and then in extreme form with Mitchum Huntzburger.

Rory broke down twice around not living up to her and others expectation. The second time landing her in jail and listless in her purpose. This dates back to her never being told know and perfectionist tendencies.

Inbetween the end and AYTL we see she burned out early and was fine cheating on her boyfriend (who she treats real shitty) by sleeping with an ex who was engaged. She falls back on her most destructive tendencies forgetting that even with her natural gifts she had actually done the work when she was, young.

Overall Rory is generally kind and willing to help others, her lack of communication and relationship skills were often detrimental to her. Her overstated belief in her own raw talent and tendency to deny the obvious made her professional life struggle as well.

ADHD:

RSD

hyperactivity

hyper interest

hyper fixating

needs a schedule to function

attempts organization but has trouble sticking to it

outbursts of emotion

rambling

impulsivity often masked my anxiety

difficulty in social settings

struggles to understand her emotions

Bolting

GAD:

An overwhelming fear of failure

easily overwhelmed by stimuli

easily stressed out

escapism through books

fear of expressing emotions causing bottling up till it spills over

needs things done in one way

Obsessive behaviours, organization and studying

panic attacks when she is older

people pleaser to avoid conflict

perfectionist

rumination

struggles to define her needs in relationships

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blackireanboltien · 8 years ago

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JackxAshi, And why is really OK

After checking out all the reactions and comments about the events from the last Samurai Jack episode, I was genuienly surprised to see how polarizing this is. So I decided to give my opinion on the matter.

First of all: The father daughter dilemma.

As many of you know, many (for some reason) hoped for a fatherly relationship to develop between Ashi and Jack, something I nerver really comprehended. The reasons for it might be that above all I’m a shipper, and a sucker for hate to love relationships where one helps the other becoming a better person before falling to one another. The other reason and a more important one is that since the first episode I never considered Jack to be old. We know that he does not ages, so he never went over his 25 years(assuming he was in fact 25 when he got into the portal), Jack lived those 50 years without changing, as he said himself time lost its effect on him. He never became old, nor his mind; in many shows one can see a character go and age for some particular reason only to go back to his/her original age, in the narnia series some of the brothers and sisters went back to their childish ways while remembering their lives in narnia, they became adults but they were clearly childs with the memories of adulthood, Jack did not, his body and mind satyed the same only adquiring more experience and honestly tell me if a 25yo man would act or be like a 75yo just because you put him through the same stuff, the brain and mind changes over time, you lose things like balance and hearing, your cells replace each other less and less until you die, that’s how you age, you create more cells than you destroy until you are 21, stay in balance till 25 and start deteriorating from then on, if time has no effect on you, and you do not age, your mind will stay the same, same braincells same Jack, he saw time passing, but without it’s effects it only became memories to him rather that years of mental aging. This is crucial as Ashi is clearly in her late teens or early 20s making her 18-22 years old, an age gap very common between couples, it would be the equivalent of a naive or somewhat enclosed girl dating a guy who has seen bad stuff and travelled the world so really not much father daughter thing. At least for me.

Second of all: The Naive Ashi

This one is a small one not many complain about but I still want to adress it, basically people are saying that Ashi does not know better. While this has some truth, you have to remember that she is clearly not dumb, just inexperienced. She does not know about basic wildlife or other many things, but she is not completely ignorant, she knows about objects, machines, food and even some about people. She saved Jack from sepukku and knows the basics of the world, yet was never able to explore it, so it’s clear she is not as naive as many make her. Just pointing this one out.

Third of all: Things Being rushed

Ok, this one in particular makes sense while also not being clear to many. Yes, things between the two went from 0 to 10 relatively fast, but the context is what justifies and makes this relationship completely fine. For starters, Genndy had planned the ending for samurai jack years ago, and he stated that what we are watching is what he intended to be the end, the thing is he planned for smurai jack to last more than this. According to him, he had planned to end the series with more episodes, about 2 or 3 more 13 episode seasons, but when cartoon network/adult swim gave him the onpportunity to finish it they only gave him a very limited 10 episode season so he had to rush the plot to fit in 3 and a half hours of screen time, I’m sure he would have wanted to explore more of what jack did in those 50 years, how he encountered the daughters of aku, how he defeated them, meeting ashi, help liberating her, getting his sword and then possibly go on adventures as partners until something developed into romance. Just that gives one enough to make two other seasons so it really isn’t a surprise that he crammed some of this stuff into one episode. Just exploring and being haunted by the daughters, while keeping the format of other jack episodes would amount to 6 or 7 episodes alone, while the ashi arc would fill the rest to make for a complete season, and then another to find the sword and defeat aku.

Fourth and finally: It’s just a kiss

Ok obviousy it’s not just a kiss but I did not know how to put it in a better way, what I’m trying to say is that things like getting to know someone, realizing you like them and even a kiss, can and do in fact happen as fast as this. Tell me if you haven’t acted awkward around someone after you realized you liked them? or that you have never kissed someone as soon as you got the chance or after you realized that person also liked you? Things like this happen all the time and some even faster than this. Also until now Jack has been handeling his inner demons and suicidal thoughts, while Ashi has been discovering herself and literally sheding away her past, all of this plus worrying about the sword, aku and the ones who want to kill them. They haven’t had time to relax or think peacefully, that means no time to feel grateful for what the other did for them (saving jack from guilt and death and ashi from her life of lies as a killer). These two have done so much for the other, essentially saving their lives and giving them purpose, it’s natural they would feel affection towards the other, and it’s normal for them to develop romantic feelings for the other from that affection. Have you never had a crush on someone who has been good and nice to you? or that has done great things for you in a time where it seems only bad things are happening in your life? Or simply develop an attraction to someone just beacuse you have spent a lot of time together lately? I know I have, nearly all of them. These two getting together is fairly realistic giving the fact it’s a cartoon, but we are used to have things like romance expanded and explored over multiple episodes or even seasons in other shows, its ok that it feels rushed, but take in fact that relationships can be born just as fast as the one between jack and ashi, it just feels this way beacuse you say it in the span of 20 minutes. Also try thinking about what happened, they finally got time for themselves, they realized their affection for each other and then they kissed, sounds weird? no , not really, in fact the kiss makes more sense that anything to me. Jack and ashi just went through a phisical and mentally taxing situation while clearly being attracted to the other, they were almost killed by those slugs and nearly seeing your companion, that you clearly like being almost killed would put you in a state of emotional stress you can not even imagine and I hope you never do, and after all of that seeing each other alive it’s no surprise they kissed, they were overwhelmed by emotions, fear, relief, hapiness and even some sexual tension; any sane person under that circumstances would kiss the other, and you know it. Also it’s worht mentioning that people are for some reason saying this is full blown romance or something like that, they might have fallen in love with the other in a rushed fashion due to their encounter with the monster, but it is what it is, two people being attracted and acting upon it. Realistically that can happen as fast as we saw.

Finally, the other thing that I believe explains jack and ashi, is simple human nature; these two people have experienced so much pain, so much anger, so much sadness in their lives it’s natural if not mandatory for their brains to seek something better, after all I was once taught by a proffesor that humans alway search for a better state than the one they are currently on, always. Sometimes you believe it’s suicide to end all the pain, sometime is getting to know more about something as ignorance haunts you and sometimes is simply trying to find whatever happiness you can in something or even someone.

#samurai jack #samurai jack season 5 #jack #ashi #jack x ashi #samurai jack spoilers #season 5 #seriously guys it's normal #at least for me #relationships #otp

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sugarycupcakes-blog1 · 8 years ago

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Hai there and thank you for stopping by! The idea of this challenge was given to me after someone sparked my interest on Facebook.

I hope you enjoy it, and let me know what you think. Use the hashtag #babydaddychallenge so that we can find how your challenges are going on Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, you know the deal.

BABY DADDY CHALLENGE

BackStory

You are a hopeless romantic and a true believer of love at first sight. As a teenager, you fall in love fast and hard with no looking back, unfortunately, that turns off your teenage lover just as fast. As soon as you break the news that you are expecting your first little bundle of joy, your gf/bf bolts leaving you with the responsibility of taking care of this new life.

Though you are heartbroken, you strive to have the best for your child. You work hard to provide for your family, but can’t seem to maintain and keep a job. So you job hop, and save up every little bit of your money. It’s hard, but you get through it.

Before you know it, another special someone comes into your life. Being the person you are, you can’t say no… but they can. You end up with more children to look after, along with more deadbeat ex lovers.

You are determined to show your children that there is more to life than this… and that true love does in fact exists, but will you???

Rules

YOU WILL NEED THESE MODS TO PLAY THIS CHALLENGE TO IT’S FULLEST:

Mc Command to activate teen pregnancy:

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Slumber Party Mod:

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Prom Mod:

http://brittpinkiesims.wixsite.com/brittpinkiesims/downloads/category/Prom%20Mod

Graduation Mod: http://brittpinkiesims.wixsite.com/brittpinkiesims/single-post/2016/11/29/Graduation-Mod

SPECIAL THANKS TO BRITTPINKIESIMS AND DEADERPOOL FOR THESE AMAZING MODS.

THANK YOU!!!

Easy Mode: Set your sims lifespan to LONG.

HARD Mode: Set your sims lifespan to NORMAL

Setting up::

Start off the game as a Teenager. (can be male or female, you may give your teenager a mother and father, but you must have them move out immediately with only the starting money to the household)

Chose the Successful Lineage Aspiration,and the Romantic, Perfectionist, Family Oriented Traits.

Start off with $20,000 simoleons to buy a house, decorate it, and live off of to start..

You can use the FreeRealEstate cheat to get any sized lot, but no more money cheats afterwards.

You must either build a house, or buy one that is within your $20k budget.

Chose Hard Mode or Easy by choosing either a Normal or Long Lifespan.

You cannot accept any child support given by any of the lovers in this challenge.

Humble Beginnings

When choosing a house, you must buy it unfurnished. Everything that you purchase to put in the house, must be the cheapest option available. You will not be able to buy any fancy electronics such as a computer, highly expensive tvs, or any other “luxurious” items. The idea is to come from a very humble/poor beginning and build up a better life for your family all the while looking for love.

As you earn money, you will be able to make upgrades to the house, and eventually build it up to something nicer and more suitable, you may leave the initial lot if you please, but you must be sure that your household can afford the move.

Love Life

You become hopelessly in love with your first lover as a teenager. Despite your parents wishes, you continue to see them, and eventually move out on your own so that you can spend every moment with them.

The goal here is to have your first child with your high school sweetheart while you are still a TEENAGER.. After the baby is born, they must leave the household, and you may not keep any of the money generated by them or accept any child support.

After your first baby becomes a child, you may begin looking for love again. Unfortunately, you don’t know how to chose them, and they leave again.

This vicious cycle continues until you have had 10 different baby daddies/mommies and must be all accomplished before you turn into an ELDER. Once you become an ELDER, you may begin to look for a REAL love. Wanting to get it right as you give it one last chance, you clear your potential soul mate with all of your children before you chose to finally tie the knot.

Before you can be married with your lover, they must be GOOD FRIENDS with all your children no matter how many children there are.

Will you be able to accomplish this before you die of old age?

Working Parent

As a TEENAGER, you may work the part time jobs after school, but you must maintain an A average. You believe in working as hard as you love, and must strive for excellence. It was hard to leave your parents house, but you did what you must for a love your parents didn’t approve of. It is during your teenage years that you have your first child, but that doesn’t stop you from your life dreams.

As a YOUNG ADULT, you are to provide for your child/children with deadend jobs. This means that you are not allowed to accept any promotions, and if you do get promoted you have to leave the job and move to another one. The idea behind this is that you are still young and inexperienced, and realistically wouldn’t move up in work as quickly as the game allows. Plus, let’s face it we didn’t have the most glamorous jobs when we were first starting out.

Also, you MAY NOT sell any craftables as a teenager/young adult, such as paintings, books, etc, because you are still mastering your craft. You may, however, sell your vegetables and what nots if you chose to grow a garden or anything you find while digging around.

You cannot hire any “extra” services such as a maid or butler, and the only service you may use is hiring a Nanny. As a single parent, you don’t have extra money to buy things and replace them as they break, let alone hire a repairman, you must fix everything that breaks, yourself.

Once you reach ADULT, you may then chose a career that you may advance in. ONLY in ADULTHOOD may you accept promotions. In ADULTHOOD, you may start selling your paintings, etc. All of this is an illusion of you “getting it together”.

EASY MODE: You must master every crafting/cooking skill you have even longer to be the Jack of All Trades.

HARD MODE: You must at least master the Cooking Skill.

YOU MUST COMPLETE THE ASPIRATION BEFORE YOU DIE!

Children

You must take care of all of your children, yourself. Unfortunately, none of your ex lovers may provide you with any child support. You have to raise your family from the ground up alone. If you chose to be a father in this challenge, you have to make sure that you receive the baby from each of their mothers. There is no limit to how many children you have, but you must babies with 10 different sims. .

BABIES

Your heart grows fond of raising a family as soon as you have your first child. You want to show it the best in life, and you do everything in your power to make sure it has a great start. Being a single parent isn’t a bad thing, you tell yourself.

Each one of your babies, must grow through the stages naturally. You cannot age up your babies. While you still have your “baby” you cannot leave the house, besides going to work.

TODDLERS

When your baby grows into a Toddler, each Toddler has to have a DIFFERENT trait that you must chose randomly.

As your baby grows older, you both develop a bond like no other. You want to show her/him the world, and teach her/him everything that you know.

You love your toddler so much you have a bond like no other, in order to prove this, you MUST reach a friendly relationship with your toddler.

In order to show your toddler the world, you must take them out somewhere every weekend. Whether that be to a park, museum, etc, your little ones depend on you to show them the beautiful things in life. You will continue this family tradition throughout the child’s life.

You want to teach your toddler everything you know, in order to achieve this, you must make sure your toddler has at least 3 skills completely maxed out before they reach childhood.

On your toddler’s birthday, you must have a party and invite the child’s other parent to come.. Whether they come or not is up to them.

CHILDHOOD

Once your little toddler ages up to a Child, you must select a randomly generated trait for it to have.

You are your child’s best teacher, and you want to ensure that they will succeed. Your children must excel, just as you did. So you take the time out needed to make sure your child is making all A’s in school as well as maxing out at least 3 skills.

Just because your child is missing a parent, doesn’t mean he/she has to miss out on other things in life. During childhood, your little one must have at least 1 slumber party and make 3 good friends before they reach a Teenager.

***** use SLUMBER PARTY mod for this event*****

(if you want an easier route, you may plan to have a social event focused on children)

On your child’s birthday, you must have a party and invite the child’s other parent to come.. Whether they come or not is up to them.

TEENAGER

Once your little toddler ages up to a Teenager, you must select a randomly generated trait for it to have.

Having a teenager is the most trying and active time for any parent. There is so much to get prepared for, and to prepare your child for during their last years of staying at home. Stay strong! Make sure that they keep an A in school, because you BOTH have worked so hard.

Your teen wants to help you out after seeing your hard work and dedication through their life. He/she may get a part time job to help with the family expenses, but not if they aren’t maintaining their grades!

Before your teen grows into a Young Adult, you must make the most out of their high school years.

Your teenager must maintain at least 3 of their childhood friends.

You have been an amazing parent, and you can’t slack off just yet. Make sure that they have a blast at prom, and be one of the chaperones. Your child may or may not like that, but you want to be apart of these moments.

*** you may use the PROM mod for this event or the ingame prom***

To congratulate your Teenager for having straight A’s throughout their grade school career, you are teary eyed at their graduation. You may invite the baby’s parent to attend this event, if they even remember ya’ll have children together.

*** use GRADUATION mod for this event***

YOUNG ADULT

Once your child reaches young adulthood, they must find love themselves and move out of the household. They can still come back to visit, and they are still invited to the weekly family hangout tradition, but they are no longer under your roof.

Throughout the lives of your children, you must maintain a GOOD FRIENDS level with all of them. It is important to be close to all of your children.

The challenge is over if you do not meet all these goals, or if you do and you find love before you die. LOL

Here’s my Daddy that I will be using for the challenge, mind you can play either gender <4

ENJOY! ~Sugarycupcakes <3