#ough characters who look for approval from the last people they should be looking for it from..... it happens more often than you think

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oh boy oh boy oh boy

apparently a certain kpop boy, asked by a tv show host (?) about “chubby people”, said “you need to stop eating”. there was something about loving yourself after that, a wonderful deflection, but nonetheless that’s what he chose to start with, it seems. and he ended it with “loving yourself” as well, but before that he apparently said “if you love yourself and you’re skinny, you’ll work out to be healthy. if you love yourself and are chubby, you’ll lose weight to be healthy”.

i’m saying apparently because the state of translations in kpop fandoms is miserable, so Who Knows. i’ve seen many a tweet insisting that’s a “mistranslation”, and many a thread offering “correct translation” that nonetheless say the same thing. there was also another thread talking about how a part of this speech was comedic exaggeration, and the latter part was “inspirational advice”. so if it’s all a bit, people are indeed panicking for nothing, because if he’s making an ironic commentary on what society would tell people, then what he says isn’t necessarily what he believes.

that being said: why the fuck are we asking kpop idols about their opinions on chubby people. or in general celebrities. i mean -- this is not to say that all of them share this mindset because there are celebs who say “yeah if you’re fat and love eating you don’t have to do diets! do what you love! your own happiness is important!”. but have we seen what the industry looks like. have we seen how netizens react to celebs who have even a sliver of fat on their bodies. haven’t we heard all about horrible diets, idols paying for their food with their own money as trainees, idols sneaking out to buy food or hiding their snacks in their pillows so that they’d have anything to eat? haven’t we seen idols apologize for their perfect faces because “ough i ate ramyeon and i’m sooo bloated right now”?

apologies but these people Do Not have the hashtag Qualifications to talk about this shit. these people are Not on your level of reality. and it’s really easy to figure out, because for fuck’s sake, if someone who knows it’s possible and GOOD to love yourself whatever size you are, who knows it’s stupid and pointless to starve yourself to death to uphold an absurd beauty standard and for what? for netizens to nod with approval and/or whine that they envy your thigh gap? if someone with these opinions was in this business, they wouldn’t last a month. because it would be against everything they believe in. because they’d be waking up every morning aware that what they’re doing is pointless, stupid and harmful to themselves.

why are we asking people who are skinny for a living for advice to chubby people!!!

at the same time i feel like we should probably realize that idols/celebs are their own people and they might have shitty/dumbass ideas or opinions. people need to learn to produce A Dream Version Of X in their heads and focus on THAT rather on the real person. you’re never meeting them anyway, you’re never going to have a meaningful relationship, so just make use of that and treat them like a fictional character in your head, or a character played by real person the actor. foolproof plan! are they doing n/f/ts? no they aren’t! are they dating someone? in your head no they’re not! are they a bastard who talks shit about their fans and throws out their gifts, oops forgot to turn off the livestream and now everyone’s heard? (true story.) well that’s hilarious but also through horniness and the power of headcanons everything is possible so jot that down.

it’s just... like i understand it SUCKS BALLS to know your blorbo from the real life would hate you, or think you should fix yourself because you’re Ugly, or that they’re making fun of your culture, but i think it’s really important to also... just... have a defense wall, so that your fave potentially turning out to be an asshole doesn’t destroy you emotionally. because what is that kpop boy supposed to do now? apologize and promise to reflect? but that would be the biggest hypocrisy of them all. We Live In A Society and kpop people live there in particular, and it just feels pathetic to issue an apology to everyone offended, promise you’ll rethink your Bad Opinions and then go back to your job that REQUIRES you to be under a certain weight, otherwise you’re Gross and Fat. that just doesn’t make sense. and so it’s a bit funny for me to see people talk about how “kpopboy is fatphobic” i mean yeah he’s an adult man with his own brain but at the same time he’s a product of his environment and job. the Entire Fucking Industry is fatphobic. demanding one man to apologize for what everyone’s thinking, for what everyone has to adhere to, is a bit silly imo. and it’s a bit heartbreaking to see all those shocked and hurt people because... yeah, that’s not quite how it works.