#milso help

[infplease-love-me]

If you aren't close to a service member you will never understand true hatred for the military.

[lovingamarine]

My husband just left for 7 months and I’m running on 2.5 hours of sleep. No, I’m not okay. Send help and caffeine

[dianajjoy]

Day 6

Only on day six, I miss you. How am I supposed to go another nine months

[feelslikeanadult]

I NEED HELP PLEASE

We have to break our lease due to a deployment but our landlord refuses.

They say we need orders to break a lease but we don’t have orders for this assignment!

I don’t know what to do and I’m freaking out PLEASE HELP IF YOU HAVE ADVICE.

[xa-airmans-missusx]

I’m so tired.

I’m tired of trying to make him happy, and not being able to.

I’m tired of never being able to spend anytime with him, even though we live in the same house.

I’m tired of not knowing what to do or how to help him.

I’m so very tired of him not wanting to help himself.

I’m tired I not feeling any connection to him.

I want my best friend back. I want the guy I fell in love with. Where did he go?

[amilitarylove]

what do you do to stay busy while your significant other is away?

[yourbeautifulmess19]

I kinda wanna share this tonight.. I’ve had a rough couples of days in my thoughts.. taking care of kids.. wanting to clean a home too many people live in.. wanting to see the love of my life.. it’s exhausting.. sure I’m not wanting to lie in my thoughts of despair, but I also have to pull things together to take care of this house.. I know God is waking something up.. I know He’s on the way and I know I’m going to see His glory like never before and He’s going to do what I need.. so as I wanna collapse on the floor and cry and talk to God.. I’m gonna rest my head against the wall and declare God is greater who lives in me and declare This situation is going to shout His praise and my victory..

[ordinarymilitarywife-blog]

Hello, it’s me.

Hello to whoever gets around to reading the first post!

I feel as if I should give you an introduction to who I am, although I’d like to keep a little bit of myself private. I’m from a small town located in upstate New York. My family owns and runs a farm where I had lived all my life. I graduated from a school who had a senior class of 72 and everyone knew each other’s business. Not very fun. The man I would eventually marry lived in the next town over. He too is from a small town. Our story isn’t a cliché, high school sweethearts fall in love, one elists into the military and the other one follows, no. Although it’s similar it’s not quite 100%. I meet him while I was in high school but we never started dating until I had graduated two years later. I was a sophomore in college and he was doing his own thing as a carpenter. After we met you could ask anyone, we were extremely good together. We were and still are a great team. He enlisted about 6 months into our relationship and it definitely put a hold on what we could do as a couple. How could I get to know a man who couldn’t even talk to me for 2 months? But we did it. We got through boot camp and he was stationed in San Diego. Now I’m in New York and he’s in San Diego. That’s more than 3000 miles in between, coast to coast. There were three options. Norfolk which would be perfect, 6 hour drive, no problem. Florida, 2 day drive, I could manage. San Diego.... no.. We had to make it work. I couldn’t give up on him for something he had no control over. Now granted we are young and we have years and years to go but I do love him with every part of me and marrying him was something that we both wanted whole heartedly. It was the next step. We had been through so much all ready and we were still going strong. Many couldn’t even manage that. He proposed at a private lake at sundown with our friends surrounding us. So I went to San Diego for a week. Fell in love with the place. And decided I wanted to move out there to be with him and experience something I never had while living in a small town. We got married and that was that. I was officially part of the lifestyle. I never expected it to be like it is though.

Marriage is hard. But marriage and being married to a military personnel is even harder. I went at this alone. I have no one who I can relate to. I’ve never been good at making friends and communicating my issues with people. My goal for this blog isn’t to just blabber about my life and my issues. My goal is to post those issues and post my routine and all of the tips I can give, that helped me, because there are people out there, like me, going through the same thing I am, alone. If they can communicate better this way and I can help them in any way that’s what I want to do. As I independent as I am, I still need some guidance and help sometimes. I don’t want people to be afraid to talk to me if they need it. Share their stories. Their pictures. Or just their own tips. I’m here for anyone.

I’ll be sharing things and posting updates hopefully everyday or every other day. Please feel free to chat, ask, or advise. ❤️

[lifeofanarmygf]

Dealing with a depressed s.o.

My boyfriend has dealt with a lot lately and has pretty much diagnosed himself with depression. He’s become soooo negative about things and just life in general. It is really killing my vibe - the positive attitude and optimism I once had about our future is starting to be affected. I love him and I do my best to keep his head up everyday but it’s just become a lot to deal with. Has anyone had any experience with this? Not necessarily depression but a significant other who has just become a total pessimist?? I’m not sure what to do/what to say to him anymore :/

[the-laughing-milso]

I never thought this was gonna happen.

He got orders to get stationed to a place he’s always wanted to go to. I’m so happy for him because he really wanted to go here. But the caveat to this is that I can’t go with him. We had plans for us. We had plans for going places, doing things, and even moving in together. I’m torn. I don’t know what the HELL to do. Should we get married ? Should we still move in ? Should we still continue us ?

I’m scared and confused.

I need a break from all of this.

[attempting-alice]

Help? Advise? Anyone who understands?

Do any of the MILSOs out there reading this have any experience with their veteran having flashback nightmares. Chris has been having them lately, I think it’s because the anniversary of the day he left is coming up next week so he’s been thinking about it a lot, and I was just hoping to connect with someone who understands. 

[agirlwithoutahome]

Uh. Finding a dress for the Marine Corps Ball is stressful.

I either hate everything or it’s too expensive ugh.

[paintandcamo]

Family: we want to help you get through this, talk to us and tell us how you're feeling

Me: I get uncomfortable when the military is brought up on tv so I usually leave the room

Family: get over it, you've got 4 years of this so you better get used to it

[lemonadeladybits]

That Navy feel when your husbands orders get modified last minute and everything gets moved forward a month, and you have the movers scheduled to come and you quit your job and you have an apartment ready 3,000 miles away and then they get modified again to return them to the original move date because someone knows someone who knows someone. Omg. I am going to puke.

[thatgatorgirl-blog1]

Y’all I need some milso friends. Help a newbie army gf out pretty pleaseeeee

[xa-airmans-missusx]

My life is falling apart.

It’s like this ticking time bomb and I’m just waiting for it to blow up in my face.

My life is falling apart and he has no idea. It’s slowly unraveling and he comes home so incredibly soon ... how am I meant to tell him what’s been happening these past 3 months without ruining the happiness of him being home again?

Dear god, I feel nauseous just thinking about that conversation.

Send help. And a miracle.