#im such an arsehole

[thekingofspin]

I watched one xmen movie and now every song I listen to is about logan howlett

[spiraltastic]

Screw it let's have a go at a poll

[doctorhomo]

cant get over the fact that i told my boss i was really struggling at work because im autistic and get really overwhelmed easily and he interrupted me to go “im dyslexic” like.. thank you for sharing but does the feel of your socks being pulled up too high make you wanna shoot your head off

[answersfromzestual]

My friend is trans (ftm) and I am trans (ftm), and he won't accept me? I told him about a month before I really decided to start transitioning that I feel like I can't be a girl, and that I'm probably transmasc, and he was pretty excited to have a trans friend like himself, but after I did a more official coming out to our friend group, he was the only one who did not support me, and was pretty angry at me. I asked him did something happened and why did he change his mind, and he told me that he can't see me as a guy, and that I don't deserve it and not worthy of calling myself a man. I understand that for other people it can be hard to start seing you differently, especially then they knew me as a girl for a lot of time, but I don't understand him and I'm hurt. He said that "he is grieving the "me" he knew" but that is such a weird statement. He also said that the reason I can't be a guy is because I am "too hysterical like a woman". I don't understand him, and I feel betrayed :( Why would he say something like that? Does he sees me as a rival now, or something like this??

Wow...

There is a lot to unpack here. First off, you are valid, you really have these feelings.

Secondly I'm terribly sorry about your friend going from supportive to spiteful, by the sounds of it.

If you don't mind can I ask if you have a more "masculine" quality than him? Are you taller, is your face more passable than his? Did your other friends respond to you coming out better?

This sounds like it's almost a jealousy issue and a lot of resentment.

There may be a little bit of "well I came out then a month later _____ comes out?!" Can be contributing to his feelings.

Does your friend tend to need attention more than you? Just in general. Are they louder? Do they always have to make things about themselves? If so, you could be "stealing his spotlight".

It seems this all stems from when you came out to your friends...

I have a thought about the mourning part of your ask. Don't put money on it, but I think they may have a crush on the "female" you used to be. I have a feeling they may have finally seen themselves as straight maybe and maybe their goal was to maybe ask you out, but now you are transitioning. The mourning and the almost telling you not to transition just kind of makes me think that. I apologize if this is out of line, it's just a hunch I have from the information you have given me. If this is not the case he is a jealous, hypocrite in my honest opinion.

You deserve respect, consideration, and love.

There are many layers to your friend's response, and it's more than likely not one particular thing, but a mix of many emotions and feelings.

This person does not determine your worth. I want you to know that this person doesn't seem like someone you should remain friends with. You can be civil with your friend group, but you don't need to be friends.

I am incredibly sorry this happened to you. This is actually an example of transphobia inside the trans community. It's really not acceptable.

If this person tries to say anything negative about your transition, ask them what their issue(s) are with it. Maybe you can talk about it out together and salvage the friendship.

If they won't answer you or refuse to explain their feelings, you can tell them that they do not run your life, they do not know what's in your head, they do not know how you feel. Tell them saying this is way out of line and extremely inappropriate things to say to someone you consider a friend.

I'm sorry I can't say much more...

I'm sure maybe someone here can add some of their thoughts and advice as well.

I hope that you find comfort and feel the love here.

Remember you need to make you happy, you are your number one priority. Unless he is going to start to pay for your treatments his words are just arrogant and really cruel.

You are loved, and seen here.

I am sorry I took so long to answer this, it was a very deep ask, with many layers to consider.

I hope maybe this can help you out.

With much love,

Zestual ❤️💙

[freakinnefor]

just got my ex gf’s art on my dash will be killing myself

[ishouldbedoingalright]

i do dislike having friends sometimes and in turn i do dislike that people don't understand that not everyone will understand each other in every interaction. whether this reflects badly on me or on my friends I just don't know. I suppose it comes down to tone indicators. e.g. I sent a message via teams to my friends, they proceed to call me a moody arse... now to me, nothing about what I said was 'moody' in the slightest, at the most, it was deadpan. tell me why then 2 of my friends double down on the moody vibe I'm clearly putting out to the world. "what's up with you??? you've been an arse all day" all the while I'm sat here genuinely wondering what I have supposedly done wrong. all I did was send a message saying 'i don't understand what you're saying' and that indicates I am being an arsehole. okay. and yes, I am still confused.

[biwonderland98]

Oliver is such an arsehole in the AM Archives I love him so much

[carebooks]

where is my lockwood & co. crossover with bridgerton in which lockwood & co. somehow time travel to the regency period and now have to deal with the time era’s bullshit whilst also figure out how The Problem is a thing in the early 1800’s when it hadn’t even existed… this is exactly what george wants to investigate. they get dragged to a time where The Problem was active and yet it has never been documented. meanwhile, locklyle were just getting their footing and being semi-more-flirty each other and now they can’t interact in private without a goddamn chaperone. do you think that stops either one of them— fuck no. but it creates so many fun situations. and in total, the trio goes out nightly more or less every time there’s ghost activity.

[everlastingcastiel]

I genuinely think that Howard started to lose his mind after Jay left, and that's when he started to become a prick.

[tillthelandslide]

Would anyone be interested in me publishing a playlist for insufferable Arsehole?

(songs that I listen to when writing IA, songs that I think are Lou's vibe, songs I've sneakily used as Lou's, songs that fit the vibe / story?)

[thekingofspin]

I watched one xmen movie and now every song I listen to is about logan howlett

[yesterdayiwrote]

At this point "know your place" is hardly an undertone, it's an overtone of the way every Lewis fan is talking lmao. They are straight up saying the quiet part out loud in that they're mad the team is treating him and George like equals and that they think he should shut up and act like a number two driver as long as Lewis is there... that is not how ANY team ever has treated a promising young talent, weirdos.

oh I know, I was trying to be polite 😂

Some teams do treat their younger drivers terribly. Lewis was incredibly fortunate in 2007 that McLaren didn't do that to him and gave him the freedom to race his older, more experienced teammate. Alonso and his fans didn't like that, and now, 16 years later, we've almost gone full circle it seems 😬🤷🏼‍♀️

[du-hjarta-skulblaka]

Hoooo boy hitting a depression spike harder tonight than I've had since I left home

[isthatacalzone]

EVERY DAY I AM FIGHTING OFF THE PORN LINKS IN THE TAGS WITH MY BEAR HANDS

[estbela]

Bulgaria gives me 'gifted kid burnout' vibes tbh. Kinda makes sense, I suppose. I mean he used to be an empire and all, and in the early 20th century he literally was called 'Prussia of the Balkans' (i think bcs of his army).

[ttaibhse]

just dont get people acting like the iwtv show having sex scenes is like owning anne rice as if she’s not the one who wrote all the goddamn gay couples into those books in the first place. like where tf do you think it came from. morons