#queer platonicly

[mortiaddams13]

I will never recover from how everything and everyone was so queer in The Lord of The Rings and The Hobbit and everything else. Legolas and Gimli built a boat together to go to the Undying Lands together and spent all their time *together* after Return of The King but yeah totally platonicly™️

Frodo and Sam were so queer in the books and movies that the actors themselves ship them together, and Sean Astin wanted them to kiss but we all know they wouldn’t have been able to get away with it. Bilbo and Thorin were so gay in the movies that this isn’t even an edited screenshot.

And somehow people still believe that it’s all platonic

[sunnysam-my]

You know what, I'm so sick of how allos fans constantly wanting the main masculine characters of shows based on Neil's Gaiman stories to be in a romantic mlm relationship with one another.

Seriously, Dead Boy Detectives and Good Omens are one of the only shows with 'gay' masculine characters I relate so much to as an aroace gay guy.

Crowley and Aziraphel are such an iconic queerplatonic relationship to me, as well as to many other aro/ace folks, but to this day I see so many people complaining about them being mostly platonic. Before they kissed people constantly complained about that. After they kissed so many people ignored that it was literally non-consentual and violating, because 'omg they finally kissed!' They don't need to kiss to be a couple. They don't need to be in love romantically or sexualy to love eachother and be a romantic couple.

Now the Dead Boy Detectives came out and I felt so seen with how the main boy loves eachother, but differently. Edwin loves Charles romanticly, but Charles doesn't, he loves romanticly Crystal, yet they stay friends, even stronger friends, after the confection, because he loves Edwin more than anyone, just platonicly. It wasn't confirmed in the show Chars is queer, but most people guessed. I loved how finally the main two boys where at least one is gay and they aren't together. Instead they are just (possibly) two queer friends. This literally pretty much never happens. For some reasons us gays are stuck in "we gotta have the main gay couple" hell. Like? Excuse me, you do realise that just like boys can be just friends with girls, the gays can be just friends too, even with the same sex, right? It's a thing. We're not that desperate, please.

Edwin's exploration of his attraction and relationships is something I can really relate to, because it's not just 'two guy fall in love' type of story, like we usually get. It's actually complicated like it is in real world, and Edwin even accidentally hurt someone he saw as a friend because he didn't realise the guy loved him. He then surpringly dealed with the problem very well. Can't forget the strugle to admit to yourself you are queer, because you know you won't be able to go back after that, and you've been programmed to ignore your feelings. Where it's not awful done in a "but we're both boys 🥺👉👈" way. But actually thoughtfully done. Where it's not about others or childish, but about admitting it to yourself.

Gays don't need to love eachother romanticly to love eachother dearly!

[groovy-rat-man]

reasons i would or wouldnt date/marry the stardew marriage candidates

Alex - im playing as an afab farmer for like the first time and holy shit im surprised he hasnt smacked my ass and told me to smile more, hes getting better but also ive been feeding him cookies from his grandmothers trash can as recompense

Elliott (?) - hes a cool guy but also VERY gay and tbh i dont know if im a dude or not so im just gonna let him be, plus I think id rather be writing buds

Harvey - havent married him yet but I really want to one of these days, he seems like a sweetie!!

Sam (?) - I think hed make a cool roommate/bff but I just dont see him that way idk

Sebastian - just vibes, I kinda fuckin hate him a little bit

Shane - reminds me of my dad a little bit except younger, dont like it

Abigail (?) - I dont know why I dont like her, shes cool but idk

Emily - just not my type I guess, plus I 1) ship her with Clint (sue me) and 2) am dating her sister

Haley - god I love her so much, when I first started playing stardew I just fell head over heels for her man (also she looks like, acts like, and HAS THE SAME NAME as the first girl I ever had a crush on so ya know)

Leah (?) - mega lesbian, kinda in the same boat as Elliott except I would 100% date her like in real life so it's complicated

Maru (?) - fucking adore her but mostly platonicly I think, also I lowkey ship her with Penny

Penny (?) - shes real sweet and I do like her character but I dunno, also same thing as maru

Krobus - fuck yeah we love Krobus, queer platonic partners for live baby!!

[fucknugg3t]

I had this for something else and I was just sending to some Aro blogs cause I was worked up but fuck it here’s a rant just one of them

 dating or platonicly together or exclusive or anything I’m not closer with them then any other friend or if I am it’s not because we kiss or fuck  and bro why does kissing and cuddling have to be with someone you date or qpr or are closer best friends with or whatever and it’s all even worse because I’m a man everyone acts like I have to just fuck and move on and I can’t be held or taken care of or kissed I get made fun of for wanting that and they say I can’t just be down for fwb if I want that everyone says it’s like unmanly or whatever either that or I get treated like I’m robbing people of romance because I don’t want to date or do situationships or whatever people say I’m using people and I’m selfish for it and stuff and I get called abusive even though I’m always straight forward with everything! this is all stupid and it’s making me uncomfortable I don’t like all these rules bro and I’m so tired of being shit on by people who like talk about queerness being ok they’ll talk about feminism and accepting eachother and then pull shit like this to me because I’m a aroallo guy like dawg you promised me you wouldn’t do this it doesn’t help that I’m not like feminine and stuff so I don’t look like queer or anything I’m just some guy who doesn’t want to date and no one’s ever cool with it anyway fuck like everything dawg

@unknownbookworm

[our-aro-experience]

hey man I’m aroallo and repulsed by like any kind of dating relationship qpr partnership platonic or romantic I get a lot of shit for not wanting even a platonic partner and I’ve been forced into all sorts of partnerships platonic included pet names and stereotypical romantic gestures send me runnin for the hills nauseous there’s like a handful of nicknames im actually ok with being called I do fwb and people get really weird about me not just fucking and moving on like I shouldn’t be close with or nice to with my friends that I fuck I can’t hug them or just chill with them aftercare and compliments or praises and kissing or making out is always treated like it’s not allowed for me and it really pisses me off and makes me sad I really like being held and kissed after stuff and just in general and I wish it wasn’t treated like some special fancy thing you can only do with someone specific or important enough like I dont want to be in a qpr or plantonuc partnership or treat my fwb different or more special then my other friends I just want to kiss all my friends and be held and it not be treated as some weird sacred thing like bro I just like affection and attention and I care about my friends obviously but it’s not like that we’re not dating or platonicly together or exclusive or anything I’m not closer with them then any other friend or if I am it’s not because we kiss or fuck and bro why does kissing and cuddling have to be with someone you date or qpr or are closer best friends with or whatever and it’s all even worse because I’m a man everyone acts like I have to just fuck and move on and I can’t be held or taken care of or kissed I get made fun of for wanting that and they say I can’t just be down for fwb if I want that everyone says it’s like unmanly or whatever either that or I get treated like I’m robbing people of romance because I don’t want to date or do situationships or whatever people say I’m using people and I’m selfish for it and stuff and I get called abusive even though I’m always straight forward with everything! this is all stupid and it’s making me uncomfortable I don’t like all these rules bro and I’m so tired of being shit on by people who like talk about queerness being ok they’ll talk about feminism and accepting eachother and then pull shit like this to me because I’m a aroallo guy like dawg you promised me you wouldn’t do this it doesn’t help that I’m not like feminine and stuff so I don’t look like queer or anything I’m just some guy who doesn’t want to date and no one’s ever cool with it anyway sorry for the long ass rant bro I don’t really send stuff like this idk what I’m doing really sorry for the wall of text

all of your experiences here are valid, just so you know. unfortunately amatonormativity has been ingrained into society so much that most people don’t even realize “unconventional” relationships exist and are okay. hopefully society will progress in the future and become more accepting of arospecs/aspecs.

[our-arospec-experience]

hey man I’m aroallo and repulsed by like any kind of dating relationship qpr partnership platonic or romantic I get a lot of shit for not wanting even a platonic partner and I’ve been forced into all sorts of partnerships platonic included pet names and stereotypical romantic gestures send me runnin for the hills nauseous there’s like a handful of nicknames im actually ok with being called I do fwb and people get really weird about me not just fucking and moving on like I shouldn’t be close with or nice to with my friends that I fuck I can’t hug them or just chill with them aftercare and compliments or praises and kissing or making out is always treated like it’s not allowed for me and it really pisses me off and makes me sad I really like being held and kissed after stuff and just in general and I wish it wasn’t treated like some special fancy thing you can only do with someone specific or important enough like I dont want to be in a qpr or plantonuc partnership or treat my fwb different or more special then my other friends I just want to kiss all my friends and be held and it not be treated as some weird sacred thing like bro I just like affection and attention and I care about my friends obviously but it’s not like that we’re not dating or platonicly together or exclusive or anything I’m not closer with them then any other friend or if I am it’s not because we kiss or fuck and bro why does kissing and cuddling have to be with someone you date or qpr or are closer best friends with or whatever and it’s all even worse because I’m a man everyone acts like I have to just fuck and move on and I can’t be held or taken care of or kissed I get made fun of for wanting that and they say I can’t just be down for fwb if I want that everyone says it’s like unmanly or whatever either that or I get treated like I’m robbing people of romance because I don’t want to date or do situationships or whatever people say I’m using people and I’m selfish for it and stuff and I get called abusive even though I’m always straight forward with everything! this is all stupid and it’s making me uncomfortable I don’t like all these rules bro and I’m so tired of being shit on by people who like talk about queerness being ok they’ll talk about feminism and accepting eachother and then pull shit like this to me because I’m a aroallo guy like dawg you promised me you wouldn’t do this it doesn’t help that I’m not like feminine and stuff so I don’t look like queer or anything I’m just some guy who doesn’t want to date and no one’s ever cool with it anyway sorry for the long ass rant bro I don’t really send stuff like this idk what I’m doing really

I’m sorry people have been so misunderstanding. My inbox is always open to rant!

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[archangeldyke-all]

HI ANGEL!! Can u give me some advice on how to flirt and interact more with girls (I'm very shy)

of course! keep in mind i've never had a gf, so i'm not sure how helpful these tips are haha, but this is how i flirt!

make sure your compliments are Flirty and not Friendly. a lot of times lesbians can fall into the trap of 'omg ur so pretty! ur a goddess! ur so gorgeous!' which is nice and all, but it's also very similar to how girls compliment each other platonicly. so if you want to compliment a girl, instead of saying 'ur hair is so pretty!' say something a little more suggestive, like 'your hair smells really good.' or instead of 'i love your nails!' go for 'you have great hands.' does this make sense?

i find that for me personally, flirting is a bit easier through text. the separation helps ease some of the shyness/anxiety. so if you're feeling shy in person, just send them a flirty text afterwards! 'btw, you looked stunning today.' something like that.

also, tell them you're shy! tell them when they make you flustered! half of the time, flirting with another queer girl is just letting her know that her flirting, whether intentional or not, is working.

when/if you touch them, just hold onto them for one or two seconds more than is appropriate for 'just friends'. linger for a bit. make her really realize that you're touching her, and when you're sure she's noticed, then you can let go. (i recommend playing with girls' hair, a hand on their waist as you sneak past them, fiddling with their fingers 'mindlessly' etc.)

also, and idk if this is stupid to say or not, but make it obvious that you're queer! a lot of times queer girls get stuck in the 'is she flirting or is she just friendly' mindset, and making it abundantly clear that you are attracted to women will help the girls you're flirting with know that you mean it in a flirty way!

as far as just interacting with more girls, the only thing i can say is don't be afraid! as someone who has always struggled with interacting with girls because of how bullied by other girls i was when i was younger, i get how intimidating it can be. but the fact of the matter is that most girls are going to be incredibly friendly and kind to you, and are probably just as nervous as you are! make the first move! talk to them first, ask to sit by them, bring them snacks or offer to go to coffee with them, make it obvious that you want to be friends/hang out. if someone gives you the cold shoulder or doesn't seem excited by the attention you're giving them, it's likely that they won't be the person for you anyways, so don't let it get you down. just move on, and someday you'll meet someone who is thrilled to have your attention, and thankful for it! and, once you have one girl friend, it's easier to make more. girls flock to groups of other girls, there's power it numbers, at least in my experience! just make sure you're inviting and kind and encouraging when someone new approaches you, or approach them first! 'me and my friend saw you sitting alone, can we sit with you for lunch?' or 'omg me and my friend were just talking about XYZ thing, what are your thoughts on it?' it always helps talking to a girl when you've got another girl there to break the tension haha.

hope this helps!!!!

[jathis]

The Monkees tv show is a my aroace dream:

- they live together

- share clothes

- sleep in the same room

- one would also have to assume that they cook for each other (because we know peter can't)

- they're willing to dance,kiss, and cuddle each other (platonicly i assume)

- Davy finally stops trying to date and embraces the poly queer platonic relationship he is in (in the reunion )

- the wacky adventures

- the comfy feel of the reunion ep

God the platonic cuddles and kisses though

Love these four boys

[pinkydragon01]

My wife and I graduated together and got married the same year- 18 years old.

11 years later and we're still together and she's still my bestest friend. She transitioned MtF since then and we even share a boyfriend of 3 years+ now. Our family is a beautiful, queer polycule and its the center of my soul.

With all that being said, I don't advise marriage that young. The first few years of marriage are very challenging and require a great amount of emotional intelligence and self-confidence. 18 year olds should be exploring their identity, adventuring outside of their comfort zone, and experience a few adult relationships first. My situation was incredibly unique with too much context and nuance to shove into a tumblr post.

Discover yourself, learn to love that self, and then seek to share that self with someone who will love them too, both platonicly and romantically.

I saw a 21 year old on here casually talk about "my husband" YOUR WHAT?? Girl if you don't go divorce that man

[cream-filled-bun]

In my au where they fuck, they get married queer platonicly

KoM basically just said "yeah I'll stick around with this hot mess of a milf for as long as she lives"

[glitchedsoftware]

actually that last reblog reminds me so like i deadass didnt even KNOW i was in a queer platonic relationship with my 2 friends for like A YEAR. i think one of them just like casually said we were queer platonics and i was like ""WE ARE???? SINCE WHEN?????"" since APPARENTLY him saying we were all "platonicly married" a year before wasnt entirely a joke. i might be stupid (or just autistic)

[caught-the-lovebug]

I didn't know how inferior handholding is. Gently tracing lines on his hands, or his thumb rubbing against mine while the backs of our hands press against each other, or tangling just one or two of our fingers together, or the myriad of other things.

Like damn, all I've mostly seen is people talk about how great and amazing and special hand holding is. And I believe you, like I believe those are your emotions and that it is that special to you. But gods, y'all have been sleeping on everything else.

I am in love with all the other affectionate things you can do with hands.

[hunter216]

1: green is my favourite colour

2: I am aroace (specifically cupiorose)

3: hell yeah (I only have like two or three friends who aren't queer in some way)

4: probably Daughter by Ryan Cassata

5: romanticly no, platonicly, i think so

6: I'm transmasc (specifially bigender(male & agender) or voidboy/paraboy)

7: not that I can think of

8: I like showing physical and emotional affection towards people. (only platonicly tho)

9: mostly, I only look at personality traits such as kindness, humor, respect, etc.

10: being open to my craziness and running with it with full force

11: I like those little happy squeals people do when they are really excited for something lol

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🌈: Your favourite colour from the rainbow?

🏳️‍🌈: What is your sexuality?

🫂: Do you have queer friends?

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💞: How do you like to express your love? Both platonic and romantic.

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❤️‍🔥: What do you find attractive in another person?

🩷: something you find cute in other people?

[sugary-bluebell]

Can I request Julian and Asra being in a qpr (queer platonic relationship) with a gn reader?

Julian and Asra being in a qpr with reader

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°•A/n: soo idk if I did good with this request, it was a bit tricky tbh but I hope it's okay with how it turned out cos I'm not so sure myself, pls tell me ur thoughts on this anon!, I tried my best with this :') hope you enjoy love ~♡

◇Warning◇: nothing(?)

°•Reader: gn

You, Asra and Julian have been together for a while now and by the time Julian joined the qpr, you and Asra got married platonicly and sooner or later a ring will be on Julian's hand aswell- he doesn't have a choice when you and Asra aren't teasing Julian into the next dimension, ya'll are doing one of three things

1- napping/cuddling, if you need the restroom then hold it in cos Asra ain't letting you or Julian, he has an iron grip around you two

2- going through the market to look for whatever catches your eye, and Julian is looking for more leeches ofc (you and Asra set a rule in the shop, it's "no leeches in the bedroom")

3- going out through the woods or travelling for a short while to not only relax a bit but also find new things to try and experience

If you enjoy any form of art then be aware that you already have 2 extremely supportive fans, enjoy reading? Well, expect 2 new books every week, one from daddy long legs Julian and one from magic boy Asra and Faust, speaking of familiars, Faust and malak get along fine if food isn't involved, they always fight on who gets fed first, malak loves the look on Julian's face when Faust squeezes him :)

Platonic kisses are very very frequent around the shop, Asra loves affection, Julian is touch starved asf and you see how that's already good? Then add you to the mix? Oh boy it's just -chef's kiss- as stated above, you and Asra enjoy teasing Julian so much- poor man can't cuddle with you two without if face turning so red it puts his hair colour to shame lmao

Julian extremely enjoys hand kisses- his inner hopeless romantic is melting at the thought, ofc he enjoys any kisses from you and Asra but hand kisses are in his top 5. Asra on the other hand loves loves loves neck kisses, it makes him feel all warm and soft but it's also a way to get out their adorable laughts and giggles since his neck is sensitive too

You guys are grate together and always look out for one another, making some people look in jealousy or confusion at how the relationship works but at the end of the day, you three don't care what people have to say about it as long as you guys are happy and comfortable, it doesn't matter ♡

[its5amhelp]

when i say,

“love is love”

I also mean platonic for my aro ppls who are lacking representation. So to all you amazing 

you are loved and accepted here