#esp if ur low income (like me!)

[batz]

Hey I know you’re in Canada, but I just wanted to ask how hard it was to get on T/apply for top surgery when you’re not a trans man? It might be very different rules where I am, but I’ve wanted to get top surgery for ages and I’m worried about getting rejected. If you’re okay with answering this, could I ask for some advice/tips?

its honestly a different process for everyone bc it really depends on ur doctor. i was lucky to have a nonbinary gender doctor™ so they could understand the nitty gritty details of my experience with gender.

that being said, a lot of gender therapists, top surgeons, etc, are a lot more educated when it comes to gender stuff nowadays. like a lot of videos abt top surgery i watch are based in the states and other countries and quite a few of them are for nb ppl. things are changing and a lot of doctors are in the know about this kinda thing now.

the big thing is like. if you are able to, choose what doctor you want to go with. kinda like ur shopping u know? check reviews, talk with people, join facebook groups (as ancient n outdated as that sounds, it HELPS, im in a few trans fb groups for transitioning help n all that) before u find out which doctor u wanna go with. a lot of the time people will be able to tell you which doctors are educated in regards to the whole 'Do They See NB People As Legit And Real' thing.

i feel like theres a VERY small chance you'll be rejected hrt just bc ur nb. its very rare. doctors will basically just make sure ur healthy enough to take T or get top surgery or whichever. they talk to u about what u want for ur future in regards to gender stuff, ask u awkward very cis-centric questions abr gender that dont rlly matter. and... yeah... a good lot of it is just check ups and waitlists and paperwork. its kind of a pain but its worth trying, even if its nerve wracking.

[koutawoo]

Woo chaaaan T-T _cognizant anon

Hi hello lady. As many times as u want? Amazing we can only take it once a year jdsjasfd. That's one of the reasons why it's such a pain. Once a year from our main hs books frOM 3 YEARS AUGH. LOLOLOL MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY 2021 TO U ACTUALLY since we don't have Christmas and use a different calendar hjkfkdsf. Also why do I keep seeing ppl saying kanji is insane exactly when I thought of giving Japanese a try sajdkadj. I'm ok. concentration on studies 0. U good? _cognizant anon (aksdnksja)

BEJESUSYSUSU i’m literally behind on everything in life rn (reqs, edits i wanted to do, watching anime and reading manga included, to keep this relevant to tumblr)

i think the quarantine fatigue has finally gotten to me and i just feel mentally drained ugh, doesn’t help that my winter break is only two weeks long, and i have to get back to online courses next week ;___;

i’m not the only one who’s suffering like this, but it’s not gonna stop me from ranting bwhahah

american ed system kinda lenient, i think. the only downside to taking the exam multiple times is that u have to pay $40-$60 (? my memory sucks but there was a registration fee as well) every time, unless u have a waiver for being in a low income household (waiver let’s u take the exam four times free of charge)

just dooooo itttt!! kanji’s a pain, but it shouldn’t get in the way of ur learning of japanese. kanji shouldn’t be an big issue unless ur trying to become a translator or want to read long japanese passages. i feel like most language learners r more focused on the speaking and understanding aspect of the langauge, rather than reading? like, yeah reading is important but in terms of priority, reading kanji, specially, is low on the list. and as a japanese language learner, it’s not like u can learn 5k+ kanji in less than five years, so don’t sweat about kanji esp since u gotta start at the basics first ;DD

NOT to say that kanji isn’t necessary or important, but just that learning kanji should come later in ur studies

[jaeminlore]

enemies to lovers!jonghyun

a/n: for razzle dazzle anon!

i don’t talk about shinee that much but they’re my second bias group they mean the absolute world to me

and this one is for the softest boy in the world i love him so so much

anyway let’s get to the rivalry

wedding planner!jonghyun is known throughout all south korea as the best in the world

everyone wants him to plan their weddings, from idols to comedians to actors to politicians: there isn’t anyone on earth who doesn’t want jonghyun as their wedding planner

he’s just that good like he knows which colors go together he knows which caterers are best he knows the best deejays

there’s nothing he can’t do especially with florist!jinki and cake designer!taemin by his side, not to mention dress designer!kibum and mixologist!minho always ready to help for a discounted price

which the clientele obviously don’t know about

the boys work for other wedding designers too, as well as different events that their job calls for

so most of them are in the know when it comes to who is who in the event planning business esp kibum

actually it’s just kibum

you’re a wedding planner from your own country, but because of your amazing skills you’ve been invited to korea to help plan a wedding for this super famous actress who is getting married

and jonghyun thought he was a shoo in for that job so he’s a bit ??? when the news comes out that the “best wedding planner in the world” had been booked

because tbh he thought that was him

taemin in the bg: no no ur just the most famous in korea,,, there’s a difference

anyway jonghyun is mad bc you’ve essentially stomped onto his turf and are now taking his very rich clientele like it’s not going to slide

so he finds your number and calls you up

“y/n’s wedding event service, what can i help you with?”

and jonghyun is like cut the speil lady i know you’re out for my title

nd you’re just what title? who are you??

this did offend jonghyun that you somehow didn’t know his voice over the phone so he dramatically replies “this is jonghyun obv,,, the best wedding planner in the world”

but you must not notice the hostility in his voice bc you reply, “dude i love you! you’re like my hero when it comes to weddings,,, all my weddings are inspired by you”

jonghyun kind of wants to be flattered bc no one has ever told him smth like that before and also your words made his heart race with joy but he’s going to keep his cool and still play the “i hate you” card

“so it wasn’t enough to steal my ideas, now you have to steal my clients?”

nd you’re like wtf is wrong w you dude it’s just a wedding and you think about being civil with him since you look up to him but now you want to bite back with the same venom he shot at you

“maybe if you’d make your rates a bit more affordable, people would have the money to choose you over me”

“my prices are reasonable!”

“maybe to politicians and millionaires?? but people with basic income do not want to spend the amount of money you charge to have a wedding... esp if they’re trying to save money”

jonghyun feels INSULTED and ASHAMED bc he thought his prices were pretty good

“my prices are some of the lowest rates in south korea”

“well it looks like you’ve got a bunch of greedy wedding planners then bc you charge almost double what i charge in my country,,, that’s why they asked for me instead.”

jonghyun isn’t sure he can change his prices like the last thing he wants to do is make his clients broke but he also doesn’t want people to think he’s cheap

he almost wants to ask you how you do it: stay afloat at low prices and still able to pay rent

but he’s still angry and annoyed w you so he resists and hangs up on you, not feeling up to talking to you

so after that you sort hate jonghyun too like why did he have to be so rude to you??

but fast forward to a few days before the wedding and your florist cancelled???? and you have no idea what to do bc the whole theme of this wedding was floral paradise and you can’t have floral paradise without the floral

and you have no idea what you’re doing like you can’t find another florist this late in the game that will agree to give you a ton of flowers on short notice

they’d have to work overtime and it’d be such a chore and you feel at such a loss

your first overseas wedding and you were so excited bc your work would finally be in the news and more people might ask for you by name

all that work down the drain bc a florist who quit for unknown reason

you feel like crying and for some reason you pick up your phone and call jonghyun

yeah you sort of hate him but he’s also a fellow wedding planner and he’s the closest one you can go to right now who probably has advice

and it’s late when you call so his voice is super groggy and low “hello?”

you’re shaking like your anxiety is to the max and “jonghyun? it’s y/n and —”

“are you crying?” his voice is v soft and sweet like suddenly he doesn’t sound so mean

“it’s just that my florist cancelled on me and the wedding is in two days! how am i supposed to find a florist who will give me a whole truck load of flowers in two days?? the theme is based around flowers and if i fail this one no one is ever going to trust me again i’ll be known as a failure and an untrustworthy planner”

and jonghyun just kind of shushes you like “look you’re really tired and worried, but you need sleep okay? get some rest and meet me at the park on maple at around eight o'clock”

he doesn’t really give you time to agree but for some reason his words calm you, and you think jonghyun might actually help you

the next morning you grab all your planning stuff and head over to the park, hoping that jonghyun didn’t send you on a wild goose hunt just for fun.

when you finally spot him, he’s sitting around with four other guys and like five or six dogs running around and chasing each other

when you see jonghyun you lowkey gasp like wow he’s v handsome irl too bad he’s so rude to me

but then he smiles and walks up to you, looking sort of nervous “hey, um, these are my friends. jinki here is a florist and if you want, we can all pitch in and get the decorations ready for the wedding using the flowers he has”

you genuinely don’t know what to say like you sort of thought jonghyun was just going to make a laughing stock of you but he hasn’t

“aren’t you going to tell me that you’re a better planner than me?”

jonghyun shrugs “i mean, i am, but as a planner i know that it’s important that every wedding goes off without a hitch. i will push away my feelings for the good of the wedding”

it’s not the apology you wanted but you have more important things to worry abt so you’re like great!!! let’s go!!!

and turns out jinki is super sweet and owns this really small flower shop and it’s filled with a bunch of pretty arrangements and stuff

and he was more than ready to give you a helping hand

you gave him all the blueprints and drawings you had ready and jinki was like !!!! i can do this !!!!

and he shows you all of the flowers he has and all the different ways he can arrange them

so you two plan centerpeices and aisle markers and stuff

once you’re satisfied you show it to the other boys and everyone gets to work replicating all the pieces

and you’ve also got to make your own banners like you have to find siLK

and kibum is like dndnsnnsks well i have a ton in my office i’ve got eggshell and pearl and cream and lavender and rose and —

jonghyun cuts him off like we’re on a schedule buddy!!!

so jonghyun decides to take you to kibum’s house since he needs to drop all the puppers off anyways

they’re a bit of a distraction at the flower shop since taemin and kibum can’t seem to leave them alone

and when you arrive you see the pearl colored silk and immediately know it’ll go with the flowers

so you grab it and drape it across the edges of kibum’s desk “so imagine this is the aisle and it dips between each pew with a lil bouquet matching the bride is holding it up”

and as you’re talking you get this huge smile on your face and jonghyun begins to feel bad for being so rude to you over the phone bc

rlly you’re just like him: someone who wants to make others happy

and you both only have the bride and groom’s best interests at heart

it shouldn’t matter who is planning the wedding as long as the couple is happy

but jonghyun keeps this all to himself like he has some pride yknow

he helps you cut the silk and fold it neatly so that it doesn’t get messed up on the way back

and when you guys arrive everyone is amazed bc the colors look rlly beautiful together like all the boys are lowkey getting emo

esp jonghyun he always gets really emotional when he helps w a wedding bc he kind of dreams of his own and he can’t wait for it to be perfect and beautiful and amazing

most importantly he can’t wait to have someone by his side who makes him forget the beauty of flower arrangements and dresses and cakes

anyway so it takes well into the night before all the arrangements are finished

and the boys are already planning on helping you place them in the church and reception hall the next day bc you’re on a time punch and this was all the florists’ job

so they come over and everyone gets started on a different section of the church

jinki tells you and jonghyun to go to the reception hall and set up the centerpieces and everything

jinki lowkey ships the two of you okay

at the reception hall you both just set up the flowers and hope everything will be done before the rehearsal dinner that night, or else you’ll have to tell the bride that she lost her florist

you’re hoping she’ll never find out abt your screw up

when you guys are done you just sit and breathe bc …. finally ….. it’s over and you can rest

jonghyun is sort of close to you like his arm keeps brushing against your shoulder and you catch him more than once stealing glances at you

“thank you,” you say, bc you can’t really put into words how much his help means to you

he nods, “yeah, i guess when the couple books a sucky wedding planner, a mistake like this is expected”

you think he’s being legit and turn your head, almost sad that he still hates you

but he’s smiling at you, a teasing glint in his eye

you push him like dude that wasn’t cool i’m still on edge

but jonghyun keeps talking like “yknow, since i saved the day, it’s rlly only fair that you take me to the wedding as your plus one. that way i can make sure you don’t screw anything else up”

you glance at him again, and notice his ears have turned a bit red “you mean as a date? are you asking me to ask you on a date?”

“no,” he scoffs, “i’m telling you that you should repay me by making me your plus one”

“but essentially you want to date me”

“no i don’t,” he says, but he’s smiling and you find yourself unable to keep your own grin back 

“fine then. jonghyun, do you want to be my plus one to the wedding? i’d really love it if you were my date.”

jonghyun is lowkey super happy that you’ve agreed and reaches for your hand like “well if you insist”

it’s all kind of history from there

let’s just say you’ll have to be planning another wedding soon

;)

jk jk

the end

[girlofdogs]

Hmmm what type of college are u looking for? what experience do u want :0? I think it helps to know what kind of person u are and what u want out of ur higher edu experience

for ref I go to barnard college and it’s a liberal arts college

pros: women’s college

Small

Part of a larger uni

In nyc

Supportive community

Great food and pretty campus

English department is pretty banger

Cons:

Sometimes, having to compete with other students to get into classes esp bcs it’s one of four undergrad schools

It’s in nyc so I don’t focus as much on my academics as I’d like

sometimes teachers can be frustrating if they’re not great, or it’s a large class (again, larger uni) but TAs are always nice

administration + tuition

There’s a lot of job and professional stuff u have to figure out on ur own and bcs it’s a LAC u feel less prepared than some technical oriented schools (in a major other than humanities)

I come from a small public school and it sometimes feels like so many ppl have a leg up on me bcs they went to private school, boarding school, international school etc. But that’s p standard at most institutions

hope this helps:) I can speak more on dm if u would like me to LOL! I volunteered to be a college advisor thru a nonprofit for first generation and low income students and kno a lot about applications

i’m looking at small liberal arts colleges (preferably in the east coast) + some of the ivies! barnard seems like a great school, although i’m not particularly looking for all women’s schools. thank you for the info and if you want to dm me at any time that would be greatly appreciated :)