#like if there is an ace-aro closet i am fully in it

[rozcdust]

I don’t speak to whores

Pairing: Bonten x AroAce!GN!Reader, QPP Kazutora Hanemiya x AroAce!GN!Reader

Genre: Crack, fluff

Word count: 1.9k

Warnings: Canon divergent, profanity, ooc, whore behaviour, qpp relatinship, NO ROMANCE, just reader bullying Bonten, vomiting, drinking, taking care of a drunk person, reader has emotional capabilities of a carrot

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Knuckles rapping on the doors of Mikey’s office, you don’t wait for a ‘come in’ or ‘open’ or ‘fuck off’ or any other response your boss may offer, walking in without a care in the world.

You will, however, soon enough have many, many worries.

“What’s up, boss?”

“We have dinner on Thursday, 9 p.m.” He said from his desk, not raising his gaze from the game he was playing.

“Cool, I’ll schedule that at that one restaurant you like, party of 7?”

“Party of 8.”

“Oh, that spooky-ooky guy I barely see is going too?”

Mikey finally looked up at you.

“No, Mochi isn’t coming, he’s on his honeymoon, but you will.”

You blinked.

“I’ll what?”

“Bonding time.” He merely responded before going back to playing fucking Tetris, as if he didn’t just utter the most horrifying phase in the history of Heaven, Earth and Hell, ensuring your therapy bills quadruple in an instant.

“Boss, is that smart?”

“Bonding with coworkers in a controlled environment is important.”

“You haven’t felt another person’s touch since 2007.”

“Correct, but bonding.”

You stared at him, appalled.

“Boss, I work with feral cats in heat, how the fuck would that be a good idea?”

“Bonding.”

Mikey never looked as kickdroppable as he did at that moment.

Apparently, and according to Takeomi, company dinners are mandatory and you wouldn’t be able to get out of one even if you tried, and tried you have.

Great.

Mikey spreading misery all around, as he does best.

“Have you noticed how all aro ace people dress like whores?” Tora was sitting on your shared bed, his current job of helping you pick an outfit so, oh so tiring, he gave up and chose to just provide random comments from the side.

Which weren’t worth shit, half of his closet was tacky animal print shirts.

“I think that’s exclusively a you thing, but shut it right now, I am angy.”

Kazutora threw up his hands in surrender.

“I have to go to a stupid dinner with stupid coworkers and handle all their stupid flirting and-“ Huffing, you angrily threw the leather jacket off yourself, plopping on the bed and right into Kazutora’s lap.

Kazutora sympathetically patted your head,

“Do you want cuddles?”

“Yes.” Gathering just enough energy to drag yourself up so you were fully seated on him, you buried your face into his neck, his arms immediately wrapping around you. His hair tickled your face, now let out of the bun he usually wore, but it smelled nice, so you allowed it.

“I just want to poison their coffee,” You muttered, pouting when Kazutora chuckled, pressing a kiss to your temple as the only response, “They’re so fucking annoying, I swear. I will stab them.”

“Not recommended, sweetheart.”

“Yes, the fuck it is.”

“Nuh-uh.”

“Yuh-uh.”

“You’ll be fine, babe.” Forcing you to look at him, he peppered more kisses onto your face, the pout on it growing even more, and he couldn’t help but think you look so cute like that.

He laughed at the expression, earning a smack in retaliation.

“You suck, Tora.”

“Come on,” He grinned, too cocky for your liking, “Ya love me. You asked me out first!”

Sighing dramatically, you allow your head to fall on his chest, closing your eyes as you breathed in his scent.

“Truly, what a terrible curse has befallen me, to live with a dumb bitch like you, you stupid piece of shit.”

Kazutora’s grin widened, and before you could process, he whipped out the camera out of nowhere, snapping a picture to probably develop and bully you about it later.

“Love you too, honey. Love you too.”

“Hello, y/n l/n, I’m here with a party of 8.” You already sounded exhausted, and the dinner hasn’t even started.

The smiling receptionist led you to the room you reserved, on the top floor, a rather luxurious dining suite with a beautiful view of the city, absolutely breathtaking and way too fucking cliche.

To be fair, you did ask the restaurant for the most expensive suite and the most expensive dinner they offered.

You were already adding dents to Bonten’s self-esteem, why not do it to their wallets too?

All of the men were already there, their eyes observing you carefully and hungrily, and if you were any less confident in your clothing choice, you would have felt a little unnerved.

Fortunately for you, and unfortunately for your stupid, horny coworkers, Kazutora stuck you in his ‘Dick slaying outfit’, which meant you were wearing exclusively oversized men’s clothing, courtesy of Kazutora’s lanky form and the muscle mass he seemed to keep no matter the fact the heaviest thing he ever lifted was a cat, with the exception of the sluttiest, smallest crop top the entire city of Tokyo has ever seen.

Also belonging to Kazutora.

Maybe his hypothesis that aroace people dressed like hoes was correct.

Kokonoi tried to comment that the outfit wasn’t quite ‘fine dining’ appropriate, upon which you bit back that their job wasn’t fine dining appropriate, which seemed to quickly shut him up.

Kakucho politely told you that you looked pretty, but he also received a glare, even if he hasn’t quite done anything wrong.

As expected while the night progressed, your coworkers were loud, rude and fully insufferable.

You and Mikey seemed miserable both, desperately trying to pretend you weren’t there when Rindou and Sanzu got into a biting argument about who was taller.

They both got a devastating blow to their self-esteem they realised Kokonoi was, in fact, taller than them both, which got them to start arguing about who’s dick is bigger.

You made a mental note to kill them all if they actually start comparing dicks.

To your relief, they didn’t, instead opting out for a few rounds of a poker drinking game with bullshit rules they made up themselves.

Sanzu was, shockingly, the best, barely having to take a sip all night, and you had to admit you found that at least a little admirable.

You just assumed he fried all his neurons a while ago.

Kokonoi and Kakucho, meanwhile, were failing desperately, and your eyebrows furrowed in worry at the speed the two men were forced to drink.

Fucking idiots, the whole lot of them.

You solemnly vowed to yourself that under no terms would you drive any of them to their house.

You were driving all of them to their house.

God fucking damn it.

Some of them had to be shoved out with a boot and a threat of a stabbing, while some, like Mikey, and shockingly, Ran, left the car quite politely.

You were in mid-pondering when will Ran realise you were in fact, driving his car, and, in fact, left with that same car, when you heard rather unpleasant gagging noises, followed by the sound of car doors opening and vomiting.

Thank God you were at the red light.

And Kakucho was the only one left in that damn back seat-

Fucking lovely.

Kazutora whistled from the balcony as he watched you try and fail to drag Kakucho into the apartment building.

“Damn. That is a nice ride- Does this mean I can quit my job and become the trophy husband you always dreamt of?”

You stopped to look up and glare at him, Kakucho’s arm firmly placed around your shoulder as he still dry heaved, face flushed red and his eyes watering.

“Shut the fuck up and help me take him upstairs!”

Kazutora saluted you as the only response.

You will smother him in his sleep.

Eventually, Tora did come and help you take Kakucho up to your apartment, handling the man more gently than you ever would, perfectly gentle and soft-spoken, borderline cooing, he helped the man take off his coat and shoes, before promptly taking him to the bathroom.

Frowning, you kicked off your shoes as well, following the two and finding Kakucho kneeling on the dark tiled floor in front of the toilet as Tora rubbed his back softly.

Your partner, ever the traitor, left as soon as you stepped in, mentioning how ‘It was your job because it was your coworkers’ and leaving you, the least caring person ever, in charge of this mess of a man.

Sighing, and after forcing one of Kazutora’s tiger-themed headbands with ears on Kakucho to keep his hair at least somewhat clean and out of his face, you sat on the floor next to him, considering your next move.

Maybe you should provide some comfort? You really had little in terms of experience with taking care of drunk people, usually, Tora was the only person you ever had to babysit, and he was usually perfectly content with you just hugging him from the back like a koala and holding his hair.

Hm.

Yeah, you’re not getting that close to Kakucho, no way, he probably had cooties.

Rubbing his back should be okay, though.

“There, there, big guy, get it all out- Yep, good job, like that. Want some water?”

Kakucho merely nodded, his throat dry and scratchy, a stabbing headache and nausea scrambling his brains until he could barely think, but water sounded nice.

Your hand on his back was cold enough to be felt through his shirt, and it felt soothing.

Briefly leaving to return with a bottle of water from the fridge, you uncapped it and offered it to Kakucho, who washed his mouth with the first sip, and downed the immediately, chugging it fast enough that you were genuinely shocked he didn’t choke on any and die on the spot.

He, unfortunately, was not able to keep any of it down, his stomach rejecting to hold any and all liquids, but hey, it was worth a shot.

You opted for wetting a washcloth with cold water and dabbing it on Kakucho’s face, one palm firmly placed on his cheek as you rotated it around knowing Kazutora and Baji liked that when they got sick from drinking, always saying it grounds them.

Maybe talking to Kakucho and reassuring him everything is fine will work too, after all, Chifuyu seemed to like it whenever he joined the other two in their benders and ended up requiring care.

Come to think of it, you only really knew how to take care of people based on Kazutora’s, Baji’s and Chifuyu’s needs.

Huh.

Maybe Kazutora was right in his insistence that you need more friends.

Lightly scratching Kakucho’s scalp, you leaned against the wall, gently telling him to hold on in there and that things will work out just fine, not to worry, this horrible state will pass soon enough, cooing that you’ll let him sleep in your bed, no need to break his back on the shitty couch.

What you did not anticipate, however, was for him to hug your leg firmly enough that you were certain he would break your femur, and start sobbing as he buried his face into your thigh.

Your brain short-circuited just in time for Kakucho to start hiccuping about ‘Missing him so much, he let me sleep on his bed when I was sick too, I miss him so much-‘

Yeah, no.

Not your area anymore, nope.

Nah.

Fuck this.

“KAZUTORA! KAZUTORA HANE-FUCKING-MIYA! HE’S CRYING! KAZUTORA, GET IN HERE! YOU KNOW I CAN’T WITH CRYING HUMANS- WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING?!”

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a/n: finally reviving this, no idea why i even stop posting it 😭

[legandairy-horror]

Headcannons about how the Lightner crew show affection for each other because I can't stop imagining these dorks as the world's most confusing and disastrous polycule

Kris

Feral animal in all things, including relationships. Is very particular when it comes to physical touch and other displays of affection. Instead they give out cool rocks and other shiny things to people they like/care. Has had a crush on every person in their class at one point or another and simultaneously refuses to acknowledge it and refuses to move on. Subconsciously uses their pranking and general weirdness as an excuse to get closer to people without having to admit that they like being around them

Susie

That one "Excuse me, they asked for no pickles" meme. Is willing to commit any crime for the people they care about. Absolutely refuses to acknowledge the fact that they have feelings for anyone even after going out on several dates with them. Not helped by poor self-worth issues making he doubt anyone actually liking her let alone romantic feelings. Deeply infatuated with Noelle, strong feelings for Kris. Complicated for Catti (started out real rough but thinks dark magic is sick as fuck)

Noelle

Lesbiab. Lasbein. Girls. Has such a low self-image of herself and tries so unbelievable hard to hide how weird she is that she just does not realize that every girl in class has been actively trying to date her and just assumes that they're all being nice. Not helped by some lingering Heteronormativity makes her just default to "Ah yes, boys and girls date, that's how that works".

Berdly

I cannot emphasize just how performative he views relationship. Raised on a healthy diet of Heteronormativity and Societal expectations he understands every relationship through that lens. "Of course the guy and girl get together in the end, that's just 'how it works'". Except it's not how it works, because people are often a lot more then what society expects from them. And he just never realized that there might be other options, that love isn't this destined thing that everyone one day accepts like fucking ex-caliber. That he doesn't have to do this if we doesn't want to. That he can just be friends with people instead of having to worry about all this forced bullshit. Yes I am head-cannoning Berdly as closeted aro/ace and there is nothing you can do to stop me.

Catti

Developed a crush on Kris & Noelle while she was teaching them both magic and never fully got over it. Also had somewhat of a friendship while they were younger and thus unjustly blames herself for not doing more to help them after Dess's disappearance and Kris's Possession. Combined with typical teen angst of "My parents are humiliating me by their mere existence." and she's developed a very distant and detached form of love. a very "I'm fine sacrificing my happiness if it means they keep their happiness" kinda mentality. Reason she doesn't get along with Susie at first is because she subconsciously projects a lot of her own anxieties and fear onto her leading to a lot of hostility at first.

Jockington

Token straight and is thus the only remotely competent person here. Serves as the supportive rock for everyone and especially Catti. The first and mostly likely person on the team to suggest the completely reasonable advice of "have you tried talking to them?" and "you're probably overthinking this". It's part of why Catti fell in love with him, because he's the only one here who would willing and readily admit that he cares for someone.

Bonus Monster Kid & Snowy meme (not at all serious)

"Have you ever been walking down the street with your best bro and while you're walking you accidentally touch hands? You think to yourself - That was weird, but I'm not gay. - You are, you are gay". Source

[asexual-society]

This is weird and I don't know if it's a question per se, but here it goes. I'm ace and probably arospec but not sure and not in a hurry to find out. I have no problem saying this at all, anywhere, to anyone. But when confronted with the word queer, or being part of the lgbt+ community, I take a step back. I've been going to pride for years and have a lot of queer friends. but for some reason, in those spaces I don't feel like I fit in. I don't know if it's because we don't share the same closet experience, and unless we say it, out loud, no one would know about us. And is the same in hetero allo spaces, I don't belong there. So I feel like I'm in this limbo, where I don't belong anywhere. I guess the point of this is, am I alone in this?

That seems pretty understandable to me, especially if your other queer friends aren't ace or aro, it can be pretty isolating not to fit into the queer spaces that by all accounts you should fit into, and even though there is a lot of overlap between the experiences of aspec people and allo queer people, there can be parts of their experiences that we don't fully relate to, just like how a lesbian might not totally fit in with a group of only gay men, or a bi person might not totally fit in with a queer person exclusively attracted to the same gender. Equally, there's this sort of misconception that aspec people aren't clockable as queer like gay or bi people are for example, or that we don't face any discrimination like they do, which just isn't true. Not that oppression or trauma are requirements for entry into the community, but we can tend to diminish what our community as a whole goes through when we're asked for credentials as to why we should be allowed in queer spaces.

You don't have to call yourself queer or lgbt+ or any other label if you don't want to, if you don't feel a community with those groups you are under no obligation to join in, and the same is true for any non-cis/het individual. But, if there will always be space here for you if or when you want it.

~ mod key

[redtail-lol]

Is there a full/bigger version of yr pfp?? I fckn love lgballt sonas and I need to see yours for scientific purposes. /nf

Yeah and a flag guide that I'll provide but keep in mind it hasn't been updated in a while and I'll have a new one soon

Term Definitions because I can. Some definitions are personal to me and not general definitions

Woman/Girl: A gender identity that is connected to femininity and the female sex

Cisgender: Someone who's gender identity is congruent with their AGAB

Cisconfusgender: A cis person who often is unsure of their gender but always comes to the conclusion they're cisgender. I didn't coin this term but I made the flag based on a description of it

Quoieuphoric: Someone who isn't sure what gender euphoria feels like or if they feel it. I coined this term myself!

She/her/hers/herself: Someone who would appreciate if you referred to her by she/her pronouns

They/them/their/theirs/themselves: Someone who would appreciate it if you referred to them by they/them pronouns

Femme: Someone who presents femininely

Aspec: Someone on the ace, aro, or other a-spectrum(s)

Arosespec: Someone who is on both the aro and ace spectrums

Acespec: Someone who is on the asexual spectrum

Arospec: Someone who is on the aromantic spectrums

Asexual: Someone who doesn't feel sexual attraction at all (personal use definition)

Cupiosexual: Someone who doesn't feel sexual attraction but still desires a sexual relationship

Demiromantic: Someone who experiences romantic attraction exclusively to people they have formed a strong emotional bond with

Cupioromantic: Someone who desires a romantic relationship even in the absence of romantic attraction (personal use definition)

Angled Aroace: Someone who is on both aro and ace spectrums but isn't fully ace, aro, or either

Lesbian: A feminine, neutrally, xenically, or unaligned person who is attracted, usually exclusively, to other feminine, neutrally, xenically, or unaligned genders. This is a definition I came up with that I think accomplishes what the nonmen definition attempted to describe and doesn't exclude multigender/multialigned people and acknowledges the common exclusive use of today but doesn't exclude historical use. (personal use definition)

Aurora Lesbian: An all inclusive alt flag. An aurora lesbian can be considered an all inclusive lesbian

Lunian: An mspec lesbian

Bi lesbian: Someone who's bi attraction is also simultaneously lesbian attraction because it's only towards people who are considered part of lesbian attraction (personal use definition)

Sapphic: WLW, doesn't have to be exclusive.

Midnight Sapphic: A sapphic who feels othered and ostracized from the greater sapphic community for their identity

Omni lesbian: Someone who is attracted to all genders considered part of lesbian attraction (personal use definition)

Bi lesbian with bi- as a modifier: Someone who primarily identifies as a lesbian, and sees being a bi lesbian as a subset of that lesbian attraction

Neptunic lesbian: A lesbian who is also neptunic

Closeted mspec lesbian: An mspec lesbian who is closeted about being an mspec lesbian in at least one aspect of their life

Acespec Mspec Lesbian (yeah apparently it's not just the acespec lesbian flag oops): An mspec lesbian who is acespec

Neptunic: Someone who is exclusively attracted to all non-masc genders

Bi: Someone who is attracted to multiple genders. Commonly used to mean not all genders and with gender as a factor, but because of its history, it can refer to any mspec attraction

Multi: Someone who is attracted to multiple genders. An umbrella term for bi/pan/poly/omni

Mspec: Someone who is on the multispectrum

Bi-Gay: Someone who considers their attraction bi and gay (gender neutral)

Stellian: Someone who considers their attraction mspec and gay (gender neutral)

LGBTQ: Someone who is not an allocishet

Autistic: I'm not yet diagnosed and I'm working on it but I believe I am on the autism spectrum/have autism spectrum disorder. You can use person first or identity first language I don't mind either.

Queer: Someone who reclaims Queer as an identity. Not all LGBTQ people will be queer, because we should acknowledge that is has been used to harm people and they may still have trauma with the word queer.

Inclusionist: Someone who includes all good faith identities and seeks understanding before calling something nonsense.

Lykoi Lesbian: A lesbian inclusionist group that passively fights exclusionism by being inclusive.

[basslinegrave]

make your own post this and that so i am. so i dont spam ppls tags and what not

thinking about how snm would realize they got feelings for one another and i feel like for sam the realization would come much later like. into their 20s at least but for max i think hed crush on him on and off since they would be like teens or something? im a sucker for stories about my ships realizing their feelings and getting together so its hard for me to just pick One to go with. if i was a writer i would make like 80 different situations a week 😭 but with these two since theres no canon, there doesnt have to be a set timeline anyway and there can be a morbillion of them. like if i look at the cartoon that is a married couple with a house and all. so it narrows it down to getting together much sooner... then in ttg you just have them perhaps not fully in it, maybe they talked about it, maybe not yet at all, maybe s3 could be where sam realizes his feelings, etc etc (i dont see them as a couple yet there though) and so on

anyway my fav idea is that max just has feelings for sam but hides it (maybe even forgets about it from time to time and then falls in love with him all over again) and this goes on for years and years but he thinks sam wouldnt be interested at all so he lets it be (maybe except one time drunkenly fooling around back in like college, or at least during the one week before they got kicked out lmao)

sam realizes it much later, in their 20s or early 30s (not even early middle age man yaoi.... weak...) and i think he would be a bit "afraid" of it all, i do think hes bi but not having experience with men especially and it would be a scary and unknown area for him plus he wouldnt want to somehow hurt max and ruin their friendship and all that. reassuring himself that would never happen and no matter what they will be best friends even if he told max but he would still try to bury those feelings at first. big on "try", they would still slip out in other ways like caring for max and just the usual (how they talk, touches, stuff like headpats and throwing max etc), thats also the thing that would be like "oh yeah. whats there to be scared of", the fact that once they would get together, nothing would really change at all? they already have their own love language of sorts and are always together anyway etc so it would just go from "partners" (work) to "partners" (work and life and everything else) i think. i also like how in ttg you can look at some things as "oh hes deep in the closet" even if its not written like that..

its also hard for me to separate canon and fanon at times and hard to like. work with some stuff, its always a mess in my head but a good chunk of the fans ship them and take them as a couple. me personally i would see it only in the cartoon but even there its more of a joke (but if you show some things as facts it can be easily viewed that way) but for the rest of the media it stays vague (which i do like, except ttiv, you know what you did ttiv *shakes fist*) but there i keep thinking about how max is sort of shown as gay but not really. like its more of a 'if youre gay or a shipper etc you see him as gay, otherwise not' situation to me. if you say hes gay online, there will be people telling you that hes not, its never been explicitly said (true) etc he just doesnt like girls.. and i noticed the irony of how this is a time where people that normally are against aro/ace characters they will paint him as such just so that he isnt gay, lol. like "no he cant have anyone if he can only have men 🤬" anyway. that said yeah they can be aroace best friends, just for me personally id prefer to be more romantic - in their own way. ofc they dont go to romantic dinners but they can go blow up a shooting range or go to a burger joint and see which one of them can eat more burgers before throwing up, but they can also smooch when the player/reader/watcher isnt watching, you know. max hates kissing though, which can either end in they dont kiss much Or they do, its just on the same page as with them hating when others touch them but theyre glued to each other 24/7 (or like the case with max hating seeing naked ppl but he himself being naked normally) so like he hates seeing it, but is fine with sam and sam only?

derailed strongly there, i wanted to talk about how they would also tell each other, thats also something i cant decide on but me like a little bit of angst of course so it would have to come with either a little misunderstanding or going "too far" -> realizing it wasnt too far but what the other very much wants etc etc. actually i have nothing here, moving on

uhh and i also think about them proposing? i think they both would want to. theres also so many ideas but my fav is that sam gets to propose first, but max just goes fuck! beat me to it. and he pulls out a ring as well and they get to propose at the same time (with sam perhaps getting emotional, max would call him a sap but then get a bit emotional too for once) but then theres also something silly for the comics/htr where i can imagine it more like max mentioning marriage, as a joke or not, and sam pulling out a comically oversized ring pop for him (then they have the """"shotgun"""" wedding lol) then for ttiv which is my dearly hated storyline. they maybe proposed in the past, but idk if they actually got married, they ended it because it got rocky. perhaps sam got cold feet but max would be the one to end it (then make harsh remarks about sams dating life and all that, but deep down being glad its not working out for sam cause max has always been the jealous type) and maybe they finally get therapy (or max contacts sybil after ages and she gives him some advice and such) and perhaps after splitting up for a bit like in the cartoon (insert snm divorce gif) they get back together now that theyre like in their 50s and realize its no use, theyre not really holding each other back as they would be worried maybe but that they truly want to be with each other and they get actually married after trying again. i think its silly for them to get married like youd expect maybe sam to think about that but not max but i think hed be very excited about it mainly cause of the food at the reception

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

I know this isn't a big huge thing. and there are people in so much worse for situations but i want to come out. I want to come out for being in the aroace spectrum, that the fact I'm bi-romantic. That I'm genderfluid. And yeah the people I'm really close to know but I can't come out. If I come out then several of the people I care about most will get disowned simply because I'm queer. I thought when I left my own family behind I could come out and just... be who I want. But I'm instead pretending to be a bigger christian then ever and I can't post anything for equal rights or services to victims like I used to before I even tried to come out to my mother. I'm not upset that I'm in the closet to protect my loved ones. That this means I still get to keep them and they don't get disowned, and that this helps hide the fact their also queer. I'm also just frustrated because now, I can't come out until AFTER all my loved ones come out/get outted which will result in them getting disowned. Like... it's not just their families are quietly against lgbtq+ or are open to the conversation. It's disowning and ridicule for them. Obviously I'm going to do my part to keep them safe. I also just... miss the fact that I want to be more public like I was. I want to fully come out and now I once again can't.... It's such an odd situations because I don't regret it and will do these actions all again. I am at the best position in my life in forever. But I still almost mourn the fact that my friends plans are to wait for a will that will come in play in 30+ years, but if I came out they would still get disowned just for knowing me. i don't know if this is the right blog for this. But i figure I'm not the only early twenties queer person in this type of situation, plus I just needed this out. Sorry if this is the wrong type of thing to send.

Yeah, it's definitely a difficult position to be in, Anon. (And it's alright to find it difficult and frustrating, there's always going to be people in worse situations than yours, but that doesn't do anything to improve your own.)

One thing to consider might be to consider what are called escape plans or safety plans. Basically what can you and the people you care about do so that in the future the people who would disown them no longer have power over them? What this means can vary a lot depending on the situation, it may mean finding other living arrangements (this is difficult if they're still minors, but even if it's planning what to do when they're legally adults, it's still something you can start figuring out early). It may mean financial independence. I may mean finding support systems outside of those people. Even if they never do plan to come out to these people, figuring this out and having this plan will mean that they'll be in a much better position if these intolerant family members ever do somehow find out they're queer.

The other thing to think about is yourself. You need to make sure you're also thinking about yourself and what you need to do for yourself. While you're right that it's important to protect your loved ones and that likely means you can never come out to those particular people that doesn't mean you can never live a life where you can be out. This may mean more separation, such as unconnected social media accounts, or even living in a different town or city, but this is doable. This goes back to long term planning, looking ahead to the future what changes can you make that you can be living the kind of life that you're comfortable in sooner than later.

The other thing I'd consider is what kind of support group do you have? It sounds like you're acting as support for other people, but who do you have acting as your support? There's a lot of ways to build up support groups, such as joining online queer communities or ace/aro communities or if you feel safe doing so seeking off-line ones too. Looking into counseling and therapy can help too but make sure whatever you find is queer friendly and bi and ace/aro friendly. But having someone you can talk to who'll be prioritizing your well-being can be really helpful in situations like this.

All the best, Anon and good luck!

[because-you-are-loved]

https://youtu.be/UNgGfkRKSIQ

To my fellow students, but especially my fellow members of the lgbtq+ community…

Please, read this post if you feel alone, misfit, hated, worthless, or anything else like it.

Hello, I am a student here at Cornerstone, and too much of my time has passed in fear of being ridiculed and attacked for my sexuality. I am an asexual gay man who came out just over a year and a half ago, and I still am not fully out of the closet. My family thrives on mocking lgbtq+ people, frequently crowning them with degrading comments and disgusting humor. That hostile environment stopped me from being willing to love and accept myself as the person I am, and that is not okay.

For so long, I denied the truth that I was gay. My church and my friends preached that gay people go to hell, and choosing to be anything but straight was an affront to God and defying His wishes for us. I did everything I possibly could to be straight, to find a girlfriend, and to live the heterosexual dream my parents so desperately want for me. Early into my sophomore year, I met someone who gently asked me about my sexuality, my wants, my hopes, my interests, and everything I had denied myself for such a long time. She helped me to question myself, deconstruct the lies I had built, and begin seeing myself for who I really am, and I owe her more than I could ever offer. She has continued supporting me unconditionally throughout this process of coming out and learning to love myself. With her help and countless hours of practice, I have gradually been learning to be okay with the person God always loved and known me to be.

It has taken me a very long time not to hate myself for having crushes on men and envisioning my future with one who loves me. Sometimes, I still hate my sexuality for making life difficult, especially as a Christian, but that is why I made this Tumblr. As I feel this cluster of emotions, I remember there is no way I am the only person who feels this way, and I want you to know how beautiful and valuable you are.

No matter if you're gay, lesbian, bi, trans, ace, aro, or any other part of the queer community, you are loved and purposeful. Psalm 139:13 famously says "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb." God has always known the real you, and the you who so desperately felt the need to hide from yourself, from your family, from the world. God created ALL OF US in His image, the imago dei, as loving, forgiving, creative, passionate creatures. You are no less of an image bearer than a straight person, or anyone else free from the burden you carry. YOU are loved. YOU are worthy. YOU are wonderfully made, and so am I. So are we all.

Cornerstone is a place whose leadership often fails to recognize the experiences of lgbtq+ individuals, aside from feeling like a personal failure and a disappointment to our Creator. Cornerstone, much like the larger church, often leaves us in the shadows. We are cast aside in favor of a more on-brand alternative. In her book, Talking Back to Purity Culture, Rachel Joy Welcher, a conservative Christian woman, criticizes the church for frequently putting the heterosexual married couples with children on a pedestal, as an aspiration and bar to reach, describing fitting in at church as being seated at a table (a common Christian motif). "The promises in purity culture," which most of us were bottle-fed, "include the majority who get married and have children. But they alienate those who don't fit into the heteronormative, nuclear family, making them the easy pick for the kid's table, with knees pushed up to the their chests, straining to hear the conversation happening in the other room" (p.68). Cornerstone, even unintentionally, can set an atmosphere whispering to lgbtq+ students they best be undetected lest they get in the way of proper Christianity.

I want you to know that is untrue. You are not disgusting, or worthless, or a mistake, or unholy. You. Are. Beautiful. And in the eyes of God, you are among the most sacred things creation has to offer, brokenness and all. You carry a story unique to you, and though others may have similar pieces, only yours happened the way it did.

I'm sorry you had to go through everything you did. I am sorry you were tagged as wrong, inadequate, failing, disappointing, or any other degrading descriptor, and I pray that whoever dehumanized you for not being straight has prepared themselves for God's response to slashing His beloved.

I won't reveal my identity (though some of you may already know who I am), but please know that I want to hug you tightly and tell you I love you. I love every part of you, and I want to know your story. I want you to have a chance to know the love God has for you, and I want you to know that no matter what anyone says to you, He will always love you. Always.

Please feel free to leave comments if you have anything you need to say or ask.

[senadimell]

over here loving the asexual lifestyle

[enibly]

this is a post about kpop and closets and gay rights, but really it’s about how classic children’s lit gave me unrealistic expectations for life (and really, isn’t that every single post i ever make?)

oh my god someone asked miya on vlive if she would have a wife and she floundered so much trying to answer without outing herself! girl you gotta pre-practice your answer to uncomfortable questions you KNOW you are gonna get! drill those reactions like you drill dance moves!

I do appreciate how transparent she is tho, whether she means to be or not. I would imagine that most gays, at least the adult ones, can pick up on the code language and very un-encoded body language very clearly here. however I’m still unsure how well the teens pick up on it- I know I took ppl at face value at that age, even when they were basically living in a glass closet. ahahaha some funny memories about that

anyways, I appreciate Miya trying to avoid being rude to the gays while still staying in the closet- as I know from youthful experience, that’s certainly not easy and at its heart, it’s a losing battle :/ 

so I hope that Japan/Korea make gay adoption fully accessible asap so that Miya (and all my other queer brethren) don’t have to pretend to be straight just to have a family. And if that doesn’t happen in time, then I hope Miya finds a nice lavender marriage when she wants to

Video + translation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=22CJAoqcQJI by GWSN - Girls In The Park Translations on Youtube (they’re doing great work!)

[aceadmiral]

Hi, I just saw your post about asexual academia (in the field of translation), which was a really fascinating read. I’m an aroace person who just recently started my master’s in psychology, and I’m thinking about doing a research project (possibly even my master’s thesis?) on asexuality in psychology, since there’s such a huge knowledge/research gap in this field. However, I’m very closeted, and I’m worried if I do such an “obscure” topic (for lack of a better word) that it would be quite obvious what my identity is, since most allo people wouldn’t think of choosing that topic? Do you have any advice? Do I just need to be brave and try not to worry about it? Would there even be any uni professors who’d be interested in supervising a project like that?

Thanks for your time!

Hi Anon! Thank you for the ask! I think the answer to your question depends on a couple of factors, and so I'm just going to lay them all out so you can see what applies to you you.

To answer your practical question of can you do a thesis on asexuality: yes! If my advisor in translation studies (who honestly didn't like me that much) was supportive of my project in 2012, then yes, absolutely, there are faculty who would support you. There are also prominent scholars who have done asexuality research who either are not ace or have not said either way, so if that's how you wanted to play it, you wouldn't be the first. However, you would know best what the vibe is in your specific department. If you have peers you trust (and I hope you do!), you can ask for their opinions of the professors too. I also think you should seriously consider joining the Ace/Aro Scholars Support Network. They have a lot of good support, including for trying to figure out how to pitch your research project to your advisor. In order to protect people's privacy, there is a professor you have to either DM on Discord or email, and if you would message me again as yourself, I will send you back her contact info privately.

To answer your more circumspect question of how open you want to be: I think that really depends on where you see yourself going after your Master's. If you plan to continue on to a PhD or even stay in academia, then what your thesis project is is going to matter; if your career path is anything else: follow your heart!! I wasn't kidding when I said no one cares about my thesis. It doesn't have to go on your resume, or on your bookshelf, or anything if you don't want it to. If you have a research question you're passionate about, your thesis is going to be that much better for it, and after you finish, you never have to see any of these people again if you don't want to!

The other thing I would say to you is that I think we're a lot more self-conscious about how others are going to react when, in fact, most people literally do not care. Your reviewers are going to be reading your thesis to see if you can research well, not for whether or not they think asexuality is interesting per se. I still have mine next to me, and looking at it, neither of my reviewers mentioned anything of the sort. They were looking for the quality of the translation and the application of translation theory, that's it. (I actually have a classmate who used a technical manual for hers, so like, seriously.)

And then, the last thing I want to say is this: I have been an ace in the workforce for many years now, and I spent most of those years fully or semi-closeted, but my life changed a lot when I stopped accepting homophobic and transphobic environments and instead came to work in a place that lets me be who I am. We spend so much of our lives in our workplaces, and whether that's a university or a company or what have you, you deserve to have a work environment that is not throwing harassment on you on top of all the rest the demands of a job. If you end up in that situation, I beg you not to try and stick it out; make a plan for as swift an exit as you can. Even at the university, if you have a bad advisor, there might be a way to switch, if not on paper then at least practically. I have never thought to myself after leaving a bad job, "I'm glad I stuck it out," but rather, "why didn't I leave sooner?" You asked if you should be brave and just not worry about it, and I would not advise that. Your safety and your ability to support yourself is important, and you're right to worry about it. But be brave and demand an accepting, supportive environment for yourself, even and especially if that means moving on? Yeah, I think you should do that.

I hope that's helpful! Join the Ace/Aro Scholar Support Discord, and join ASPeN too while you're at it! You deserve support!

[undeadaspec]

one thing not many allo people realize is just how insidious aphobia is. the main reason I still struggle to accept my ace identity is the amount of aphobia I experience and witness (both on the internet and irl) that the average person doesn't view as aphobia and, therefore, doesn't view as a problem.

let's start with invisibility. it's no secret that the aspec community is always an afterthought, even within the LGBTQ+ community. how many times have you seen a pride post that didn't include aspec identities, or only included aces and not aros? how many times have you witnessed or been part of a discussion on sexuality that completely disregarded the experiences of ace people, or a discussion on relationships that perpetuated arophobia? we exist, people. and it's time you start acknowledging us.

this leads me to the next form of aphobia: exclusionism. at this point exclusionists don't even try to hide it anymore that they just hate aspec people. they took everything from us, made up lies to destroy our community, forced so many of us back in the closet and went out of their way to make sure that everyone else would see us as cringy and avoid us. every time you've seen a reply on a post that was like "but what about asexuals? *insert homophobic take*" that was just an exclus trying to make aspec people look bad. now asexuality is used for laughs (the ace Nicki Minaj moodboard and ace Ben Shapiro moodboard are a few examples) and even just having ace headcanons is seen as homophobic. I hope you realize how ridiculous exclus are and actively make an effort to not give them a platform.

exclusion in general can really get to an aspec individual. on one side you have cishets telling you that you're sick and broken and need to be fixed, while on the other side you have (aphobic) LGBTQ+ individuals telling you you're just trying to be special/invade the community and you don't experience discrimination on the basis of your identity. you truly start to feel like you don't belong anywhere and that you should be ashamed of your identity. that feeling of isolation can have extremely negative effects on your mental health, like it did with mine.

I would say the lack of representation is a consequence of the lack of acceptance. we ace & aro people often make our own positivity posts, our own safe spaces and our own representation because no one else will do it for us. I feel like in media aspec identities are seen as a burden or an obstacle, which is why there aren't that many canon aspec characters and when there are they're usually secondary characters (because the main character always needs a love interest to consider themself complete apparently).

I am working towards fully accepting my ace identity, but it's hard when everyone – even those who claim to be supportive – constantly puts you down and makes you feel like you are doing a disservice to the world by being like this. and it's even harder when no one takes you seriously.

[note: this comes from the point of view of an alloromantic asexual person, so I didn't go in depth on things that aromantic – especially alloaro – people experience. if you're aro, feel free to add on with your personal experience. non-ace/aro people can interact but please behave]

[perpetuallyfive]

genuine question why do u think asexuality is part of lgbtq

The obnoxious easy answer is probably “because they are” or “because they’ve been here the entire time.” 

Other obnoxious answer: “I don’t think it; I know it.”

All of those things are true, but I’m guessing you’re looking for something more than that.

Hey, this is going to get long.

This is a really, really hard question to answer eloquently because there are a lot of facets you could be coming from with your own questions and uncertainty. I’m going to go ahead and assume you are seriously asking with the best of intentions, since you’re presenting yourself that way, and do my best to answer thoroughly, however inelegant that might end up being.

In a lot of ways I’m not the right person to speak on this topic because I feel like it’s a bit like me talking over people I actually know. Like, frankly, I feel like a lot of people only don’t think ace people are part of the community because they… don’t know any? I’ve known ace people in the community for as long as I’ve been a part of it myself, and that’s a pretty long time. (I’m not actually old old, but I’m tumblr old, you know?)

First of all, we all know that LGBTQ identifying people of all kinds are relatively rare compared to the cis het majority. Ace people are even more rare. In my personal direct experience, ace people who are cis and also heteroromantic are even more rare. Most of the ace people I’ve met who engage directly and frequently with the LGBTQ community are ace aro or ace homoromantic, yet the fixation on policing identity seems to be centered around a minority within an extremely vulnerable minority as somehow being a major “problem.”

I think to an extent this question kind of comes down to how people define their space within the LGBTQ community. I don’t think being a lesbian is primarily about sex and sexual expression, personally. I think that viewpoint is actually kind of homophobic. Like obviously for people who aren’t ace, sexual desire is totally healthy and a part of who they are, but the idea that queer identities are innately sexualized is something the hets put on us. I don’t think we need to make it our primary definition of what makes us a community.

Because what does that say about trans people or non-binary people? It’s pretty obvious that the community is not, centrally, defined by sexual desire, at least as long as we believe trans, non-binary, and gender queer people all have a space alongside us. (These questions of who does and does not belong almost inevitably lead to complicating rules that help to divide and I tend to question the intentions of the people who invest a lot of personal stakes in strictly enforcing who does and does not deserve a space, particularly since a lot of them are eager to accept actually cis het “allies” while seeking to exclude ace people.) 

The community, for a long long time, has been defined, primarily, by separation from the mainstream identification of gender and sexual expression. That’s why it’s not actually about who you’re sleeping with or have ever slept with, and asexuality is pretty fucking far away from mainstream understandings of both gender and sexual expression. It’s so far away that even a lot of queer people have trouble really wrapping our heads around it, because it’s so removed from any cultural context we know. 

I constantly see people saying really flip things like, “oh wow, demi is literally just not having sex until the second date, lots of people do that, you don’t need a special name for it,” which is absolutely not at all what being demi is. But the idea of an actual literal lack of sexual desire, not just abstaining from it or choosing not to act on it, but literally not having it is so removed from how we understand the world. 

An ace friend of mine articulated it really well to me, when I told her I was writing this post actually. This impulse to divide or separate really ignores the reality of how people tend to figure out their gender and sexual identity. Sometimes, sure, it’s clean and easy, and you just know. But that’s not everyone; I don’t think it’s even close to how it works for most people. If you’re someone who thought you were bisexual because you felt equally attracted to both genders and then realize that equal attraction is, in fact, a lack of attraction and you now realize that you’re actually aro ace, do you… have to leave the community you’ve been a part of, that helped you figure out who you are? Are you no longer welcome? And why is that?

I just don’t, personally, understand the impulse to eject or entirely reject. I don’t know who it helps, except for the straight majority. I don’t define my identity as a lesbian, as a queer woman, as being about my oppression. I don’t think that people who grew up in more liberal areas, with an accepting family, are any more or less welcome in the community than people whose experience was more harrowing. I think if you have been force fed an idea about sex and gender from the mainstream that does not align with your own, if you have had to spend time figuring out who you are, and your answer led you to the LGBTQ community, then I’m not sure who I am to say you don’t belong. I don’t have to like everybody’s label, you know, or even everyone who is a part of it.

I’m a lesbian who can’t stand plenty of other lesbians. Why the fuck should I care? I don’t need to invite everyone to a cookout; I’m just also not going to work as hard as I can to help divide and conquer on behalf of the straight majority. I understand that, for a fair number of people, they question or feel confrontational about ace inclusion because of a very personal context and experience. 

I get it. I used to be a biphobic dickhead because of my own personal context and experience. I was closeted and self-loathing and knew a lot of bisexual girls with boyfriends in high school who were out and I resented them, a lot, because their experience with oppression didn’t mirror my own. Instead of getting mad at the systems of oppression, I resented someone else who I thought was getting it easier than I was. We’re conditioned to never actually fully blame the mainstream that we want to eventually be a part of.

But fuck that, honestly. I’m done defining myself and my community primarily through our relationship to pain. I was wrong when I fell for exclusionist impulses, and the new wave of exclusionists are wrong now.

Ace people are a part of the LGBTQ community because almost every argument about why they aren’t sounds like hateful shit straight people would say. 

I’m not interested in acting like I’m a straight loser during pride.

[orca-iguana]

Yada yada this is going to be a very ranty/ ventish mess of a post so IDK how this will turn out but whatever

I've always been stuck between world's. I move from place to place and don't have a place I call "home" but that's just one example. In my personality, I'm a nerd and a geek, but I get to easily distracted to actually dive deep into lore in anything I enjoy no matter how much I like it or want to, so I end up kinda on the surface of many of these fandoms, never diving deep. I am nonbinary, being of course between the ideas of "man" and "woman". My life so far has been living surrounded by my white privilege yet deep outside of where many white people are. My middle school was 60% Latino, and many of my friends were undocumented. I lived that life recognizing how much safer I was as a person, which had made it hard to connect to white people elsewhere, but I quite literally can't understand fully the hardships of non-white people, so I can't get connection there. My parents aren't divorced, they were never together, and I've never had a particularly strong connection to either. At my school there is of course the many cishet people, and then my group of Non-binary Bisexual and pansexual people. I don't know anyone gay or ace there. My QPP'S are aro, and they are the best people I've ever had in my life, those two are tied for the 2nd and third closet relationships I've ever had, and that relationship developed in 9 months. I'm strongly liberal, but not a Democrat as I feel democratic canidates often speak the part but rarely act, Which puts me squarely not a Democrat, but not independent either. All this to say I have had 3 deep in person connections, and you may have noticed my QPP's are tied for 2nd strongest connection, because of a friend, who I'll call Hansen for his privacy. This dude I met in 1st grade and he was my everything, and I was his. It probably wasn't healthy for anyone, especially not kids as young as us, but God, he was hot, strong, and his book smarts were only rivaled by me in that oil town we lived. I would do everything to spend time with him, he was my anchor, and then, in 5th grade, I moved. I moved to Utah where I still live. I lost my anchor to the world. I've always had bad bouts of amnesia and dissociation, but after that, it just became daily life to wake up at home not remembering what happened, or in the middle of a lecture. Grades dropped, and God doing anything became a fucking mountain of effort. I realized I might be gay is 7th grade, which, apon retrospect, hell yeah I'm gay af, and I accepted my Non-binary identity, which I think I've always known, just not had the words for. I've Never had any group to connect too, except for me and Hansen, and my QPP's. Even writing these posts, even scrolling through Tumblr, is a mountain of effort still, but I love it so much I pull through. I still don't have a strong individual anchor, but I don't think I ever will. So this is a Thanks, to Hansen for making me understand love and guiding me through life, to my QPP's for being awesome, and to wonderful people like @3amsnek ,@justspillingcoldtea , @the-duke-of-deodorant , and many more for being a part of that anchor, for helping me to just exist.

[cuddlycharizard]

I mean him literally being the only character bullied for being gay and getting called gay by his dad and “different” by his mom are all things gay coded characters have done to them by writers and it was basically written into the script he likes mike in 2x09 and he was originally pitched as struggling with his sexuality. I don’t care if you headcanon him as ace but the gay coding is all there and it’s obvious

Ok like I said, it’s a headcanon.

Also those bullies used it as a general slur towards him, Steve did the same in season 1 to Jonathan and he has shown no indication of liking men so far.

And don’t you think ace people are considered different and struggle with sexuality? It took me a long time to come to terms with who I am because for a long time I was told people like me didn’t exist and it was just a phase that I would grow out of. I mean I’m still closeted to my mum because I’m not quite sure how to fully explain it to her, because as far as she’s concerned I dont think she realise ace and aros exist.

And just to clarify, I have absolutely no problem with gay Will Byers, honestly I love it but I just personally see him as aro ace, if not that, aro gay.

[violetemerald]

A Yearning For "Queerplatonic" To Be Recognized As Not Romantic (and other scattered thoughts)

This is my entry for the April 2019 Carnival of Aros, which is on the theme of “Coming Out and/ or Being Out as Aromantic Spectrum”. The Call for Submissions is here. For more info on what the Carnival of Aros is or how to volunteer to choose the theme for a future month, check out this link: https://carnivalofaros.wordpress.com

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There is a separate post I could be writing on the origins of the coming out phrase not having to do with closets but rather debutante ball language (and drag balls), and how complex it is to discuss aromanticism in the context of this phrase. I am not writing that post today.

Allow me to clarify really quickly that in my own life, how “out as aro” I am or am not is very complicated and I’m not particularly in any closet, but. I’m also not sure where I am in regards to outness.

Since I haven’t really blogged directly about my place on the aromantic-spectrum in years, I feel the need to establish context before really diving too much into the theme for the Carnival this month, so please be patient as I ramble and try to explain where I come from in this conversation. Also some of these context-establishing sections will likely be sprinkled throughout the post.

In February, during Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, I wrote a draft that got past 1,000 words on “Why the Gray-Aro label?” but I never finished it, never published it, and didn’t really like how I had written so many words of context and not yet even answered that question. I felt like I needed to try again. (Maybe skip dwelling on backstory. Jump into the present.)

As an extremely “out” asexual person who isn’t gray at all in my aceness, yet who is hovering somewhere in the gray areas of the aro spectrum, I feel like I’m constantly being asked to place myself (my ace self) into one of only two ill-fitting boxes. #1 Being Alloromantic aka a “Romantic” Asexual, or #2 being Aromantic alongside my asexuality. Most people see things as black or white; one or the other. And maybe I still do too. Even internally, to myself, I jump back and forth—and back again—trying to settle on what I am. Am I fully aro? Can I fit in that box? I often feel like maybe it’d be easier for me.

I never really think I’m fully alloromantic anymore. It’s been 5 years since I’ve wondered if I’m “panromantic”, full stop, no extra modifiers. I feel comfortable saying I’m definitely not. I’m not an alloromantic panromantic.

But I can’t decide if I’m a plain-and-simple aromantic with absolutely no romantic attraction, or if I’m in some other part of the aro spectrum. My identity is blurry rather than solid and easy to categorize. (Thanks! I hate it. 😂)

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[alwaysbeconnected]

Hello Witchy Friends!

Hi! I’m Arianna ✨ I’m an eclectic Pagan witch and I have a business that I love as a hypnotherapist, energy healer, spiritual counselor and I teach meditation as well as manifestation and other self development and self care workshops.

I’ve decided to become more active on witchblr as my healing work in a super Christian town has caused me to lessen my outward witch vibes and I miss this side of my practice so much!

In order to stop scaring away all my local Christian clientele I have become very vague with my semantics which has helped me be able to assist a wider group of people in my area, but I miss telling everyone I’m a witch. It’s like I’m back in the broom closet 75% of the time.

I’m here to refocus my energies on my own path and we’ll see how it affects my business in the future, but for now I just want to witch out with all of you 💜

My main blog is HighLadyofHealing, so that’s what I follow as. This is my space to post about my return to witchcraft, my highly eclectic studies, ritual, witchy humor, spells, crystals, correspondences, tarot, runes, energy work, deities, tips, etc.

I’m also cis and bisexual and am all about bi/pan/aro/ace/etc solidarity and I fully support my beautiful trans/non-binary/gender-fluid/etc friends!

I also do my very best to do proper research, not appropriate and make sure I respect closed religions and cultures so if you catch me doing some dumb white people shit, please call me on it so I can stop being a poop!

I hope you’re having a magical day, and I’ll see you later, witches ✨💜