#not this month i haven't yet

[the-chickenshit-oddity]

most impressive thing about the americans i watch on youtube is when they measure things. how.

[pokimoko]

Asexual bird? Please

How about two asexual birds?

[imclou]

Man y/n is having one hell of a week

hey did you guys know that i'm still fixated on @spadillelicious's Love Death and Rollerskates AU? ;)))

Yes?

ah

ok ;)

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[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[poppoforpresident]

Whew! ♪ It was just a nightmare!

+ static version

[the-worm-wiggles]

It's like barbenheimer to me

[grey-viridian]

DTIYS for @tizeline

Congrats on 10k!!! (love your artstyle btw sooo soft and beautiful i wanna look at your art all day!)

The original outfit was perfect but I still felt like something was missing...

[kaiserouo]

(2/2, prev)

got a corpus engineer on board

he really likes warframes

[magspeaches]

"Hey Soldier... who's your friend?"

If you've seen the High Rollers episodes where the BG3 main cast play a D&D one-shot, then this might be a familiar face. Gale as a Tiefling! He is everything to meeeee

[flickering-nightfall]

How long do you think they would last if a pink lizard walked in here? 10 seconds? 20, maybe,

[lineffability]

wait wait wait maybe crowley was so opposed to aziraphale taking the bentley not just bc....well it's his bentley his car the machine he loves and Aziraphale is a bumbling disaster who obeys traffic rules yes sure....but also, hear me out, because that means he can't give Aziraphale a lift. he loves giving aziraphale lifts (anywhere he wants to go)!! if aziraphale just starts taking his bentley out by himself then crowley is not needed?? but mr. acts of service crowley wants to drive aziraphale, loves driving beside him....together... aziraphale wanting to go by himself might be disconcerting in a whole other way....oh my

[theartingace]

so I saw one interesting comic about a podcast and accidentally have been binging it for nearly a week straight, it had me thinking of nothing else within 30 seconds of episode 1, Love this poor sad dishrag of a man and his poetry loving passenger <3

[s7ven-art]

A CITY RAZED OH, TO BURY YOU BENEATH IT THE BEST ENDURE WITH THE DEAD, OUR TRUE BELIEVERS

[cloudcastor]

soriku week day 2-rebirth

[elitisim]

BACKTRACK - CHECKERED HEART JEANS

All credits goes to @backtrack-cc! Original here

Bottom for For YA-A Females

Categories: Everyday, Formal, Career, Outerwear

HIGH POLY : 9.1k

Fully Recolorable - 4 Channels

6 Semi-Recolorable Swatches

Custom Thumbnail

Enabled for Maternity, Disabled for Random

Mild Clipping with Bulky/Platform Shoes

Swatches + Color Channel Breakdown Included in under the cut

Converted by @elitisim

TAGGING: @pis3update, @xto3conversionsfinds, @kpccfinds, @sssvitlanz

[DOWNLOAD]

Preset 1: Fully Recolorable

Channel 1: Jeans Color

Channel 2: Jean Highlight

Channel 3: Heart Patch

Channel 4:Heart Patch Outline

**there's also an overlay over the button that makes it silver but i'm too lazy to reshoot the pictures.

Preset 2-7 : Non-Recolorable Jeans w/ Recolorable Heart Patches

Channel 1: Heart Patch

Channel 2: Heart Patch Outline

[moonlit-mask]

Say no more

"I know this is gonna sound crazy, and not very scary, but is IS scary... if you think about the implications." - me describing the plot of bugsnax to someone who's never played it

anyway. do you see my vision. can anyone hear me.