#punishing people for asking questions
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If I don’t know and I am asking, and you respond by talking down to me, you’re punishing me both for wanting to learn and for thinking you would be capable of teaching me.
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hi tumblr. how do you like angelic centipede prophets
close-up on face + a height ref under read more!!
#Ultrakill#ultrakill oc#Evangelos#Lethes art#oc#hi so this is my angelic prophet who can't lie#this is a repost since they needed some design changes!!#but yeah Evangelos was imprisoned by god#God recognized how powerful Evangelos had become and imprisoned it#Evangelos took this imprisonment more as duty than punishment. it foresaw it and willingly was chained up.#currently it's still chained. hanging from the ceiling of an ancient temple/cathedral.#oh yeah about the reasoning for the imprisonment Evangelos was NOT trying to rebel or anything this was just the best way to get people ->#to leave it alone lol. it was constantly bugged since its future vision was so powerful and so accurate. and it can't even lie to anyone#people have asked it questions and it must give them the (usually) cold and hard truth#anyways SORRY ABOUT THE YAPPING!! ^_^
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In islam are all nonbelievers going to hell permanently? If god is truly merciful wouldn't most good peple get into heven eventually, once theyve ben proportionately punished and repented?
theres an old joke my catholic grandmother told me once where a man dies and goes to heaven and is greeted at the gates by saint peter. he gets shown around and sees wonders beyond his imagination, people existing in harmony, and all the glories of god. soon they come upon a tall wall stretching out for miles and miles and the man, shocked, asks "why is there a wall in heaven?" saint peter quickly says "shh! thats for the catholics they think theyre the only ones here!"
#asks#to answer your question: im not of the opinion that the only people going to heaven are muslim lol#whats the point in creating a diverse world if people are punished for their diversities?
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The Hearts of Darkness crew from my earth, btw.
#francine castle#fran castle#the punisher#logan howlett#Wolverine#danny ketch#ghost rider#Lucy#E-1815141425#ron’s art tag#shut in the fuck up ron#they actually go across America to follow Blackheart to beat his ass in this earth#and they take Lucy because Logan’s attached and fran….doesn’t wanna leave her with the cops…..#“SHE DOESN’T KNOW YOU PEOPLE. COME ON SWEETHEART. LET’S GO.”#also Logan’s Inuit in this earth!!!#idk I just….liked the idea…and want an excuse to ask questions….:)#Danny’s half Mexican [he doesn’t know this and does not find out until years later but it’s on his father’s side]#and Francine is a trans lady#because I just…wanted to.#I thought trans lady punisher would be cool as fuck and I was right#Logan’s also trans!!!#they’re best friends actually#but like they make each other so fucking mad here 😭😭😭#he knows her deepest darkest secrets and vise versa they can ruin each other’s lives#😭😭😭#oh Fran’s fucked up haircut is micro’s fault btw#he convinced her he could cut it for her and….she just couldn’t give enough of a fuck. there are missions to be had. 😭
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what if we held on to whatever we get the idea of as Normal as unquestionable & think all you can do to this normal is apply some veneers overtop it to be more polite & also resent that. maybe we could project that everyone who seems to be Annoyingly Disruptively doing more than this must be putting on a performance to look good &/or humor others b/c that's all we ever believe we're doing, & again, we resent even that much....maybe we could use our show of More Polite language to make the same points blaming everyone who our Normal mistreats for their own mistreatment
#perhaps we could lecture autistic people on their; ah; Lacking Social Skills or Intelligence. it's just matter of fact#completely neutral what Annoys those who do well enough when thrown into any group settings; completely neutral how they React#like yeah can't possibly take issue w/anything Acceptable to Encouraged in the realm of even ''successful'' ''normal'' social interactions#infinite ''smh this is why nobody takes ableism seriously'' like oh you mean b/c of the ableism? is why you don't take it seriously?#infinite ways of phrasing that everyone alleged so Annoying With It is just like you but someone actively Putting On An Act too much#all it can possibly be. just as someone's Anti Ableism would be knowingly ''humoring'' / ''tolerating'' an autistic person e.g.#ah you see to this Person Who Identifies As Nonbinary's face i will try to mostly use Their Preferred Pronouns. that's that done#but it's sooo annoying. what's next; multiple &/or changing pronouns? god even worse. so Inflicted Upon my correct norm#if i'm not feeling actively malicious & devious in how i treat someone i am surely as righteous as it gets#having to improve on perfection by occasionally feeling Put Upon to perform politeness around some individuals? ughhh#that's why it's actually illegitimate. shouldn't have to be Put Upon like that. (finding the norm Questionable? out of the question Lol)#shocked ppl report that casual usage of the r word is having a revival. by shocked i mean [already clear ppl didn't care abt that]#& again just the current ''polite'' rephrasing of ableism like oh um :) disabled ppl are just a Specific kind of unintelligent & unskilled#& unprofessional & incompetent & a harmful scourge :) & maybe if they learned to be otherwise they wouldn't be punished :)#just formalized ABA vs the less formalized ABA huh. & the [the Real ableism] it ostensibly is to be saying all this i'm sure#something something not a real ally if they encourage behavior that will Make other ppl treat you badly. helpless neurotypicality :(#just as the ppl saying ableism is baked into terms & phrases used casually well beyond the [bad but lol guess not That Bad r word]#were definitely the ones Advancing Ableism by annoyingly overdoing the Polite Veneer you imagine they were Demanding#(rather than a more thorough questioning of language & accepted ''norms'' in pointing out the logics in their usage / basis)#simultaneously as being too much to ask it was also always so Frivolous as to not be worth the apparently infinitesimal effort#hmm guess we'll never solve the contradictions there....#not even with the ''openly saying 'see? i don't take ableism seriously & now it's Your Fault b/c i saw this & scoffed at it''' clues#& a final shoutout to the classic ''it's called being Realistic'' language in this & wherever else relevantly applied lol. we could go on
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it happened so early in the morning and i am STILL frothing with rage over this text my boss sent me
#unreasonable unbelievable targeting me bullshit like what is your problem what is your PROBLEM#are you punishing me preemptively for telling you i'm going back to school? LOL? cuz sure That makes me wanna stay!#i am splitting so viciously on her right now and i can't even care to wish i wasn't#this was the last fucking straw mentally for me on Trusting This Boss#and i sure as shit can't trust the one above her#i am soooo mad i am so mad i am so mad i am so mad#i just want to be transferred out already and start part time work somewhere else NOW#if i can leave earlier i fucking will#i will be without insurance for a bit but i can try to get on some fast#i just. ooh! ooooh!!!! you little fucker!!!!!!!!#i cannot trust a single person in the front of the building anymore#and i have to sit next to my least favorite person in the back now#and i am just. utterly miserable right now i am Miserable at this job that isn't even as bad as it could be#but holy shit the petty condescending bullshit is driving me fucking up the wall#i can't look at any of them!!!! without feeling intense hatred!!!!#i have no social life outside of work and i can't talk to ANYONE there about this because it'd just find its way back to her!!!!#i can't tell HR because it's not that serious! except it's driving my mental health into a tailspin!#but i still can't tell anyone!!!!!!!! because what proof do i have that she's singling me out!#even tho she has NEVER FUCKING DONE THIS TO OR ABOUT OTHER PPL#i can't Prove that and i sure as shit can't sit down with her and talk to her about my feelings#no job is ever fucking safe to do that in#i just want to walk into a river honestly like i need work so i can pay for college but i wanna be in college already and be Out of here#i just wanna skip to the END of college when i'm actually able to be a nurse and i can feel less like the butt monkey at work#i hate hate HATE being at the bottom of the totem pole i am literally nothing there even though they need me to function#but oh my gd the Looks people give me when i walk in a room like they expect bad news or to be annoyed#sorry for asking questions! would you rather i fuck up and you have to clean up the mess?#i clean up everyone else's messes all day!#they ARE going to feel it when i am not there anymore#you'd think they wouldn't be such cunts to me now but Nope. nope! almost All cunts.#i am so fucking angry at my boss in particular though that text fucking triggered rage i haven't felt in months
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Idk I just think that treating your child as less-than on the basis of them being your child (whom you are responsible for having) is kind of very shitty
#I had a whole long ass post written out#but#‘do as I say without any questions asked’#and ‘you have no choice in any decisions made here’#and ‘respect your elders even if they treat you like shit’#and ‘your feelings don’t matter’#are AWFUL lessons to teach to anyone#especially children#I don’t care if someone is a million years old if they treat me like shit I will walk away from them#I dont know why I’m still treated like this#I’m an adult#and it’s not like my mother treats my older brothers (who are only a few years older than me) the same way#the only difference is they don’t live with her#my younger siblings and I get screamed at and called names by our entire family#and WE get punished for walking away#it’s always ‘stand up for yourself’ until the people I’m standing up to are older than me#THEN im being disrespectful#but they aren’t#because it’s impossible to disrespect a child#there are ways to teach your children respect and responsiblity without treating them like slaves who’s only purpose is listening to you#and all of the older people who preach ‘just deal with it because life sucks’ can fuck right off#life does suck and you will have to put up with shitty situations and shitty people but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t avoid it if you can#God I can’t wait to move out of here
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Me looking at my own mood boards like “oh yeah this guy gets it”
#💭#📓#I love you friendship and midnight gospel and Kaluah and I love listening and hearing stories and laughing so hard and being full of joy and#and and like questions and sadness and grief and fear and all these things that are I usually deal with with isolation on codependence w my#mom like now I feel like I’m given the space to be a person and to be around someone who truly listens and lives and I’m realizing places#(stuck point.comma.therapy term) where I am finding myself uncomfortable with the way I handle a conversation specifically how I listen to#people I care about and listening to understand instead of listening to respond (not usually an issue with ppl I like) or listening to#relate I struggle a lot with that I tend to use immediate interrupting with my own thing to show I get it and that can quickly be overdone#and I’m starting to notice when I do it and I’m learning how to balance that with also learning to shut my mouth for a second and like give#people (Levi) (but also people in IOP actually) space to talk and feel and finish a thought and trying to validate (ew therapy term) and#fully listen and understand in ways that aren’t from my own perspective bc that’s a thing I struggle with but I am also comforted by the#fact that Levi will not punish me or be harsh to me if I mess up in the moments when I notice I’m doing it and maybe when I find myself#doing it I could say it out loud and apologize or like ask if there was more to say like idk I want to work on my listening#and not to use an excuse or whatever but I feel like I have been so isolated for so long like four years ish and I have not fully gained the#skill of listening to people at this stage of my life when I’m not in a direct classroom setting where you are almost allowed to interrupt#in order to add to a conversation but that’s not how all conversations are made to be and obviously (well maybe not obvious) but friends#can understand and discuss boundaries and feel comfortable over talking and speaking up when there was something you wanted to say and#having me wait a second idk idk how to explain it
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never thought i'd see people try to argue or analyse wriothesley's murder in regards to his personality. i think people are missing the point. the situation has nothing to do with him and has everything to do with an extremely traumatic environment that made a small boy think the only solution so save himself and the people he cared about was to take the life of his abusers. it's not supposed to be rational, it wasn't premeditated, it wasn't about getting away with it. if you read his description of the murder you can see how out of it he was. his goal was to protect himself and his siblings and that's what he did. that's why he admitted to the crime so easily and why he is keen to associate the fortress as a rebirth place. he was just young, lost and traumatised and that's about it when it comes to the extension of it all.
#people acting like they're disappointed because he's a 'manipulative' and cunning individual or because he's cold and that it doesn't match#the crime as if at that time he wasn't just a kid experiencing extreme distress and without a safe space to seek help#i also don't personally think he's manipulative at all. he isn't like ayato or yae miko. he has very strong values and he does everything#to abide to that. if that means ommiting information at some point to make the best out of a situation he will do so but he doesn't do#things for personal gain and as soon as he can be truthful he lays all the cards on the table#this reminds me of that ayaka situation where people tried to paint her as manipulative when all she did was ask the traveller to hear#people's stories so traveller could take their own conclusions about the situation in inazuma shsjsh#it's also the way wrio isn't even cold. he's serious and composed but goddamn if he didn't show how empathetic he is#also how lightweight his personality is during the archon quest...#at this point i'm just questioning myself if we're even playing the same game#wrio 'i believe in restorative justice rather than punishment' the slay#wrio 'there's a prophecy about a flood dooming the entire country so i'm taking matters into my own hands and building noah's ark to save#my people' the slay#wrio 'i have no reason to trust you but i will still offer you a cup of tea' the slay and people still try to pain him in an obscure light#he's not even that morally grey 😭 he's morally gray in the sense everyone is#wanting to stop people who hurt others isn't controversial or shouldn't be#also because we KNOW that's his last resource#his job is literally to give people a second chance the same way he took his except he actually wants to make life easier for others#than it was for him and people are so vocal about how grateful they are of him like???#he's such a good guy genuinely#and just because he's intelligent and usually composed doesn't mean he isn't emotional sensitive or even prone to being put in situations#where's he's forced to react a certain way because that's just human nature#he's literally just a silly guy with trauma and big responsabilities set him free from the shackles of mischaracterization please 😂#not that i'm better i'm a fool i may just be talking shit really#but seeing people act like the murder is somehow badly written or that he is dark and dangerous make me go ???#having the ability to do something doesn't define you as a person and i feel like judgement without context makes no sense#but maybe that's just me
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Hellooo mun!!! If you met your muse (or muses, if you wanna do both or just the birb) how do you think that interaction would go like?
((omg hello!! gosh ahsjdk tbh i never really thought about it because i don't even like the idea of any of the actual canon characters interacting with me personally [see: @dolasach's reason for existence + this blog honestly just being made so that i could have a reason to interact with the rp blogs without having to bring out my oc] but this did get me thinking >v<
for the crow:
crows are honestly extremely rare where i live, at most i see them as small black figures in the sky when they're flying off. so if i got the meet the crow irl i think i'd be genuinely thrilled?
as in. i would go through the motions of trying to befriend the thing and also play the part of a fool that tries to feed a mechanical bird ;-; i'd hope that it'd be like what's going on with yvonne, but i'm not talkative enough with animals to get any sort of emotional investment out of anyone at onychinus hq for what drama might be going on in my life. so like. i'd just be a running joke to the engineers for being a reason why the bird keeps coming back with a chassis full of food lol
for dolasach:
okay so like. i so CLEARLY imagine myself to meet her because of some art event where she's a guest, like a lecture or workshop or gallery exhibit opening. she'd have such a particular vibe to her, i feel? that would make it shockingly easy for me to actually reach out and ask questions about her craft (if it were a gallery opening) or ask some really thorough questions + start a bit of banter (if its a workshop) even if her gaze would be so intense i might die on the spot <-aroace but not immune to cool hot people.
i think it would go fairly well, i don't think i've ever left bad impressions on more important people i've interacted with and half the time end up befriending them + i want to believe i'd get a genuine laugh from her 😭 that's all i want oml))
#((the intern speaks))#((this made me think of this one professor i had in uni who in hindsight had PEAK dola vibes. insanely put together and polished as a perso#and with that kind of strict intimidating vibe at first? but is actually surprisingly warm and silly lol and now i also think i'd fight#tooth and nail to be in her class. tho at the same time she'd teach something so niche that there would be JUST enough students for the#class to not be dissolved sdhfjksdf))#((and with the crow i think id be considerably more nervous bc i'm another dumbass that thinks its a real bird so i dont wanna fuck up#and have an entire murder remember me as evil forever and gang up on me as punishment for hurting the feelings of one of their brethren))#((bonus: if i ever meet sylus... he has to be the one to speak to me first or else nothing is going to happen sdfhjksfjhsdf#and if he does... either i think he's a creep and try to get away OR we somehow become besties after i introduce him to the joys of#halo-halo and kwek-kwek LMAO he'd have to be on vacation in the philippines somewhere and for some reason#i get random people asking me questions??? and sometimes asking for my twitter to add me shfjksddfjhs))#((anyway omg thank u for the ask >.< took a while + now im medicated so im yapping away like crazy but this was fun thinking!!))
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I wanna make an essay about my amane thoughts however i think most of my thoughts were already said better by other people so just have my fave screenshot of amane
#milgram#this is before she treats the cat in the magic mv i believe#look at her eyes#they have 2 sparkles instead of one#this is the only moment her eyes look like this iirc#she's kind enough to break her cult's rules (the rules she's grown up with) to help.#and she was punished#also story perspective wise amane is such a good character#she was abused and gaslit by a cult and it influenced her to kill#possibly ordered by the cult elders#and iirc the original milgram project was following authority and orders but i could be wrong#and she is just so good at making the audience feel conflicted and helpless#all of the milgram characters ask us a question; criticize the way we judge people#amane criticizes how we view children#many people voted amane because they wanted to teach her a lesson#a lot of people pity her situation (which i do as well) but sometimes it just ends up as viewing her solely as an abused child#and it's great#i view the t1 guilty metavoting as people thinking teaching amane a lesson would help her change#but kids have their own thoughts and beliefs#punishing them for it isnt going to stop them#it honestly makes them lean more into it#idk what point im trying to make it's 10pm#but yeah. amane really exposes how people think of children#victor rambles
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I feel like for my whole life I've been so patient and so forgiving and that has always been the only thing about me that was rewarded to the point that I genuinely don't know if it's okay to stop being that or to be less of that or to be impatient and frustrated and angry as well
#i dont want to stop being soft but i do want to stop being small#i want to forgive people who deserve it but i dont actually trust my own judgment enough to find out where i should and shouldnt forgive#and i want to be patient and helpful and kind but i only have so much effort to give and im so tired and there is so much that no one knows#how can i explain patiently when the explanation is that i am not? the explanation is that i am losing my patience#its hurting me that people dont know what they are asking questions about but they are asking so they deserve to know#but i dont know if my being tired and in pain is a good enough reason not to tell them. i cant punish people for not knowing#but then is it okay to burden myself for knowing? and to what extent can i be expected to be able to handle it?
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i love learning about parenting styles in psych 101 bc i can read it and go “haha yeah my dad was like that” and how that has been proven to mess children up and i can be like “yep can confirm”
#we’re learning about authoritarian parenting styles and uhhh#let’s just say it’s hitting a little too close to home#basically authoritarian parenting is being a ‘because i said so’ parent#they set strict rules don’t allow exceptions and apply punishments whenever rules are broken#they favor obedience over reasoning for rules#and that last sentence reminds me of how as a young teenager and older child i wasn’t allowed to ask questions about or debate rules#bc i would apparently ‘find a way to make the rules seem unreasonable and get my way’#so basically my dad was mad that i was a reasonable human being in the face of his strict discipline#hint hint: if your reasoning for rules can be unraveled by a 12 year old maybe your reasoning is bad#authoritarian parenting#this course was not made for ppl with trauma or mental illness or neurodivergency or disabled people
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I just went down the rabbit hole about Judaism again and I remembered one time a friend shared a post that basically went
me: I want to convert rabbi: why tho :/
and I just interpreted that as "oh yeah they actively don't want converts so obviously you gotta convince them you're serious"
but today I found out that actually it's tradition to reject someone's request to convert three times as a test of sincerity, and I'm glad I know that now, because my socially anxious ass, upon asking a religious leader "hi can I join your community" and being told "no" would say "okay I am so sorry to bother you" and run away and jump in a hole and never be seen again like what do you mean you're expected to just keep asking until they say yes? People do that? And no one screams at them for it? They are rewarded for persistence?
anyway I'm not saying I will ever convert but it still feels like I have averted a crisis on behalf of future me today
#storyranger rambles#childhood trauma#in our house “no” was absolute and immutable and questioning the authority saying so was punished#a common refrain when I asked my mom for permission to do something and gently stressed that I needed an answer somewhat soon#was “if you need an answer now then the answer is no”#didn't matter if the permission form was due tomorrow or my friend needed an answer today otherwise my invitation was revoked#and it was my fault for not giving her enough time to decide#obviously I should have just magically gained control over deadlines set by other people#reminding her of that deadline was nagging#and if you asked her to reconsider a decision#threats were made#so yeah the idea of a ritual like this sets my teeth on edge but also I 100% agree with the rabbinical reasoning#I actually think it's great!#persistence proves dedication!#theology#I apologize to everyone who only follows me for my fanfic and my chaos media consumption#sometimes I have thoughts about other things
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Everytime my narcissistic boss does something narcissistic towards me, I steal something from him (keeping nature's balance)
#today: wine and a very nice ceramic plate#punishment for: he refused to give me instructions on how he wanted something done because he finds people who ask questions annoying#and then complained to my coworker about how i did it#personal#this wine is so good tho so it's okay#and i didnt even do it the wrong way i read into it for a week before starting the project#my coworker defended me bless her heart
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It’s also important to be braced for a “yes” so you’re ready to say “okay, I’m sorry you weren’t feeling comfortable saying that without my asking you directly, let’s talk about it”
They should make a "are you mad at me" that is taken neutrally and informationally every time and doesn't make everything worse when you ask it
#if you’ve historically taken ‘yes’ poorly then you’ve proven that the question is a trap#if you’ve historically punished people for asking then you’re also laying traps#communication takes two
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