#i love being aro. its lonely at times. it contains multitudes

[scattered-winter]

i feel like romantic love is so overused cause people think they need it so they force themselves into it and thats why so many people are unhappy, and then because community living has been made inaccessible so many people who arent willing to go through the pain/annoyance of a bad relationship (platonic/familial/romantic, aro/ace/straight/etc) just end up "alone" in a sense because their friends and family put so much pressure on it. maybe im insane idk

yeah no you're so right. and there's also the added element of all the friends and family members inevitably getting romantic partners of their own and essentially leaving aspec ppl behind because like. I may be a good friend or whatever but the way society kinda frames romance makes any romantic partner automatically the Most Important Person in my friend/sibling's life so even if we've known each other our whole lives there's still the expectation that they'll treat their romantic relationship w someone they haven't known as long as more important than their friendship with me. and this has happened sooo many times growing up and its only happening more and more as I get older and my friends and siblings all start getting married off and idk. there's loneliness in that because I'll never have someone who I'll be the Most Important Person to. but if anyone even IMPLIES that me being aro means I'm gonna be lonely and sad because I'll never get married I'm ripping their throat out lmao