#everyone assumes a monsterfucker is going to be a bottom

[vampirecatboy]

love when a smutty story makes you think one character has the upper hand and is definitely going to go full power top on another character, only for the other character to turn it around and absolutely rail them until they're a whimpering mess begging for more, gotta be one of my favorite tropes

[olderthannetfic]

Same anon as this ask (the "no love for doms" one) https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/743800835187818496/something-ive-noticed-is-that-even-in

It also intersects with gender, sexuality, and general aesthetics, too.

So I mentioned in my other ask I RP monsters, yeah? Monsters with big dicks. In real life, I'm a trans guy and I don't even have a dick, I'm thin and short, I have kind of cute and innocint aesthetic, and I go out of my way to be kind and caring in my everyday life.

But on the porn boards and discords where I RP, I let everyone assume I'm a tall, muscular, cis, gay man. I don't lie, they just make that assumption and I dont' correct them. Because if I did, no one would take me seriously. Some people who are into little bratty doms with big dumb subs would message me, and the rest would just ignore me. I wouldn't get a drop of attention from the monsterfuckers who are actually compatible with what I like to play as.

People don't think that that trans men can top, they don't think that skinny guys can be rough and assertive, they dont think that cute people can play convincing monsters or that people who are sweet in real life can be sadistic in an RP or BDSM scene.

Is there really a shortage of doms, or are people ignoring doms because their fashion sense or gender identity doesn't line up with the fantasy?

I feel like I'm shoved into the closet in order to be taken seriously, but how many other guys like me got shoved out of the scene entirely?

And I'm a dom myself, but I would love to sub for a muscular, hairy trans guy. There aren't any. Full stop. I've met tons of trans bottoms who are (or present themselves as) smol and twinky or soft and chubby, but not a single "bara" trans guy and not one other trans top. Which is insane. Tons of trans guys work out, body hair is practically guranteed if you're on T, and topping and domming is way fun, I know I'm not the only one. But I have to assume all the others are going stealth like I am, are switches and indulging only their bottom tendencies, or have been completely pushed out of the scene.

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