#just not gay or aro

[monsieurcourfeyrac]

i personally headcanon him as transgender, demisexual and panromantic

Whether you interpret Enjolras as a raging homosexual or a proud aroace lad, I find it a little funny that everyone collectively agrees that man does NOT like women. Sure, it’s explicitly in the text, but usually you’d get at least a few people desperately trying to cope otherwise.

[noagskryf]

It's not homophobic for someone to not want to be called gay by the way. Many transhet people or aspec or arospec people or multisexual (bi, poly, pan, etc) people don't like being called gay and that's ok.

For example. I'm not a gay non binary person. I'm a straight non binary person. Maybe it doesn't make sense to you, and maybe you don't care, but i care, so stop calling me gay for fucks sake

I'm also asexual fwiw, and that doesn't make me gay either. I'm queer or part of the LGBTQ community, but please do not call me gay!

[maerhiya]

"why were you staring at them? you like them, don't you?" uhm no. i just thought they were aesthetically pleasing. don't you also stop and stare at someone in absolute awe of how beautiful they are, feeling blessed to be in the presence of such a stunning being?

[rwuffles]

chatters let's scare off the exclusionists together ♡

if you use good faith labels, whether you're usually open about them or not, share what they are! i'll start:

i'm a bi gay sapphillean!

[akorean]

Please stay safe

Please stay safe

It gets better please

[redysetdare]

A character looks straight into the camera and says "I'm not interested in romance" and people will still say "No, it's not confirmed they're aromantic!!!" "They could change their mind!!!" "it's a challenge for them to overcome!!!" "They'll have character development that makes them fall in love"

It's like they are given the most blatant answer to a character romantic orientation and they actively ignore it. all the while all it takes is subtext for people to speak as if it is fact for a character to be any other sexuality.

[wispedvellichor]

Other queercoded media shippers: They're gay!!

Author: No. (They're cishet and platonic and bros and I queerbaited for profit. They're gonna get wives now)

Ineffable fandom: They're gay!!

Our Lord and Savior Neil Gaiman: No. (They're so gay that the gay cancels itself out. They're lgbtqia in more ways than you puny mortals can ever imagine. Get trans'd)

[wrylu]

have some old gays for pride month !! 🤲

[parksrway]

multiple times now I've seen people genuinely claim that the solution to aphobia is for asexual and aromantic people to stop talking about their asexuality and aromanticism. if you think like this you need to be put in a meat grinder like actually

[doodlingcrayon]

Happy Pride from your local aroace bun-bun! 🖤🩶🤍💜💚

[waitineedaname]

i know it's just the trope of like. one true love/soulmates/"never loved someone before this person" but I find it very funny that in writing that trope, mxtx accidentally made all her protagonists read as very arospec

shen qingqiu? whole essays have been written about how he is absolutely on the ace spectrum, and i'd argue he's on the aro spectrum too for similar reasons. he's like "damn it would be difficult to get a girlfriend as the scum villain" and then proceeds to not really give a shit about that problem whatsoever. he's completely clueless about the fact that people are falling love with him left and right, does not even consider romance an option until luo binghe straight up kisses him on the mouth. i think in general attraction for him is kinda muddy and it would be hard to neatly label the affection he feels for binghe as one thing or the other. i do firmly believe that if you plucked romance out of the equation, he and lbh would still be attached at the hip because their dynamic is a mess that isn't exclusively romantic

wei wuxian? the most demiromantic motherfucker i've ever seen. he knew lan wangji for HOW LONG before he realized he was in love with him??? he was very clearly obsessed with lwj from the start, but it likely started as "this guy is fun to provoke and I want his attention" rather than romantic attraction (as opposed to lan wangji who was attracted to him from the start and Very Mad About It) and I think it took wwx so long to figure out his feelings because it genuinely just took a long time for those feelings to develop from something platonic (and a little physical) to something romantic, and I think that development came about because he realized just how much he could trust and rely on lwj

as for xie lian, im only on book five, but so far my assessment of him seems to be that for 800 years he was like "this chastity shit is easy" and now he's suddenly experiencing attraction for the first time and he's like "whoa. okay. well I'll deal with that later once i'm done dealing with the horrors"

[old-skyguy]

I think Stanford's aroace awakening was actually with McGucket and they had a civil breakup on good terms and when Bill came along he just had a toxic unrequited gay crush.

[champmorado]

i continue to be normal about chick and strip

[corvid-and-flowers]

[redysetdare]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

[foenixed]

The "robot/alien learns how to love" trope is just aphobia btw.