#got defined by one moment and got friendzoned like immediately

[hexslvt]

now i am thinking thoughts :(

[just-a-fangirl13]

Thoughts & Theories about MacGyver 5x10 [MacRiley]

HOLY SHIT! 

This episode was absolutely INSANE. Im writing out my thoughts once and for all because I need to stop thinking about everything that happened (I highly doubt I will be able to but here's to trying)

SPOILERS FOR 5x10 OFCOURSE

Straight off the bat, I was screaming *internally* and yelling at Mac when he showed the diamond to Bozer. I suspected it yesterday when we got the snippet of Murdoc saying the words DIAMOND and RING with extra emphasis..(everyone on twitter said I was jumping to conclusions.. I thought so too honestly) But damn I did NOT expect them to actually do that!

Now here's why I am not mad about it anymore. [this is my interpretation you are free to disagree]

Firstly, when Mac told Bozer he was going to propose he didnt say I’m doing it because I love Desi or I want to spend the rest of our lives together or because she’s the one (doesn't mean he doesnt care for her ofcourse)

He said “Ever since I lost my dad & Jack, I have been thinking about the bigger picture and a commitment to make things work is exactly what Desi and I need right now. A grand romantic gesture.” He wanted to propose for stability so he could finally be on the same page with her. They never really defined their relationship before and this was a way for Mac to final bring it together. A grand romantic gesture is usually something people use to win their partners back which is what Mac was trying to do I guess. It almost sounds like he has to do it so he doesn't lose her again 

(ill get to my second reason in the end)

Then ofcourse Bozer tells Riley about it so she can be prepared. Bozer is such a good friend. He is supportive of Mac AND wants to protect Riley. I love him for it! He really is doing everything to be the best friend he can to both of them. (Leannas death was so painful and I just want to hug him but thankfully Riley had that covered.)

Next we get the BIG REVEAL. The moment all of us had been waiting for. 

The moment that SHOOK Angus MacGyver and CHANGED EVERYTHING!

Rileys Feelings!

“You want me to say it out loud? Fine. Yes I had feelings for Mac. There I said it. and yeah watching him and Desi together was breaking my heart so I moved out of his house. I should have said something to him a long time ago but I didn’t and now its over. ”

I had the opposite of a HEART ATTACK! (my heart rate was through THE ROOF!)

I have to say they really really outdid themselves on this reveal. 

SIDE NOTE: If anyone comes for Riley and tries to call her a slut or a home wrecker? You will have me to deal with. Even after Murdoc played the clip of her confession she still tried to deny it and brush it off so it wouldn't complicate things for Mac and Desi. If Riley had wanted, she could have easily told Mac this to his face while he was dating Desi and then let things happen from there but she DIDNT. She kept that secret buried so deep she herself was in denial.

(also if anyone calls Mac a player or anything like that.. I will end you. He is doing his best to deal with everything that has happened to him and people keep giving him shit for it....)

Anyways, we see Mac’s expression & he is just confused and shocked and clearly not trying to think about it because it changed EVERYTHING for him. 

[Murdoc saying I THINK IM ON TEAM RILEY was a HUGE HIGHLIGHT for me! I love him so damn much!]

Desi took it really well too actually. If they keep going down this road of growth and maturity for her I think I could actually like her again. (Russ too when he apologised to Bozer) 

She didnt throw a hissy fit or say I knew it or look at Riley like she was the villain. She focused on the mission & I respect her for that.

(Riley does say, “the next thing you are going to hear on that recording-” and then gets cut off by Desi.. If this will come into play at some point later on or if it was just her trying to explain herself, remains to be seen.)

Then after the climax, we finally hear Riley say the words to Mac in real time and we get our FIRST MacRiley hug of the season! 

At this point I thought they would agree to be friends and make the friendzone thing clear BUT NOPE. (you have no idea how happy I am about it not going down like that!)

I was also a puddle on the floor. SO

“Mac look-”

“You don’t have to say anything if you dont want to. Really.”

“I want to. Last year in Germany. I realised I was starting to have feelings for you. Real feelings. I didnt want to make anything weird between you and Desi. I didnt want to mess up our work or our friendship so I decided to bury it. Until the feelings passed.”

“Emotions aren’t a science. You can’t control them.”

Gosh they are so perfect together! The way they look at each other and the HUG! OH MY GOD THE HUG! Its just perfection.

Now we also see this from Desi’s POV. Again no anger or jealousy from her. I think it was an understanding. She realised that she and Mac were never going to work.. maybe a little pain but honestly everything that went down with her and Mac was her fault too. The lack of trust and understanding was always a problem for them. Sure, things were going well but she didnt seem like she was ready for a commitment if im being honest. If Mac had proposed I think Desi would have said no.(again nothing wrong with that) 

She didnt want to label their relationship..they haven't said the words I love you to each other and I dont think they even live together. It really was way too sudden.(these are just things im assuming people define how well a relationship is going by.. I have no experience.)

Then ofcourse we have what im calling the goodbye scene. Its the break up before the break up in my opinion.

Desi tells Mac that they should pretend the last 24 hours never happened (that might actually include Mac wanting to propose but make of it what you will..) and that they should have a clean slate. But its very clear from Mac’s face and Desi sees it too that he isnt 100% onboard with it. He cant forget about it.

Which is when Desi says “Look Mac just do whatever you feel is right” and Mac looks confused.

She then gives him a goodbye kiss. 

Look if you have ever watched any show/movie before where the characters are saying goodbye to each other or breaking each others hearts...THERE IS ALWAYS A KISS ON THE CHEEK. A final farewell of sorts. 

That is what it seemed like to me. It was Desi telling Mac to do what he has to. Even if it inevitably leads to their break up.

Again real emotional maturity from Desi here!

Then we get the scene, Monica Macer (the show runner) tweeted about back in December.

Mac knocking on someones door. If im being honest? I thought it was Desi’s place and he was going to propose...

BUT it turned out to be Riley’s.

Mac clearly hasn't stopped thinking about what happened. I wouldnt either if my best friend who has put her life on the line for me and trusts me 100%, now has feelings for me? That would turn my world upside down too.

especially if I had feelings for her that I buried so deep that I never acknowledged them.

Also this is my scenario for how their first kiss goes down just FYI.. (Mac showing up at Rileys doorstep and finally confessing his feelings and kissing her *probably won't happen that way now though, but I still love it*)

Mac hesitates for a second before finally knocking on her door.

“Mac? Everything okay?”

“I can’t pretend like the last 24 hours didnt just happen. They did. So I gotta ask. Did it work?”

“Did what work?”

“Hiding your emotions and letting it pass. Did they go away?”

and I proceeded to pass out. My brain just checked out...

Now initially in all my freaking out I thought Mac was asking Riley about his feelings. If HE buried them deep enough would he still be able to move on with Desi but then I rewatched it and I realised he was asking RILEY if her feelings were still there, if there was still a possibility of something ever happening. 

She never told him its all good now! my feelings are gone and it was a long time ago. She told him she buried it but he needed to know if a future with Riley was something tangible. 

BASICALLY ANGUS MACGYVER ASKED RILEY DAVIS IF SHE WAS STILL IN LOVE WITH HIM. *I think I need to go to a hospital now*

So this was my second reason for not being annoyed about the proposal. The writers used it to show what a huge impact it would have on Mac. How much Rileys feelings would actually mean to him. the GAME CHANGER it would be.

A friend of mine said it was kinda funny and a little jarring but I liked it. (I could have done without the proposal) But I understand why they did it. They couldnt have Mac and Desi break up the same day Riley’s feelings came out because then people would hate Mac. They had to make him want to take the next step with Desi but then drop a bomb on him, that would make him question everything.

Again this is what I took away from it.

BUT GOSH WAS THIS EPISODE AMAZING!

I do get that some people are not happy with this and some said it was too sudden *not like we’ve been waiting since season 1 or anything* but I think after 5x11 things will slow down again. Mac may break up with Desi only at the end of the season when he finally comes to terms with his feelings. (Some people are still cautious and I get it but after everything that just happened I find it hard to believe that Mac and Riley won't end up together after all.. not to mention the leaked script conversation between Mac and Riley from 5x15)

Now I dont know how the final scene ends.. they definitely dont get called away for their solo mission immediately after because Mac’s cheek injury is relatively healed in this stills, which means Riley does answer Mac’s question. She may try to avoid it or deflect but he is standing right there so...who knows.

Next weeks episode is a MacRIley solo mission and lets just say things definitely are heating up a bit..*wink wink*

YUP IM HYPED. 

BRING ON THE SEXUAL TENSION AND THE ANGST!

[nongotfan]

Winterfell Deadpool

(Heavy Spoilers)

On the eve of what is hyped to be the bloodiest episode for main character death since the Red Wedding, I feel oddly compelled to offer my opinion on who will live and who will die.

Keep in mind that Game of Thrones is a show based on a series of books whose author openly revels in killing characters purely for the sake of shocking readers and subverting expectations:

George R.R. Martin: I've said in many interviews that I like my fiction to be unpredictable. I like there to be considerable suspense. I killed Ned in the first book and it shocked a lot of people. I killed Ned because everybody thinks he's the hero and that, sure, he's going to get into trouble, but then he'll somehow get out of it. The next predictable thing is to think his eldest son is going to rise up and avenge his father. And everybody is going to expect that. So immediately [killing Robb] became the next thing I had to do.

So while I’ve tried to put some logical thought into my analysis, we must keep in mind that there is no logic, there is no god, and it’s quite possible, and even plausible, that every character’s fate was decided by the writers pulling names out of a hat and doing a shot whenever they drew a Stark, Lannister or Targaryen.

Tyrion: Alive

Far too much screen time last week went into redeeming Tyrion in his role as Dany's advisor. This might all be misdirection, but it seems like a waste of too many pages of dialogue. Also, why go to all that effort setting up Bronn for a big arc-defining confrontation if Tyrion's just going to buy it from a White Walker.

If I'm wrong, it'll be because just when you think Tyrion's escaped, last scene before the episode credits roll, Bronn shows up in the escape tunnel with Chekhov's Crossbow.

Dany: Alive

Sansa doesn't give two fucks about the Iron Throne, so without at least one of the heirs surviving, there goes 8 seasons of plot.

If only one of them's going to survive, my odds would be on Dany just because "is she going to go mad at the last minute" makes for a more interesting series than "that kind of dumb, boring guy might be king."

Jon: Unsure

On one hand, building Jon Snow up as the lost Targaryen heir over multiple seasons only to kill him a day after he finds out is a huge anticlimax, cock-blocking the show's most anticipated reveal (and, as inscribed in the show's origin myth, the thing the show-runners had to guess before they were given the rights).

On the other hand, killing off the guy you think is going to be the hero right when you think it's time for them to be the hero is literally game-of-thrones.txt.

Sansa: Not Looking Good

There's some juicy conflict left to play out between Dany and Sansa, clearly set up and left unresolved in the previous episode.

On the other hand, chances are that after the big battle there's not really a "North" left to fight over, so it may be narratively more convenient to have her go down with the ship.

Bran: (Un)dead

How awesome would it be if after all the hours and hours of screen time spent on developing the Three-Eyed Raven (in my eyes, the most excruciatingly boring extended subplot of the series), he dies with his only significant contribution being the Jon Snow reveal, something the writers could have just easily have given to Gilly?

So yeah, Bran and the Night King have their "Neo Merges With Agent Smith" moment, which either kills them both (BUT AT WHAT COST??????), or turns Bran into the new Night King, or both.

The Hound: Alive

Cleganebowl. He’s done fuck all since he was resurrected, why bring him back at all if he didn’t have something left to do?

Jaime: Probably dead

He's effectively redeemed himself by leaving Circe and knighting Brienne. What's he got left to do except die nobly? Maybe kill Circe? It’s a stretch.

And, speaking of completed character arcs,

Brienne: Dead

Probably in the same scene as Jaime.

Sam and Gilly: It Depends

If Jon Snow dies, there's no reason to keep Sam around. If Jon survives it could go either way: Sam can play the role of Jon's conscience just as well as a memory as he can alive. In the end, there’s no compelling reason to kill them or to keep them alive. It comes down to how big a cascade of misery the writers want. Jon sad about Sam? Sam sad about Gilly? Sam and Gilly sad about Little Sam? Little Sam turned into a white walker and feasting on the flesh of his parents?

Ser Friendzone: Alive

…the series didn't put him (or us) out of his misery any other time it had the chance, why start now?

Lyanna Mormont: Alive

With all the Starks doomed, someone has to end up rebuilding the North when the show is over.

OK, OK, this is 100% headcanon but I can hope.

Arya: Dead

She made up with the Hound and boinked that nice wholesome blacksmith, what's left for her to do? Circe's still on her list, but there's a long enough queue for that particular scalp that I can't see her being the one who collects it.

The Internet is full of clever theories about how Arya could survive the battle, and how she could be useful to the plot later, but it all comes down to "she's a fan favourite, they can't kill her!" which if history tells us anything, is a bad reason to be attached to a character in Game of Thrones.

Sorry, she's my favourite too, but she's cactus.

Everyone else:

Toss a coin, that's what the writers did.

[beyondstr8]

1-65 lmao payback

1: Do you have a crush at the moment? I want to get to know her better but she’s got my attention for sure.

2: Have you ever been deeply in love? I always think i am at the time but when we break up im like “wow that was awful i was so blind”

3: Longest relationship you've ever been in? Like... 4 months? Maybe stretch it to 6?

4: Have you ever changed for someone? Not consciously, no.

5: How is your relationship with your ex? Most recent one? Non-existent, by my choice. 

6: Have you ever been cheated on? Not to my knowledge.

7: Have you ever cheated? Absolutely not.

8: Would you date someone who's well known for cheating? slim chance. actually no.

9: What's the most important part of a relationship? Emotional connection and communication.

10: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings? relationships, i cant do flings.

11: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"? It’s happened before, but i think its just prolonging the inevitable

12: How many people have you ever hooked up with? without being in a relationship, none.

13: What's one thing you regret saying/doing in a previous relationship? letting myself get way too attached. that shit hurts. 

14: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex? Um probably 16-17?

15: Do you believe in the phrase "age is just a number"? To an extent. If they are both competent and 21 or older, who am I to tell them that’s not love?

16: Do you believe in "love at first sight"? You know when you just click with some people? I don’t believe in love, but I believe in knowing when a person in supposed to be in your life at first sight.

17: Do you believe it's possible to fall in love on the internet? Also who am I to tell them that’s not love?? Just make sure they’re real before anything serious.

18: What do you consider a deal breaker? Can’t make me laugh or no sense of humor

19: How do you know it's time to end a relationship? When i don’t immediately stop what im doing to respond to their texts

20: Are you currently in a relationship? No

21: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends? You can give it a shot, but it’s rare.

22: Do you think people should date their friends? If their friend feels the same way, just be prepared for nothing to go back to normal if it doesn’t work out.

23: How many relationships have you had? 3 and a half

24: Do you think love can last forever? With a lot of communication and forgiveness and trust, yes.

25: Do you believe love can conquer all things? If you make a great team and work hard

26: Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of? I probably should listen to my mom more cause shes always right

27: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be? put up some goddamn walls you idiot!!!

28: Do you think long distance relationships can work? If you can afford to see each other occasionally, yes but it takes a lot of patience and trust.

29: What do you notice first about another person? Smile, eyes, and height

30: Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual? Gay af

31: Would it bother you if your partner suffered from any mental illness? No

32: Have you ever been in an abusive relationship? Not really, but i have been used idk if that counts

33: Do you want to get married one day? absolutely

34: What do you think about getting your partner's name tattooed? Fuck no

35: Could you be in a relationship without sex? I have before

36: Are you still a virgin? No

37: What's more important: Looks or personality? I think once you start to fall for someone’s personality they start to become physically attractive as well.

38: Do you enjoy love films? Romantic comedies are my shit

39: Have you ever given anyone/received roses? i’ve given roses but i think only my mom gave me roses

40: Have you ever had a valentine? Once, senior year of high school

41: What's your imagination of a "perfect date"? That’s a tough one. I’d have to say April 25 because it’s not too hot and not too cold, all you need is a light jacket.

42: Have you ever read "Romeo & Juliet"? In middle school i think

43: What's more important: Your partner or your friends? They are equally important but if you’re talking shit about my best friend of 7 years and you’ve been in my life for 4 months, you’re out sorry

44: Would you consider yourself "romantic"? Yeeessss

45: Could you imagine to date one of your current friends? could i imagine it? yes but its never gonna happen. but we’re getting married if neither of us are married by 30

46: Have you ever been "friendzoned"? i guess

47: Which "famous couple" is your favorite? I don’t keep up with celebrities

48: What's your favorite love song? I have so many omg

49: Have you ever broken someone's heart? Not that i can think of

50: If you're single, why do you think you are? I got my own shit to work on

51: Would you rather date someone who's rich but a douchebag or someone who's poor but a nice guy? poor and nice

52: Are you good at giving other people advices regarding dating/ relationships? yeah i should probably start taking my own advice tbh

53: Are you jealous of couples when you're single? not jealous but i wanna be them

54: How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on facebook)? tbh... i dont think any of my relationships have been facebook official but im not against it

55: Would you consider yourself "clingy", "overly attached" or "jealous"? for sure. i need attention. but i try not to show it

56: Have you ever "destroyed" a relationship? not to my knowledge

57: Do you think it's silly to consider suicide because of a broken heart? i mean... if you’re married for years and they leave out of the blue i would understand, but it still wouldn’t be worth it.

58: Are you the "dominant" or the "submissive" part in a relationship? i can be both, but i prefer dominant

59: Have you ever forgotten important dates like your partner's birthday or your anniversary? i forgot about my dad’s birthday once 

60: What's your opinion on open relationships? you do you but theyre not my thing

61: Who's more important: Your partner or your family? family

62: How do you define "cheating"? having a connection other than platonic while you’re committed to someone else

63: Is watching porn while being in a relationship inappropriate? no?

64: Do you think Valentine's Day is overrated? yes but its also super cute

65: Would you consider yourself a "cuddler"? yes. 100%. 10/10. Gimmie cuddles

[michaelguyyo]

1-70

1: Do you have a crush at the moment?

Yeah, Camila Mendes. She plays Veronica on Riverdale

2: Have you ever been deeply in love?

Again I’d like to point out Camila Mendes… Lmao but no for real, yeah of course I have, I have a lot of love to give (and to answer the first question seriously, I sure hope so. I’m dating a girl who I have a crush on always)

3: Longest relationship you’ve ever been in?

Hmmm…. Lizz I think, I mean even though there were some rough spots in the middle, I still count it. It’s been a while.

4: Have you ever changed for someone?

I’d like to think I improve all the time, I hope I’m changing for people for the better every day

5: How is your relationship with your ex?

Depends who you’re asking, I care about anyone I’d consider an ex. But some of em don’t like me, it happens.

6: Have you ever been cheated on?

I’d say so (see 62)

7: Have you ever cheated?

Yeah, as much as I’m embarrassed to admit it, I have. It was a rough time… That’s behind me though, bad experience all around.

8: Would you date someone who’s well known for cheating?

If she loyal, I don’t care what her reputation is. I’d be a little skeptical but I want people to prove themselves to me, not one to hold on to other’s reputations

9: What’s the most important part of a relationship?

In my opinion? Intimacy, passion. I dunno I want every kiss to feel just as exciting, every date to be full of just as many laughs.

10: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

Relationships… Kinda. I dunno it’s weird, whichever I’m currently on at the time, I kinda wish it was the other. But to an extent, like I love whoever I’m with at any given time, I don’t want them to be outta my life in the least bit, especially now with Lizz she’s the best I could ask for.

11: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on “breaks”?

Not something I’ve ever purposely done. But if both parties feel like it would be healthy and beneficial that’s up to them. I have nothing against it, but not something I’m actively looking for

12: How many people have you ever hooked up with?

Yikes… Umm, depends what you’d consider hooking up? I’d sayyy, 6-7?

13: What’s one thing you regret saying/doing in a previous relationship?

Binch I regret everything I do all the time. I’m a super shitty boyfriend like 75% of the time and I’m always trynna do better. 

14: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?

14-15 honestly. High school, do whatever the fuck you want I don’t care.

15: Do you believe in the phrase “age is just a number”?

With like 2-3 years? Yeah… But an 18 year old getting it on with a freshman, or a gap as weird as that and you sure are pushing it.

16: Do you believe in “love at first sight”?

Hmmm… Infatuation, for sure. But love? Iffy… I’d probably lean towards no.

17: Do you believe it’s possible to fall in love on the internet?

Sure why not.

18: What do you consider a deal breaker?

IN WHAT CONTEXT?

19: How do you know it’s time to end a relationship?

If you’re at the point that you’d rather kiss someone other than your current partner and you have the opportunity to (so like…….. I’d kiss Justin Timberlake over Lizz, but no opportunity) then it’s time to talk to your partner.

20: Are you currently in a relationship?

Ya, she fake tho

21: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?

FOR SURE, 100%. I wish all the people I’ve dated were still close to me.

22: Do you think people should date their friends?

Also for sure, your partner should be one of your best friends. It’s boring otherwise, super boring.

23: How many relationships have you had?

By my counts, 6, but that’s a liberal 6. Three that I’d call rather serious.

24: Do you think love can last forever?

Surrreeeeeeee, it’s not as easy as a fairy tale though

25: Do you believe love can conquer all things?

Yuck. No. Not at all. It’s a good start though for sure.

26: Would you break up with someone your parents didn’t approve of?

What year is it the fuck

27: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?

Hold on to the people you hold dear, cherish the moments. Those moments won’t always be there.

28: Do you think long distance relationships can work?

In my personal opinion, only to an extent. Like I’m pretty far from Lizz, but we see each other a few times a month. If I was in another state? Hell naw

29: What do you notice first about another person?

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, eyes and the way they light up when they laugh.

30: Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual?

Straight as hell fam, surprising I know

31: Would it bother you if your partner suffered from any mental illness?

What the fuck year is it??? No, as long as they aren’t abusive, hell no.

32: Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?

Dating relationship, no I wouldn’t say so. Bad ones maybe but I’d never call them abusive.

33: Do you want to get married one day?

Yaaaaa, call me old fashioned but I love all that romance crap.

34: What do you think about getting your partner’s name tattooed?

Y I K E S. It’s tacky even if it ends up not being a mistake. Unless it’s like a list of all past relationships with crosses through em, that’s kinda cool

35: Could you be in a relationship without sex?

no next question

36: Are you still a virgin?

yes next question

37: What’s more important: Looks or personality?

As shitty as this sounds, to me, looks. No personality will make up for the fact that I’m not attracted to you… But you could be a little bland and I’d still be like damn ma at least you hot. But I doubt the relationship would last long without both.

38: Do you enjoy love films?

Yes pls I love movies.

39: Have you ever given anyone/received roses?

Surprisingly?? No??? Send me roses.

40: Have you ever had a valentine?

Ya of course, I try to do fun dates on Valentines when I can

41: What’s your imagination of a “perfect date”?

Dinner, movie, dancing. I wanna dance with my girl all night.

42: Have you ever read “Romeo & Juliet”?

Yeah it was a school requirement, it was solid. Leo version best version.

43: What’s more important: Your partner or your friends?

Yiiiikeeesss…. Honestly, my friends. But I consider my partner a friend…. But if I had to choose between Lizz and all my friends? I don’t think I could choose Lizz over everyone else. I would cry either way though, just a little more if I lost literally all my friends lmao I don’t think Lizz could support me through that, nobody could.

44: Would you consider yourself “romantic”?

Probably, but I’m not very good at it. Suave, sure. Affectionate, sure. But generally romantic? Hmm… I try my best.

45: Could you imagine to date one of your current friends?

I could imagine dating any one of my friends. All cuties. All great people.

46: Have you ever been “friendzoned”?

Fuck this shit naw, I’m hot as hell and also the friendzone isn’t real. Unless you talkin about your buddy’s house. Then I’ve been in the friendzone

47: Which “famous couple” is your favorite?

I miss Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield. 

48: What’s your favorite love song?

You and I by Ingrid Michaelson

49: Have you ever broken someone’s heart?

Yeah, unfortunately far more than I’d like.

50: If you’re single, why do you think you are?

fuk u

51: Would you rather date someone who’s rich but a douchebag or someone who’s poor but a nice guy?

Poor? I am a male so society doesn’t expect me to marry rich. So that’s not even a small thought.

52: Are you good at giving other people advices regarding dating/ relationships?

People don’t ask me for relationship advice, but I don’t think I’m bad at it… I’m just sure people from the outside think very differently about me and my relationship skills lmao

53: Are you jealous of couples when you’re single?

Nope, still love couples. Always fun to be around if they’re cool people.

54: How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on facebook)?

Not? Facebook is dead grow up

55: Would you consider yourself “clingy”, “overly attached” or “jealous”?

Ya

56: Have you ever “destroyed” a relationship?

Ya

57: Do you think it’s silly to consider suicide because of a broken heart?

Nothing is silly about depression or heartbreak. I mean don’t do it, but I understand the thought, there’s nothing wrong with a thought, just work through it.

58: Are you the “dominant” or the “submissive” part in a relationship?

Dominant for sure oops

59: Have you ever forgotten important dates like your partner’s birthday or your anniversary?

All the time? Not like extensively, I got to it… Just not immediately or whatnot, missed the midnight snap or something along those lines. Mostly I just get sidetracked

60: What’s your opinion on open relationships?

Do whatever the hell you want. Talk with your partner, if they into it then fuck it

61: Who’s more important: Your partner or your family?

Again… Family, there’s just more of them. If you ever told me “who’s more important, 1 person or these important 5+ other people” I’d have a hard time choosing the one. It’s a lot easier getting over a relationship than getting over the loss of your entire family lmao

62: How do you define “cheating”?

Anything that hurts your partner involving your interactions with another person. Heavily flirting or the likes is considered cheating in my book. If you told your partner about it and they’d consider breaking up with you, that’s the line.

63: Is watching porn while being in a relationship inappropriate?

Who the hell cares, no.

64: Do you think Valentine’s Day is overrated?

Maybe a little bit, but I love Valentines Day… So who cares. I think the gifts sometimes is a little much. But a national date night? I’m all for it.

65: Would you consider yourself a “cuddler”?

I. Love. Cuddling. Relationship not required, we can cuddle. Cuddling is pure as HELL

THANKS A BUNCH. There’s only 65 questions tho, not 70 so typo I imagine.

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life is a verb/50 lessons learned

1. Life is not a gift we simply receive. It is like a bicycle. We must learn to ride it and enjoy collecting miles or else it will simply lay abandoned collecting dust.

2. Mirrors are our worst enemies. We cannot ever see past our appearances, while our essence is what we must truly see. Close your eyes and turn inward. See whats inside not outside first. Then you never need a mirror. You look fabulous anyways.

3. Drink water. You’ll feel better. Eat enough. Starving and leaving yourself hungry is not natural. Weight loss or a pair of jeans does not define you. How you take care of yourself does. Teach people how to treat you by first treating yourself with the same kindness you seek.

4. Self care is not selfish, it is necessary. Selflessness is not possible if you cannot even go the extra mile for you. Do the face mask, take the nap, eat the cookie, see that counselor, check in with your doctor, call home. 

5. Do not love someone so much that they have control over your emotions and state of mind. Do not let them do the same with you either. Love is honest. Love is protecting truth and reality in order to benefit each others individual futures before dreaming of your own together. Do not ever become a runaway train with love. Friends either. 

6. Speak up if something does not feel right. Your intuition is usually right. 

7. Truth hurts sometimes. Take a deep breath. Get a cup of coffee. Go on a walk. Let the sting fade and then approach the situation with a clear head. You will hurt more people if you explode outwards immediately. Soak it in even though it burns. 

8. Always think of the other side of the fence. You are not always right. You do have to hear other people. Your perception is one of many. 

9. Do not let nervousness or anxiety talk you out of a situation. Sometimes it pays you to go dancing with your friends or to go out of your comfort zone even though its scary. Have fun. It is not a sin. 

10. Masks are for Halloween parties, not emotions. Admit when you are feeling down. People who love you will support you. Not everyone is at their 100 percent all the time. Its real and human to feel off.

11. If you really love someone, it does not go away overnight. Heali after a heartbreak in ways that are best for you and go at your own pace. If that means going on a date in a week or focusing on yourself for awhile - so be it! No one writes a timetable for you but YOU!

12. Moms like when you tell them they have been good moms. Dads like when you do for them it too. 

13. Cry. Alone, in the public, in the movies, when songs come on. Happy tears. Sad tears. Emotional tears. If they want to come say hello- let them. 

14. People change. Do not hold them to their past standards in the present. Grow up together, not against. 

15. Teachers define what students believe of themselves. Do not give up on them even if they SEEM like they are disinterested. They do not have to like English or Math to benefit from an older and wiser role model believing in their success. AP students are not the only ones capable of great things. 

16. You do not have to do what every other 20 something does for fun to enjoy your life. Seltzer water at the bar doesn't mean you can't dance like a fool and sing Nirvana covers like a superfan. Friday nights can mean early bedtime and you're still doing your 20s right. Same if you took that tequila shot and kissed that stranger. To each their own, but to all a good life.

17. Bridges freeze before roads. Certain washer fluid freezes. You always need snow tools in your car. Let your parents yell that at you repeatedly when you move up North, because something will happen that first snowy drive.

18. Being strong does not mean you are always doing NPC competitions. Being fit does not mean you're a size two. Your fitness goals are not other peoples’. You VS you is the only worthwhile competition. But fitness cures all doubts about your limits. 

19. Love is scary. Infatuation is short lived. Love will hit you in the overlooked moments while other interests rests in cliches and whats easy. Abandon infatuation and cling to what seems real.

20. If you break up with someone that does not mean you have to hate them or be mean or be strangers. People are friends with their exes. It is perfectly fine. 

21. Great first dates don't always make great second ones. Live in the moment. Take them piece by piece. Don't hear wedding bells because they treated you with respect. 

22. Salem, MA is amazing, but learn the history too. Do not just go for the Halloween stigma. 

23. Stay true to yourself even if that means being alone for awhile. You do not need an audience to guide you for everything. 

24. You never know when the last time together is the last time. Do not take people or moments for granted. 

25. Don’t let a kiss fool you or a fool kiss you. Do not let false flattery in your life. People who truly love and respect you will withstand the test of time, not verbal confirmation of their “loyalty”.

26. If you do not watch or like movies, do not lie to cover for that fact because people will judge you. Let em judge. Be you.

27. Listen to good music that speaks to your mind and soul. If thats Grateful Dead or Smash Mouth or Skrillex, it does not matter. Just listen to something. 

28. Do not judge a book by its cover. 

29. Give hugs to those who need them. Ask for them too. The human touch is a magical thing. 

30. Laugh. A lot. At yourself is the best type of laugh. 

31. Studying hard does not always get you an A. Your effort and quality of work gets a grade academically, but you also have to be honest with yourself. If your best got you a C thats ok! Breathe.

32. Do not judge a person by the color of their skin, the language they speak, the person they love, the gender they identify as, their pronouns, their life plans etc etc. Being open to your lived experiences and the world around you is the most informative class you could enroll in.

33. Age is a number. You can be friends with a 30 something year old and a Freshman in college. Everyone can teach you different things. Be open to it. 

34. New places can remind you of old things. Old places can be rewritten as new. Do not limit yourself to past instances. 

35. You can like many different things and have many different personalities. It is ok to experiment or realign yourself as you learn more and age more. Change is not a bad thing. Do not take it as an insult if someone says you have changed a lot. 

36. Dance in the grocery store if a good song comes on. You never know who needed that extra laugh. Maybe it was just you. Blame it on the boogie!

37. Visit your grandparents. Family is important even if they don't always understand the situation. 

38. Dementia/Alzheimer's tests your patience, but it teaches you the definition of and persistent need for love, kindness and understanding. Never forget to say I love you even when they do. 

39. Finding humor in otherwise sad situations is ok. Sometimes if you do not laugh you will cry. 

40. Parking meters in Boston are highly monitored. Show up early or else you'll be greeted with a nice ticket. (Brookline- I love you, but I will be taking the T from now on)

41. Saying sorry is strong. Realizing you make mistakes and owning up to them is mature. 

42. If you can say it online, you can say it to someones face. Do not be petty or shady. Just own up to things or have a discussion. 

43. Friendzoning is stupid. Don't ghost people or skirt the truth. Appreciate someone and understand their emotions. It is okay to want different things. Handle hearts with care. Some peoples’ are titanium while other people’s are delicate china. You never know what someone has gone through. 

44. Sometimes that cashier who says “good morning!” is having a bad day. Sometimes that silent kid playing Pokemon is the sweetest soul with the funniest jokes. The man who collects your trash may share the same sports teams. Always say hello and treat people with respect despite what they may appear to be against the societal “rating chart”. Screw stereotypes. Always ask “how are you?” back. 

45. If you get back with your ex 50 times over it doesn't make you a weak person. If you date someone who everyone thinks is not for you, it doesn't make you stupid. You have to be happy with who you are with, not them. True friends support your HAPPINESS, not your individual DECISIONS. If you are safe, supported and happy that is all the true ones will recognize. 

46. If two of your friends fall in love, do not be selfish and prevent that from happening. Be a supportive friend at all stages and try not to be an overly invasive third wheel. They will remain your friends together, apart and all around. 

47. You can lose touch and still pick up where you left off and be just as close. Connection does not mean consistent or constant contact. 

48. Be proud of your friends successes just as you should be of your own. Aging creates anxiety. Just because you chose to go through more school instead of into the job market doesn't mean you’re more right/wrong or intelligent/dumb. If you have a have a ring on your left hand or if you have never been in a relationship, that does not mean you’re less of a person. If you like to wear all black and cover up or if you like to wear slinky sequin dresses it does not mean youre less of a woman or not sexy. Be yourself. Do as you please. Express your shade of awesome. The world needs it. 

49. Be proud of who you are and who you have in your life. Love hard. Be smart. Read. Be aware and critical of what is popularly defined as truth. Be authentic. Let your vibe attract your tribe. Trust that everything is happening for a reason. People come into your life for one of three reasons - to teach you, to learn from you or both. Many of times that means they are a temporary presence with a permanent mark. Do not take offense to the changing paths of those around you. 

50. Peace cannot happen in the world if you are waring in your mind and heart. Love yourself. Triage yourself. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and appreciate the level you are at. We can look at where our feet have traveled and worry over where they will go. The only important place to focus your attention is where your feet are firmly planted in the current moment. Take the second to soak in the instant, take a step forward and repeat. Each place is different and you can feel different at each one. The individual places do not define you. Let the journey make you stronger with its easy downhill rolls, its falls and scrapes, its endless uphill battles and everything in between.