#cant be trusted to make decisions

[dandeyrain]

"i hate you hyperfemininity i hate you skincare" ppl and "i am a terf" ppl form a venn diagram which isn't really surprising because the central trait of this flavor of woman is despising other women

[foxx-queen]

i keep thinking about the datamined conversation between halsin and minthara and what gets me about it is that if you side with halsin and turn minthara away, thats objectively the bad choice.

like at this point, you've rescued minthara from moonrise. you know now that she was being controlled to act against her will. you've gone to the trouble of rescuing her from her tormentors, and you've experienced what it felt like as they tried to destroy her mind. you know what will happen to her if you turn her away. and if you do, you're willingly condemning her to that fate. you've essentially allowed her to experience freedom, to regain her sense of self, only to tear that away from her again.

whereas if you side with minthara, and halsin leaves, that's the only consequence he experiences. that he's not a companion anymore. at this point, we've saved the grove, we've saved him, and we've lifted the shadow curse. we've helped him achieve what hes been hoping to do for over a century. leaving your party won't see him lose his free will. he can return to the grove and live his life.

the choice is essentially either condemn someone to a fate worse than death, knowing exactly what that entails vs not letting someone travel with you anymore. its pretty clear cut to me.

its just interesting to me that they've switched the morality of it around given that minthara is considered the 'evil' companion by so many.

[sorspi]

Guys the adhd actually let me draw today

Also happy pride :)))

[spacedlexi]

i just think a "friended/romanced + saved + trust aj" violet does such a good job rounding out the plot and characters of S4 and i dont say that lightly

she walls people off out of fear just like S3 clem did and learned to grow out of through the compassion of others. feeling like she could have done more to save minnie being what initially makes her step up to lead, but her accepting her love for clem (and clem choosing to save her) is what leads to her Truly accepting the school and everyone inside it as her Home and gives her something to fight for ("i tried my damnedest not to care about either of you. and i still couldnt tell you why." "i know where youre coming from. after losing so many people, sometimes its easier to keep everyone at arms length." "and then you wonder why you fight so hard to stay alive. i dont wonder anymore."). this being the reasoning behind violets detachment from the school, as well as a negative home life impacting her idea of what a home even was. but together they turn ericson from a prison into the home theyve BOTH been looking for, renaming it together, and envisioning it for the future together. the two of them understand each other deeply, from what theyve lost to how its affected them and the poor ways theyve decided to react to it. but through their support of the other, they BOTH get to evolve into more relaxed and confident versions of themselves, who know Exactly what theyre fighting for

her troubled relationship with brody and getting to learn more about what happened with the twins/violets reaction to it and how she ultimately blames herself/brodys guilt about her part in it and how she misses violet. getting the chance to mend that relationship before its too late. the 3 of them becoming closer because of it. and getting to develop clems friendship with brody leads to a more impactful moment later in the basement

her relationship with tenn reflecting clems relationship with aj, in the way they both made the decision to look after their respective boys after their primary guardians died (ajs parents, tenns sisters). both of them can understand the responsibilities they have taken upon themselves, and how hard it can be to do right. the 4 of them become a tight knit group quickly. especially in EP2 as vi supports clem while tenn supports aj through the marlon fiasco

her confused relationship with minerva introducing interesting conflict both within her relationship with clem (who has her own personal conflict with minerva, which vi still ties into through her relationship with both minnie and tenn) and the over arching plot, which has themes of learning when to let someone go because they are no longer who they once were (clem and lilly "we were family once", mitch about ms martin "you get all caught up in who people used to be, and you cant deal with whats in front of you", violet about minnie "the real minnie? shes been gone this whole time and i have to stop mourning her")

having a saved violet on the boat expanding the conversation with minerva about her motivations with the delta. violet apologizing for never looking for her, minnie saying she knows she would have but that its too late now, so sure this is just the way things have to be. getting to hear minnie say "you can be rewarded, just like i am", giving us insight into her character. and clem getting the last word before she rams the door down, her and violet fighting minnie Together. and violet saves clems life, making the Choice to shoot minerva, which in and of itself is a huge moment for violets character in regards to her relationship with both minnie And clem

and aj shooting tenn on the bridge brings things full circle, by putting violet in the same position louis was in EP2, where aj has killed the most important person to her, in an effort to save her life, and now she must reckon with those feelings the same way louis had to about marlon. not so easy now is it violet? ("so youre mad, but sad" "can i be that for a while?" "yeah, its ok")

just... ough... violets whole character just fits into Everything so well, but in a way that elevates the characters and plots around her, while also developing her into her own

[overtake]

Some f1 fans cannot handle being reminded that this is a competitive sport, not daycare. Sometimes people have to do things that will hurt a driver’s feelings, seem unfair, or piss off other competitors when there’s points and millions of dollars on the line. You can still be disappointed and upset without acting like the decision made on objectively sound sporting reasons requires a trip to the hague. If you cannot handle that this sport is not actually hair braiding and gentle parenting when push comes to shove, you might enjoy another hobby better.

[pinnithin]

im very compelled by the role memory loss plays in shadowheart's story, not only for the narrative flow of learning more about her alongside shadowheart herself, but also by the way its shaped her as a person, because how do you develop a personality when you so frequently cant remember who you are?

the trip back to the house of grief reveals that shadowheart's mission to retrieve the astral prism is far from the first time she's had memories removed. her past as a selunite, incidents throughout her sharran training, atrocities she's committed, the associated feelings of guilt and pain and loss - they've all been removed. several times over, in some cases, such as when she remembers her parents while in the process of torturing them.

but as in most cases with trauma and memory loss, she may not be able to remember what happened, but she remembers how it made her feel, and so she's learned to listen when her brain is giving her alarm bells. without anything concrete to make her decisions off of, she's built her identity around caution and heeding that inner voice when her instincts are trying to tell her something.

she wants to place her faith in shar. as far as facts go, serving her goddess is all she has to work with. its a comforting constant when her memory is so spotty and unreliable. but when she finds herself in situations where she should feel convicted in her actions but every instinct is telling her otherwise, her faith can't help but waver because she's learned over the years that her instincts can't be ignored.

she doesn't remember details, but she's skeptical and pragmatic enough not to just believe anything anyone tells her. she trusts her gut and sticks to her principles because that's all she has. and unfortunately for shar, its hard to brainwash someone into blindly following her faith when that person is a skeptic by default. especially when the methods shar uses to control people have only cemented shadowheart's tendency to question everything.

she trusts shar, yes, but she trusts herself more, and that's what ruins the plan to sacrifice the nightsong in the shadowfell, and i see that as a major factor in why shadowheart throws away the spear of the night. (i imagine viconia sees this coming, which could be why she sent her on the suicide mission for the prism to begin with) not necessarily because of anything alyn told her, but because it feels wrong. and when things feel wrong she's learned to listen.

idk i just find her so complex and interesting. here's a character who is so driven by very objective and practical standpoints but can only really trust her feelings because the part of her mind that's supposed to draw conclusions from fact is just lacking the necessary information she needs to make decisions. its a compelling mingling of character traits.

[bakingcakeroll]

yes... a soda that's definitely not mixed with ichor some other ingredient (sarcastic) :/ if you do plan on drinking it... don't say we didn't warn you. -🌘

- @2-toons-2-twists

me and my planned event where one of my friends is gonna force feed cosmo the drink /ooc

" ..Hghh-- I don't know which side to choose!! " " They're making good points, and then you're making good examples-- I.. Okay-- Um.. Just for the sake of it since you're all my friends and I trust you, I won't drink it.. " " Hh.. I really need a break from this.. "

[pulchrasilva]

Nobody fucking talk to me i just finished rewatching arcane and it was DEVASTATING I need to KILL

[icarrymany]

i always have wayy too many ideas in my head but one that i am certain would go hard is the jess and amy swap with jay and alex au

[ocdhuacheng]

Can my fucking coworkers STOP fucking coming to work when they’re sick and can they ESPECIALLY stop coming to work without masking and covid testing

[depressedstressedlemonzest]

This had me legitimately crying like OH MY GOD between rumple giving one last love confession to belle and then he and bae?

I don't know which part had me crying more.

Bae being heartbroken about losing his papa even though he was still mad. That was an awesome line because usually it's like "I'm sorry" "it's okay" but begrudgingly.

This was genuine with bae's emotions. And rumples.

Great let's add cora to the Heartbreakers club.

Bitch.

"I'll take your baby"

"You only get your own child and any child I have Wong be yours."

Okay but that makes me think that not only did they totally fuck, but that regina could be rumple's. Because I can see cora using rumple's own double speak to trick him.

God I hope him nd regina don't start Mackin on one another later. This show has enough mommy and daddy issues.

Okay this is a sad scene and all, but rumple and his sluttly little elbow garter?

Next episode!

Who the fuck is the kid and the dad? Who else has present parents in fairy tales? Most of em die off or are already dead.

I love how devilishly happy regina is.

"And that's how I met your mother."

Henry is a perceptive kid, how perceptive are 11 year Olds?

[bluesidedown]

Assorted thoughts on falling in love

No one ever told me it would be terrifying.

I am very good at finding (or more often inventing) reasons why I shouldn't love him; I do this so that I can have an excuse to run from vulnerability. Mostly this just means I love him anyway, but feel deeply and anxiously conflicted about it.

I hate how undignified this feels. Turns out I have formed at least some of my identity around appearing untouchable and in control. I feel at odds with myself because I can't pretend that being around him makes me less happy than it does; I smile involuntarily when I hear his voice and I can't stop.

It is horrible to me that other people can see the kind of person I have chosen and thus perceive me in a way I can't control. This makes me want to control him, so that I can project the image I want to project. I hate this about myself; it is deeply, deeply unfair to him.

Sitting beside him is maybe the most peaceful place in the entire world.

[daecaerys]

i love/hate the argument that dany is bad as a political player because, yes, she is in a sense. but also: she didn't grown up as one, she was always meant to be the pawn and never become more than that. she wasn't thrown into the game as a player, but as the means to an end. while she is definitely more of a strategic/conqueror type, her choices in essos are not only power-based but experience-based, as she was the other side of the coin for so long.

[jfkisonthemoon]

YES QUARK AND TENMYOUJI UNDERSTANDER!!!!!!!! i have a 90-120 min presenation on tenmyouji end. and have written endless endless analysis about them and why theyre SO INTERESTING AND HOW UNDERRATED QUARK'S WRITING IS. always so wonderful to see appreciators. i have been obsessed with them for like ten years now. family....

thank FUCK theres another tenmyouji and quark appreciator in this world!!!!!!!!! tenmyouji junpei spent his WHOLE LIFE dedicated to looking for akane but he still got to have this one thing! hes still so kind that he tried to figure out how to parent an orphaned kid on his own. JUNPEI HAS A KID AND HE NAMED HIM QUARK!! HE NAMED HIM QUARK BECAUSE HES SMALL AND TOUGH!! he loves that kid so much that he puts akane on backburner after spending DECADES trying to find her. he tries to teach quark so he will be okay once he dies. he brings quark with him to the nonary game because he cant just leave him alone. the ending where he carries quark through the 9 door while his bp is still down is so sad. youre telling me quark is going to wake up with the dead body of his grandpa just sitting there! thats heartbreaking! he bought the kid a root beer float. quark is probably one of the only things that keeps him going in his old age as he slowly realizes hes likely not going to be able to see akane again. and quark trusts and loves him so much! theyre so. theyre literally family. the fear he must have felt when quark was diagnosed with radical-6. realizing he was going to have to watch his kid kill himself. quark is so young and energetic and hes so old and traumatized and they balance each other out in a way thats so interesting to see. he spent all night looking for quark in the rain and collapsed when quark ran away! tenmyouji junpei adopted a kid and he did such a fucking good job as a grandfather, he loves quark so much and quark really loves him and knows him. in both nonary games hes been in, tenmyouji junpei has been able to survive only because of the love he has for someone else in the game.

[mellotronmkll]

Very unhappy today but it's not about anything that I can control so I just have to stop worrying!!!! Which is easier said than done

[g0thsoojin]

i wanna go missing and have him hide me away and keep me safe in his attic forever... sighh