#or you're beating yourself up

[iiusia]

i feel. like there is a balance to strike between distinguishing what is actually scrupulousity and what is genuinely you feeling guilty because God is convicting you of something. like yeah theres a point where you're just making yourself miserable over things that hold no consequence because you're terrified of doing something wrong. but. i think. that if you can find good (scripture-supported) arguments for why this God wouldn't want you to do this thing, to then dismiss that as scrupulousity is just deliberately closing your eyes to it.

[distort-opia]

you ever look at two never-before-married characters going through a fictional divorce and go "no that's not enough. I need you to divorce that man harder"

[noise-misato-boy-destroyer]

hey im losing my fucking mind bc i keep remembering that time you posted with little to no makeup on and we look so similar it's stupid and im angry because i can obviously see how gorgeous you are but can't see it in the mirror most of the time

ig what im leading up to is... if you wanna get up to some freaky selfcest stuff hit me up :3c

Literally always??? My mirrors are always covered in smudges because I keep trying to kiss the really hot girl I see in it OwO one of my peak unrealistic goals is that I end up meeting my lost lost twin and we get ourselves shunned from the family because we can't stop kissing each other.

[alienoresimagines]

Part of growing up is realizing that the people you vibe with might not vibe with you just as much and that it's okay, even if it hurts. It's no one's fault so you should stop hurting yourself by having grand expectations of how your friendship should be because that's how you imagined it when you started talking.

It doesn't mean you're not friends or that you have to let go of that person. It just means you have to let go of the idealized version of that person and of your friendship that you had, and everythings feels much better when you realize no one's at fault for it. Maybe you just weren't made to be best friends or friends who talk to each other at all times but it isn't fair of you to push those expectations on the other person.

You didn't fail at making the friendship blossom. You will find your people who'll vibe with you as much as you vibe with them <3

[anotherfanaccount]

Bael will be reviving Da On for the second time and third time will be in the finale.

Justitia is going to set everything up in fire next week and the world in the finale.

[liesmyth]

My secret is that I am a trust fund baby, but there was nowhere near enough to do anything with it except buy a house. I feel incredibly guilty about it, especially because I do volunteer work with some of the most vulnerable displaced people in society. So I see what kind of suffering these people have been through just to reach a place of safety. I am leaving that charity a quarter of whatever the earnings are when I die and I still feel like it’s not enough.

hey, I know this is secrets hour and not advice hours but actually I think there's a chasm between "being mindful of your position of relative privilege while trying to provide a net good to society with your life" and "having so much it's honestly kinda gross and you have reasons to feel guilty about it." not to sound annoying or preachy or whatever; sometimes guilt is a useful feeling spurring us to do better. sometimes it's a negative brainworm that doesn't actually lead to anything constructive. if it helps, many people in society dream of providing their children with safety and stability, like your parents presumably did. the fact that you don't have to scramble for rent puts you in a position where you're able to put some of your time towards unpaid work to help others. you are doing some good with your life. I hope typing this out made you feel better!

[nartml]

Saw a comment describe killugon as 'born to be brothers, forced to be best friends'.

And I just have to say that, out of all the things that have never happened, that has never happened the most.

[ejacutastic]

incorporating acceptance that you're just not going to do a task bc your brain/body isn't working right now, skipping the guilt and shame stage where in you still don't get it done, and going straight to just letting yourself do whatever you want or can do is honestly so good for you. shame is a fucking dog shit motivational tool.

[shadystranger]

Im crazy about the way they framed this like sam was poisoning his mind

[camels-pen]

"I'll do what you can't, you do what I can't" should be Sanji and Usopp's wedding vows. It should be engraved on their rings. It should be repeated back and forth from one to the other until they're old and gray and neither of them can remember who said it first. It's the perfect summary of their relationship and in this essay I will

[uncanny-tranny]

It's actually kind of heartbreaking how many people feel their life has ended right after high school or college, and honestly, the heavy romanticization of that period of time is so overwhelmingly predominant that it can be hard to avoid. It's insidious to constantly be told that ages 10-24 are the only worthwhile parts of life, that everything after is essentially meaningless and dull.

It's hard not to look around you and think that your life still is open and full of potential when you're told over and over again that the rose-tinted childhood is the last time you were alive. It's hard to realize that your life isn't over when you walk off the stage of your graduation.

We must realize that we will always be full of potentials. Your life won't be over until you take your final breath, and then? That's simply another chapter in your story, one of many. Let yourself realize that you're alive in the here and now. There will be good and bad, but never a complete loss of potential or hope.

[gildedmuse]

Convince me this isn't Law through all Dressrosa.

[margindoodles2407]

blame @seeking-elsewhither for this one. it's echo time and i'm having thoughts (tm)

[cephalofrog]

noah caldwell-gervais is the only motherfucker to have ever been correct about dark souls and elden rings' difficulty. no one else understands

[unopenablebox]

unfortunately those Cutting and Deep h3ather havril3sky ask polly "here's why you're lonely/here's the empathy failure holding you back" excerpts everyone loves to post

are just permanently recontextualized for me by her series of op-eds about how everyone in her family is an incomprehensible one-dimensional pod beast with completely unlovable preferences for things like "starbucks drinks" and "conversations about their lives", which she tolerates, with enormous difficulty, only through a sense of duty and a bunch of rationalizations about how actually it makes her sexier and cooler that she's willing to endure it

[throughpatchesofviolet]

Just got a massive merch haul from my bestie (@regretmeursault) in the mail, and I'm so overwhelmed with happiness ...

First off, got a ton of stickers for my collection, which I refuse to use (/lh). I do have the Ishmael and Heathcliff designs of two of these stickers as charms, but I'm so happy to have most of the stickers (Hellbat took Meursault, of course /lh).

Also so many prints and can badges ... it's hard to see in this image, but the -45 button from @/chikos-workshop is perfection in a badge. Also that Heathcliff photocard in the top left--the one next to the Don Quixote--has had my heart since I first saw it as fanart ... he is so handsome ...

Also these pixel stands ... Ishy is so tiny. Microscopic.

And, last but certainly not least, after 8 months of searching, I finally have ...

... the Telepole Heathcliff bromide from the kuji event last year. I was convinced I'd never get my hands on him, but Hellbat found a listing with him!!