#neopronouns explanation

[projectilecry]

neopronouns are just fun for me and they make me feel like people are actually recognizing my queer identity rather than ignoring it because it’s ‘unsavory’ or whatever. it kinda makes it so that my identity and existence is recognized in some way and can’t just be pushed out of the way because other people don’t care or don’t personally like it. and i just like the way they sound and look. i like using all sorts of different words and descriptors for myself to supplement my gender because it is quite loose and flowy and fluid and flexible, and using differing words helps me express that.

i do also use they/them, and they/them is always fine, but it’s just not complete i feel like. i’d be fine i suppose if people only used they/them for me because it doesn’t make me feel bad, but it just doesn’t really make me feel anything as opposed to other pronouns that make me feel happy and good. they/them is a gender-neutral default to me that doesn’t inherently have any gender connotations, but it can for some certain people. sure, in english it defaults to not gendered, but some people just don’t like it or it feels wrong to them.

and on the question of why someone who uses neopronouns doesn’t just use they/them, a lot of the times people do. many people who use neopronouns may primarily use them online or in other primarily queer circles because they are accepted a lot more easily, and in other places like a job where neopronoun usage is not as accepted or is considered ‘improper’ the person may use they/them pronouns or another set of ‘normal’ pronouns. those pronouns probably aren’t the pronouns that the person would prefer, but many people recognize that at this point the general public doesn’t really understand or know how to use neopronouns, and the individual may pick a set of traditional pronouns (like they/them) that is ‘okay’ to use rather than neopronouns for certain situations. people often call these auxiliary pronouns, meaning basically supplementary pronouns that are alright if other pronouns cannot be used. some reasons that auxiliary pronouns might be provided for use are because neopronouns are tricky for many people, especially at first, and can be near impossible for certain individuals to use or follow because of things like disabilities and language barriers.

i use any pronouns and any neopronouns, which means nothing used on me is incorrect, but i do have some preferences within that. in my daily life i typically tell the average person that i use they/them or sometimes he/him pronouns, because those are the most comfortable pronouns for me that the average person understands how to use and is comfortable using. in reality, i typically prefer it/its, any neopronouns, or he/him be used for me because they just feel more accurate. my favorite neopronouns can and do change over time, especially as how i feel about and express myself changes, but i am someone who is okay with any of them in general.

i use a lot of neopronouns that aren’t nounself pronouns either (like bee/beeself where the pronoun is based off an established noun in english), because honestly they just feel nice to me. some of my favores right now are sie/hir (to me it has elements of femininity that i like to be able to express without straight up being called a girl), ae/aer (a pronoun created in a book in 1920 used for aliens that i connect with due to my gender feeling a bit alien), and ne/nem (which was originally created as people felt that saying ‘he/she’ or ‘he or she’ was clumsy and wanted an alternative singular word to use in place of both, and i like it because i think it sounds nice and it is representing both masculinity and femininity).

and again, why use a neopronoun instead of they/them (what is widely considered a neutral default)? well why use any pronouns at all? why doesn’t everyone just use they/them? why do people use he/him and she/her instead of everyone just using a neutral default? some languages do this already by default and there is only one pronoun for people, regardless of the gender of the person being referred to.

a neopronoun really is just a nickname but formatted in a way so that we don’t all sound like cavemen while speaking. that’s what any personal third person pronoun is in reality. it’s just a nickname so we don’t say someone’s name over and over again.

easiest explanation i have for pronouns that "don't make sense" (neopronouns, he/him lesbians, etc) is that a person's pronouns are basically just a nickname we use for that person so we don't have to constantly say their name when talking about them. a person's pronouns also tend to have an association tied to them, which is usually an indication of their gender. that said, much like how your nickname can mean whatever you want it to mean, your pronouns can mean whatever you want them to mean

[stealingpotatoes]

Every time I think I get excited about you and think you can’t get cooler you do!! I love the love for Sister!!!

how can anyone NOT love sister!!! she's the reason for the single greatest scene in all of star wars literature!!

[ursula-legun]

so exhausted/annoyed by queer people being like "oh yeah fuck the family we hate the family" and then being like "oh yeah i was talking to my mom - my CHOSEN mom - about blah blah blah" like just say your friend. your mentor. whatever. if you hate the (nuclear) family so much why are you dragging its (GENDERED) social roles forward with you like this. you cannot deconstruct a hierarchy/role by just elevating other people/things to the same position in said hierarchy/role, oh my godddd

[mb-blue-roses]

More Spider-verse posting for 6/6-

This time, an enby Noir w/ some neopronoun action going on!

[Image OD: A drawing of Noir from the Spider-verse movies. Spi is wearing spiders jacket, mask, goggles, and hat. He is not wearing a shirt, and top surgery scars are visible on his chest. The skin, mask, jacket, and hat are done in shades of grey and black, while the goggles are done in dark yellow and purple. Spi is wearing a purple pin that says "Spi/he" on it is yellow text. The background is the colors of the nonbinary flag, except more muted. A signature, a stylized A_G, is next to Noir's head. End ID]

[the-overgrown-states]

Hi hi

Hello fellow system

-🌸

^I’m using this as my sign off now

FELLOW SYSTEM!!

hello!! i’m gonna call you Blossom verbally but will attempt to use 🌸 when online, if that’s alright? if you’re comfortable, you should share a set of pronouns we can use for you!! not forced of course though!!

- Pasadena (Ask Prns / She / Fuck) / NorCal (He/Him)

[love-killed-the-superstar]

deeply confused a customer just now because I have pronouns in my email signature

[genderkoolaid]

I'm not really familiar with it/its as pronouns. Like I've heard them from people before, but never truly understood why someone would feel that way. Like it's it not feeling like a person? Or is it something more than that? Idk. I really like knowing this kind of stuff because it makes me a better person so an explanation would be super useful! Appreciate you!

For some people it's related to their experiences with dehumanization and nonhumanity.

It's a little bit of that for me, but honestly I like it/its for the same reason people usually like they/them. It's non-gendered and that makes me euphoric. But it's also different than they/them. IRL I often tell people I use she/he/they, but people don't get alternating pronouns and will they/them me exclusively, which makes me dysphoric and trapped. So I like having a pronoun set that ISN'T any of the typical options because it reinforces that I am not being put in one of three boxes.

Plus it/its isn't a neopronoun, its already standard English, so hypothetically it's easier for people to pick up. But unfortunately people get Real Weird about it/its pronouns & even progressive people will try to like. save you from yourself by misgendering you

[toa-arania]

Gender is such a fascinating thing in Bionicle because objectively why is it there? Why do the biomechanical maintenance nanobots of a giant robot have gender? Or, more accurately, why do they have a gender binary? The gender binary as we understand it is (unfortunately) heavily linked to biological sex, something that MU bionicles don't have. The logical answer is that the Great Beings gave them gender to be reflective of their own society, where there are biological beings that reproduce biologically and have a gender binary that presumably sprouted from that, at least initially. However, despite giving them gender, they didn't give them any kind of sexual dimorphism, and for this we want to look at some of the non-matoran species and how they interact with gender.

The Vortixx are a society heavily stratified by gender - being 'male' or 'female' is more like a class system, with females as the upper class and males as the lower, working class. It's very reminiscent of the Orions from Star Trek. Additionally, we know that the species is not sexually dimorphic. Yes, the species that produced Dommy Mommy Roodaka, with her heels, ass, tits, and ponytail, is not sexually dimorphic. We see in one of the comics that a Vortixx confirmed to be male also just looks like that, and honestly we love that for him. He even has the rhotuka ripcord that kinda looks like a riding crop. We know that the Vortixx were created by Mata Nui rather than the Great Beings directly, so is it perhaps possible that because their perception of gender made no sense to apply to the MU inhabitants, Mata Nui compensated by having gender present itself in other ways?

Consider also the Skakdi, where the only thing we know (at least as far as I'm aware) about their relationship with gender is that there are female Skakdi, and that they are more violent and destructive than the males. We have never seen one, and we know so little to the point where I actually thought for a while that the Skakdi were a single-gender species. Like the non-GSR characters in Bionicle, they were given their elemental associations separately from their genders, and we've seen nothing to suggest that gender has any bearing on their society aside from disposition.

Then we come to the Matoran. For Matoran, gender is quite frankly fucking bizarre. The Av-Matoran were the first type to be made, and they are also the only type that can be more than one gender. The doylist explanation for that is so that they can blend into other Matoran types better, but that doesn't make any sense because those other types didn't exist yet. We do have a quote from Greg about gender in the Matoran, where it's stated to be a psychological difference rather than a physiological one, where the 'feminine' elements are calmer peacemakers, which is an absolutely fascinating quote because it's completely untrue. It might be true about the Ga-Matoran (with notable exceptions like Hahli), but it sure ain't true of the Vo-Matoran and Ce-Matoran, where our two primary examples are Chiara (electrocutes a lizard to make the point that females aren't gentle) and Varian (tortures Norik with nightmares for fun). There's also Orde but I genuinely have no idea what to do about him. He claims that he got all Ce-Matoran made into women to make them chiller and it clearly didn't fucking work so other than I guess the pitch of their voice there just isn't any observable difference.

What is demonstrably true is how general disposition does seem to vary between individual elements, and since Greg has confirmed that gender in Bionicle is a psychological variation that affects outlook and disposition, I honestly do not think it's a stretch to say that, at least for the Matoran, each of the fifteen elements is a separate gender. Honestly this even makes the elemental prefixes neopronouns, from a certain perspective. The Shadow Matoran are also fascinating to look at from this angle because they don't ordinarily exist; they're made from other kinds of matoran - the fifteen 'standard' genders if you will. They don't call themselves Kra-Matoran because they aren't a defined group, and they never think of themselves as one. They go back to what they were beforehand perfectly fine and at least act better off for it - with one exception. Gavla (the only female Av-Matoran we actually meet, who feels ostracised from her community) wanted to stay a Shadow Matoran, a kind of Matoran outside the standard concept of what elements they could be because she felt wrong as an Av-Matoran, and as a Shadow Matoran she felt more like herself. All this is to say:

Gavla Bionicle is Transgender and Non-Binary, have a nice day.

[fagsystem]

Perfect explanation, thank you. :]

Hello. I was just wondering how to use all of your pronouns? I have not encountered some of them before. :]

ofc !! :D

he/him and she/her are explanatory so id assume you mean skulk/tri/soul , forms used as

skulk/skulks/skulkself

tri/triangle/triangleself

soul/souls/soulself

Also for a sentence example, "Skulks favourite colour is green, although tri may also like purple!"

Im sorry if I explained it badly im not the best at explaining <:'D

[this-is-exorsexism]

welcome to this is exorsexism.

this is an account to highlight exorsexism, so that more people learn to recognise it when it's happening and we can fight it better.

what happens here is that i will post examples of exorsexism here as i encounter it, as well as submitted examples. this can be stories of exorsexism of offline or online exorsexism. if not immediately clear, i may provide an explanation of how something is exorsexist.

this is also a safe space for nonbinary people to vent or rant about exorsexism.

you can submit exorsexism you encountered to me via submissions or asks. if you send a screenshot of someone being exorsexist, please make sure to crop or censor any identifying information such as their username and profile picture. this account is for educational purposes and for nonbinary people to vent their experiences, not to send harassment to anyone.

exorsexism from within nonbinary and wider transgender communities is also welcome as that too needs awareness.

not sure if something you want to submit counts as exorsexism? submit it anyway and we can talk about it. and if you think your exorsexism experience isn't "bad enough" to be submitted: yes, it is.

credit where credit is due: this account is very much inspired by @exorsexistbullshit who sadly hasn't been active in going on 5 years, as well as casualableism on instagram.

submission rules:

since this is a blog to highlight a form of bigotry and oppression that also often intersects with other forms of oppression, a "no bigotry" rule doesn't make sense here. however, being bigoted towards bigots is not welcome here. this includes calling bigots or bigotry -phobic (i.e. "homophobia"), narcissistic, delusional, lame, blind, cr*zy, st*pid and more.

the key difference here is whether you are quoting bigotry you have encountered or whether you're being bigoted as well.

i am multiply disabled and we don't do that kind of thing here, so if i ignored your ask or blocked you, that's probably why.

what is exorsexism?

in short, exorsexism is the oppression of and bigotry against nonbinary people. it is essentially sexism directed at nonbinary people. furthermore, it also includes the hatred of anything heavily associated with nonbinary people, like certain pronouns. exorsexism ranges from the erasure of nonbinary people to outright hostility. there are many different kinds of exorsexism as there are many different kinds of exorsexism. exorsexism affects the whole range of nonbinary gender identities, including but not limited to agender, multigender, genderfluid, aporagender & xenogender people, as well as androgynes, nonbinary men & nonbinary women.

here's an incomplete list of examples of exorsexism:

- nonbinary erasure, not just erasure of all nonbinary people, but also of more specific gender identities

- forcing nonbinary people into the gender binary or creating new gender-related binaries to force us into (e.g. amab/afab, masc/fem, men/non-men, cis/trans)

- thinking gender can't be fluid

- thinking everyone has to have a gender

- thinking nonbinary identities are new, a trend, a choice, a phase or a way to try and be special

- erasing exorsexism as a specific form of oppression

- thinking nonbinary people have to look a certain way

- centring binary people & experiences in communities that have historically included us

- mocking they, it and neopronouns

- thinking that "everyone is a bit nonbinary"/reducing nonbinaryhood to gender nonconformity

- thinking nonbinary people are just deviations from binary genders, i.e. men & women lite

[ckret2]

At some point I need to get around to drawing a comic I've had in my head for months where Ford tries to explain his sexuality using terminology he picked up out in the multiverse, and the explanation has to pass like a game of telephone through like three people who translate it into something Stan can understand.

The only problem is the joke hinges on assuming somewhere in Gravity Falls are two people who are well-versed in specific modern queer language, and I just don't think that's true.

To be clear I think LOTS of people in Gravity Falls are queer; I just think they're totally out of touch with the broader national queer community. They informally recognized gay marriage decades before the rest of Oregon on the grounds of "oh so you're saying I can legally marry a BIRD but not ANOTHER MAN?!" but while the rest of the nation was deciding how they felt about the split-attraction model or neopronouns, Gravity Falls' secret werewolf community was trying to explain having a sexuality that fluctuates with the moon phases without admitting they're werewolves. I think there are more people in that town who understand the term "lunarsexual" than "queerplatonic."

[crittersmoment]

why do u type like that

iz used to have the explanation for this on the pinned of mour old blog !! basically iz am using first and second-person neopronouns, meant to signify mour plurality in everyday conversation :)

for to use "I" in the everyday feels untruthful to mour lived experience, and to use "we" often introduces far too much confusion in what could otherwise be straightforward conversation.

the full first-person conjugation is "iz/umz/mour/mours/mourselves" and, if you are a friend of mours and wish to make umz very happy, the second-person conjugation is "uz/uz/uzr/uzrz/uzrselves"

thanks for asking ! >< mour other strange grammatics are also intentional usually :)

[kaisers-house-of-desires]

Do you think it would be possible for me to request Ganondorf x masculine hyrulian readerwith size difference + whatever other kinks you wish to add?

I adore reading your fics for those of us who use masculine, nonbinary, and neopronouns! So far, I've probably read almost all of them, and look forward to what ideas you have in mind for this! Thank you for such a wonderful set of stories!

Of course that's possible! I'm quite the fan of size differences myself, especially with our Great Demon King~

Thank you for your kind words, guest! It's an honor to serve this community.

Title: A Hylian's Fantasy

Characters: Ganondorf x m!reader

Contains: size difference, roleplay, restraints, fingering, slight degradation,

Fandom: Legend of Zelda

Full request below the cut

All characters are 18+

MINORS, FEM ALIGNED, AGELESS/BLANK BLOGS DNI

Reblogs > likes

It was times like these that you forgot just how terrifyingly tall the Demon King was.

The demon king had destroyed your tent, having ripped the shelter from its stakes and tossing it aside. You were lucky to escape the crumpled fabric just in time, quickly standing to your feet with sword in hand.

Now you stood just some feet away from him, your hand clenching tightly to your sword as the other gripped the steel shield. You weren't sure how he found you or why he was even after you.

"I see you found me," you stated, getting into fighting stance. "Care to explain why you're always on my ass?"

"How vulgar." Ganon chuckled darkly, not even fearing you. "Not even a 'hello?'"

"Not unless you explain why you've been tailing me!" At least the few times he's spotted you, you've managed to make an escape, but this time, it seemed like he wanted to fight.

"Do you really think I owe you any explanation?" Ganon tilted his head, looking down at you both literally and figuratively. "You are a nothing pesky Hylian, but I simply require your services for something."

"Could have stated that before..." you huffed, not once faltering your stance. "But as if I'd work with you!"

"Oh my dear..."

"...it's not about working with me." You didn't realize he had moved behind you. You whirled around only to realize just where he stood. Your head ended up just below his chest, and you had to crane your neck up just to see his face. You were about to jump back when the flat of his blade kept you still.

"Come, let's take a little walk."

---

Ganon led you back to an enemy enclosure, one that was gussied up more like a shelter than a hideaway. He fastened a set of shackles on your wrists behind your back after taking your items, leaving you with nothing but the basic attire you wore.

"Gh...so...what's the Demon King need with a 'pesky Hylian' like me?" you asked, adjusting to the restraints."

"Oh it's quite simple, really. There's actually something...special about you." Ganon tilted your head up, forcing your gaze to meet his. "Yes...very special."

You shook your head away, glaring at him.

Ganon merely chuckled, setting himself on the cot that resided in the shelter. He beckoned you over, and though hesitating, you stepped over. He reached for you, grabbing and setting you on his lap. Despite the both of you sitting up, you still felt small compared to him. His form was massive, and you straddling him felt like an accomplishment given your shorter stature. One of his large hands caressed your body, slowly slipping down to the hem of your pants.

"See...I think you'd be perfect as a new...toy for me~" At his words, his hand slipped in, past your boxers as well, and gripped one of your cheeks.

You gasped as red tinted your face, writhing lightly. "A-As if I'd ever--!"

"Ah ah ah...you haven't even given it a chance~" One of his fingers carefully worked its way into your ass, making you gasp and rest yourself on his chest. His fingers were larger than average, and you swore it felt like someone shoved their dick in you straight away. You moaned softly once he began to move, body subconsciously rocking against his finger. "Ah see~? And you almost didn't want it~"

It honestly felt too good to pass up, not to mention with how pent up you were. You welcomed his finger, even urging him for more.

"P-Please...~ J-Just a little more~"

If one finger wasn't enough for you, then two it'll be. Ganon added a second, steadily thrusting them. You practically bounced against his fingers, burying your face into his neck to muffle your moans. He kept this up for a moment until he deemed you ready, carefully taking his fingers out of your ass to literally rip your pants off your body, tearing them at the seams. Though you didn't seem to mind, for you knew what was about to come.

After a small bit of maneuvering, Ganon's cock sprang from his bottoms, pressing flush against your ass. It was enough to get you to sigh out, teasing it with gentle hip gyrations.

"My...someone is quite needy, isn't he?" Ganon teased, lifting you up to position you over his cock.

You shuddered at the fact he could lift you with ease, but again, you didn't mind. Your mind was too blissed out to even care at the moment. In fact, you were begging him to fill you.

How could he deny such an adorable, broken man? Well he spared no second, pulling you down while thrusting up at the same time, filling you to the brim. You arched back, broken moans filling the air as Ganon could clearly see the bulge forming from your stomach. He chuckled at the sight.

"Such a mess you are now~ Look at you~" Without wasting another moment Ganon began to move, thrusting at a steady speed as to not break you so soon.

Ganon was a lot but nothing you couldn't handle, or rather, you would be made to handle it, but not that you were complaining. His cock filled and stretched you so much, you didn't have a single complaint. It felt so heavenly, so blissful. At this point, you'd gladly be a toy for him.

"G-Ganon~!!"

"That's it, that's a good boy~ You're taking my cock so well for a worthless little Hylian~"

You found yourself once again resting on his chest, unable to form proper thoughts from the feeling of him stretching you open so wide. All you could do was call for him, call for the Demon King and tell him how good he felt deep inside of you.

Your chanting and praise seemed to really aid him, as he could feel himself about to cum very soon.

"Come on~ Just like that~ Cum with me~"

You didn't need to be told twice, as when he ordered it, you came with a muffled shriek, your body quaking against him.

---

The two of you laid on the cot after cleaning up. Your shirt was a mess so you had borrowed a portion of Ganon's top wear, but that didn't mean much as you laid on top of him under the blankets.

"So...did that satisfy all your little fantasies?" Ganon asked, rubbing your back in a soothing way.

You nodded tiredly, snuggling into your king. "It was perfect~"

The two of you had had this planned out for some time. You were a traveler that Ganon sought after, and he'd do anything in his power to make sure you were his.

"Though you fell a little to easily~" Ganon teased.

"Oh hush." You gave him a light hit to the chest. "How could I not with how big your fingers are~?"

Ganon simply gave a soft chuckle before rubbing your head. "Rest up. We'll get home later."

[orchideous-nox]

Regarding Ethan/p4perback

Upon reviewing the stream that Ethan/EJ/p4perback did on October 11th 2024 called "clearing up some stuff", there is a specific thing that he said that needs to be discussed because I have not seen a single person mention this. And yes, we are using names now. I will be speaking factually about this one particular thing Ethan said in this livestream and this thing alone. Yes, I have opinions on other things he said, however, these are down to my interpretation of Ethan's words and attitude and therefore do not have a place in this post. Maybe in the future I will speak more openly about other my opinions if I feel like it, but not in this post. I am in no way speaking on anyone's behalf either, this is purely from me.

At 02:34:32, Ethan reads out a comment explaining that the mod who made a thread about Ethan uses it/xin/they pronouns on Twitter (it has since made a post saying it does not use they pronouns) but told Ethan directly it uses it/its. Ethan then replied by saying:

"Maybe it's because it's a day-to-day thing, I know that there are people who are genderfluid. Or they just did it to trip me up. Could be one or the other."

As someone who identifies as genderfluid, I find it incredibly hurtful to insinuate that someone who is genderfluid or uses multiple pronouns or neopronouns would give someone the incorrect pronouns to "trip them up". This is disgusting and hurtful and it shouldn't take being genderfluid to understand why you should not say something like this.

The person Ethan was referring to told Ethan its pronouns directly and therefore he should believe that it was being sincere and honest rather than misgendering itself to "trip" Ethan up.

I'm going to address the rest of this directly to Ethan, not that I expect him to see this, but I hope people pay attention. Not everybody has a constant agenda to catch you out Ethan, I understand this stream was following a Twitter thread regarding you, however, I believe the mod/ex-mod wanted accountability for current actions as well as past ones. But its gender and pronouns have nothing to do with this. If somebody had said you told them you were using he/him pronouns to trip them up, you would be enraged and rightfully so, please consider this and look back at what you said in your stream.

You said this on a stream of hundreds if not thousands of people who look up to you and admire you and expect explanations for things outlined in the thread. Like I said, I'm not going to acknowledge anything said in that thread right now, but I understand it was a stressful situation to go through. You were tired, exhausted, and in pain from filming and travelling, but this does not excuse what you said about your ex-mod's pronouns and frankly, it would be appalling if you used that as an excuse. If you were tired to the point of saying things you did not mean in a stream where you are trying to be genuine, honest and authentic, end the stream. If you were tired to the point of accusing someone of purposefully misgendering itself for the same of tripping you up, please consider where this came from within you.

I appreciate you really tried to get its pronouns correct in the stream, adjusting to pronouns you are unfamiliar with and how to use them respectfully can be a struggle, I say this as someone who has had to be patient with a lot of people getting used to they/them pronouns for my sake, but you can be angry at someone without saying things that are hurtful not just to that person but to an entire community of people. I would expect better from you.

Finally, I want to end with a message to Ethan's fans if they have read this far. I have seen some a lot of people including Andy in the comments of posts on multiple platforms that about Ethan, who very clearly want to defend and support Ethan and see him happy. I think it is great that you support someone so faithfully and defend them. However, there is a portion of the community who fail to recognise that people don't have to like Ethan and they will have their reasons for this. We are entitled to our opinions. You are entitled to like Ethan, we are entitled not to. You can think of him however you like, I used to watch Ethan's tiktoks and like them and share them with friends, but you do not need to tell people they are jealous of what he has and that they're bullying Ethan for no reason simply because they don't like him. This post is not bullying, it is accountability.

Please give that same kindness to others that you say Ethan gives to his community. I know this saying is overdone but it is free to be kind, it is also free to be respectful and understand what spaces are for you and what aren't. Yes, people are talking about Ethan now and eyes are on him, but they are on you too. I will not stand for harassment and bullying for expressing how his words made me feel. Please be respectful.

[olderthannetfic]

I saw you got an ask about writing fic in your native language, and since I never saw anyone talk about this in any light before, I though I might add my two cents to that.

I don't write in my native language, don't read in it, because I my mind it is connected to the non-fandom real world, which is unpleasant for me, personally. Real world, I mean. It sucks, my life sucks, and fanfiction, fandom is an escape from that, from a society in which I am not accepted, a language in which I cannot express my gender. English has neopronouns! That is cool, that is freeing.

It'd take a lot of work, to make it even possible to talk about gender in my language, and it would not be something I'd find pleasant. It'd be exhausting. It'd be draining.

I could not, cannot, separate the loathing and bigotry I experience in the real world from the language it is said in, and... that is, very much a me issue. That's my personal problem. I don't know if the other people, who are apparently actually talking about these things, I don't know what exactly they are saying or why, but... this is an explanation.

I used to read fic in my native language, and... it was interesting, it was nice, it had a feeling to it. It was certainly something special, but I could never do it again. That language was, is, to me, the language of the abuse that I experienced. And, yeah, I hate it, for what it was used for, for what it is used for.

And that's not a fault of the language! It's not a fault of the people who write in it, and fanfiction, which usually includes queer themes, is certainly a step in the right direction. It's valuable. It can be beautiful. It could not read it, I do not touch it, I do still hate seeing it. I'd never comment to say I hate it, that'd be an awful thing to do!

And, yes, English is not some progressive force of change, America is awful, yes. It is still, in certain cases, better than my native country. The language still allows me to express my gender.

All the more power to the people who are not so limited, I do honestly hope they have fun, I hope they do cool stuff, I hope they find an audience. I mean this, with all honesty I do! But I'd ask them to allow other people their hatred, block them and leave them to it. People can hate things. It's a thing people do.

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