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[ams-complex]

I’m AM, a blue collar fat butch lesbian in my 20s. It/he pronouns. This is my NSFW blog mostly for my SW stuff. I can fullfill any step-on-me fantasy if you pay me🔪🩸🖤

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[mutterboard]

(I was going to add this in my tags but eh it got long) oh also. There's this very common phenomenon of tifs in relationships with men that rage at the fact that these men call themselves straight. For the people asking why didn't she just reach out to bisexual women, it's because it'll pop her bubble! If there's a 00000000.1% possibility outsiders would see them as a lesbian couple she would kill herself. she would rather date a :sparkle_emoji: man :sparkle_emoji: that sees her as a woman than a woman who sees her as a woman. Im no so in TikTok anymore but people used to be another level of delusional: "Doesn't my boyfriend realize he is QUEER too by dating me hehe?" Like they could change someone's sexuality by forced telepathy. Yes, your boyfriend she/hers you around his own friends because he sees you as a weird girl who is STARVED for validation. He's straight and probably the equivalent of men who want chronically online egirl gfs. That's why she encounters this "bisexual" men or even "pansexual" men (oh wait howd did she dare add a slash! theyre so different sexualities!!!) that fetishize her but are widely welcomed in the community.

Back to the video - Even if you passed as a different sex you would still be the sex you are so why is this woman so obsessed with the idea that if she was Cis Passing™ she could broaden her dating pool ??? Are you sure you want to drive someone who trusted you to the very uncomfortable position of turning you down because you DECIDED TO IGNORE a very obvious fact about yourself? Are you sure this isnt almost. rape by deception???????

[sapphicvevo]

fam,,, idk what do. after 3+ long years of questioning, I think (THINK) I might finally know that I'm bi. the problemo here, my friend, is that I keep going back on my word every time I decide "oh yes this is who I Am, A Bisexual Girl". Like, every time I start feeling comfortable with the fact that I could be bi, it's like "but are you SURE??? how do you KNWO!!!!! where are your SOURCES????" especially since I've dated zero (0) people and am mostly attracted to guys. so yeah, Idk what do. help?

LMAOOOO OH ANON I UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN SO MUCH!!!! I can tell you a little about my own experiences with this and my advice after if that’ll be the most helpful???

I started questioning my sexuality around 15/16 but hadn’t really comfortably called myself bisexual until a few years down the line, and I had the same exact problem. I fluctuate a lot on who I’m attracted to, because there are periods of my life where I find myself more attracted to men than women (and then I think, “GOD IM LYING ABOUT BEING BISEXUAL I’VE BEEN STRAIGHT THIS WHOLE TIME”) and there are other periods of my life where I’ll find myself more attracted to women than men (and then I do the whole, “GOD I’M LYING ABOUT BEING BISEXUAL I’M ACTUALLY A LESBIAN”) and have been doing this back and forth ever since I’ve like officially called myself bisexual. And like, if you’ve been following my blog for a while, I’m very proud to call myself bisexual and post a lot of positivity posts about it and find that this label is the one that fits me the most, but I still have those moments.

I’ve never dated anyone either! Partly because of my trauma (it takes me for fucking ever to trust a man and a lot of men aren’t willing to be patient, bc while I’m attracted to men like… yeah they’re fucking dicks majority of the time) and because most sapphic women I meet are through Tinder or here on tumblr and never in real life, and like… I’m cheesy and a secret romantic at heart who wants to meet people irl and get to know them and other dumb shit like that lol, so dating is actually really fucking hard. A lot of it is also because of a lot of internalized biphobia and about being the “perfect” bisexual and trying to find the perfect 50/50 balance with my attraction to men and women so I’m not one of those bisexuals or whatever the shit, which is like… internalized biphobia I’m still working through.

But Imma be honest like, if you feel the most comfortable with bisexuality as a label, then you can use it! No one needs to source your own label, not even yourself! There’s no ‘perfect’ bisexual. You can be bisexual and mostly attracted to men or you can be bisexual and mostly attracted to women, etc, and you’re still bisexual! You can date 90 guys and 1 girl and if you still feel like you’re bisexual then like… Welcome to the Bi™ club. 

I know labels are really important to how we define ourselves, not just as bisexuals (considering we get a lot of “I don’t care about labels!” on T.V. and shit lol) or members of the lgbt+ community but just as human beings in general, so it’s really important to not let yourself stress over this too much in the long run anyway

I hope I helped at least a little bit