#does NOT read like an agere post I’m sorry everyone

[zees-little-blog]

‼️big ol’ ramble incoming‼️

just saw a post about mischaracterising female characters and I was like!! Heck yeah because all my favs are women n stuff and accurate characterisation is really important to me, but i read comments and tags and a LOT of people were complaining about their favs being mischaracterised as motherly which I had NO idea was such a common problem. I only ever hc female characters as cgs because, as I said before, all of my favs are women, but… is that like?bad? I’m aware that sometimes I push it a little or take aspects of characters or lines of dialogue and blow them out of proportion to do this sometimes… I was wondering what other people in this type of community thought about it. Do people with male blorbos do this too to make them seem like better cgs?

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[siavahdainthemoon]

why I hate the concept of karma and/or the Law of Attraction

Because both of them only really ‘work’ when your starting point is white and cis and straight and healthy and middle-class-on-up. And both of them encourage people who are white and cis and straight and healthy and reasonably wealthy to look down on and blame other people for being in pain, and/or justify not helping those who are suffering.

‘You’re calling all this pain to yourself by the way you think!’ ‘You can make everything better just by thinking positive!’ ‘If bad things happen to you, it’s because of something you did or thought.’ Or, if we’re talking the original concept of karma, as opposed to how it’s been appropriated and mangled by white western New Age-ism, ‘You’re suffering because of something you did in your previous life!’

It’s such utter victim-blaming bullshit.

I mean, look. Karma is/was originally a concept from Hinduism, wherein - sorry-not-sorry, Hindu people, read your own history - it was used to justify the abuse and suffering of the lower castes, particularly the ‘untouchables’ who were - whoops, I’m sorry, I thought this bs was over with but apparently it’s still a thing in some places, allow me to correct myself - who are so super unclean that they are forbidden from allowing their shadows to fall upon anyone of a higher caste (and can be beaten, or even killed in older times, if they let that happen). Because according to the rule of karma, if you are suffering in this life, it’s because you were bad in a previous life. In much the same way that the concept of the Divine Plan and Divine Right of rulers/nobility in Medieval Christian Europe was used to enforce and justify a strict, abusive class system, Hindu karma said/says that the suffering of the lower social groups is not just justified, but a fundamental aspect of reality itself. It also works/worked in much the same way that the idea of Heaven and Hell did and do in Christianity; if you suffer with patient forbearance now, you will be rewarded for it later, whereas if you set yourself against the ‘natural order’, you will be punished for eternity/in your next life (if not in this one. Hindu karma also allows for your actions to be rewarded/punished in this lifetime, but the point I’m making here is that it explains away why some people are born into horrible situations, and why no one should help them if they are). 

(Which is obviously not to say that many Hindu people tried to do right by those beneath them, in the same way that ‘true’ Christians try to be compassionate and kind instead of overbearing evangelical fuckheads. But the fundamental concept is fucked up.) 

Now, I haven’t seen a whole lot of New Agers who talk about karma in relation to reincarnation; white New Agers mostly talk about karma in the same way they talk about the Wiccan threefold rule (whatever you do comes back to thee/three times three times three) or the Law of Attraction; i.e., if you do good things good things will happen to you, if you do bad things bad things will happen to you.

The Law of Attraction is actually a little less about what you do and more about how you think and behave. Simply put: if you cultivate a positive outlook, you will attract positivity to yourself, and if you think negatively, you will attract negativity to yourself.

Anyone else see the problem with that?

Now, I’m a witch. I accept without qualification that human thoughts and desires, focused in the correct way, can alter reality. That’s my definition of magic. But it takes a very particular focus to work magic. That’s why every culture has developed rituals and ceremonies to get their people into the right headspace for it - dancing, chanting, meditation, music, etc. It’s not something m/any of us can do without training and/or practice, deliberate intention, and faith - in yourself, in your spell/prayer/ritual, in your god or God, one or all of the above. 

Simply thinking bad or sad thoughts, simply being sad or angry or frustrated, does not call bad shit down upon you. I’ll grant that a lot of us with things like depression end up with messed up lives - but that’s because it’s a mental illness that a) makes it hard to function and b) doesn’t always get a whole lot of compassion and assistance from others. 

If you turn around and tell me that’s how the universe works - that bad things happen only to people who call bad things to them - that good things happen only to good people - not only have you regressed to a three year old’s understanding of reality, but I could literally kill myself by climbing to the top of your ego and jumping to your IQ. 

You smug, arrogant, oblivious, privileged piece of shit.

Karma doesn’t work as a theological concept even when you apply reincarnation to it, because punishment-based education doesn’t work if you don’t remember/know what you’re being punished for. It’s the reason you can’t punish a dog for misbehaving while you were out of the house, because they are incapable of connecting the punishment to the thing they did hours ago. If you can’t punish them right then, they don’t learn the lesson. You can explain to a human being what they’re being punished for, and they’ll understand what action or behavior resulted in the punishment. (What they do with it...well, I don’t think punishment-based education works at all, but that’s an argument for another post). But there is no fucking lesson to learn if one has no memory of what earned the punishment. 

Karma without reincarnation falls apart even faster. What does a child do to deserve abusive parents? What does an eleven year old boy do to deserve a disorder that means he’ll die if he sleeps? What do teenagers do to deserve conversion therapy? What do trans people do to deserve being born into the wrong body? What do perfectly ordinary people do to deserve being raped? Or developing cancer? Or chronic pain disorder? How does an unarmed black boy ‘earn’ a cop’s bullet, exactly? What did the approximately 280,000 people who died in the 2004 tsunami do to deserve that? What has any teen girl in the world done to deserve female circumcision? What did the African peoples do to deserve slavery? What did the Jews and Romanis and queers and everyone else do to deserve the fucking Holocaust? 

And the Law of Attraction? Are you really going to sit there and tell me that people born into poverty, born into abuse, born into bodies that are falling apart or wracked with pain, should smile and be cheerful like fucking flower fairies because otherwise they’re making it worse? Or again - tell me how my negative thinking, at twelve years old, made my mother beat me black and blue. Tell me how positive thinking is supposed to cure clinical depression, or banish away an abusive spouse, or put money in a bank account so far in the red it’s bleeding over your hands. Tell me how positive thinking puts food on the table, or fixes gender dysphoria, or cures a disease doctors will barely name. 

It’s so fucking easy and convenient to believe in karma and the Law of Attraction when you’re white and straight and healthy and have no real problems. It’s such an ego-stroker, isn’t it, if you can tell yourself that you deserve how easy your life is, if you can flick your eyes away from the homeless girl and her dog and tell yourself that it’s nothing to do with you, she earned it, or she could fix her life if she wanted to, if she just thought right. It means you don’t have to feel guilty about the less fortunate, it means you don’t have to make yourself uncomfortable by reaching out or giving to charity or protesting a law that won’t affect you. It means you get to feel like you earned all the things life pours into your lap, as if you worked for them, as if you won them. 

It means you can cheerfully, patronizingly burble your New Agey delusions at anyone who’s in real pain instead of offering real help, and you know what, I don’t give a flying fuck if you do it with good intentions. Intentions don’t mean anything in the real world; if you do harm it doesn’t matter that you didn’t mean to. The harm still objectively exists. If you say ‘oh, you just have to think more positive!’ when someone is in tears, when they’re bleeding, when their life is falling apart - then not only is your grammar atrocious, but you are utter scum, and I hate you, I hate that you exist, I hate everything that you stand for. How fucking dare you say, or imply, that all suffering is deserved, that all suffering is something we call down upon ourselves? Given the terrible, heart-breaking surfeit of pain in the world, the vast majority of which falls down on those who could not possibly deserve it?

Because that is what you’re saying. It is what you’re implying.

So either admit that you are privileged enough, and enough of an unintentional asshole, to ‘accidentally’ believe everyone but you and people like you deserve to suffer - or wake the fuck up and trade in your philosophy. Because the one you have right now sucks.

[regressionuncensored]

Why I Left Agere...

I’m submitting this on anonymous because I do not feel comfortable giving out my new URL– especially with this controversial opinion I’m about to give. I don’t think age regression is healthy. My therapist did not think my age regression was healthy. Over the three years I’ve been in this community I have not improved mentally by any margin– and here is my story. TW: grooming mentions, swearing, pedophilia mentions, mental illness mentions, possible sexual assault mentions. Read with caution if you’re triggered by any of these things. I will jump right into this without making introductory small talk. I have OCD. I have the delusion of being dirty by even thinking of sexuality in any form. The forced sexualization of agere (even if it’s claimed to be “nonsexual”) is too much for me to handle, and it’s very clear that it overlaps with kink in many areas even if you don’t want it to, or say it doesn’t for you. Somehow, saying your regression isn’t sexual has wrapped around and become sexual again– read in between the lines of any cg / little post and you’ll see what I mean. Anyway, daddy / mommy / caregiver– rather we like it or not– are terms associated with kink and they have been for several years, even before agere. The only time it isn’t is when actual, real children use it as a nickname for a parental figure, or if a person is giving care to someone who is physically unable to help themselves for a medical reason. This is the only time the term is not sexualized because people don’t know about age regression and they more than likely never will. Secondly, the amount of minor and adult relationships in cglre are ridiculous (you all know very well who I’m talking about)– but as an added example, remember the eighteen year old being groomed by a twenty eight year old and none of you said anything about it because it was “not sexual”? Yeah. “BUT SHE WAS EIGHTEEN WAAAHHHHH” I don’t give a fuck, that’s no excuse for a twenty eight year old to be interested in someone of that age and if you disagree you need to rethink your life. Cglre is grossly predatory from my experiences and the things I have witnessed there have made me report multiple blogs to NCMEC because that’s how disgusting it is, and every single cg needs to think hard about their interactions towards minors (THAT INCLUDES EIGHTEEN YEAR OLDS). Adults (AKA people in their late twenties and early thirties in this case) in this community should be absolutely ashamed for interacting with minors– and I’ll be watching the notes of this post, too! I’ll report you if I have to! Not to mention when Tumblr blocked the tag for adult content it was for a reason. “C” “G” “L”. Caregiver/little. Aka a kink with a power exchange. You can’t slap “regression” on the end and expect it to magically become safe for work… look at your tag for fuck sakes. People are constantly cross tagging it with kink tags. It was a mistake right from the beginning and everyone refuses to acknowledge it because it’s inconvenient for them to– just like me having this opinion is also inconvenient for them. As for chire, it fell apart way back when mod wolf got called out for being a pedophile and Donut got called out for being a mega jerk. The new chire community is empty and is filled with recycled ideas from 2017. It’s dying, and I think it should stay that way, but I have to applaud them for actually trying to keep kink out of their coping mechanism by not using the word CGL– other than that, it’s the same community as cglre, but it’s more successful for being safe for minors, where cglre is not (and still is not) and has failed miserably at doing so, despite the many block lists the community has created. Let’s not even mention their allowing of truscum and transmeds and how they did absolutely nothing to keep their trans members safe– I see you, cglre mods! Averting your eyes has been the death of your community, and the reason for this entire letter. Don’t even try to tell anyone in cglre this, though. They’ll just act like literal children… but, like, accurately for once, unlike the cheap baby talk they always use. They just plug their ears and go “Nwooooooo it’s not bwecause it’s rwegression and you’re just a bwig fwat mweanie head :((((((( I’ll tell my dwaddy on you.” The cringe writes itself and I don’t even support cringe culture. That’s not even a healthy way to think, by the way. You just decided it was to go along with the majority’s opinion. Regression is so harmful, especially for people like me who already have issues becoming adults due to my BPD. I am leaving this entire community utterly upset for what it’s done to me– and to see minors regressing to a younger age WHEN THEY’RE ALREADY MINORS is absolutely ridiculous. There are better, healthier coping mechanisms than sticking a pacifier in your mouth and calling your musky-husky-two-month-old-boyfriend “daddy”. Take a walk. Learn to knit. Bake cookies. Practice mindfulness and thought correction. Do CBT and DBT. Literally any of those are better than regressing– any good, licensed therapist will tell you this. Mine did. If yours didn’t, find a better one. You are only hurting yourself by regressing. You are only hurting yourself by refusing to grow up and be an actual, functioning adult in society– and if you can do that and regress? Good for you. The fourteen year olds in your communities can't– and they especially can’t have caregivers (especially when none of you can take care of yourselves at that age already), otherwise you may need to report that to the authorities. I know no one in this community will, though, because the last person who did that was chased out of your community. I saw it with my own two eyes. There is also a reason porn bots and daddy dom blogs follow you against your will. It’s because, rather you like it or not, are participating in age play at the end of the day. Not all age play is sexual but it is most definitely a kink and I highly recommend the Wikipedia article on it, as it provides accurate information to what everyone is really participating in (look, I’ll even tell you if you’re lazy or angry at me to click: Ageplay or age play is a form of roleplaying in which an individual acts or treats another as if they were a different age… wow, sounds very familiar, eh?). It’s really all regression is– age play made out to be therapeutic, but in reality, holds people back from accepting their problems and permanently harms their state of mind. Is it really any surprise that people who act like children will also do so when shown the cold, hard facts? Amazing, really. And to be honest- this is just my opinion– there’s nothing normal or therapeutic about a thirty four year old wearing a diaper and sucking on a pacifier claiming their healing from past trauma. I won’t believe you for a single second if you told me that. It’s not healthy. I don’t see any of that stuff outside Tumblr (except a poorly written and unsourced Wikipedia article) unless it’s attached to age play or ABDL– and that’s the facts. Not to mention the original age regression article specifically fucking states that it’s a hypnosis technique used in therapy, but is incredibly controversial as it provides negative results most of the time. Do your research– I know you won’t, though, or else you’ll get five page call out and get suicide baited off your blog (way to go, cglre. Suicide bait the people who don’t need it unlike, you know, TERFs or MAPs). Anyway I’m going to wrap this lengthy ramble up here and watch all the anons come in and attack me. Worst case scenario they’ll poorly dissect my letter without textbook psychology sources and think that they won– the equivalent to the pigeon shitting all over the chessboard quote. Sorry for the oncoming shitstorm in your inbox… remember to block if you have to. I know I have.

Love, A very hurt and tired former member of the agere community.

_______________________________________________________ I agree with some of what you said but I think there are some main things I need to point out.

1. I think your mental illness is changing how you perceive things. I have ocd and I am scared of animals cus I think they are contaminated but I decide to examine why I am having these fears and challenge myself because I could not live well if I didn’t. 

2. I regressed when I was younger like an actual kid. From guess what? Trauma!!! Yeah I was stuck at a younger age and guess what I am now! I have been in therapy since I was four but regression does actually help me. I don’t think regression on it’s own fixes anything but along with therapy (I currently do DBT) I think it’s fine!  3. Just cus you think it’s weird does not make it bad. Maybe a grown adult never had any trauma resolved (or just thinks it’s fun) and it relaxes them. Then WHO CARES if they don’t think it’s kink and they are not being sexual in anyway then WHO CARES. I am sorry but by saying regression is ageplay (even nonsexual) is sexualizeing people who regress. 

4. Kink is not bad and even if it is it’s not your job to tell them. I mean people are drug addicts and that’s bad but I don’t make it my job to tell them that it is. I mean there are people who use drugs (like drugs and alcohol) and are fine! Even if you think drugs are gross if people are not addicted then it does not matter. Like with anything weather pain or smoking weed if you are doing it for the wrong reasons. (not mentally stable, a minor etc) then yeah it’s bad but the average person who has a few drinks a week or even one drink a day is not actually in harm's way and does not need your input. (for anyone who didn’t follow drugs are kink I know bad analogy cus kink is even less harmful but whatever.)

Yes I think we need to protect minors and maybe even age gate it a bit (like I see 11 year olds here and like I was not mature enough to be here at 14 soo) but I think what everyone here is tired of is being told we are gross. That we are sick, crazy, stupid, sexual etc by everyone. Look I don’t like agere either i’m going to kink as soon as I can cus that’s what fits me better but making people feel gross fixes nothing it just sorta makes you annoying. CGLRE (you have a clear bias for chire even though I know you have issues with them too) has worked hard to be a safe place. I know kinksters and miseducated regressors might use the wrong tags but the issue is them not cglre and people can be non comm if cglre is not for them. Why not educate I mean I write stuff on this blog hopefully to show and honest side of agere and I want to educate not shame. Also it’s kinda hard to have a nonsexual kink that you do alone (most of the time) with no power exchange......well i’ve rambled enough but I think you get my point. There is nuance to this issue and people need to know both sides. My side has points and so does yours but people need to hear both and I really don’t suggest shame as your vehicle to get your point across-Lyra