#hh sorry for the rant anon i suck

[doritofalls]

Please explain something. I don't understand why some people hate the idea of male characters being in media. The way I've always felt, male and female role models are important so the viewer can pick what they like. Even with the toxic characters of either gender, shouldn't they be the example of what not to be? I don't mean this in any way other than curious to understand perspectives I don't see.Then again I grew up being that girl that liked the "boy" shows more than "girl" shows.

thing is, anon, you have a point - characters, as fictional representation of people shouldn’t be differentiated based on gender, neither as heroes nor villains. because people of all gender are people with their own unique set of traits and aspirations, working towards what they think is best. that being said - this is kind of an idealized general rule of thumb. in the history of media and representation (if we’re thinking solely in GENDERS and not even touching upon race, sexuality and the likes), boys and male viewers were always the intended general target audience to cater to and honestly, delivered a better quality product to. in shows aimed at boys, the role female characters could fill were either love interests, motherly figures or villains. either way, their existence and agency was wrapped around their respective relationships with male heroes - a role women has been suffering historically way way WAY before representation in media was much of an issue.when you think about it, the completely “average” character is generally defined as male, for being female is already viewed as a personality trait. if i only think about shows i grew up with and liked (and cartoons, obviously, i’m a cartoon focused blogger), the pattern still stays obvious. (just for the heck of it - the lego movie - as emmet the picture perfect average guy to lucy’s Capable Kickass Love Interest; xiaolin showdown - three boys and kimiko; ducktales - the triplets and webby; eene - the boys and four possible love interests/one little sister character; pokemon - a consistent team of two boys and a girl; yugioh - anzu/tea as the single girl to a team of often five or more boys, not counting mai’s somewhat re-occurring presence as both a villain trope and a sexualized love interest; smurfs - with smurfette being the only female smurf, both as a love interest, a villain AND a maternal figure, she’s just got a lot of shit going on; tom and jerry, looney tunes and disney shorts - having female characters almost STRICTLY as love interest, often just being a girl version of the hero; i will stop now.)even if we think about cartoons with a female protagonist - cough, fucking disney movies - the happy ending is more often than not delivered by the fulfillment of a romantic subplot with the male hero, ignoring that MAYBE these characters have a few other stuff goin on than getting hitched real quick. of course, there were more self-aware and formula breaking cartoons (ppg, atla, teen titans, sailor moon), but they were never the norm - and even though modern cartoon creators are working hard as hell on it, it’s still not the norm. that all being ranted on about, i feel like the distaste for boys in media is simply a product of years and years and YEARS of having the same tired, boring dynamic be forced down on the throath of the viewers. i’m not saying it’s not understandable, but it’s also not the best way to go about things - especially considering the very real effort modern cartoon creators ARE putting in to their male representation these days.

[garfieldsladybird]

no it's okay 😭 istg asks sit in my inbox and age at least ten years ur good.

and nah i didn't bc 💀 idk. it's weird im like touch starved but also hate being touched at the same time. my friends don't like hugs either. sometimes i just need one tho yk. the only person i ever hug is my sister who lives far away.

i mean yea i get jumpy?? i guess. but also it's like even worse w her bc 🏃🏻‍♀️ LMAOO idk. she does make me nervous in a good way but . hh. jeez.

STOP IK OMG i was panicking and i like kinda just barely felt and i was all "oh 😳" and she was like "no actually, feel" even tho i took her word for it help 🪦

no nothing rlly changed 😕 which is good but bad yk. she snapped me in the morning and she called me bestie like :,) okay. but also im glad we're still friends and she's making it easy for me to pretend it didn't happen. when i think about it my stomach feels empty lol.

should i sign off as me or 😦 idk lol. yk it's me anyways.

dude they stay in my box forever and then i remember about em and im like oh shit- yeha speaking of this im sorry for not responding to this 😢

dude I understand being touched starved so much. but ever since school and making friends I get hugs like a daily thing now. and I like it, it’s so strange though. but it’s okay not wanting to be touched, just make sure you establish boundary. not to that girl unless you need too but to anybody.

by jumpy do you mean flinchy? (I flinch a lot) it’s okay to be jumpy though. and nerves are nerves. sometimes they go away though.

i’m pretty sure you are talking about her putting your hand in her pocket or something back pocket- I don’t remember. but okayyy!!!

oh im so sorry lovie. I mean if it does help you in a way to forget about it even though it does suck, than yeah then I’m glad she’s ignoring it though it’s kind of a pretty shitty thing to do but I’m glad you guys are still friends!! I would hate for that to ruin a friendship and that’s happened to me before. but I hope you guys like maybe talk about it though. so maybe you can both understand it from both views..? when you say she snapped at you do you mean like she was mad..? well I don’t mean to intrude on it, so it’s cool if you don’t want to tell me.

I do know it’s you and I’m so sorry for not responding!! I apologize deeply :( I’ve been very busy with school and play rehearsal too.  and then friends and then homework and a bunch of shit. i’m just tired. that’s why I’m getting to this now on the weekend. well I hope you know that I love you and you are amazing! I hope you’re doing well, I said you show much love!! and just know that if nothing happens between you two, it’s okay, you will find someone else and they will love you so much!! and if you ever wanna rant to me about anything you can always talk to me!! on anon or in messages or off anon, just know I love you!! <333