#girlboss daye

[magnificentposting-fabrizioart]

Our True Protagonists- The Topkapi Trio

These three just wanna do their jobs and are the closest something like this show can get to working class rep, so we root for them HARD in this house.

Plus Sumbul is genuinely hilarious to watch AND I do relate with his sweet tooth, the man deserves SOME pleasures from life.

Also clothes aside Daye looks quite Italian, specifically a southern italian traditional lady. Same as the Valide, btw.

[hurremsultanns]

I love the scene where Hürrem burns the notebook so much. It’s the perfect example of her theatrical and strong façade hiding depth underneath.

She puts on the ‘girlboss villain’ act. But the truth behind why she was able to obtain the notebook is because she was able to communicate with and relate to Daye. It’s a testament to her ability to forge alliances and build bridges more than anything else.

In addition there is the symbolic burning of both her past life and the trauma that she has from it. Showing how in order to honour her past she has to move on and survive. Even if that means erasing it.

[patriciavetinari]

I think I definitey feel ashamed and embarassed for trying. It 100% might be my issue of perception but modern society seems to be signalling that you are either girlbossing being single, 'need no man', having flings or one night stands or genuinely nothing at all, or you are going out there and finding yourself a relationship after a relationship until you hit the right one, moving towards marriage or partnership (or polycule I guess). I feel like both of those positions are more or less respected (again, in the bubble where I am, and I realize poly people fet their share of shit).

But I feel like the position where a woman wants to be in a relationship but struggles with trust, flirting, social queues, outgoingness, bidy image etc etc, when she tries and tries but cannot find any meaningful connections, and cannot even get a one night stand – that is called pathetic and ridiculed still. There is no compassion, no admittance how hard this might be.

'If I was on tinder for a year and never went on an actual date - you couldn't waterboard this out me haha how disgusting and unappealing you have to be'. Yes it's said about a man posting his frustrations on reddit but my situation is not exactly much different and I feel the shame seeping into me.

If you 'can't pull bitches', if you can't get people into your bed, if you can't just go seduce whomever you want, including wrecking homea, if you can't bring yourself to have a one night stand out of fear your body will be violated with insults or fetishization at the very least, if you go to speed dayes and get a reply that no-one chose you, if you have 5 dating apps and 0 dates – people will blame you, people will ridicule you.

Because it's 2024, you're not supposed to need a man for anything orher than sex and money, you're not supposed to have body image issues, you're not supposed to struggle with this. You're either conventional and have conventional love life, or you are a freak with a circle of freaks having amazing sex and romance – either way it's supposed to be effortless.

It's shameful to be a woman longing for a man and not being successful and femme-fatal-ing yourself one. There's so much shame in wanting to and being terrified of meeting strangers, in trying to be vulnerable in a world especially where fat bodies are trampled on wothout any public scrutiny.

Then I find again that article going 'I'm a fat woman and can get any man I want' which has not a single kind word for those who never get approached and only get turned down when they approach someone. It's shameful to be a loser without charisma, it's still 100% shameful to be 'virgin'.

The support posts always go like 'it's ok to be a slut and it's ok to be a virgin - do whatever you like with your body, power to you, your body your rules' and it's not incorrect but the moment you bring up wanting to be a slut but not experiencing any luck – there's nothing more pathetic than that. If you're trying and failing – you're a loser. You're an incel. You must be gross and disrespectful to people you are trying to get with.

People get visibly annoyed when I tell them that dating apps are not working out for me. I'd like to feel respected at least on a basic level and genuinely wanted even for a one night stand and it just doesn't happen, people either don't bother to make an effort, or they are just not on the same page when I try to make the first move (I'm not blaming them for that btw).

Even here and now I feel that post 'haha two years on tinder and no dates', I see my potential readers snarling at my admission of not being able to find someone to have sex with for 10 years. When I admit that to someone I believe to be my friend they don't show empathy or compassion or understanding how can that be.

Because for the majority of people I have trusted with this – it cannot be. Not in the age of tinder. They tell me I must go on tinder and get myself laid and when I tell them I tried and I couldn't, they tel me I didn't try hard enough. My standards of wanting an ounce of confidence that the person won't be disgusted by my stretch marks or rolls and body hair are too high apparently.

You're shamed more for wanting something and failing to get it than for not wanting it at all or getting a shitty version of it. They kee telling me how bad is it to want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship - but that's the thing, if that was my issue, I would move from one abuser to another. I am not. I am looking for respect, admiration and effort to be with me because I'm me. This is not for the sake of a relationship. This is longing dor a connection and not finding any.

And yeah, it is shameful not to be able to pull bitches. You're supposed to git gud or not complain. I am ashamed. For wanting it, for not being happy alone, for not being able to being myself to sleep with someone who can't hold a decent conversation. I am ashamed for wantinf it and not being able to get exactly what I want every time I want it. I am fully aware of being a pathetic loser and all of the jokes about not being able to get pussy or other genitals are very funny.

[myname-isnia]

It’s been 2 weeks since I finished Magnificent Century and I’m experiencing severe withdrawal symptoms