#cupiro

[identity-of-today]

Okay! For 01/05/2023 these are what feel best for me

Gender!

Metagender:To identify around or beyond a gender. Where your gender identity is almost that gender, but not quite, and also extends beyond that. Imagine that —- is you, and | is the gender identity (and identifying fully with a gender is —-|), then metagender is —- | —-

Agender: Not having a gender, or a lack of a gender

Orientation!

Asexual: Has little or no sexual attraction

Cupiromantic: One that desires a romantic relationship, but experiences little to no romantic attraction.

Pronouns: Thxy/Thxm

[hoonfication]

. . . TWO TIMES A CH✶RM

━━━ 「 happy ever after or not 😈 」

BEFORE YOU READ this chapter contains suicidal jokes if not comfortable click away, it’s all just jokes so please don’t drag me 😢

On that chilly evening around 8 PM, Xiao had just landed a couple of hours ago and was eager to see you. The two of you found yourselves seated on a bench in a park just outside his apartment.

"Xiao," you mumbled, and he responded with a soft "Yeah?"

"I've been thinking," you whispered as you gazed at him, "let's give it another try."

He looked at you in surprise before breaking into a smile. "I promise I'll do better than last time," you rolled your eyes, a small smile playing on your face, "you better," you muttered.

"Xiao, stop moving!" you laughed. "My hand is starting to hurt," he groaned. "Are we almost done?"

"Babe, we've only just started," you smiled as you continued painting. "Hold still."

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NOTES | annnnnnnnnd it’s over !!! ☹️ thank you sooo much for reading two times a charm 🥹 it means so so so so much to me 🫶

# IN WHICH — xiao, your boyfriend for three years suddenly breaks up with you through text and then leaves the country leaving you with no explanation at all three years had passed and here you are, you tell yourself you're over him and you're way more happy without him until you've heard that he's back oh that's fine you guys aren't even gonna see each other anyway wrong. seems like he's going to attend the same college as you and well you're just in luck turns out he's also your roommate

# TAGLIST — @thefandomcrow @sakiimeo @swivy123 @zappybatz @motherscrustytoenailclippings @chsyug @erisan01 @lylovw @scarletttcroww @retiredmommylover @sukunasrealgf @onmywaytoteyvat @mjtalksaboutanything @chronicfic @otomegame-oneshots @yukisluv @urdads @yuminako @etaerealboy @xxblackroses623xx @starringyau @dexocore @grvngexiao @tamikahoshiko @xoyumiqls @mechanicalbeat1 @ixromzi @lemo-nadde @moon-z0ne @articmaskeddemon @luvrzan @cayl33n @cupiro @lxkeeeee @rin-nyrasti-writes @nambii @livelaughlovekuni @quackimilktea @maxineshearts @yelleloww @chalksdreams @plinkuro @fangygf

[qprconcepts]

demiro qpp x alloro qpp x cupiro qpp

<3

[sparkly-s0da]

Hey guys so in return for aro month and valentines day im gonna show you what “phases/bouts” i went for to figure out who i was/am

This is gonna be rlly long so yeah

straight because i had a really good friend that i think would be cool i spent the rest of my life with because he’s a great friend. I like him? Maybe? I just know i wanna spend time with him because he’s my friend

Straight but watching gacha life gay videos was okay because it was entertaining i think its not gonna mess me up at all (it messed me up for life turns out, like it straight up ruined my perception of life and cringe and imprinted on me in ways the world cannot ever imagine unless you were a gacha kid who happened to accidentally consume really inappropriate gacha stuff)

learned more about queer community more and ppl aren’t just gay and friend starts thinking if they’re lgbtq (they kinda arent and they’re transphobic -ish now i think) And so i start thinking, and go hey i do these hand symbols insert ✌️ and👈 (and on top of that i have no preference for who i want to date really. I’m BI!!! Or something i guess

Wait. I’m not attracted to anything like a lots of ppl. Im ace, right? Yeahh

no im demi proabbly

stopped caring

realized that hey? I don’t know what romantic love is and how to percieve it? I don’t know how to feel it? Except in comics and fanfics. And i have never really felt that way

but i really really wanna be friends and hang out with certain ppl so much so even if i might not know them? I might want to just talk to them? Maybe be friends? They just look so cool! They’re like me, and i think i just want to talk to them. Is that a crush? But the actual concept of romance itself has never shown itself to me. What is love, really? Am i supposed to romantically like someone? I don’t know if i HAVE or not.

Yk what i think i’m aromantic

ppl keep shipping me w/ppl they say i like him. what if im not what if i AM in love and i don’t know?

am i even who i think i am?

Look so i don’t truly know how love works, how to perceive it, if ppl even like me like that, if I want to be liked, if i want to like, if i know how to like and can just DO it. Maybe i am aro

so like im aro (either aego/cupiro) or like angled aroace because idk im like aroace but aspec and not straightforward aroace. Not sure.

So thats me hbu? :)

-Soda

(You got this you can find your own way!!)

[same-pic-of-neptune-everyday]

Aroace icon <3

I’m like, aroace-leaning but honestly for me labels don’t like to stick for very long so it might change

- @court-artist-under-the-stars

p.s: I hope you’re okay with receiving a corny Valentine’s card - I mean nothing by it it’s like when you’re a kid and giving Valentine’s Day cards to all your classmates

real !!

aroace icons for the win

i am an aroacespec individual myself 😔, labels are hard to figure out ;-; but i go for cupiro/grayro/demiro usually and acespec bc that parts hard to figure out :>

ooh i love valentines day cards. ive actually never gotten one before hehe

[sphinx-myth]

How i feel because people fall in love or like me as a friend with me but im gen the most ugliest person and can be very annoying ever so i worry about meeting them irl and send photos.

Also think im lithoromantic rather cupiro now

Stole this from a discord server

[averyderpyartist]

(Updated: 18/11/2024)

Intro post I guess

First part is just basic info about me. More details, including DNI/DNFI , BYF and how I do tags, are under read more.

Basic Info:

Name: Derpy, Blake, Sky, Malus (I also use other names, but these are my preferred ones)

Age: 20

Birthday: April 23rd

Nationality/Ethnicity: Australian

Pronouns: Zie/zir, xe/xim and he/him are my preferred pronouns, but I am okay with they/other neopronouns

Nouns: Neutral or masc nouns

Gender: Transmasc and Genderfluid/faun

Orientation: Omni-Orinated Aroace (Cupiro, Apothisexual)

Disorders: Autism, GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder)

Languages: English (Native), Japanese and German (Learning)

Interests (Bold=Special Interests): Touhou, Pokemon, Fangans, Dungeons and Dragons, Project Sekai, (English) Vtubers, Mythology/Folklore/Legends e.t.c, Just the Fantasy and Mystery genre in general

Things I do: Draw and ramble

DNI/DNFI:

General dni/dnfi

NSFW/18+ Accounts

BYF:

I do swear/type in caps without it being tagged.

While my tagging is inconsistent, I do always tag the general things (fandom, characters, ships and TWs/CWs).

While I do spoiler warnings for general plot twists/important plot moments/deaths, I do not tag new characters (this is mainly relevant for Touhou and Pokemon). Feel free to temporarily unfollow/block to avoid character spoilers if you want to avoid them

I don't censor words unless I would be shadow-banned

How I Tag:

I tend to use the general fandom tag used for whatever a post is related to (if applicable), though I may use alternative tags and tags for the specific game its from (later is more for Touhou and Pokemon)

I tag characters using the first name followed by the surname (e.g John Smith), though if the character name is written the other way in the source material I will also write their name that way

If a character just has one name, I will tag them as Fandom Name and Name Fandom (E.g Pokemon Rika, Rika Pokemon)

For characters that have different names across languages, I'll use the English name (e.g Only Rika (from Pokemon SV))

I always tag ships as A x B + B x A (using first names), though I may use full names and fandoms in the tags as well. I rarely use idiosyncratic and portmanteau ship names

TWs and CWs are generally used for gore and body horror (which I don't draw often) + sensitive topics

Miscellaneous info/Other things to note:

I struggle to work out idiosyncratic and portmanteau ship names

I find it hard to read/process some typing quirks/patterns, so a translation is useful. Feel free to ask if you need to provide a translation!

I am critical of my interests

[catinasink]

okay back

starting from the top:

dain, cis aroace 😔 never cared much abt him tbh

aether n lumine are both also aroacespec, cupiro and aceflux lumi and aroflux demisexual ae; with lumi being neptunic and ae uranic

gaming from genshin is transmasc aroace btw.

cat ily and your headcanons yes. (although i do see him specifically as a he/they transmasc and either bi or aroace)

[ghost-inacup]

I am falling in love with the idea of falling in love with an imaginary man

I do not feel romantic attraction nor romantic love

But my love is still so full and needs a place to be

Im falling in love without romance

With a man who only exists in my head

And i reconcile it with my cupioromaticism

Not easily, the doubt still lays there

But i know that i love with my whole being

Even if my love isn’t romantic for another

Isn’t it enough?

I would like to find someone

To hold my love with

It won’t be romantic

But it’ll be love

And that will be more than enough

[mudstoneabyss]

a dnd oc and idk I character I made who I think is cute edit: and a messy cupiros headshot

[catinasink]

welcome to the sink ig

have i hit post limit? nyo :3

most recent edit: 22.6.24 (day month year)

quick intro

minor, i go mainly by cat or nico or pluto but i also go by neptune or octavian or leo or calypso or eris or dysnomia or rusty or blue or cerulean or opal or infinity (more about that here or at the bottom), any pronouns

agender + pan + polyam + cupiro + aegoace + apl

dont call me your friend + no /p tonetag

do not send me chain asks + dont tag me in tag games

more

i gaypost, ventpost (w/ rbs off and properly tagged), make random posts about whatever im into at the moment, rb posts about whatever im into at the moment, lyricposting, etc

i have two cats (kim and shego (or floorshitter)), an older sister (she/her), and the irl i mention the most is pb / pissboy (he/they) (i use pb and pissboy interchangably)

pst timezone

intp-t, scorpio sun sagittarius moon scorpio rising

i speak english + russian, learning german + hebrew

sorry if i sound rude when i speak to you, i try not to be

couple sideblogs, including: @nymph-of-the-sea, an rp blog for calypso; @catinabath, which is on a different email as well, currently i use it to inform yall if im on post limit or not; and two gimmick blogs :]

matching descs with @shrimpysstuff, matching banners with @homoashell

i have a family 👍

i swear + use the words faggot + tranny + dyke sometimes for myself (untagged)

i have three lovely qpps i love them sm mwah <33

uhhh ao3 is catinasink

info about my fics

uhmm discord server :3 preferably only join if youre a minor / around the age of a minor mostly for the comfort of the people there i guess? not sure

tags

most of my og posts (not including asks): #cat's rambles

asks: #cat's asks

schoolposting: #cat's schoolposting

venting: #neptune is complaining again

lyricposting: #cat's lyricposting

art: #cat's art

music i write: #cat's lyrics

yearning sighh: #nico catinasink is yearning

queued or scheduled posts: #queue you

submitted posts (usually on post limit): #eris' submissions

@this-is-me-lolol interactions: #basil my beloved <3

pissboy mentions: #my lovely pissboy

sink lore: #happenings of the sink

dreamscape nexus: #dreamscape nexus

the penis saga (more here): #the penis saga

warrior cats: #sorry chat rusty catinasink is rbing warrior cats again

will wood: #opal catinasink is listening to will wood again

will wood daily images: #swiss cheese is giving pluto catinasink will wood encouragement

more abt my names

you can use any prns for any name, or you can use this list if you want

cat, it/its

nico, he/they/it

pluto, it/they/he

neptune, it/they/she

octavian, it/he

leo, he/she

calypso, any

eris, she/it/they/he

dysnomia, she/it + any neos

rusty, he/it + any neos

blue, they/them

opal, any

cerulean, he/she/it/they/fae

infinity, any

have a good day

[aromantisk-fagforening]

Wait, maybe cogitarisexual or græycogitarisexual.

But yeah, cause like I can't fully relate to allos nor aces. I guess ace-spec is the best approximation I have.

Idk if there are many cogitarisexuals out there tbh, I feel like it's difficult enough to find aros that aren't cupiro or bellusro, so it'll probably be even more difficult finding this niche label.

Non-SAM aro generally does the job. I am pretty sure I'm aro, and if nothing else I'm not interested in romance, so it's not exactly a dilemma. But figuring out where I fit on the ace/grace/allosexual spectrum is a whole different story.

I'm like sex favorable, at least in theory. And uhh yk hormones. Yeah. So it's pretty difficult to figure out what's going on there. Honestly I feel like people also talk less about smushes/sexual attraction, at least to me, so I think I kinda may not know what I'm looking for.

The only stuff I'm kinda confident about is that I'm definitely not fictosexual, honestly the y/n / x [character] and reader / x [character] was so surprising to discover, I didn't expect that to be a thing. I could possibly be demisensual, but I don't think I'm demisexual. I do think I'd be closest to grace or ace. (Using ace as no attraction for simplicity).

Bros (etc) I think I may be græy-lithsexual. I'm probably still gonna just go with non-sam aro as my main label, but yeah. Some reflections have been had.

[hoonfication]

. . . TWO TIMES A CH✶RM

━━━ 「 ok u guys can stop kissing now.. 」

You're reclining on the couch, enveloped by the warm embrace of Xiao's arms. The ambiance within the apartment is marked by a serene and tranquil air, a perfect backdrop for your intimate moment.

Xiao's voice breaks the silence, barely above a whisper as his fingers lovingly toy with the strands of your hair. "[Name]?" he murmurs, and you respond with a soft, inquisitive "Hm?"

He, now bearing an expression filled with hope and vulnerability, leans in a little closer. "Would you give me another chance?" he asks, his tone quivering with anticipation. "Can I court you?"

After a contemplative pause, you nod slowly, your response unspoken. "Mess it up, and I'll punch you," you jest, to which he responds with a warm smile before leaning closer to you. "Can I?" he seeks your consent, and you affirm with another nod.

Xiao's lips curve into a tender smile, and with your consent, he closes the distance between you two.

Suddenly, the door handle creaks open, and the apartment is filled with the soft, rhythmic sound of suitcase wheels rolling along the floor.

"Xiao, your door was open, so I came in— oh my God! I'm so sorry!" Ganyu blurts out, her voice laced with surprise and embarrassment, as she instinctively covers her eyes, clearly caught off guard by the intimate moment she has just walked into.

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NOTES | this was not supposed to take that long 🙁

# IN WHICH — xiao, your boyfriend for three years suddenly breaks up with you through text and then leaves the country leaving you with no explanation at all three years had passed and here you are, you tell yourself you're over him and you're way more happy without him until you've heard that he's back oh that's fine you guys aren't even gonna see each other anyway wrong. seems like he's going to attend the same college as you and well you're just in luck turns out he's also your roommate

# TAGLIST — @thefandomcrow @sakiimeo @swivy123 @zappybatz @motherscrustytoenailclippings @chsyug @erisan01 @lylovw @scarletttcroww @retiredmommylover @sukunasrealgf @onmywaytoteyvat @mjtalksaboutanything @chronicfic @otomegame-oneshots @yukisluv @urdads @yuminako @etaerealboy @xxblackroses623xx @starringyau @dexocore @grvngexiao @tamikahoshiko @xoyumiqls @mechanicalbeat1 @ixromzi @lemo-nadde @moon-z0ne @articmaskeddemon @luvrzan @cayl33n @cupiro @lxkeeeee @rin-nyrasti-writes @nambii @livelaughlovekuni @quackimilktea @maxineshearts @yelleloww @chalksdreams @plinkuro @fangygf

[legobatjoker]

not to aro-ify sk8 but still thinking abt oriented aroace reki and also qpr matchablossom

[romance-evil-aro]

Hey, so i’m questioning, and am hoping for some advice.

I think i’m somewhere along the lines of cupioro and romance neutral

I’ve been in what i thought was love before… I was in a two year relationship with this guy and I really did care about him, like a lot. So it hurt like hell when he broke up with me, but looking back at how I really felt after the breakup and even during the relationship has me questioning a lot more about myself.

For example:

even though it hurt me that we broke up in a relationship aspect, I was more worried about losing him as a friend since we had been so close.

Platonic love? maybe that’s all i can feel. maybe I did love him but only platonically?

I was also mainly just worried about being alone and never finding someone else. which brings me to the idea of being cupioro, but then again maybe I’m just bad at love?

Looking back though, I never really felt anything for him romantically. And whenever I would think of cutesy romantic things with him in my mind, it always felt like I was watching from third person and couldn’t actually feel any of it. Again… cupioro? or something else?

Here’s the other thing tho, I love the idea of love. Love songs, romantic movies, fanfics, exc. I love them, and i want to experience it in my own life, but it’s almost like i’m physically incapable of romantic love, or feeling it. I know from everything I read/watch/listen to what i’m supposed to do and how i’m supposed to feel, and i’ve been living my life basically acting to fit that criteria.

But it’s not that i can’t love, bc i can love platonically so hard. i get attached to my friends so easily, and i am such a propel person over all. so it’s not that i’m fully incapable of love either, however it’s almost like i’m incapable of feeling love. Like when someone shows me love, it doesn’t do anything for me, or it wierds me out. I again, put on that act and respond how i’m “supposed to” but it never feels right.

I have a few friends that are aro/ace so i’ve looked into that, but it doesn’t feel right because i crave love and i fear not being loved.

anyways this has turned into a whole rant, i’m really just trying to figure myself out

what am i? cupioro? romance neurtral? aro/ace? something else? or just straight with bad love experience?

any advice? i’ve been reading litterly everything i can find and so much is so relatable, but i don’t know what to do.

and if i am cupiro or anything else… does that mean my past relationships have been fake?

i may not feel attraction but i still care about people and it feels like i can love..? atleats platonically.

help!

hey anon!

this is... a lot to read through and process. I might not be able to give you as detailed an answer as you were hoping for. But I'll try my best.

It definitely does sound like you could be on the aromantic spectrum. You said that you were sad when you broke up with your partner because you saw him as a very close friend, but that looking back you don't think you felt and romantic attraction to him. This is a common experience for arospec people - and to answer your later question, if you are arospec, it absolutely wouldn't mean your past relationships have been fake! Aromantic people can still be in relationships, romantic or otherwise, and you said yourself that you loved him as a friend. Just because it wasn't romantic love, that doesn't invalidate the love you felt for him.

It's also important to note that feeling platonic love doesn't mean you can't be aro. Aromanticism is simply a lack of romantic attraction. There are many other types of attraction and many other ways to love people without it being romantic.

With regards to whether you may be cupio, from what you've said it's definitely a possibility. And you mentioned not wanting to be alone forever - maybe you could experiment with non-romantic relationships, like qprs?

Being romance neutral is a very wide and personal label. There's lots of room for interpretation. If you like the idea of romance but wouldn't want to be in a romantic relationship, you could absolutely use romance neutral to describe that! or even romance favourable if you're feeling daring (@romo-aro-culture-is might be able to help on that account)

At the end of the day, all I can say is go with what feels right (helpful advice, I know). If you're reading resources about being cupio/aro/ace and you find them relatable, if you think "that sounds like me!" then chances are... you are cupio/aro/ace!

I think this is the best I'll be able to give you. I hope it helped a little.

[thisaccisdead]

okey so i am still a bit uncertain but guess who is (probably) also cupiro and demiro? 😗

YESS that’s so epic...ngl i did always get cupioro vibes from u i cant explain it...but thatse so cool congrats !! 🎉🎉🎉