#or that I’ll put our faith first and she’ll resent me forever

[delicatefury]

More prayers for sister and her fiancé, please.

They met with the priest today to talk about his annulment. And they’ve been sitting in the car talking for over an hour. All I’ve gotten are a few texts, and they’re not… well, they’re not encouraging.

The timeline’s moved back. Again. It was supposed to be Easter. Now it’s the end of the year. So her hopes to be married in autumn or winter are dashed. And our priest is bringing in a canon lawyer to help.

I… I’m really worried. I’m legitimately concerned that this ordeal is going to drive my sister away from the church. Like she’ll say fuck it and get married in a civil ceremony instead of a religious one. I’m worried my family (my mom) will encourage this, or downplay how not a good decision this is.

I’m terrified it won’t be granted. And instead of celebrating my sister’s marriage, I‘ll have to watch her tear herself in two between being a good Catholic and a woman in love.

Im worried that even if it is granted, this ordeal will sour her fiancé on the Catholic Church so much that he’ll resent the church, and that my sister wants her kids raised in the faith.

And selfishly I fear that if any of the above happens, I’ll also be unhappy because I won’t be able to both be a faithful Catholic and fully rejoice in my sister’s happiness.

So please, please pray for them. For their desire to marry in the church. That they not be punished for my sister’s faithfulness and insistence on doing things right. That his previous marriage be found void. That we don’t have to be stuck between her happiness and our faith.

Holy Mother Mary, Blessed Joseph, St. Valentine, please pray for them.

And Jesus told us to be persistent so I’m gonna keep knocking.