#i have three friends from college
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at what point am i supposed to give up on a friendship?
#i have three friends from college#and i always text first (which is no problem at all tbh)#but they always give short/one word answers so we never end up talking much because the convo shuts down on their end#and then we all once every two months magae to hang in person and it just becomes more and more obvious#that they're texting each other about life updates tv shows etc. and none of them ever text me like that/about that#and they were honestly my best friends for most of college#i saw them every day and we talked every day and we pulled each other through tough times#and now i just feel like i'm floating around the edge and they're never letting me in anymore#and idk if it's worth it to keep texting them or to feel bad#zip quips
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Besides the intense drinking culture of both the Gallaghers and the general south side, the addiction gene from his parents you can never escape. A major, the near sole contributing factor of lips alcoholism is from college. He is almost entirely isolated. He is a first generation college student (high school was easy, it was nothing. He’s never done this before.) He’s from a “low income family”. Everyone else grew up “comfortably” (read: rich). He doesn’t know anyone and doesn’t have a way to connect, it’s near impossible when you’re different, you have these fundamentally different backgrounds and childhood experiences. But parties? Drinking? That’s what he can do, what everyone can do. And so he does. And then he just doesn’t stop. Why would he? It’s normal, it’s comfortable, it’s connecting, everyone loves a good party, that he can do. It feels like the only thing he knows.
#I don’t know how to end this. I just.#Idek if this makes sense !!#I think abt him a lot ok !!#he did not have the luxury of Instagram to connect him. I start college this fall. I’ve met 30-40 people alone and I’ve only visited campus#three times now. once for an interview. every year someone makes an Instagram page to post bios to meet people.#you end up following everyone from that. I just.#do you get what I mean.#god I need a smoke#I have something else I’m writing too I just.#losing it !!#I might come back to this later. with more thoughts.#I don’t wanna say he’s misunderstood but well. I don’t think everyone’s been the token smart kid. doing everything your siblinfs your#parents never could do. never wanted to do.#do you know how frustrating it is to be friends with people who grew up in different tax brackets than you?#I think lip was placed in gifted and talented programs and no one ever told him.#some I knew some I didn’t find out about until I graduated during rehearsal you get a bunch of documents and your record
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the post grad why did i get an art degree what am i even doing what do i want in life where am i going crisis has finally hit i want to. lie down in the dirt. or something
#WHAT AM I DOING!!!!#i get up i go to my stupid retail job i stick labels on bags they pay me fucking thirteen bucks an hour i come home i lie on the couch#too tired to draw in too much pain to go anywhere no energy to reach out to college friends to do anything fun#no idea where the even start with getting an industry job no clue what i even WANT at this point#trying to remember what i loved so much about comics i want it BACK i HATE this#WHAT IS THE POINT!!!! WHAT DO I WANT WHERE AM I GOING!!! WHAT COMES NEXT!!!!!!#there's no clear career trajectory i can't do freelance i need structure i can't work too much i need free time#my brain doesn't work every job requires me to move across the country the irs just took fucking three hundred stupid dollars from me#my friends live in different states i can't get a job without experience i can't get experience without a job#i can't work on my portfolio with no energy and no time and i dont have any money and everything is so expensive all the time#i can't get anywhere bc i dont drive and im too stressed to think about taking driving lessons again#and WHAT DO I WANT!#THE MOST INTERESTING THING I DO EVERY WEEK IS GO TO PHYSICAL THERAPY!#I AM EXCITED EVERY WEEK FOR PHYSICAL THERAPY!!!! WHY!!!!!!!!#anyway WHATEVER i need to go to bed#delete later#i got into spx. today. so. had to have a crisis about how i felt when i attended spx (energized. excited. a part of something. ambitious)#versus how i feel now (tired. unmotivated. kind of apathetic about art. disconnected)#i dont miss the stress of school but i miss being around other artists. ppl who speak your language and who want the same things you want#ppl who are excited abut art and that makes YOU excited about art. ppl who get you#i miss that i want that back#whatever. its 1am i gotta go shower i have an 8.5 hour shift tomorrow. wahoo. $13.50/hr lets go
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so, we’ve reached the end of season 1 more quickly than i expected. i’m currently going through a pretty difficult period in my life and i think that’s why i’m so into this silly little children’s show at the moment - it’s a piece of my childhood i can hold onto while everything is changing <3 anyway, some of my end-of-season thoughts:
- tomás was just as annoying as i remembered (my friend was team tomás at first but she quickly changed her mind, thankfully)
- germán was worse than i remembered. i did remember he was an awful father, but i forgot how creepy he was towards angie AND while having a whole ass finacée. yikes
- fran is so sweet and such a good friend, watching her fall in love with tomás was painful
- i physically cannot dislike ludmila she’s my babyyy
- naty’s mean girl era <3 and i absolutely love her character arc and how much she changes throughout the seasons
- jade is not exactly my favorite character, but come on she deserves better
- i don’t really care about most of the ships but but i did like s1 leonetta more than in other seasons
- during my first rewatch i didn’t really notice any non-canon ships except for luty but omg braco and napo are literally boyfriends
- luty… i don’t even know what to say. you know how i feel about them. they’re just so. yeah
- s1 has a completely different vibe (ahh nostalgia), plus there’s characters that don’t appear later on, resto… yeah i missed that
#i’m surprised by how quickly we’re watching this bc my last rewatch with my sister took us almost three years#but yeah ig it’s because everything is kinda overwhelming rn#and here in denmark i’m away from my family and most of my friends and even my main hobby since i don’t have a piano here#or my violin#at least i have a guitar. what would i do without an emotional support instrument#mara’s violetta rewatch#s1 aka the sillies#violetta#also as college students ofc we’re celebrating the season finale by drinking
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新年快乐!🐉
Happy Chinese New Year!🐉
Wishing you a prosperous year of the Dragon! 🐉
#happy chinese new year#the picture of me on the left is from my second lunar new year festival last sunday#the picture of me in the green is from today#literally had no idea there was a festival this evening when my friend and i went out to eat sushi for my early birthday dinner#so i have gone to three different chinese new year festivals in the past two weeks#which is honestly great#because i haven't celebrated chinese new year in almost 6 years since i moved to the mainland#because in college there really wasn't a place to celebrate chinese new year#and then in grad school there wasn't really an asian district around to celebrate at#so i am soaking in all the new year prosperity i can fucking get to make up for it#(i used to celebrate it all the time when i lived in hawaii)#(i am 1/4th chinese just fyi though i REALLY don't look it)
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Hello! I just saw you post some Maitre Gims, and I know you like Stromae, so I was wondering what are french/french speaking singers that you like the most? You may have answered smtg like that already but i couldn't find it and I am, as always, very curious ^^ -☆
mc solaar!!!!!! and stromae for sure. and i had a whole renan luce phase in college. otherwise i mostly just listen to individual songs and don't tend to know a ton by the same artist, but i've liked some individual songs by christine and the queens, lous and the yakuza, tryo, kana, bénabar, vianney. some other artists but that's a sample. currently only know two french-language songs by mika but i like them. always looking for recs if you have any!
#i do not have an established discovery pipeline for french music it's just been like#1) friend gives me a mix cd in high school that includes mc solaar and some other artists (thank u jesse <3)#2) professor gives me a mix cd in college that includes renan luce and some other artists#3) i listen to these on repeat for approx. 20 years and get a couple of mc solaar's and renan luce's albums#4) a kind follower on here sent me a spotify playlist last year#that's it that's the pipeline lol#oh i forgot 3.5) discover papaoutai by stromae in idk 2015 or something. but i have no recollection of how i found that song#my experience is neither broad nor deep in this arena#french#music#asks#not anon#i've finally moved on from listening to the same three stromae songs because i've mostly learned the words#so now i'm trying to learn the words to some other songs including the maître gims song i rbed earlier#my problem is that i don't really know what a song is about until i look up the lyrics#sometimes i can get the gist but usually not. so i get a song stuck in my head and then look up the words so i can sing along#and that's when i learn what it's about. and too bad if the subject is not one i want to have stuck in my head lol#got an mc solaar / vianney collab stuck in my head yesterday. super catchy. i look up the words. it's about suicide????#which i am maybe not in the right headspace to be singing about right now. but here we are. whoops!
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Sometimes I think I’m doing okay with my dog’s death and the next I’m having a breakdown in the shower because I realized that the next time I go to my parents’ house I won’t hear barking before I go in the door.
My dog was the best antidote to my lack of self-worth, depression, etc - because regardless of how unmanageable I was for everyone in my life, regardless how much I pissed anyone off, talked too much or too loudly or had opinions other people disagreed with…my dog, obviously, did not. I couldn’t do anything to piss her off except feeding her two minutes late, which of course got forgotten the second I fed her. She was one of the reasons I didn’t take my own life four years ago, because your pet won’t understand why you’re not coming back. God, it seems so stupid - obviously she was in horrible pain and I wanted her to have peace, I knew she was getting older, and it’s ridiculous how much this is affecting me.
I think I’m just having a hard time dealing with death and the passing of time in general right now. Because it’s not just about my dog, she’s just the most important person or animal in my life I’ve lost. My grandmas are going to die. My parents are going to die. All my role models, aunts, uncles, favorite professors from college. And then there’s no guarantee that I’ll die before my friends or sister either. It’s crazy cause obviously you know this growing up - I’ve been to funerals. But it’s hitting me so much harder. I honestly hope I die young, in my 30s or something, because I don’t think I can stand it if a bunch of my peers go first. I don’t take care of myself for myself, I do it for other people, or for the version of me I want other people to see.
I hated being 16 but right now I just want to go back to being 16. When I had just met my best friends, when my sister hadn’t had her eating disorder, when I was living with my parents and my dog was there all the time and she was never going to die and when I had hope for life in general. Yes I have a job now, yes I have an apartment and a degree and have started to undo traumas from my childhood but if all these things keep changing it’s not even worth it. I think I was meant to die at 20 - and I may as well have because I don’t know who I am anymore.
#Just for the record I AM NOT SUICIDAL#even if I wanted to I cannot give my family more grief right now#I just want the last three years to not have happened#Which is insane because I liked a lot of parts of the last three years#I’ve improved so much#I should have just moved in with my parents after college#Yes it would have made me Worse#But I’m sure I still would’ve gotten into journalism#I’ve been a bother to my friends I just know it#And I would have gotten two years with my dog#Instead of seeing her only for holidays#I just wanted to say goodbye#I crave a hug from a dog or cat#But after this I may never get a pet again#What’s even the point?#Of course one could argue what’s the point of caring about or opening yourself up to anyone#Which I also can’t really dispute right now#I just hate losing people#And animals#Anyone I care about#Sorry about all this#Rant#personal#depression
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mom: why didn't you do a party for your birthday this year
me, internally: so is this finally the moment where my mom realizes i count my friends on one hand?
#here's the thing#my friends from college? don't talk to me anymore#friends from drama club? i only speak to two of them#my other friends either live in another country or they live in other states#so uhm yeah no party cause the three people i invited to come eat cake are the only 3 friends i have that live here lol#and my mom fully FULLY believed those two other groups of people are my friends when none of them even remembered today was my birthday
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I think what people don’t understand about having a narc parent is how isolated you are and how they make you feel on the daily. I had major oral surgery today and I woke up in a dark house tonight.
She literally raised me with the belief that she’s terrified of a completely dark house. And because of that I would make sure a light was turned on for her. Whether she was inside the house yet or not. This woman left one light on and it’s where she was today before she left.
The entitlement and inconsideration is part of daily living with her. But I’m supposed to stay with her because she’s scared to be alone. I’m supposed to not want anything for myself. I’m supposed to not DO for myself because she doesn’t. Imagine your entire life they make you a caretaker and they complain every minute of every day about you to someone so you can’t even trust other adults in your life. And you can’t count on your parent either because they let you down often but expect the world from you.
#like and sometimes other adults will ???? at the them for the way your parent treats you but then they bombard them with how ‘bad you are’#this woman never celebrated Mother’s Day but literally told her friends she was hurt me and my sister gave her nothing like she didn’t raise#Us for 20 years telling us that and birthdays were haram#she coincidentally went out to buy jewelry on her birthday and would always do something for her birthday#and completely ignore all three of her kids. she even ignores one of her kids deaths. she ignores the day every year#it’s not even just how inconsiderate she is it’s the fact she ALSO had a single parent in the 60s who#literally provided for her in ways only white woman at the time got pampered#it’s the fact she reminisces about celebrating Christmas with her family and still is focused on Christianity#it’s her deep fear of everything that gave me CLINICAL anxiety#and I’m overreacting#when you have CPTSD from your parent they also think all you are and all your worth belongs to them#she also would cry to me when I was at college because she was alone#but when I needed her she hung up on me because ‘it was too much’ but didn’t forget to tell her friends abt it :3
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bringing a Master Chief (Spartan 117) figure into my exams -> 117 total marks -> huh
#chatter#screw guessing six coin flips right in a row i am far luckier#this makes up for vomiting during the exam and failing last year#and it means that i now have an easy escape route from college (no second year of animal care to complete)#heres hoping that i get that job i applied for last night.. if my brother can get an interview so can i#he actually blew that interview cause they asked 'what three words would your friends use to describe you' and he said LAZY#i didnt fucking believe him when he told me#anyway. heres hoping that i havent exhausted all of my lucky charms power. i just need that interview
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wholeheartedly recommending my year of rest and relaxation by ottessa moshfegh to my 43 year old father over zoom on a sunday night
#i finished it within three days..i waa hesistant to pick it up due to reviews of it online being anywhere between#this novel is horrifically contrived or just outright watering down the plot to just be the trials and tribulations of an ex it girl#sooo cockette#but no it was really excellent and disgustingly in depth at times i did a lot of self reflection while reading..the narrator is a deeply#complex and almost outright dislikable character who lives in the lap of luxury she is set for life she has people who do care for her and#her best friend is truly a saint#yet due to unresolved childhood trauma from a neglectful household and severe depression being drowned out by sedatives given by a quack#psych she just..rots. for a year. because she has the privilege and safety nets available to do so#a conventionally attractive young college grad who has it all yet is unable to shake her borderline suicidality and would rather waste away#idk i will never have the chance to live that way myself but i found parts of myself within her. her apathy. her self-loathing and confused#warmth and longing towards her parents#and having a psychiatrist that will perscribe you anything and Everything with little care
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literally what the hell am i supposed to do when jane moves to seattle
#i literally only met them three years ago but there are so many moments of like oh you Get me. we are different and the same#and we can talk about it in ways that are productive and interesting and that i feel like i learn things from#it's like ever since [dramatic end-of college disappointment] all of the platonic friends i connect with that well#either already live a couple hundred miles away or more or are getting ready to move that far#i neeeeed to work on making non-college dc/nova friends but i am so busy and tired constantly lol#maybe in the fall#and i gotta reconnect with friends i have who are alreayd here gotta text virginia chloe etc#but for a genuine extrovert i am so icked out by stepping out of my comfort zone for hanging out with people#being like 'hey if you wanna come by our house for drinks and gossip about your and my wife's mutual field!' would be SO easy#and yet.
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wanna play the sims soooo baaaaad but bg3 takes up so much space I can't update it </3 maybe I'll ask N to help me clean out some stuff bc I simply Do Not Know things about computers lmao
#rAMbles#I'm also mourning my laptop that stopped working three years ago again#mostly bc i had so many interesting academic pdfs saved that i didn't appreciate in college and want to read again#i gotta try to remember that one website that has SOOOO many experimental films on it that i used my university's library login for...#i wonder if I'd still have access to it#maybe I'll reach out to my old professor and ask if he has any new site recommendations#j**** r******* you will forever be one of the best professors I've ever had!!!!#omg one day we just drew on 10ft of 35mm and he played it through a projector.. man that was a cool day#lemme dig up my notes from that class and research all the artists he shared again..#I'm thinking about his notes saying the work i created in his class was on par with grad level work and... auuuughhh i miss making video art#i was so spoiled using 4k cameras and professional mics and access to several video editing programs#time to ask N to find me rips of them i think :) i loved editing i was just too high and depressed in college to make more work#ugh maybe I'll ask my friend if i can use her mac so i can transfer some work i have on my mac only harddrive onto a flashdrive.. hmm...#okay rambling done i just really miss being a video artist#i lied last thought.. i really want to make a documentary again#OKAY BYE
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who are your favorites from genshin and twst to write about? :o I feel like I know at least a few of the answers to both (cough cough. scara, octotrio) but maybe there's some more you really enjoy writing even if you don't write them often? and that being said.. are there any characters you'd like/want to write more for? :D
I do have many other favorite characters that I would love to write more for!! The scummy fish and Scaramouchey have a tendency to live rent-free within my head too much. orz
For Genshin, I like Aether, Albedo, Kaeya, La Signora (I miss her every day of my life. T_T signora, please come back...), Xiao, Childe, Dottore, and Kazuha! Lately Cyno and Yelan have been rising to the favorite spots as well, and I have been looking closely at Pantalone...
For twst, I like Riddle, Trey, Cater, Ruggie, Vil, Rook, Idia, Kalim, Lilia!! I also love Rollo and Neige a lot. :D
#chit chat#i really like signora childe scara trio#college au where the three of them are your friends and they're all obsessed with you#oh!!! or maybe one of them introduced you to the group#and maybe you're stuck under their thumbs because they're rich and help pay for things like college expenses#so you always feel so suffocated when their wealth is apparent#but aside from that you're happy to have a fun group of friends#signora always gives the best advice even if it's cold and hard to swallow at times#childe is always willing to accompany you to parties or other outings because he loves spending time with you#scara loves to study with you in the comfortable quiet of the library#though he usually teases you or distracts you from the main objective of studying and both of you lightheartedly bicker over random things#i don't think i have ever mentioned it but i like signora a lot orz she deserved so much better T^T
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just woke up from the best film I've ever watched in my life only to realise it was a dream
#IT DOESN'T EXIST. HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO FUNCTION#is there an animated film about like these 6 rats or something escaping from this guy but there's all these themes that they go through#and the final theme is death bc one of them gets impaled by a rose thorn and it's like FUCK bc they were almost gonna get away#so there's this old guy who's a bit of a prick but he becomes nicer at the end but he's the one that dies#and these two girls one of them is like idk she's good at a lot of things and the other one is kind of a pushover#then three guys one of them is really pathetic one is kind of silly and one of them i guess is the Normal Main Character type#also there's humans going about their lives in the present but for some reason the rats' lives are set in like? early 20th century italy#and there's all these shots of like the italian scenery for some reason. idk why it's set there but it's a vibe#idk who the guy they're getting away from is or what he wanted with them but yeah#and bc they're rats or whatever type of rodent they were they would like hide in bushes and it would be really intense bc like#what if the guy can see them#and basically not to give any spoilers but then the old guy died and they wrote some quote on a bit of paper and drew a pic of him and stuc#it on the wall as tribute. and idk who's gonna see it bc I think they were amongst some plants at the bottom of like#one of those bench booths you get in restaurants or cafes. I have no idea#but then it ended with them walking up this hill into the sunset or something idek#with this like late 60s/early 70s big produced sweeping strings tambourines etc. banger playing over the credits#also my car was in it occasionally. and this guy I went to college with and never spoke to#and my best friend briefly#and earlier on I had another dream but idk if it was connected. but it was stan kyle kenny and cartman#but they got a job where my dad works in this park as like. toilet assistants. as in when someone went#to the toilet they'd open the door. that was the whole job#but one of the job requirements was they had to be beatles coded apparently#like that's what it said on the application. so they basically just reenacted the history of the beatles#while opening toilet doors#it was like 4 dreams in one but they were all somewhat connected. also the lining in my coat was so reflective it made a sound#and I was telling someone about my favourite chord progression idk what relevance that had but standard dream i guess#anyway. rodent storyline was going on as it did but at the end it became a film and suddenly I was there. watching it with my friend#and i was like ''god originally I would've given this a 4 maybe 3.5 on letterboxd but now it's getting a 5 + a ❤''#ramble#oneiro
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Also I can’t figure out if my life genuinely does suck or I’m just having an existential crisis because my period starts in approximately 48 hours
#it does make me worse ngl. i wish i could just yeet my uterus#i was just starting to think about how all my days are the same and it’s boring and i’m boring#and i never see anybody or meet new people or make new friends#working from home is all well and good until it makes you want to [redacted]#and you all can say ‘just leave your house!’ as much as you want but living in a small town and having no car is not really conducive#to getting myself out there#i mean my town literally has about a dozen businesses and half of them are sad pubs. the others are like hair salon; co-op; church; butcher#2 takeaways. and yeah there’s parks but all of them are kind of dire#maybe i could start getting the bus places. going somewhere else. idk#i have been thinking about taking a trip but wherever i go i still take myself and it’s like i’m in this state of permanent malaise#too nervous to talk to anyone and too impatient to linger anywhere or enjoy anything#everything i do i rush through so i can do something else#and i think amongst it all i’m just reckoning with the fact that i’m never going to be remarkable. i mean neither is anyone else really#but i always thought i’d write a novel or become a college professor or something but i’m not smart enough and i don’t have enough words#or ideas in me. not really. i’m not a creative i’m just an imitator. always have been#and i could live with being unremarkable because we all are in the cosmic universe but i still don’t think i can live with rotting#in my hometown. but then it’s like how do i get out?#i signed up for an online course just to vary things a bit. just to get some enrichment in my enclosure#it’s this slow realisation that i thought i Wanted to work at home. i thought i liked the peace of it. just me and the computer screen#but no i like to work outside and then come back to my home as my sanctuary. i have to leave it sometimes to really appreciate it#but no one wants to hire me for an intellectual job because i’m not actually that smart. and my body is too broken to work in hospitality#anymore. or is it. i mean for god’s sake i can run three times a week but i don’t trust myself to be able to stand for hours#i’m thinking about throwing myself on the mercy of my old boss like hey. i fucked up. do you have any shifts for me? i’ll do weekends#i just don’t want to lose my fucking mind#maybe i’ll text her tomorrow. the worst thing she can say is no#personal
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