#neurodivergent misinfo

[chaos-in-one]

Every time I see mfs misuse the word hyperfixation I must resist the urge to scream Honestly, ESPECIALLY when it’s other neurodivergent people (specifically people with ADHD, as that’s what mainly causes hyperfixation, although it is not an experience entirely exclusive to ADHD) because you all should know better Y’all A hyperfixation is not the same as an interest. Even a strong interest that you’re very invested in. Hyperfixation stems from a persons inability to properly regulate focus. Hyperfixation is when a person becomes so fixated on something that they literally cannot stop focusing on it. Not something they just like or think about a lot. It is caused by an inability to focus a normal amount on something to the point were it disrupts their life because they are not focusing on anything else such as the world around them. Hyperfixations do not even have to be about something you like. Hyperfixations over things that you dislike or even that actively upset you can and do happen. Using hyperfixation as a replacement term for an interest is harmful because not only does it water down the terms and misconstrue what it is for people who can’t have hyperfixations, it also misconstrues it for people who do who may not realize that they are going through this struggle because what a hyperfixation is has been portrayed incorrectly to them.

[tinkyrubi-png]

An Austin redesign I made in gacha life that I decided to draw, I'm actually really proud of how this came out

[tea-and-secrets]

BASED AS FUCK HEADER so many places online and particularly on Tumblr are so insanely hostile toward systems. I follow an AITA blog and every time one where someone involved is a system I have to scroll by because I know the AITA is just gonna be someone asking if they're an asshole for abusing a system all of the comments are "the system is the asshole because they're a chronically online delusional faking 13 year old manipulative sociopathic narcissistic immature freak" which not only shows off like ninety OTHER layers of ableism but is also just. so much fucking vitriol toward systems for no reason. On other confession blogs there's always a dozen confessions about how evil fakers online are tricking innocent singlets into thinking everyone has DID and they always have like 9 times the usual amount of reblogs and all the tags are like "#THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!". There's r/fakedisordercringe and "best of fakedisordercringe" compilations on YouTube and people on TikTok love to not only make 30 piece long slideshows about evil fakers online (see above) but then also it's like. the funny haha meme on there to tell systems they deserved their trauma and should go through more of it. This has just turned into a rant there is SO much ableism I see and suffer thru online as a system member so thank you for showing explicit support for systems. It's tiny but it means a lot to me to know that not everyone thinks of ppl like me as monsters who "get what they deserve" yknow

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[docbe]

I didn't really realize how de-regulated I'd gotten until I starting to come out of it a bit, like it's just tip-of-the-iceberg stuff these last few weeks but *man*

I think also part of it is just, it's really hard to explain to people who don't just kinda naturally struggle with the same thing? Like it's not just "oh I need a better sleep schedule," but more like "if I don't have a binge night til like 4am 1-2x a week then I start to overheat like an old computer" and that just don't translate well, esp when it's like...yes, I know about every other coping strategy thank you, yes I've employed them, yes I know how habits are built, yes I've seen the therapist, yes yep uh-huh--

But when things start to be calm and it's easier to sit down and work on things and the brain noise starts to flatten, it's just like...huh. Y'know, it's not too late, but I'm tired and I think I'd rather go to bed. And like everything in life kinda has to change for that sometimes, but it's weird how easy it is once it does

[toytulini]

you know whats more annoying than dems calling vance and trump weird is all the condescending posts justifying it actually. like im a bit annoyed about "weird" being used this way but also like man if it fucking works i guess

but do i have to keep seeing daily posts exhaustively justifying how normie midwesterners use weird different or whatever the fuck man just shut up and call them weird then, stop justifying it to me

[millionmaggots]

one time my old psychiatrist told me it "seems like i want to have disorders" when i asked her if i might have bpd 😭 i'd never wanted to strangle somebody so bad b4 like JESUS CHRIST u dumb bitch

have u maybe considered that it feels validating to be able to put a name to my lifelong problems?

that it's comforting to know there are concrete and understandable causes for what i grew up thinking made me "broken"?

that if my problems aren't unique, there are other people like me who i can talk to?

i've never wanted my problems, only a way to understand them.

i've probably had bpd all my life, but funnily enough, i might've developed it due to YEARS of people invalidating my struggles.

fuck you, dr. m. 🖕🖕🖕🖕

i'm glad to have a professional who actually listens to me and takes me seriously.

ps. i do in fact have TEXTBOOK bpd, and you would've known that if you were willing to do even a basic screening.

anybody reading this, i hope you have a better experience than i did.

you, along with everyone else on the fucking planet, deserve a healthcare professional who truly cares and listens, then helps you to the best of their ability. <3

[cartoonscientist]

reminder that if you see someone in public doing kitten paws and toe walking, they could be neurodivergent or they could be a praying mantis shapeshifter

[darlinguistics]

going down research rabbit holes in my free time on linguistic topics relating to autism and having to sift through half of the sources being annoying autism moms and really sus white woman SLPs is such a test of patience :/

[lggy]

I don’t remember Sebastian ever hating on garrance shippers. Like ever, actually. The only time I heard about him being negative towards them was when people claimed the ship made him uncomfortable without citing when/where he said that.

yeap thought so

theres sooo much misinfo and lack of sources in this fandom

[ingo-ingoing-ingone]

A Personal Post

Hi guys, I'm finally making the post I kept telling myself and my best friends I'd make but wanted to put it off until I felt better. That hasn't happened and with how things are going I thought it was best to just post it now.

So for a while, since probably late 2023, I've felt less like my blog is for me, and more like it's some kind of fandom archive. Which, if you use it this way as-is, great! I'm glad my blog could make you happy like that! But that's not what I set out for it to be.

I'm the sort of neurodivergent person who likes to categorize things, including my interests. All my tumblr blogs are specific to one thing, and this one was no exception.

I began tagging things soon after I made the blog because I saw a lot of people were sad about the twins, and I thought "well since I love both sad and happy stuff, and I'm really good about categorizing things, maybe I can try and help!" And according to many, it did help!

But I think that also gave off the impression that I was making this blog for other folks, and that isn't the case. I'm sorry I never clarified. It's not an archive; I do not reblog shipping posts, posts from people I've blocked, AUs I don't click with, and sometimes just not everything I see.

I've gotten popular in the fandom, and for the most part I do, from the bottom of my heart, enjoy it. I have people who care about my hyperfixation! That's amazing! I have people who love my cosplay and want to meet up with me. I've made so many friends of all shapes and sizes and it's probably the most incredible thing I've ever experienced, truth be told.

But yeah my blog being mine has gotten away from me a bit, I think.

I want to keep tagging my submas tags, that isn't going to change. I will tag triggers when asked, unless it's kind of impossible due to the blog's subject (trains, for instance) or a name or really common word (like the word 'head' or something). Other than that please reach out and I'll do my best to remember. But other tags? Those will be up to me. I don't want to tag when OCs show up. I love OCs and like seeing them, and don't want to have to remember that one person who visits my blog doesn't.

I had anon off for a while because honestly ever since making this blog, there have been anons who really made me unhappy. (Also yes, non-anons but that's been fewer and far between). I've gotten misinformation, accusations, horrible and disgusting explicit asks, and criticisms and complaints, and I'm just... Not here for that. Keep the explicit things and misinfo out of my inbox, I am no arbiter of morality or personal decisions, and I am not here for you to share your negative opinions of submas or the fandom.

Anon is on for people who are too self conscious to chat face to face, for people to send fun headcanon ideas (remember when people did that back in 2022 when this blog started? I miss that, it was sweet and wholesome), to share song recommendations... That kind of stuff. If you have an actual problem, please, PLEASE talk to me off anon, whether that be DMs or a non-anon ask that I can answer privately. Especially if we're friends; please, please just talk to me about stuff. I don't bite! I swear!

But yeah the bottom line is I'm here to participate in fun (and sometimes heartbreaking!) fandom stuff. I'm here for FUN, not as my job. I know that we're all a bunch of neurodivergent folks and sometimes interactions can be a swing and a miss, but please try to be mindful. Please treat me like a person and not just like a museum curator for this blog.

Truth is, I haven't been okay for a while now. It's gotten worse this year for sure, and due to life stuff I cannot see things feeling better for me for some time. I need to go day by day for a lot of things, and I am trying to get better about needing to set boundaries and all that sort of thing. I suffer from intense paranoia too, and having so many eyes on me is genuinely terrifying at times. I'm trying to manage that as best I can, but I do ask that folks be kind.

NO I am not going anywhere, my blog is staying and will continue on as normal, but I really, really needed to get this posted.

Please continue to interact with me and chat and everything like that! But also please remember to treat this space, my blog, as my space. Thanks for reading!

[starfishinthedistance]

Why do so many people like...have such an aversion to admitting they might have OCD? Like someone will be talking about OCD symptoms and people will be like "oh I do that but it's because of my autism!" or "oh yeah that's totally me except ADHD lol"

Like...guys I've got news for you.

ASD and ADHD do not cause obsessions or compulsions. They might cause symptoms that look similar (like dependence on routine in ASD or mental hyperactivity in ADHD), but aren't obsessions or compulsions like what's seen in OCD. If you see OCD people describing their inner thought processes and you relate, you can't chalk it up to ASD or ADHD. However ASD and ADHD are highly comorbid with OCD (about 30% for both autism and ADHD), so chances are you just also have OCD. But an autistic or ADHD person without comorbid OCD is not going to have obsessions or compulsions (again, they might have symptoms that resemble them from an outside perspective, but they aren't going to relate to OCD people describing their OCD).

The only other neurodivergencies that can cause obsessions and compulsions are Tourette's and sometimes personality disorders if we're being technical with our definitions (that could be a whole other post because it's complicated).

Like yes there's overlap between neurodivergencies, but they don't cause identical symptoms, and when you look at the internal processing they're easy to tell apart. If you have the exact same internal processing as someone with OCD, chances are you have OCD. There's probably something to be said about recent OCD demonization leading to this aversion, but that can be saved for another time.

Untreated OCD can be really deadly, you aren't going to be able to get better with OCD if you think it's just your autism or ADHD, that's why this is important.

Bottom line is: research whether certain symptoms appear in a disorder before attributing those things to that disorder to avoid misinfo. Because good God this shit has caused a lot of that.

[antimisinfo]

Ive seen people say they are neurogenic(or smth like that, but they formed trauma due to a illness). Any opinions/ misinfo? (we dont know much abt it, maybe you can research it, cuz its confusing us /nm /nf) Also, we love your blog, mind if we link the endo blog to our dni list(so, on dc [text](link) and link will be the blog, text will be endos)

right, neurogenic. i have seen many different definitions of "neurogenic". one being trauma caused by neurodiversity, the other being a system caused by a disorder other than DID/OSDD.

one of those is valid, the other is not.

having trauma from being neurodivergent (or due to other things related to it, like being undiagnosed, being bullied, ect) is completely valid and though i find using the term suspicious that doesn't mean they're faking.

but thinking you're a system because you're autistic or because you have any disorder that isn't DID or OSDD isn't valid.

system is an alternate term for someone with DID/OSDD. it does not refer to anything other than "a personality system of dissociative identities" (referring to alters).

you cannot have alters if you don't have DID/OSDD as alters have literally only been recorded as a symptom of DID/OSDD, no other known disorder causes alters.

not even maladaptive daydreaming disorder can cause alters, before anyone tries to claim that could be a valid thing :

" in DID/OSDD, people have multiple dissociative parts to their personality, which may feel either like different sides or aspects of them (e.g., "me but a different me") or may feel totally different to them (e.g., "not me", like having "multiple personalities" that physically take control of their body), [21] but in maladaptive daydreaming the inner characters and their interactions are purely fantasy, e.g., intricate plots with characters who act out ongoing themes or stories, often with an idealized version of the self or feeling like the narrator "

" The information here on types of alters is relevant only to alters; the differences between the inner characters found in maladaptive daydreaming and alters found in DID/OSDD1 can be found on the Maladaptive Daydreaming Scale page. Inner characters in MD do not follow the same subjective logic or creation/fusion rules as alters caused by DID "

theres not much else i have to say other than i don't like the term. as even with the valid definition you could literally just say you're traumagenic or if you don't like that term just say you're a system, as systems only form from trauma.

though if you do not have DID/OSDD or you claim to have it without trauma then stay out of our communities and stop using our terms. you are not a system.

but we're glad you like our blog, sorry we took so long to respond, yes you may link our posts / blog on your DNI if you'd like to ((assuming you meant our post on why endos aren't valid but idk))

[etoilesbienne]

Hello, I just wanted to ask if you knew why people are calling Bad a xenophobe? I'm wondering where did they get the idea from because I don't understand it

Twitter misinfo and escalating games of telephone from people who do not watch him and just rely on the word of others. They pick up any reason to hate on him because they don't like him (lbr it's because he acts neurodivergent + more effeminate than other men). People are reading everything he does with as bad faith as possible. I think the origins range from bbh accidentally using sarcasm and not realizing the language barrier made it hard for people to understand him, him jokingly calling foolish and tina uncultured, or his chat being stupid and saying they don't understand non english cc speaking other languages. (to be clear, most of the english chats do this. it sucks, but it is a community issue.)

There's things to criticize him for, but making up nonsense claims like these make the real criticisms look weaker and be doubted more easily.

[clubpenguinkiller]

The way that when tiktok started spreading misinfo about adhd and it made a lot of annoying people self diagnose having it and then went on to be annoying about having adhd and being annoying on here and everyone collectively decided to mock them, and mock people who genuinely have adhd, and decide that it WAS just the “annoying little boy” disorder, and decide to completely shift ALL positivity posts to autism and repost twitter screenshots of people talking about their adhd and making fun of them. The way that when this happened, you’ve made us experience the same exact feelings we had as a confused, ostracized, and lonely child, who was bullied for being different and bullied for being annoying and bullied for not understanding how you were doing something wrong. It’s sick, it makes me sick, and it hurts so bad. I hate this site’s black and white thinking and the way things will be put down in order to prop things up. Is there a reason why you had to step on us to highlight autistic people’s struggles, their creativity, their uniqueness? Why did we decide that one was ultimately better than the other, and therefore deserves all the attention and the other deserves none. This isn’t me saying autism is less severe than adhd or anything, or that autistic people don’t have it hard. It’s me wishing for the neurodivergent solidarity that we had for a brief time, adhd, autism, and other disorders hand in hand and lifting each other up.

[anti-endo-safe-space]

Fakeclaimers are wild. Not only did we get fakeclaimed for our ramcoa trauma, but it was literally by someone that is big in the narc abuse community. 💀 I got fakeclaimed and mocked for my programming and ramcoa and tbmc by a fucking narc abuse believer. Omfg. It's like wow. I knew fakeclaimers were shit but like. Wow. Way to prove you have no idea what you're talking about.

(Slight trauma vent below. Tw for tbmc/ramcoa and programming. Not anything explicit. But very heavily implied.)

But also to assume you know what exactly a person has been through to know their trauma isn't real. To believe programming isn't real and ramcoa isn't real.

I have to live with these flashbacks. I have to live with parts of myself that are awful and depraved and can genuinely put me in danger. I have to live with urges of returning to abuse because it's the only safe place or finding someone to act in place of them. That not being able to socialize cause of trauma and autism and not being able to feel like an adult despite being one leads me to want to try to find someone to replace my programmers. That I have to actively stop myself from this shit because it can put me into actual fucking danger.

I am the one that feels like I am a curse and the cause of humanity being filled with evil. I have to live with having been neglected my entire life and the pain of knowing that nobody protected me. I have to live with unimaginable shit. I have experienced these symptoms for years and have always wondered why and never understood. And when I finally can speak about it and accept it, that's when I get told it's not real. You, a stranger, that has never even spoken to me, that was scrolling tags and saw me posting vents, that clearly doesn't understand anything, has a say over what is real or not. When the sources you even use are flawed. (You being to them.)

It's pathetic. And funny thing is. Those kinds of assumptions? I've gotten them from narc and cluster b abuse believers. Getting things assumed of me by someone that doesn't even know my name, my face, my life. That saw comments or posts and decided they know what's best.

Fakeclaimers are truly awful. They will act high and mighty and self righteous. Act like they know what's best. Act like they understand psychology and shit. And then they dont. They make assumptions based on what they think. They're absolutely biased and refuse to even see it.

And I'm someone that did believe in faking disorders being a huge problem and watched those fake disorder cringe complications before when it was like super popular back at like 2016-2020. That felt so mad at "real disorder havers being hurt." It's a bs mentality. Which comes from misinformation, personal issues, insecurities, and a hatred of weird people and neurodivergent people, the very basis of cringe culture.

That kind of thinking only fucked up my own acceptance of my disorders. That kind of thinking is not based in any facts. It's reactionary in the end. It helps no one. And they will never listen. They want to feel morally justified in bullying, fighting for a cause of supporting disorders. The assumptions that they must make about a stranger they've never even spoken to and just seen a post or tiktok from to decide they're faking is a huge amount. And when people CAN prove them wrong, they won't care.

The idea of fakeclaiming is foolish. It's why I won't even fucking fakeclaim endos. Especially when many endos are probably real systems or have other issues. You can hate the community and criticize it and point out the harm and misinfo without being a fucking dick. And the endo community is rife with that. And yeah, some endos may be actively faking. But there is no way in hell even I could tell that. Especially since I'm not even that smart and am very biased myself with shit.

And whats especially funny? I got fakeclaimed. Told I had something clearly wrong with me and was probably autistic or adhd. And also I was told I did it for attention. Yes. My posts with 0-4 likes and less than 30 followers for venting about my heavy trauma that requires a lot of trigger warnings is about attention. Oh yeah. Definitely. I'm actually an attention seeker. If I want attention, I go to my girlfriend or distract myself until she's available. Or reblog tons of posts I like and agree with cause that is what gets me notes from my mutuals. :)

Fakeclaimers may be chronically online but a lot of us aren't. Even if they post regularly. Fakeclaiming will continue to be the most ridiculous thing. Cause not only can you not tell, but you really have to assume a lot. It's weirdly parasocial in a bad way. Assuming you know so much about a stranger online. I can't even say that shit about mutuals I've had for months and years, let alone someone I ain't ever seen.

Just really pisses me off. Cause not only did it send us into literal psychosis and worsened our delusions esp having a history of being harassed online. And literally did lead us to want to hurt ourselves (we're safe, no worries.) but it's also just completely illogical. It is purely emotion based and driven. And they present it as so factual and knowing best.

Nobody fucking deserves to be fakeclaimed. That shit is awful.

Hey, so. We aren't entirely sure how to respond to this besides this. Fake claiming is fucking horrible. You can derail how someone is and send them into a spiral of if they're real or not.

Fake claimers are assholes

[cosmossystem]

Hey, I'm sorry for suddenly dumping this onto your askbox, but I just feel the need to be heard

I honestly don't care about being anti and proship at all

But... Everytime I see a post from someone who proudly calling themselves anti... It's always so scarily violent

All those posts saying "kill yourself", "deserves to die", all of that stuff

If you don't like a person or stuff they make... Just block them, mute the tags they use, forget they ever exist

Literally easier to do that than harassing the said person or making others uncomfortable with your violence tendencies

This is why some people that have "I'm an anti" or "Proship dni" have become such a redflag to me, even tho most of the time people who uses them are genuinely just good people who misunderstood what proship is

I wish this whole discourse never existed, I miss everything before 2020...

^^ this

and we feel the exact same way

like we dont have any hard stances on shipcourse because both sides have misinfo and both are wrong about some things-- like, we are firmly anti-lolisho and thats one of the things that is usually seen as "proship", but we do have "problematic" ships and we believe in SALS and are anti-censorship. so much misinfo flies between the two because no one cares about being right, they care about looking right, much like every other fake-activist (which are unfortunately common these days.)

the only reason we even care to begin with is because antis have been so violent to us about it. if you arent with them, youre against them, and if youre against them, youre a target.

it seems like theres a lot of antis in neurodivergent & plural spaces, too, which is just crazy to me, so it feels like we have to specify every time "yes, we're the proship in your DNI, just block us please."

i do wanna say that while 2020 made things worse, ive been in shipcourse + fandom spaces since 2016 and it was pretty bad back then too. like in 2016 i had an anti-ship & anti-ddlg blog and there were DOZENS of other antis in the tags -- yall remember "character-against-bad-ships" blogs? yeah. we ran several of those and had hundreds of mutuals running them as well. (im getting flashbacks to "sonic-for-real-justice". eugh.)

we Fully Converted To Proshipism (/j) in about 2018-19, so i saw how bad it was getting right before covid and honestly its never fully recovered. fandom hasnt really been peaceful since... maybe before 2016? i dont know, i wasnt there. flaming and ship wars have always been around but i honestly cant think of when all this "pro v anti" stuff started. seems like it was a slow buildup and now its just fucking everywhere.

i know this wasnt the point of your ask, but im gonna go on a tangent here because i like to yap:

i think the current state of shipcourse is caused, in part, by the fact that younger generations are getting into fandom. except, i think every time someone points this out, they get it wrong and pin it on some bullshit like "younger fans are mistaking fandom for activism/politics!" that argument sucks because that doesnt afford any empathy to the teenagers and young adults who grew up in this awful fucking political climate (including myself.) fandom IS politics to young people, because they have been aware of the state of the world since the time they could read and dont know a world that isnt inherently political in every way.

and then that brings up the misconception that fandom isnt / should never be political, which isnt true and is literally just denial of what is already happening. every form of media and consumption is inherently political. proshippers tend to be wrong about that, plug their ears and lalala until it goes away while ignoring the very political parts of fandom-- like the misogyny, racism, ableism, aphobia... etc.

and so we get stuck in the same song and dance because everyone is wrong and parrots the same disinfo. fandom is very black and white like that. its either everything is ok, or none of it is, with no room for nuance. like for instance: you can enjoy shipping the canonically-aroace character with someone and that doesnt make you a bad person, but dont pretend that doesnt have any real world implications. and so on.

anyway. thank you for the ask, anon. sorry this got really long and passionate. im very opinionated.

- red